Wife wants threesome, Bisexual Husband says No !

[Samuelx]

That's my situation, basically. My wife and I watch a lot of porn together. She knew I was bisexual before we got hitched and is cool with it. She is somewhat bisexual herself. she likes my erotica stories too. Now, she wants a threesome. With another bisexual male. I am not okay with it.

It might sound silly, especially since I've done guys and girls since I got out of high school, through college and later in my law enforcement career. I am not okay with sharing my wife with other people. I am also not okay with her watching me with men.

How do I make her understand ?

 

[Mr. Briggs]

That's my situation, basically. My wife and I watch a lot of porn together. She knew I was bisexual before we got hitched and is cool with it. She is somewhat bisexual herself. she likes my erotica stories too. Now, she wants a threesome. With another bisexual male. I am not okay with it.

It might sound silly, especially since I've done guys and girls since I got out of high school, through college and later in my law enforcement career. I am not okay with sharing my wife with other people. I am also not okay with her watching me with men.

How do I make her understand ?

That's tricky. With the number of stories you write I can see why she'd want to make it a reality and expect you to be ok with it.

 

[Etoile]

Did you know she had an interest in threesomes before the marriage? Have you indicated in the past that they are a possibility?

If not, then she needs to respect your desire not to do it. Quite simply, there is a difference between seeing other people outside the marriage, and seeing other people "inside" the marriage. If you aren't okay with sharing, you aren't okay with it. Some people are, some people aren't, everybody's different.

Maybe you can offer her something else special that she would like (in bedroom terms) to make up for it?

 

[amwoman75]

I think Etoile stated it very well.

Every marriage is different, everyone has their own personal boundaries and a couple has to work together within those boundaries.
My husband lets me be with women, he is perfectly ok with it, if he wasn't I wouldn't do it. At this point I am not comfortable with being with a woman with him present because I'm not willing to share him with another woman, and he is ok with that. If he was bi then I would be ok with him being with another man, but he's not so that's not going to happen LOL. But we both agree that for us being with the same sex is ok, but with the opposite sex neither of us are comfortable with so it's just not going to happen.

Would just using your imaginations be enough for her? I knew I was Bi for more than 13 years before I ever actually did anything. My husband would always just have me imagine doing the things I wanted to do or have done to me by a woman, and no, it's not the same as actually doing it, but it's enough when you can't actually do it.

 

[Samuelx]

That's tricky. With the number of stories you write I can see why she'd want to make it a reality and expect you to be ok with it.

I think that's what she's feeling. My reluctance is gonna be a surprise for her.