G-Spots

[sophia jane]

I have some questions. Purely for research, of course.

Ok not really.

Anyway, for years I've been on a quest for a gspot orgasm. It's become like the holy grail. My SO and I have found it, and gspot stimulation definitely makes me feel really damned good, but I don't orgasm from it, no matter what we've tried. So I'm wondering some things:

Have you (or your partner) had a gspot orgasm?
How do you get past the feels good to the oh my fucking god? (and don't say continua pressure because giving up isn't the issue)
Do you think every woman can have gspot orgasms?
Do you know women (or yourself) who are like me- enjoy it but don't come from it?
Any other thoughts on gspots, gspot stimulation, etc?

(thanks lance, for the reminder)

 

[3113]

The research has been done and, alas, not every woman can have a g-spot orgasm. Not everyone can even feel good from having it stimulated. I don't. So you're actually lucky there.

Women are all created differently, and as with other types of orgasms (not all women can orgasm while having intercourse, for example), it differs woman to woman. "Feel good" may be as far as you'll ever go. However, what you can try is not more pressure, but more movement. Meaning stroking it differently (faster, slower, circular).

If that doesn't do it, then you might have to accept that you're just not going to have what some other ladies have--namely G-Spot orgasms.

 

[sophia jane]

The research has been done and, alas, not every woman can have a g-spot orgasm. Not everyone can even feel good from having it stimulated. I don't. So you're actually lucky there.

Women are all created differently, and as with other types of orgasms (not all women can orgasm while having intercourse, for example), it differs woman to woman. "Feel good" may be as far as you'll ever go. However, what you can try is not more pressure, but more movement. Meaning stroking it differently (faster, slower, circular).

If that doesn't do it, then you might have to accept that you're just not going to have what some other ladies have--namely G-Spot orgasms.

Yeah, I know what you mean. I actually have thought for years that I can't, and I've been pretty excited by the amount of enjoyed it recently. But I've had several people over the years insist that it can/will happen if we do it right. I guess we're sort of at this point where he stimulates it because it feels good but it's just part of the whole experience; we're not trying repeatedly just for the sake of trying.
And I am genuinely curious about others' experiences because I have heard so many, very different, things on the topic.

 

[TxRad]

Can there be more than one g-spot?

A number of years ago, I had the pleasure of a young ladies company that seemed to have two. One was close to the entranace and was a feel very good spot. The other was just reachable with the fingertips if you had long fingers. That was the hang on Katy, this is going to be a rough ride spot.

She's the only lady I've found with two or what seemed to be two.

 

[YoursSINSerely]

Sophia, relax, totally relax, feel it, and it will happen. Sometimes slower is much better.

 

[mismused]

*****

 

[auslit]

i havent had someone else try but i've tried and it feels good but kinda weird at the same time, as strange as this sounds i'm very very sensitive to textures, textile textures, food textures and also people textures and i haaate the feeling of the g spot, gives me the heeby geebies but the sensation is ok , not orgasm inducing so far, have you tried g-spot specific toys?

 

[Stella_Omega]

The G-spot is the nerve bundle that would be controlling our prostate, if we had been male. There is some of the same spongy material enclosing it-- but it doesn't wrap around our urethra, the way a man's prostate does. Our clitoris, in fact, which extends a loong way back and in-- and is a crazy and unexpected shape-- does the job of controlling the urethra for us.

I have never had a full blown orgasm from G-spot stimulation, although the sensation is even better than an orgasm, sometimes! But add a thumb on my clit and I'm seeing stars-- coming much harder than clit alone. The two work together for a lot of women. There are variables in every human being's anatomy, no one is textbook perfect. Not every man gets off on having his prostate massaged, either. And one thing anally active men know-- and accept -- is that all the butt fucking in the world might not be enough without a hand on the dick.

On a side note, I think the idea that women should be able to orgasm via the G-spot alone is a remnant of Freud's dictate, that a MATURE woman orgasms "Vaginally," and a clitoral orgasm means she's not ready for adult life (because only an immature woman could be happy without a dick completing her) Freud was a very accurate observer-- but the ways in which he interpreted what he saw were ludicrous and rather tragic.

 

[sophia jane]

have you tried g-spot specific toys?

Yes, but only a couple and they weren't actually able to stimulate mine. I know there are better toys for the purpose, but I have invested in one yet.

I have never had a full blown orgasm from G-spot stimulation, although the sensation is even better than an orgasm, sometimes! But add a thumb on my clit and I'm seeing stars-- coming much harder than clit alone. The two work together for a lot of women. There are variables in every human being's anatomy, no one is textbook perfect. Not every man gets off on having his prostate massaged, either. And one thing anally active men know-- and accept -- is that all the butt fucking in the world might not be enough without a hand on the dick.

First I have to say- I love you Stella.

As to the rest- what you're describing is similar to what I've experienced. As I've told my SO, when he's on my gspot he could probably get me to do just about anything because it feels so damned good. Tho, I've actually found that I can't come (usually) from combo gspot/clit because it feels too good. When I do tho, it's intense.

 

[Stella_Omega]

The very best G-spot stimulator for me, is a fist-- Woman's size medium.

Hoooooly fuck!

 

[lance gt]

The hardest thing I've found getting a woman to have a Gspot orgasm , is attitude. Because it's so foreign to her when she feels the urge to pee or the pressure gets so intense, they shut down and try to stop the process. Remembering that it isn't urine that comes out, but a completelt different fluid, call it female cum if you will, helps reduce the anxiety of what is going to happen.

As Stella pointed out her preference for a fist, it is the expanding and stretching of the vaginal walls that bring the spot closer to the surface of the anterior wall. The "tickling", "drumming" and other techniques I use, stimulate the nerve endings to increase arousal to a critical level. I've never had a woamn go off on just doing that. It takes stimulation of the nipples or clit to finally acheive the point of orgasm. Anal penetration works as well, using fingers to stimulate the area from inside the anal cavity.

Experimentation in different positions and different methods will help find the right impetus for you to get off. It's true that not all woman can acheive a squirting orgasm, or have a Gspot orgasm of some kind. All women are different in the physicalities of their vagina, clitoris, and thickness of tissue inside them, making one method impossible to use on each one. I haven't had two go off using the same method yet, so I speak from the experiences I have had.

Just letting it happen and accepting what happens, without doubt or fear, increases the chances of a successful orgasm. A loving, patient partner who is willing to try anything and not get fucked up from the resulting orgasm is also a major factor in it happening. I've had women who have had a successful orgasm and their partner freaked about it and they've never been able to do it again. Until I came along of course, lol.

 

[sophia jane]

The hardest thing I've found getting a woman to have a Gspot orgasm , is attitude. Because it's so foreign to her when she feels the urge to pee or the pressure gets so intense, they shut down and try to stop the process. Remembering that it isn't urine that comes out, but a completelt different fluid, call it female cum if you will, helps reduce the anxiety of what is going to happen.

This is something I intended to bring up. That whole feeling like you have to pee thing is brought up in every single conversation I've ever had about gspot stimulation. And, while I have experienced that sensation in relation to my gspot, it hasn't happened at all with my SO. Which I find interesting because of all my partners he has been the most successful at stimulating it and making me feel oh wow about it. Anyone else not have the peeing sensation? Or is that you have that sensation between the oh wow stage where I am and actual orgasm?

 

[JamesSD]

Having gone down and had sex with my share of women, I can say that the g-spot is far more potent in some women than others. I can't recall a single woman who could orgasm from g-spot stimulation alone; usually it requires manual or oral stimulation of the clitoris along with light pressure on the g-spot, typically when the woman is already aroused. For some women the g-spot is pure gold; for others it's more uncomfortable than arousing.

Arousal and orgasm are tricky things; as sex writers I think most of us are aware that the most important erotic organ is the brain. Unfortunately for women, there just seem to be cases where the woman can be highly aroused, enjoying the sexual activity, but not able to actually cross the orgasm finish line with any frequency. I dated one lady who could orgasm with ease during ovulation, but couldn't even make it happen with a vibrator the rest of the month. Needless to say she was a voracious animal those few days while sex was mostly for my benefit otherwise.

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

I haven't ever had one solely from g-spot stimulation. However, g-spot stim added to clit will equal an "oh my god" orgasm. Also, just g-spot stim by itself tends to get me very wet.

 

[sophia jane]

Now that I'm thinking about it, I don't know that I've had an orgasm when there was gspot stimulation at the same time; if I did, it would have been what I would consider a clitoral orgasm. My understanding of gspot orgasms is that, tho they may involve the clitoris, the sensations are different than a clitoral orgasm.
Is this accurate for those in the know?

 

[lance gt]

I haven't ever had one solely from g-spot stimulation. However, g-spot stim added to clit will equal an "oh my god" orgasm. Also, just g-spot stim by itself tends to get me very wet.

That to me is the one true sign that a woman is getting ready to orgasm, when she gets VERY wet and juicy. Dilation is another sign of imminent orgasm as well. At this point just about anything will work to get off. Once it starts, rubbing the finger tips briskly over the vaginal opening instead of the clitoris increases the intensity.

Have I mentioned I'm an orgasmist extraordinaire yet?

 

[WRJames]

Can there be more than one g-spot?

A number of years ago, I had the pleasure of a young ladies company that seemed to have two. One was close to the entranace and was a feel very good spot. The other was just reachable with the fingertips if you had long fingers. That was the hang on Katy, this is going to be a rough ride spot.

She's the only lady I've found with two or what seemed to be two.

Well, there is a very sensitive spot right in between the vagina and anus. I always thought that was the G spot. It gets very engorged, and rubbing on it long enough can produce an orgasm. If I rub back that way during sex my wife either really likes it or gets really annoyed depending on her mood.

There is also a little rough spot about a finger length inside the vagina -- that one is called the G spot in a lot of literature. I don't know if it would produce an orgasm on its own. My wife doesn't even like to be touched there unless she is almost ready to come. But at that point, a finger there, maybe the litlle finger a bit further back, seems to be the thing to push her over the edge.

 

[TxRad]

Well, there is a very sensitive spot right in between the vagina and anus. I always thought that was the G spot. It gets very engorged, and rubbing on it long enough can produce an orgasm. If I rub back that way during sex my wife either really likes it or gets really annoyed depending on her mood.

There is also a little rough spot about a finger length inside the vagina -- that one is called the G spot in a lot of literature. I don't know if it would produce an orgasm on its own. My wife doesn't even like to be touched there unless she is almost ready to come. But at that point, a finger there, maybe the litlle finger a bit further back, seems to be the thing to push her over the edge.

I didn't get across what I meant cause I left out a couple of words. Just inside the vagina is what i meant. An inch or so inside. The other was a similar rough spot much deeper.

 

[lance gt]

Now that I'm thinking about it, I don't know that I've had an orgasm when there was gspot stimulation at the same time; if I did, it would have been what I would consider a clitoral orgasm. My understanding of gspot orgasms is that, tho they may involve the clitoris, the sensations are different than a clitoral orgasm.
Is this accurate for those in the know?

A Gspot orgasm is one that you feel with your whole body and a clitoral one is more localized, at least that's what the women have told me it felt like. The intensity is stronger because of the massive nerve bundle associated with it and a clitoral one focuses on the nerves that run along the shaft from the tip.

 

[3113]

Have I mentioned I'm an orgasmist extraordinaire yet?

You must be very popular with the ladies

 

[lance gt]

You must be very popular with the ladies

It's my love of the female orgasm that makes me explore the possibilities of how to acheive them. I love what I do and they love what I do, so it's a win-win situation.

I can spend hours playing, just touching, kissing, licking and exploring what makes her tick and go BOOM!

 

[Stella_Omega]

I didn't get across what I meant cause I left out a couple of words. Just inside the vagina is what i meant. An inch or so inside. The other was a similar rough spot much deeper.

Tx, I know the one you mean. I am sure it's related to some nerve bundle in the rectum, but I'm not finding any corroboration in this desultory google search I'm making...

 

[TxRad]

Tx, I know the one you mean. I am sure it's related to some nerve bundle in the rectum, but I'm not finding any corroboration in this desultory google search I'm making...

My research over the intervening years was much more fun but I never found another like her, uh, it. Uh, you know what I mean.

 

[sophia jane]

A Gspot orgasm is one that you feel with your whole body and a clitoral one is more localized, at least that's what the women have told me it felt like. The intensity is stronger because of the massive nerve bundle associated with it and a clitoral one focuses on the nerves that run along the shaft from the tip.

I would like to know if this is accurate from women who have experienced it. This is pretty similar to how I've heard it described from other people, which is why I've always assumed I've not had a gspot orgasm.

 

[WRJames]

The research has been done and, alas, not every woman can have a g-spot orgasm. Not everyone can even feel good from having it stimulated. I don't. So you're actually lucky there.

Women are all created differently, and as with other types of orgasms (not all women can orgasm while having intercourse, for example), it differs woman to woman. "Feel good" may be as far as you'll ever go. However, what you can try is not more pressure, but more movement. Meaning stroking it differently (faster, slower, circular).

If that doesn't do it, then you might have to accept that you're just not going to have what some other ladies have--namely G-Spot orgasms.

Even the same woman can react very differently on different occassions. I don't know how many times the same thing that was great the night before is greeted with disdain the next time I try it.

This may be related also to whether a woman can have an orgasm purely from vaginal sex. I had one girl friend who came that way every time, another who never could come that way.