Getting over the pain...

[abisexualguy]

I have tried anal sex and it hurts. I instinctively feel a strong desire to run to the toliet to shit everytime I try it. I have done it three times with little success. yesterday I bought myself a dildo and have been training myself with it. It is much smaller than my lovers dick but i am making good progress. My lover tells me I am very tight (a little "too tight" according to him).

Does anyone have any advice how I can achieve the mind blowing anal orgasm that I have dreamt about?

It has nothing to do with my boyfriends skills as he is a skilled top and seducer of straight men. He has sent many straight guys into ecstasy.

 

[Chrissi]

Just keep at it. Your ring needs to stretch out more. Just curious is your bf's cock thick?

As far as the feeling of having to go to the bathroom, well just make sure you are clean (douche before you have sex) and let the feeling come...dont worry it is just a reflex action, and, Personally I like that feeling. You learn to control it over time.

Anyway you may want to try some anal desensitizer. While it wont help with you being so tight, it will make you feel it less.

good luck
topher

 

[Samuelx]

I have tried anal sex and it hurts. I instinctively feel a strong desire to run to the toliet to shit everytime I try it. I have done it three times with little success. yesterday I bought myself a dildo and have been training myself with it. It is much smaller than my lovers dick but i am making good progress. My lover tells me I am very tight (a little "too tight" according to him).

Does anyone have any advice how I can achieve the mind blowing anal orgasm that I have dreamt about?

It has nothing to do with my boyfriends skills as he is a skilled top and seducer of straight men. He has sent many straight guys into ecstasy.

shit happens.

 

[OzoneRed]

There's a bunch of threads on this over in the How To forum. The discussion is hetero-oriented, but most of the advice should be applicable. Maybe not the remark about playing with your clit during anal sex.

 

[abisexualguy]

Just keep at it. Your ring needs to stretch out more. Just curious is your bf's cock thick?

As far as the feeling of having to go to the bathroom, well just make sure you are clean (douche before you have sex) and let the feeling come...dont worry it is just a reflex action, and, Personally I like that feeling. You learn to control it over time.

Anyway you may want to try some anal desensitizer. While it wont help with you being so tight, it will make you feel it less.

good luck
topher

My bf has a 9.5 cock that is on the thick side. He knows what he is doing but I don't. I just wanna learn to enjoy it. Many submissives/bottoms tell me that the pain is more than worth it.

I have heard awesome stories about anal orgasms and I want to experience one but I don't know how.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Many submissives/bottoms tell me that the pain is more than worth it.

Anal sex shouldn't hurt. If it does, you're doing it wrong.

Do you play with your own ass? It's a good way to learn what will work for you and what won't.

I'd personally recommend against anything that would numb you... You won't feel if anything is wrong.

 

[Chrissi]

My bf has a 9.5 cock that is on the thick side. He knows what he is doing but I don't. I just wanna learn to enjoy it. Many submissives/bottoms tell me that the pain is more than worth it.

I have heard awesome stories about anal orgasms and I want to experience one but I don't know how.

Being new to anal sex and starting out with someone the size of your bf is going to be a challenge and it is going to hurt until you and he learn to loosen you up a bit. Lube, lots of it, and get some small to medium size toys to play with for both of you. This will help.

Anal sex shouldn't hurt (unless you want it to), instead, it should be pleasurable for both of you. I know I mentioned a desensitizer, but I absolutely agree with Lizzie, and I probably shouldn't of mentioned that.

As for an orgasm, his size is irrelevant when it comes to giving you a prostate orgasm, you and he just need to work at finding your prostate. Fingers work wonders here...show him where it is, you'll know it when you hit it. But for most guys it is roughly balls deep on that (upper) side of your rectum just inside the outer ring, (usually not more than a couple inches in from the sphincter.)

Try having him lay on his back, and just stay put, while you slowly guide yourself down onto him. You have to relax, and push out, like you have to go to the bathroom. With you controlling the penetration and pace, you can manage how much you can take. That will make it a lot easier to start.

have fun, it should be.

 

[jackbird]

I have tried anal sex and it hurts. I instinctively feel a strong desire to run to the toliet to shit everytime I try it. I have done it three times with little success. yesterday I bought myself a dildo and have been training myself with it. It is much smaller than my lovers dick but i am making good progress. My lover tells me I am very tight (a little "too tight" according to him).

Does anyone have any advice how I can achieve the mind blowing anal orgasm that I have dreamt about?

It has nothing to do with my boyfriends skills as he is a skilled top and seducer of straight men. He has sent many straight guys into ecstasy.

I give my self 2 enema's with soapy warm water. I never had a real cock in me yet. I have used toys on my self a lot. I have a doc johnson 8 in long by 5 in around dildo I use. Got it years ago and first few times couldn't get it in hurt to much. I found u can't use enough lube. U can't fight it u have to let it happen. At first u think u have to go to the toilet but if your empty you don't have to go, so just let it happen it will slide in and once your open omg.