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[Nimbikarana]

Hello. I'm Rana, I live on the GLBT board as I am a tgirl.

I have recently been exploring my personality and come to realize I really love flattery/worship. Yes I know most people like it but I actually get aroused by it.

I lack the physical aggression and attitude of a typical dom, none the less I am very much interested by the concept of having someone to worship and suck up to me because of how wonderful I am.

So /BDSM/ , will you help me engage with some ideas?

 

[FurryFury]

Welcome!



Sorry I have no ideas for you atm.

 

[missy_me]

.....

 

[Adakgirl]

My advice is...to start: find some really ugly, fat, short, guy with a tiny dick and he'll be glad to worship you and the ground you walk on. Once you show him how wonderful you are. I doubt you will have any problems at all finding someone to meet your needs in the Lit BDSM personals or just the personal adds.
Remember, all relationships are give and take in some way or another. If you just take, take, take, and are only concerned about your wants and needs. If you are not willing to, or are unable to, fulfill the other persons needs in some way shape or form, then it will get old real fast for them.

 

[Nimbikarana]

This isn't a personals ad, not really. I'm trying to understand my desires and learn the right terminology.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Are you sure it is a Dominant role you wish to fulfil? Not saying you should not, but it is also possible to get what you are craving as a bottom or sub if you find the right person. As Adakgirl said though, if you have nothing to offer the other person and their needs, they will likely become bored and disenchanted with you before much time passes.

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

Hello. I'm Rana, I live on the GLBT board as I am a tgirl.

I have recently been exploring my personality and come to realize I really love flattery/worship. Yes I know most people like it but I actually get aroused by it.

I lack the physical aggression and attitude of a typical dom, none the less I am very much interested by the concept of having someone to worship and suck up to me because of how wonderful I am.

So /BDSM/ , will you help me engage with some ideas?

Find appropriate person, communicate. There are many people who would rather brush Madame's hair and tell her how lovely she is than be spat on and screamed at. It's really not an impossible dream or that weird. Think about what forms and attitudes of worship make you happy - and zero in on those things in your erotic life and your erotic communications.

Worship isn't a unilateral thing, anyway, when someone longs to worship and cherish someone because it makes them happy. I don't think there's anything more one-way about this post than someone asking how to get spanked or find someone to tie up.

Being attentive to what makes them happy *will* keep them smitten with you, of course. It goes without saying.

 

[BiBunny]

My advice is...to start: find some really ugly, fat, short, guy with a tiny dick and he'll be glad to worship you and the ground you walk on.

Wow, seriously?

OP, you don't have to find someone with low self-esteem to worship you. I promise.

 

[Nimbikarana]

Find appropriate person, communicate. There are many people who would rather brush Madame's hair and tell her how lovely she is than be spat on and screamed at. It's really not an impossible dream or that weird. Think about what forms and attitudes of worship make you happy - and zero in on those things in your erotic life and your erotic communications.

Worship isn't a unilateral thing, anyway, when someone longs to worship and cherish someone because it makes them happy. I don't think there's anything more one-way about this post than someone asking how to get spanked or find someone to tie up.

Being attentive to what makes them happy *will* keep them smitten with you, of course. It goes without saying.

I guess I should be researching the whole "contract" aspect of BDSM then eh? Seems like my [eventual] personals ad will read a bit like a contract anyway.

 

[Netzach]

I guess I should be researching the whole "contract" aspect of BDSM then eh? Seems like my [eventual] personals ad will read a bit like a contract anyway.

I don't think it has to be that formalized, but it could be fun to write a worship me contract.

I always tell people to get out to a munch and meet some people in person, or a group of some kind that's kink-friendly, but mileage varies. Anyway, when I want some adoration, I find that the best way to get it is by adoring myself. Inside, outside, putting in some extra self-care and feeling good draws it out.

 

[passionshop]

Actually, i think there is a lot of women who get aroused by flattering, and a lot of men who like to see women get aroused. Some women find a way to talk men into flattering, brushing their hair,... to get what they want. It's like training a puppy, give him what he wants if he flatters you. He will get the point

BTW i know a lot of men who get horny by flattering and pampering women actually. And none are short with small dick like someone said

 

[Nimbikarana]

i guess i should have noted, i'd be equally happy with a male or female servant

 

[Shima]

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[Primalex]

So /BDSM/ , will you help me engage with some ideas?

Professional counseling.

 

[where]

My advice is...to start: find some really ugly, fat, short, guy with a tiny dick and he'll be glad to worship you and the ground you walk on. Once you show him how wonderful you are. I doubt you will have any problems at all finding someone to meet your needs in the Lit BDSM personals or just the personal adds.
Remember, all relationships are give and take in some way or another. If you just take, take, take, and are only concerned about your wants and needs. If you are not willing to, or are unable to, fulfill the other persons needs in some way shape or form, then it will get old real fast for them.

this is sarcasm, right?

Wow, seriously?

OP, you don't have to find someone with low self-esteem to worship you. I promise.

not all short, fat, ugly men with small cocks have low self esteem

Also, sometimes you can inspire that kind of worship from people who aren't actually submissive. You just need to find the right person.

 

[MisterSir]

not all short, fat, ugly men with small cocks have low self esteem

Goddamn right I don't.

 

[00Syd]

Goddamn right I don't.

Oh please. You aren't short, fat, or ugly. You're actually pretty cute.

 

[MisterSir]

Oh please. You aren't short, fat, or ugly. You're actually pretty cute.

Yeah, but it's funnier if I...shut up! There's a time and a place for kindness and this ain't it!

...<3

 

[00Syd]

Yeah, but it's funnier if I...shut up! There's a time and a place for kindness and this ain't it!

...<3

Yeah yeah...

rose

 

[MisterSir]

Yeah yeah...

I hope I never actually have to talk to you, y'know, half my entertainment value is self depreciation. Think Rodney Dangerfield would have got anywhere if his audience showed him any respect and he got awwwwed instead of laughs? Not that I'm comparing myself to him. He made people laugh. I make people uncomfortable.

 

[00Syd]

I hope I never actually have to talk to you, y'know, half my entertainment value is self depreciation. Think Rodney Dangerfield would have got anywhere if his audience showed him any respect and he got awwwwed instead of laughs? Not that I'm comparing myself to him. He made people laugh. I make people uncomfortable.

I think that my slapping you upside the head every time you said something stupid would just add to the humor.

 

[MisterSir]

I think that my slapping you upside the head every time you said something stupid would just add to the humor.

Possibly. It hits another market as well, we get the Dangerfield fans and the guys who laugh themselves silly at the Three Stooges.

 

[Nimbikarana]

I thank you all for you advice. Some of it makes extraordinary assumptions about me, but I guess that's my fault for not providing more information about myself.

My new question then is:

What sort of info would i need to put in personals ad/ give to a possible sub?

Also, anything you all would like to know about me, feel free to ask.

 

[MisterSir]

Anything that's not immediately obvious but that you think is important. That's a vague, vague answer, so I'll clarify. If I were you, I'd be talking about:

- what exactly I'm looking to find (sexualities, place on the D/s and M/s spectra, long-term/short-term/Internet-only dealies and so on, so forth)
- my own personal likes and dislikes (for me, being into inflicting pain and consensual nonconsent would feature)
- some stuff separate from BDSM (vanilla life, in particular; what do you do, what do you like to do, where are you from, shit like that)
- sexuality (which I mention because that would have to be a significant point for you. "tgirl" is a very vague term - are you pre-op, post-op, not-intended-to-have-an-op, a cross-dresser? Physically, do you look male or female? Mentally, do you consider yourself male, female, both, neither? Elaborate)

 

[where]

I thank you all for you advice. Some of it makes extraordinary assumptions about me, but I guess that's my fault for not providing more information about myself.

My new question then is:

What sort of info would i need to put in personals ad/ give to a possible sub?

Also, anything you all would like to know about me, feel free to ask.

Be to the point. expect to get adoring men contacting you. and if you do want guys who are tall, muscled, handsome and hung like a horse.... contact MisterSir.... no kidding, say that. Don't take whatever comes your way. Take what you are actually wanting .

Anything that's not immediately obvious but that you think is important. That's a vague, vague answer, so I'll clarify. If I were you, I'd be talking about:

- what exactly I'm looking to find (sexualities, place on the D/s and M/s spectra, long-term/short-term/Internet-only dealies and so on, so forth)
- my own personal likes and dislikes (for me, being into inflicting pain and consensual nonconsent would feature)
- some stuff separate from BDSM (vanilla life, in particular; what do you do, what do you like to do, where are you from, shit like that)
- sexuality (which I mention because that would have to be a significant point for you. "tgirl" is a very vague term - are you pre-op, post-op, not-intended-to-have-an-op, a cross-dresser? Physically, do you look male or female? Mentally, do you consider yourself male, female, both, neither? Elaborate)

and this^^^^