The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[Cattypuss]

A one-hour pre-work walk on the headland, two days on the trot! I dunno what's got into me, but I hope it stays in there... tis is good for my weight, my energy and my self-esteem.

 

[minx1]

whatever happens now. wherever you go now.... you didnt fail

and for someone all that you have to offer will be everything to them

 

[chy_girl]

whatever happens now. wherever you go now.... you didnt fail

and for someone all that you have to offer will be everything to them

A good reminder that we all need now and then. Thank you.

 

[neci]

*hugs chy*

there is nothing wrong with having limits, knowing what you want, and expecting your PYL to respect that. you are willing to give a huge gift to the right Dom. it's not every day a man gets an eager, talented submissive at his doorstep asking him to flog her and well... you know - all that other fun stuff. if he does not respect your limits, or continues to try and manipulate them, don't sell yourself short. there is nothing wrong with demanding a little respect. even if respect means being on your knees sucking his cock.

i wish you the best. you deserve it.

 

[MisterSir]

you are willing to give a huge gift to the right Dom.

Sweet baby Jesus second.

 

[neci]

Sweet baby Jesus second.

Sweet baby Jesus

 

[chy_girl]

*hugs chy*

there is nothing wrong with having limits, knowing what you want, and expecting your PYL to respect that. you are willing to give a huge gift to the right Dom. it's not every day a man gets an eager, talented submissive at his doorstep asking him to flog her and well... you know - all that other fun stuff. if he does not respect your limits, or continues to try and manipulate them, don't sell yourself short. there is nothing wrong with demanding a little respect. even if respect means being on your knees sucking his cock.

i wish you the best. you deserve it.

Thank you. Either he and I are going to have a very long 'WTF are you thinking' talk or it's done. It might still be done after the talk, I don't know.

What I do know is that I'm tired of giving this part of myself to people who fiddle with it like it's some kind of toy. I'm not a toy and I will not continue to do this unless there is the necessary respect involved - period, full stop, end of story. And if he doesn't like it, he's more than welcome to walk away.

Although, I will miss being on my knees and sucking his cock.

 

[midwestyankee]

Thank you. Either he and I are going to have a very long 'WTF are you thinking' talk or it's done. It might still be done after the talk, I don't know.

What I do know is that I'm tired of giving this part of myself to people who fiddle with it like it's some kind of toy. I'm not a toy and I will not continue to do this unless there is the necessary respect involved - period, full stop, end of story. And if he doesn't like it, he's more than welcome to walk away.

Although, I will miss being on my knees and sucking his cock.

Chy, I honestly hope that you do walk away from this guy. He strikes me as being barely a full step removed from Horny Net Geek status.

And when you next meet up with a prospective dominant, think in terms of developing a relationship first - even before you reveal the details of your kink. Make him get to know you without the distractions of kink getting in the way. Force yourself to get to know him without the distraction of knowing what if feels like to suck his cock. This might require a few coffee or dinner only dates but if you pay attention and allow yourselves to discover each other through meeting and conversation, you'll spot the batshit crazies before you find yourself in the current bind, having already submitted to someone who is clearly not a good match for you.

 

[satindesire]

Chy, He strikes me as being barely a full step removed from Horny Net Geek status.

I agree.

 

[Cattypuss]

Thank you. Either he and I are going to have a very long 'WTF are you thinking' talk or it's done. It might still be done after the talk, I don't know.

What I do know is that I'm tired of giving this part of myself to people who fiddle with it like it's some kind of toy. I'm not a toy and I will not continue to do this unless there is the necessary respect involved - period, full stop, end of story. And if he doesn't like it, he's more than welcome to walk away.

Although, I will miss being on my knees and sucking his cock.

How long have you been seeing him? (Sorry if you have said and I missed it....)

 

[Cattypuss]

My dad died 4 months ago after 51 years of very happy marriage to my mum.

Today she emailed me and, amongst other things, said "I can't seem to stop thinking about your dad".

Wel, um, yes!

 

[Primalex]

Why does a man, especially a supposed DOMINANT man, need to have his girl looking for another chick for him? Seriously?

I've used this before for humiliation purposes and it worked quite well.

 

[Primalex]

5 pms received - and the total number of "words" used: 60. This includes "words" like "a". She has great tits - but should this be enough for my precious attention? Where are the literate exhibitionists who like to show their bodies AND write full sentences? Why do I only get either or in my PM box?

 

[ultramarineblue]

These next few months are going to be hell. I wonder who will have to take charge when the current leader won't be able to.

 

[chy_girl]

How long have you been seeing him? (Sorry if you have said and I missed it....)

Not all that long. Mostly he just has a delightful cock.

Why does a man, especially a supposed DOMINANT man, need to have his girl looking for another chick for him?

I've used this before for humiliation purposes and it worked quite well.

*tries really hard to not be catty and draw the parallel between the two comments with an emphasis on 'supposed dominant'.*


*Fails*

*snip*
Where are the literate exhibitionists who like to show their bodies AND write full sentences? Why do I only get either or in my PM box?

I'm at home dividing my attention (not equally) between a sobbing, distraught, hysterical small child that misses her parents and can't go home to them, housework, and figuring out the best way to deal with a Dom who doesn't seem to understand what submission means outside of the concept of 'fuck buddy'.

I'm sure many of the other fine ladies around here are up to equally mundane pursuits necessary to daily living.

 

[satindesire]

Not all that long. Mostly he just has a delightful cock.


*tries really hard to not be catty and draw the parallel between the two comments with an emphasis on 'supposed dominant'.*


*Fails*


I'm at home dividing my attention (not equally) between a sobbing, distraught, hysterical small child that misses her parents and can't go home to them, housework, and figuring out the best way to deal with a Dom who doesn't seem to understand what submission means outside of the concept of 'fuck buddy'.

I'm sure many of the other fine ladies around here are up to equally mundane pursuits necessary to daily living.

Nobody cares if you're catty to him.

In fact, I can name at least a few people who would encourage it.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

...<snip>
*tries really hard to not be catty and draw the parallel between the two comments with an emphasis on 'supposed dominant'.*

*Fails*

... <snip>

Nobody cares if you're catty to him.

In fact, I can name at least a few people who would encourage it.

:: Raises hand ::

 

[Cattypuss]

I miss him. I miss him. I MISS HIM.

He had become my best friend as well as my lover.

I know there are plenty more fish in the sea. I know that.

But it's him I miss.

I have been with a lot of men in my time, some of them for years. But I've only ever loved two of them. And he is the only one I've loved this century.

I MISS HIM.

 

[chy_girl]

I MISS HIM.

 

[minx1]

My body is still doing strange things and I hate it.

Most of the stuff I can cope with but the persistent swollen glands and the missing heart beats piss me off on a good day and scare me witless on others

 

[chy_girl]

Not that I'm one for giving kids random pills... ever... but if they don't give me a doctor that can sign off on something other than warm milk to get her rested and on a schedule, I'm taking people out with me when I go.

I need a nap so bad. So very, very bad.

Damn. Spoke too soon. She's up.

 

[MisterSir]

I MISS HIM.

First. *hug*

Second. Why did the two of you separate?

 

[Cattypuss]

Thank you

 

[Cattypuss]

First. *hug*

Second. Why did the two of you separate?

Thank you.

Long story. We found each other on adultfriendfinder just over a year ago. He had an unhappy marriage and was looking for no-strings fun on the side (with his wife's encouragement cos she didn't want sex with him or with anyone - and never had). I was newly single after a shit marriage and was looking for no-strings fun full stop.

We clicked emotionally, intellectually and spiritually as well as sexually. WHich was not what either of us had been looking for, but it was undeniable. We very quickly became best friends. We realised this had become far more than FWB for both of us.

He left his wife in October last year. Totally his decision and one that had been brewing for several years. She and he live a few thousand miles apart (another long story) and have a house each, so leaving her was simple.

He said he felt free and better and wished he'd done it years earlier - that they had been trying to fit square pegs into round holes ever since they'd got married, and had both been constantly miserable as a result.

Things between me and him improved and deepened.

Two weeks ago he was talking about a phone convo about practicalities that he'd had that day with his wife, and something in the way he talked about her led me to ask him if he still felt at the back of his mind that one day things might work out between him and her.

After a weekend of talk, during which he kept asserting that intellectually he KNOWS it never has worked with her and it never WILL work with her, that they are fundamentally mismatched and should never have married, at some non-rational level he feels that if only she would change they COULD be happy in the future. He KNOWS this is utterly ridiculous but he just has this feeling he can't get rid of.

I told him I wasn't happy to go on seeing him, given the point OUR relationship has got to in terms of emotional intimacy, if that's his mindset re. his wife.

So I told him that he has until the end of Feb to sort out that mindset. No contact between me and him in the meantime, and I won't sleep with anyone else in the meantime. And if he can't sort out his mindset by end of Feb I will move on with my life and not see him again.

I don't think he WILL sort himself out by end Feb. So I'm 97% sure it's over between us.

SO, that's the long story.

Betcha wish you hadn't asked!

 

[chy_girl]

Betcha wish you hadn't asked!

I'm glad he asked.

*offers you an array of chocolate, beverage of your choice, and comfort activity*