Distance Domination-Support Thread

[Franks_Angel]

Sounds like you had a wonderful time Sweetdaisymae. Dont fret January will be here before you know it.

...I envy you ... I can't wait until I am officially collared. *giggles*

Yes, have a great time. I'll be going back to FL at the same time (late jan) to see Master again.

Master will not collar me until I actually LIVE with him in Florida. But that is alright. We know I am collared to him in the only real place it counts ... inside ourselves.

 

[Imahavah]

Yes, have a great time. I'll be going back to FL at the same time (late jan) to see Master again.

Master will not collar me until I actually LIVE with him in Florida. But that is alright. We know I am collared to him in the only real place it counts ... inside ourselves.

Oh I hope I don't have to wait that long. Shhh don't give my Master any ideas! LOL

 

[Franks_Angel]

Oh I hope I don't have to wait that long. Shhh don't give my Master any ideas! LOL

*zips her lip*

 

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[Franks_Angel]

Is it January yet?

 

[AimeeLamis]

Is it January yet?

You're hilarious. It will be January in only a few days. Have a great time.

 

[Franks_Angel]

You're hilarious. It will be January in only a few days. Have a great time.

*chuckles* Thanks Aimee .... I MAY have to ask "Is it February yet." Master may change his mind.

 

[pleasure_me]

New to this

New here so not sure what distance domination is. Would that be where someone dominates you who is not there with you in person? Like they would email me things I would have to do and obey them or something? Sounds interesting...how does that work sexually? Just curious.

 

[Franks_Angel]

New here so not sure what distance domination is. Would that be where someone dominates you who is not there with you in person? Like they would email me things I would have to do and obey them or something? Sounds interesting...how does that work sexually? Just curious.

My Master and I live about 3000 miles apart. I speak to him a minimum of three times a day and we try and meet in person every 4 to 8 weeks. He directs me via phone (to do whatever needs to be done .. paying his bills, keeping his appointments, etc etc etc.

Like any relationship, it is not all about the sex, so it's kept to a minimum for us when we are not together. He allows me a masturbation orgasm roughly once every 2 weeks while we are apart and of course whenever he feels like it when we are together LOL. As my Master of curse it is HIS pussy, clit etc etc etc to do with as he sees fit.

 

[Evilzeus]

Hi

New here so not sure what distance domination is. Would that be where someone dominates you who is not there with you in person? Like they would email me things I would have to do and obey them or something? Sounds interesting...how does that work sexually? Just curious.

I don't know if you've received the answer you are looking for with regards to how an O/l relation ship works, but this is the way I think about it.

The whole premise behind a bdsm relationship begins with a power transfer. When a sub willingly gives up her rights, her will, and her desires, for her Dom. He is the Master/Dom/PYL (Pick your label) , she is the slave/sub/pyl.

Because it is a power transfer, this can also happen via email or IM. He (I'm being very stereo typical here) has the power over her and she will obey his instructions.

There is a lot of fun to be had. The first instruction I will often give a new sub is to masterbate for 30 mins. Sound like fun? The catch is she is not allowed to cum during those 30 mins. I want her to bring her self to the edge of orgasm and hold herself there until the 30 min is over and then she may cum 1 time. As a Dom, I have a reason for everything I do bc it's part of my plan.

If she allows me the power and authority over her, she will obey me. The moment she doesn't want to obey me, the relationship which is built on power transfer, is over.

I hope I've explained it in a logical way! Good luck!

 

[niv78]

There are different forms of BDSM, which is what makes it so great. You need to choose the lifestyle that you enjoy, do you want a 24/7 lifestyle where you are the slave/sub at all times, or do you just want it in the bedroom or within the house?

There are also as many ways if not more of being a Dom/Master as well as being a slave/sub. Once again it's part of your personality, it's not always about obeying and punishment and sex. To me, a Dom and his sub are two sides of the same coin, without a sub you are not a Dom. To me the most important part of a BDSM relationship is trust, followed closely by honesty..you can say they are the same but there is a difference.

Nothing makes me happier than knowing that my sub learned a lesson about herself during our latest session, and if done right, hopefully she took one step closer to reaching the level of improvement that I am trying to help her achieve. If you run into someone that only talks about punishing you then stay away, BDSM is not about punishment, punishment should only be used if the sub did something wrong and even then you should make sure the sub knows why she's being punished with a punishment appropriate for the wrong.

Last night for example, my sub decided she was going to be a brat. It is a new relationship and so I expect her to test my boundaries, and I also expect her to not do everything exactly the way she is suppose to as this is new to her as well. She did something I told her not to do, and then tried to lie about it. So her punishment was to write out an apology to me as well as 100 lines of "I will obey my Sir and I will not lie." then she is to mail it to me.

So this post became a bit more long winded than I expected in answering the question of "What is online domination?" but I enjoy this topic and I hope to contribute more to it over time.

 

[the captians wench]

Well it finally happened. I broke down.

Mom and I were in the international market this evening shopping for cheese for our traditional cheese and cracker christmas eve dinner. I had decided that I wanted to buy some duck or something kind of exotic to go along with it this year. So there I am checking out the duck and quail when there I spot it, the very cut of bacon that had me utterly confused when I was having my first breakfast in Ireland.

I picked it up swept with joy and looked at my mom and said "this is it, it's my bacon. the bacon". Then it hit me like a car crash and there I stood in tears with a slab of bacon in my hands unable to answer my mom's questions about what I ment.

I didn't allow myself to let go fully there infront of God and every foreiner in the tristate, and I still haven't, but it's coming. I can feel it.

 

[AimeeLamis]

I'm so excited! I'll be spending the New Year with my old Master. I tried the cyber thing, but it didn't work for me. I thought the guy was really nice, but he turned out not to be for me. I was kind of disappointed, but I'll be alright. So I'm extra happy about my trip and I hope the bad weather doesn't keep me from heading out next week. We planned this some months ago, but we had some arguments (he yelled at me and I just listened) since then and I was thinking he'd cancel it. But he called me a couple of days ago to see if I started packing yet, he knows it takes me forever. So it will definitely be a Happy New Year for me and I get a break from the cold weather.

 

[AimeeLamis]

What is wrong with me?

I don't know what is wrong with me. In 2 days I will be traveling to ring in the New Year with my old Master. In my mind last week I kind of broke off my cyber relationship, not officially, but just in my mind. However, this morning I found myself checking for his email like I do every Monday morning. I even felt disappointed when there was none. So like an idiot I sent him one.

Our conversations get so heated about the craziest things; politics, history, family, finance. I feel like damn can we just keep this about sex. But I know we can't. I'm a sub, not stupid and I do have an opinion. Plus it turns me on that we are so different, but the same. Am I wrong to firmly stand my ground before submitting? He just gets so mean when I disagree with him.

Visits with my old Master are limited to every 2 to 3 months and he will not do the cyber or phone thing. So my cyber Daddy is like my bridge between those meetings, but sometimes he can really piss me off. Do I even have the right as a sub to get pissed off? It also make me mad because he knows the right buttons to push, both sexually and non sexually. He got me from the first time we communicated. I just can't help but think is this supposed to be so intense.

 

[AimeeLamis]

What is wrong with me?

I don't know what is wrong with me. In 2 days I will be traveling to ring in the New Year with my old Master. In my mind last week I kind of broke off my cyber relationship, not officially, but just in my mind. However, this morning I found myself checking for his email like I do every Monday morning. I even felt disappointed when there was none. So like an idiot I sent him one.

Our conversations get so heated about the craziest things; politics, history, family, finance. I feel like damn can we just keep this about sex. But I know we can't. I'm a sub, not stupid and I do have an opinion. Plus it turns me on that we are so different, but the same. Am I wrong to firmly stand my ground before submitting? He just gets so mean when I disagree with him.

Visits with my old Master are limited to every 2 to 3 months and he will not do the cyber or phone thing. So my cyber Daddy is like my bridge between those meetings, but sometimes he can really piss me off. Do I even have the right as a sub to get pissed off? It also make me mad because he knows the right buttons to push, both sexually and non sexually. He got me from the first time we communicated. I just can't help but think, is this supposed to be so intense?

 

[the captians wench]

I don't know what is wrong with me. In 2 days I will be traveling to ring in the New Year with my old Master. In my mind last week I kind of broke off my cyber relationship, not officially, but just in my mind. However, this morning I found myself checking for his email like I do every Monday morning. I even felt disappointed when there was none. So like an idiot I sent him one.

Our conversations get so heated about the craziest things; politics, history, family, finance. I feel like damn can we just keep this about sex. But I know we can't. I'm a sub, not stupid and I do have an opinion. Plus it turns me on that we are so different, but the same. Am I wrong to firmly stand my ground before submitting? He just gets so mean when I disagree with him.

Visits with my old Master are limited to every 2 to 3 months and he will not do the cyber or phone thing. So my cyber Daddy is like my bridge between those meetings, but sometimes he can really piss me off. Do I even have the right as a sub to get pissed off? It also make me mad because he knows the right buttons to push, both sexually and non sexually. He got me from the first time we communicated. I just can't help but think is this supposed to be so intense.

You're fucking right your allowed to get pissed, but how you show that anger is something that you have to agree on.

Like everything, this is one of those nagociation things. I've only been involved with one person where my feelings did not matter at all and I was not allowed to express them unless I was asked. I was misserable, but some how drawn to him. This was a secondary relationship second to my involvement with Jounar. I eventually tore away from that second relationship, it just wasn't healthy for me. I think a lot of it was because he was just an asshat. He knew how to make me feel like the slave I thought I wanted to be. In the end I realized the life of "just a slave" was not what I wanted. I wanted some one to love and apreciate my service, and me for that matter.

It's one of those things where you have to decide what you want, and how much getting what you want matters to you. I know that sounds very selfish for a sub, but until you give up your rights, you have them and should use them.

I'm happier in relationships where my PYL wants to know everything I'm thinking and feeling, demand it even. It makes me feel a certain amount of volnerability, but more than that it makes me feel safe, loved, and protected some how.

You have to decide what you're willing to give up, what you're willing to deal with, what you need, and what is a deal breaker. Your PYL only has what power over you that you give him.

No your not stupid, just a little confused, and life always seems to leave me that way.

 

[insert____here]

I'm happier in relationships where my PYL wants to know everything I'm thinking and feeling, demand it even. It makes me feel a certain amount of volnerability, but more than that it makes me feel safe, loved, and protected some how.

i got lucky and found this. never been so vulnerable to another person ever. it's somehow humbling to have yourself read like a book and understood and still that person wants to take it all on.

have been in a relationship similar (no D/s aspect in play, just an emotionally domineering, sociopath) to ms lamis just because i'm that emotionally masochistic. dominance does not equate to being an asshat. took the right person to help me see that.

so ms wench is right. if you, as a sub, are miserable and unhappy then you have the right to say so. this whole thing is supposed to feed our needs, let us rejoice and revel and evolve. not make us feel like crap (unless you really like that kind of emotional play).

 

[the captians wench]

i got lucky and found this. never been so vulnerable to another person ever. it's somehow humbling to have yourself read like a book and understood and still that person wants to take it all on.

have been in a relationship similar (no D/s aspect in play, just an emotionally domineering, sociopath) to ms lamis just because i'm that emotionally masochistic. dominance does not equate to being an asshat. took the right person to help me see that.

so ms wench is right. if you, as a sub, are miserable and unhappy then you have the right to say so. this whole thing is supposed to feed our needs, let us rejoice and revel and evolve. not make us feel like crap (unless you really like that kind of emotional play).

I know exactly what you mean. I love how Jounar seems to know just what I'm thinking, what I need at just the right moment, and yet still want and expect me to speak it. It was even more intence when we were together.

Honestly, I think it's one of the reasons I'm madly obsessed with twilight and inlove with Edward.

 

[insert____here]

I know exactly what you mean. I love how Jounar seems to know just what I'm thinking, what I need at just the right moment, and yet still want and expect me to speak it. It was even more intence when we were together.

Honestly, I think it's one of the reasons I'm madly obsessed with twilight and inlove with Edward.

got the giggles...wasn't the point of edward and bella that no-one could read her mind so he had to ask her what she was thinking all the time...??

i didn't really like bella much...insipid little twat... give me alice any day.

 

[the captians wench]

got the giggles...wasn't the point of edward and bella that no-one could read her mind so he had to ask her what she was thinking all the time...??

i didn't really like bella much...insipid little twat... give me alice any day.

I see a lot of myself in bella.

And yes that is exactly the point. Because he can't just pick the answers from her head, he is constantly demanding to know what she's thinking and feeling and he learns to read her in an entirely different way.

Don't mind me, I'm just hopelessly obsessed with tragic love.

 

[insert____here]

I see a lot of myself in bella.

And yes that is exactly the point. Because he can't just pick the answers from her head, he is constantly demanding to know what she's thinking and feeling and he learns to read her in an entirely different way.

Don't mind me, I'm just hopelessly obsessed with tragic love.

ms wench, you are far from insipid. i too totally love the whole "tragic love" thing. bella is just so bland and papier mache you just want to slap some personality into her. you, ms wench, appear to have plenty of personality and life. echo on the idea that someone demands to be so far inside your head and you need to tell them everything. it is very liberating and intense. best part really.

 

[the captians wench]

ms wench, you are far from insipid. i too totally love the whole "tragic love" thing. bella is just so bland and papier mache you just want to slap some personality into her. you, ms wench, appear to have plenty of personality and life. echo on the idea that someone demands to be so far inside your head and you need to tell them everything. it is very liberating and intense. best part really.

*giggles* you only know "wenchie". In person I'm terribly shy, so clumbsy the hospital built a new wing thanks largely to my teen years, and hopelessly out of place in every situation.

But just as passionate as you see here. And once I have made my mind up, that's that. *nods*

 

[insert____here]

*giggles* you only know "wenchie". In person I'm terribly shy, so clumbsy the hospital built a new wing thanks largely to my teen years, and hopelessly out of place in every situation.

But just as passionate as you see here. And once I have made my mind up, that's that. *nods*

*looks round suspiciously* were we separated at birth or something?

the only difference is i cope with being socially awkward and out of place by being loud and oppiniated sometimes.

 

[the captians wench]

*looks round suspiciously* were we separated at birth or something?

the only difference is i cope with being socially awkward and out of place by being loud and oppiniated sometimes.

It's really funny because I am very quiet and tend to hide where people won't notice me, but at the same time I'm such an attention whore that I wear some pretty outlandish things that draw attention to me.

I'm quite the contradiction.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I'm baaaaack

Things are good...very good. We've hadn't had a lot of time to talk lately but we have been able to have some really great, more serious discussions.

Our normal everyday stuff can be quite vanillaish, but when we get into the serious stuff...mmmmmm it seems to bring out his super domly side which of course brings out my "oh, yes I remember my place" submissive side.

(not that I ever forget my place, but after all this time we are also best of friends and when life gets busy often that part of the relationship oversedes the D/s part)

I have some catching up to do....