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[Stephie38DDD]

I have a...friend...who is completely turned on by being punished. We've played a little with spanking him with a paddle and a belt, but that's about it.

He tends to be more...hesitant to really SAY what he wants, as he kinda buys into socially accepted norms. So it's hard to know what to do to make the experience completely enjoyful for him. And this is outside my area of expertise.

We have a date for fun this week, and I really want to go all out. I need some suggestions on what to wear, how to act, what to say, etc.

Give me your best suggestions!!!

 

[Etoile]

Ask. Talk it out of him. TOP it out of him, if you must.

 

[clearshooter]

Ask. Talk it out of him. TOP it out of him, if you must.

Well said!

 

[~Haze~]

Keep pushing.

Just watch and see how he responds. When he is truly uncomfortable, he'll tell you... either verbally or with his body language. When you reach that threshold... back off.

 

[YourCaptor]

Present him an offer he can't refuse, stop halfway, then make him beg for it by telling you all his dirty little turn ons.

Works pretty good on girls.

Or you can talk it out of him. To do that you have to keep the conversation totally natural, don't put him on the spot too much but make it clear you are interested. Control the conversation, don't let him think on one topic too long, keep it going and bring it back around to that topic a second time. Keep it going like that till he says something, and be natural about, say you like that too. In a way, be an example for telling all this stuff, and don't force it.

 

[subwannabe]

I agree with making him an offer. A lot of the fun is the anticipation, the days and hours leading up to the event. Tell him you are going to make his dreams come true and ask him if he agrees to fully submitting to you. He will be hard all week.

 

[subish2009]

Present him an offer he can't refuse, stop halfway, then make him beg for it by telling you all his dirty little turn ons.

Works pretty good on girls.

Or you can talk it out of him. To do that you have to keep the conversation totally natural, don't put him on the spot too much but make it clear you are interested. Control the conversation, don't let him think on one topic too long, keep it going and bring it back around to that topic a second time. Keep it going like that till he says something, and be natural about, say you like that too. In a way, be an example for telling all this stuff, and don't force it.

Yeah, this is hot, and always works on me.

Good luck.