Tips, tricks, and treats for a novice couple :]

[c4tuna]

So, my girlfriend of 6 months and I have always been very sexual, but we've started to get kinkier and kinkier in the recent weeks. It started out with me learning that she liked it when I talked dirty to her and pulled her hair... it turned into choking and slapping, then ropes and handcuffs :] I've recently ordered a blindfold, ball gag, vibrating cock ring, and a series of buttplugs so we can ease into anal sex soon.

So, I wanted some tips from more experienced BDSM couples. Right now, we're not interested in living a full BDSM lifestyle per se, but would consider it for the future. Right now, we're keeping BDSM confined to the bedroom--with some experimentation. I was wondering if some of the more experienced practitioners here could give us ideas for some amazing moments with the tools we have, and recommendations for more things to acquire to make sex between us even kinkier and more amazing (for the record, we've established that we have very few sexual boundaries at least including the intention to try watersports soon :]).

As well, I have one specific request--does anybody have a good recommendation for a remote-controlled bullet vibe? I'm looking for something we can keep snuggled inside her pussy when we go out for the night, with the remote in my pocket to keep her on the edge of her seat, so to speak. The thing is, I've been doing some research and most of these remote controlled vibes are very expensive and there's no guarantee that they'll last. So I'm looking for any personal recommendations into a vibe that's a) discreet and quiet, b) strong enough to make her cum without any other stimulation (she cums rather easily), and c) will last us for a long time without breaking down. Thanks guys :]

And in case it wasn't obvious, she's a sub, though we switch occasionally.

 

[jadefirefly]

Preface: I really, really hate when people talk down to self-professed novices and assume they didn't do research. So I hope what I'm about to say doesn't come off that way.

But the only, and biggest, tip I can offer right now is this: If you haven't done research, really really good and in-depth research, on erotic asphyxiation, stop now and do not do it again.

I don't say this because I disapprove of it; it's one of my own things. I say this because it's not something to be taken lightly, and far too many people think it is. They believe they'll be able to react quickly enough if there's a problem, or they think they're not applying *that* much pressure, or they assume because there's no struggle there's not a problem.

If you know all this already, then kudos to you. You're already more educated than I was when I decided it sounded like fun.

If you don't, for your safety and hers, please know what you're doing before you do it.



Ahem. That said, welcome to the neighborhood. Hope you enjoy the stay!

 

[c4tuna]

Thank you so much for your concern. We only practice extremely light choking--my girlfriend is prone to panic attacks and has hereditary heart problems, so though I'll wrap my hand around her throat, I don't apply pressure and she knows to stop me if I ever do. I'm honestly really glad for that message. It's good to know people care so much

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Thank you so much for your concern. We only practice extremely light choking--my girlfriend is prone to panic attacks and has hereditary heart problems, so though I'll wrap my hand around her throat, I don't apply pressure and she knows to stop me if I ever do. I'm honestly really glad for that message. It's good to know people care so much

Aye. Choking play is a little different to breathplay, if you want it to be. It can also be the same thing if you want it to. Me, I don't like breathplay, but I rather like choking on occasion. Can't give you any advice on it, being on the receiving end though


With regards to buzzythings, I have had this in the past it worked well. Wouldn't call it silent, but that might just be because I was hyper aware of it, for obvious reasons.

Oh, and for the life of me I can't understand why remote controlled eggs seem to use non standard batteries. Seriously, it bites when the batteries run flat and your stash of AA and AAA's aren't useful!

 

[jadefirefly]

Thank you so much for your concern. We only practice extremely light choking--my girlfriend is prone to panic attacks and has hereditary heart problems, so though I'll wrap my hand around her throat, I don't apply pressure and she knows to stop me if I ever do. I'm honestly really glad for that message. It's good to know people care so much

Whew! It sounds like you two are off to a good start, then.

 

[c4tuna]

Oh, and for the life of me I can't understand why remote controlled eggs seem to use non standard batteries. Seriously, it bites when the batteries run flat and your stash of AA and AAA's aren't useful!

I think it's because they need more powerful batteries to be strong. If you had a remote controlled egg with AAA batteries, it would hardly purr, let alone vibrate.

Thanks for the tips :] We're trying watersports tomorrow and I'm having a blast reading all these threads XD

 

[wicked woman]

It's my experience that you're unlikely to find a good remote egg vibrator that's inexpensive. You can find inexpensive ones but they aren't very good. I got a good one a few years ago, from the UK, since I couldn't find anything online in the US or Canada. Sorry, but I don't still have the link.

 

[PoliticoThistle]

Removing profile

 

[c4tuna]

Well, we decided on a nice $75 vibe, let's hope it works out well :]

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I think it's because they need more powerful batteries to be strong. If you had a remote controlled egg with AAA batteries, it would hardly purr, let alone vibrate.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh



I see. I was always too busy lamenting, and wondering how I could buy a dozen at a time without looking *too* dodgy to really wonder about the hows and whys.

 

[c4tuna]

Hahaha always have a good backstory! Or just buy them in a sex shop I'm sure they sell them.