Distance Domination-Support Thread

[sadangel]

Welcome

Feel free to post anything here. We are all in the same boat and understand your hardships and joys. This thread has helped me through many a sad time, even if i don't post much.

I'll try. Don't know how much free time I'll have over the next two weeks.

*huggles* I know. I can tell that he apreciates what I've done, even though I feel like I'm not doing anything. And I know that if I had done things the way I wanted to it would have just added more stress to him. Just the control freak in me popping out.

*huggles*

 

[Irish_Daddy]

Daddy and I have been together a year today.

I miss him so much it hurts and today I am flying around getting things together to go away with family tomorrow so we probably wont get the time together that we should.

But the important thing is, we ARE still together despite some hard times occasionally. Now, I am working towards us being together next April. Its doubtful there will be time before that but at least I have something to work towards.

Huggles to everyone

A Year of, joy, love, happiness and hope. What gift to behold. And your still a brat.

 

[Sixoclock]

Thank you. :3 Yeah, I am really finding it helpful as well, even though I have no real "Master" to speak of. A husband, yes, but.. He does not really pull off the dom part that well, hehe.

Welcome

Feel free to post anything here. We are all in the same boat and understand your hardships and joys. This thread has helped me through many a sad time, even if i don't post much.

 

[akuyim]

Grats on the 1 year Lady Fiona and Irish Daddy. My kitten and i are coming up on 9 months ourselves, just a couple more weeks. I am hoping to make it down to see her for our 1 year. Its not looking good so far, but we will see what happens.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Sorry I have been neglecting this thread and my fellow long distancers (I guess that isn't a real word, but I keep it anyway)

I think I am going with denial. After 4.5 years I don't want to think of it as long distance anymore. As if staying away from this thread will make the distance shorter. LOL I have moved closer, just not close enough to visit without spending the night.

I think even if I lived an hour away from him we would not see each other too much more than what we are now. Life gets in the way--spouses, children, work, the house, extended family, other social commitments. All things that do and should take a higher priority.

But it still comes down to I can't imagine my life without Daddy. I'll take whatever time I can get.

Hugs and kisses all around

 

[SubKekiLee]

Dropping in to say hi to my Fellow LD'ers .. I too like ES have been lacking in stopping by..

To anyone celebrating their anniversaries.. Congrats long distance is hard I should know this as I am about to celebrate 2 years with my Sir.. Take what time you do get be glad you get what you do rather than regret what you dont get..

ES- Gosh I am so happy you are closer and that you are able to see him a little more often. HUGGLES


To MY wenchie.. ( yep I said that)

YOU know more than anyone how much I wish you were there for J.. But your were right.. I think your right about what you said.. maybe it will be about the same time.. wink wink..

Everyone else take care .. and enjoy..

P.S.. More news to come on my future endevours .

 

[ecstaticsub]

I wrote out this long post about why I am so frustrated...

I deleted it because it sounded so disloyal. Not because it was anything negative about Daddy, just too much airing of personal issues.

Now more than ever before I wish I lived with him, or at least in the same town. He needs me and I feel his wife and family aren't doing enough.

But I am "the other woman" and will stay in my place. But if things don't get better soon for him I will get more involved. I will always take care of the people I love.

 

[the captians wench]

I wrote out this long post about why I am so frustrated...

I deleted it because it sounded so disloyal. Not because it wasn't anything negative about Daddy, just too much airing of personal issues.

Now more than ever before I wish I lived with him, or at least in the same town. He needs me and I feel his wife and family aren't doing enough.

But I am "the other woman" and will stay in my place. But if things don't get better soon for him I will get more involved. I will always take care of the people I love.

*hugs* I can sympathise. Being so far away at this time when I feel like he needs me has been so hard. At the same time, I think it has been better for me to stay put, at least better for him. I've been something of a safe excape for him rather than part of the jumbled caos. And having to leave him before things have settled I think might have pushed us both over the edge. Still I have this part of me that nags and says my place is with him. I have to remind myself that my place is where he decides it is at any given moment.

We've had something of a snag this week. He's switching internet companies, something long overdue I think, but that means he's going to be with out internet (and vontage) until thursday. We've been on the phone all week, this is going to be along week.

On the bright side he did remember to send me a text letting me know what's going on. I do worry when I don't hear from him for a few days, and given what's going on right now and how much contact we've had reciently I prolly would have worried sooner (usually I can go a week before I go completely mental and start having doubts). See PYLs can learn too. *giggles*

 

[CurlyKat]

*hugs* I can sympathise. Being so far away at this time when I feel like he needs me has been so hard. At the same time, I think it has been better for me to stay put, at least better for him. I've been something of a safe excape for him rather than part of the jumbled caos. And having to leave him before things have settled I think might have pushed us both over the edge. Still I have this part of me that nags and says my place is with him. I have to remind myself that my place is where he decides it is at any given moment.

We've had something of a snag this week. He's switching internet companies, something long overdue I think, but that means he's going to be with out internet (and vontage) until thursday. We've been on the phone all week, this is going to be along week.

On the bright side he did remember to send me a text letting me know what's going on. I do worry when I don't hear from him for a few days, and given what's going on right now and how much contact we've had reciently I prolly would have worried sooner (usually I can go a week before I go completely mental and start having doubts). See PYLs can learn too. *giggles*

The thing I'm still trying to convince my heart to accept is that even though I KNOW my place is with him, I can still be with him even if it's not physically. You're in his heart, and in his mind, and he's in yours, so you are still in your place. That pesky physical location can get so annoying at times, though.

I get worried and needy much sooner without contact. Getting used to frequent contact, going a couple to three days without contact without warning is trying. Even when I know it's nothing, I still wonder what's going on and everything else under the sun. It's stupid, and I'm working on it, but still. When there's advance notice, I still miss him, but I know not to worry. Good for him for letting you know!

On a side note, I always enjoy reading your posts in this thread. They're so helpful!

 

[Lady_Fiona]

I wrote out this long post about why I am so frustrated...

I deleted it because it sounded so disloyal. Not because it was anything negative about Daddy, just too much airing of personal issues.

Now more than ever before I wish I lived with him, or at least in the same town. He needs me and I feel his wife and family aren't doing enough.

But I am "the other woman" and will stay in my place. But if things don't get better soon for him I will get more involved. I will always take care of the people I love.

Boy that sounds like me.....

 

[the captians wench]

The thing I'm still trying to convince my heart to accept is that even though I KNOW my place is with him, I can still be with him even if it's not physically. You're in his heart, and in his mind, and he's in yours, so you are still in your place. That pesky physical location can get so annoying at times, though.

I get worried and needy much sooner without contact. Getting used to frequent contact, going a couple to three days without contact without warning is trying. Even when I know it's nothing, I still wonder what's going on and everything else under the sun. It's stupid, and I'm working on it, but still. When there's advance notice, I still miss him, but I know not to worry. Good for him for letting you know!

On a side note, I always enjoy reading your posts in this thread. They're so helpful!

Just keep in mind I've had 4 years to work on this. In the begining I would get freaked out if he missed sending me an offline IM for one day. Why he didn't run away screaming at that point insted of calming me down and telling me that if I can't correct the behavior we'd have an issue I'll never underdstand.

It's taken a lot of time for me to get . . . tollerant of time with out contact. I can go a day or two with no worry, by 5 I can't hide the worry, but I'm not freaking out, by day 7 I am in crazy psyco stalker mode.

But he's adjusted a lot too. Now obviously I understand that he might not always be able to contact me first, but since I've been back from my visit he's been very consistant in contacting me at the 7 day mark. And now this advance notice. . . little things like that makes me fall in love with him all over again.

 

[the captians wench]

I love getting a phone call from him out of no where.

He rang me Thursday once he figured I was awake to let me know that his net was up and running and everything is back in working order. He also filled me in on a cat that has adopted them. She apearently showed up one day, his mom put some food out for her and later that night some cream. Then the little cat plowed her way inside the next day when he opened the door and now that this girl has a taste for the house, she's decided she's staying. *giggles*

He said this cat has followed him around like a shadow. If he's on the couch, she jumps up and settles in on his lap. If he goes into the back garden, she's right behind him. Sounds too adorable.

There's another cute story there, but I'm not comfortable posting it here.

We spent an hour and half on the phone today. I love him so much.

 

[CurlyKat]

I really, really love hearing his voice so often. It's so calming, almost entrancing, and makes me feel so much closer to him. When we're on the phone, it's almost like he's right here with me, or I'm there with him.

I'm hoping we never have to go back to online only, no more voice, ever.

 

[sadangel]

Sir left tonight. Don't know when we'll be together again in person, but we know that we intend it to be permanent the next time we see each other. Going to go about applying for my passport so I can be ready when He gets a place for us. I miss Him so much already. We had a wonderful 2 weeks together. Found out how very compatible we are.

 

[the captians wench]

Sir left tonight. Don't know when we'll be together again in person, but we know that we intend it to be permanent the next time we see each other. Going to go about applying for my passport so I can be ready when He gets a place for us. I miss Him so much already. We had a wonderful 2 weeks together. Found out how very compatible we are.

I'm glad you had a nice time together, and I hope your planing doesn't prove to be too troublesome. I know trying to do my move has already been a pain in the ass and I haven't even gotten to any sort of paperwork and actually starting the process.

kiss kiss

 

[sadangel]

I'm glad you had a nice time together, and I hope your planing doesn't prove to be too troublesome. I know trying to do my move has already been a pain in the ass and I haven't even gotten to any sort of paperwork and actually starting the process.

kiss kiss

I hope it doesn't either Wench. I'm fortunate that I have no furniture I need to move. About 15 boxes is all. We're trying to figure out if renting a car would be a good idea for me. I love driving and don't mind in the least driving alone. I've made sure to find any documents I may need and have them set aside in a safe place. I've already found out that I can keep SSI while living in Canada; which I admit surprised me, but I'm glad. It will help a lot.

I hope that things will go well for you to move soon.

 

[the captians wench]

This really sucks.

This month I'm working mostly mids and evenings. That means I'm already leaving for work when he's getting off, and he's in bed before I get off. We've been so spoiled this year so far I haven't had to work all that many shifts like this. And it's not likely to get better until we get another manager certified. *sigh*

 

[Imahavah]

Hello fellow LD'ers. This is only my second post on the forum so bear with me.

I am new to D/s relationships, and I didn't even know this was what I wanted until later in life. I am 41 now. I have only just this month found my Sir. As it so happens, he is someone I was involved with a while ago. I left my heart with him then, and he holds it still.

When we were involved before, part of me, as I can see now, wanted this from him so badly. I was too young and inexperienced to know how to tell him or how to recognize the little sub in me. Even then his power held me transfixed...I suppose that is why I left my heart with him and never asked for it back.

I have been reading this entire thread on LD D/s relationships. I must say this thread is a comfort. Thank you one and all for sharing so much of yourselves here. It gives a girl some courage!

CW you are wonderful. I love reading your posts..and they are so balanced and insightful. Please allow me to collect my thoughts. I am new to sharing those too.

 

[sadangel]

This really sucks.

This month I'm working mostly mids and evenings. That means I'm already leaving for work when he's getting off, and he's in bed before I get off. We've been so spoiled this year so far I haven't had to work all that many shifts like this. And it's not likely to get better until we get another manager certified. *sigh*

Aww. *hugs* That does suck something fierce.

Hello fellow LD'ers. This is only my second post on the forum so bear with me.

I am new to D/s relationships, and I didn't even know this was what I wanted until later in life. I am 41 now. I have only just this month found my Sir. As it so happens, he is someone I was involved with over a decade ago. I left my heart with him then, and he holds it still.

When we were involved before, part of me, as I can see now, wanted this from him so badly. I was too young and inexperienced to know how to tell him or how to recognize the little sub in me. Even then his power held me transfixed...I suppose that is why I left my heart with him and never asked for it back.

I have been reading this entire thread on LD D/s relationships. I must say this thread is a comfort. Thank you one and all for sharing so much of yourselves here. It gives a girl some courage!

CW you are wonderful. I love reading your posts..and they are so balanced and insightful. Please allow me to collect my thoughts. I am new to sharing those too.

Welcome. You did just fine. I'm glad you found your Sir. How wonderful that it is someone you already knew. Sounds like you both still had each others hearts.

 

[Imahavah]

@SadAngel

Thank you. Yes it does seem as if we never really left each others hearts. You can't imagine my joy at finding this out! (or perhaps you can)

I knew back then that I would always be devoted to him in what ever capacity he would allow me to be. I never have had such complete trust in another person. Never believed in anyone else as much as I did him. (and still do). And of course trust is paramount in a relationship like this.

It almost makes me fall speechless. This rediscovery, this...renewed sharing. This love. I am so happy I am moved to tears. But such love cannot be denied and thus I was willing to have the long distance relationship.

We have been experimenting with long distance punishments. It has been an interesting and insightful journey so far.

Do we have a thread already on long distance punishments?

 

[the captians wench]

@SadAngel

Thank you. Yes it does seem as if we never really left each others hearts. You can't imagine my joy at finding this out! (or perhaps you can)

I knew back then that I would always be devoted to him in what ever capacity he would allow me to be. I never have had such complete trust in another person. Never believed in anyone else as much as I did him. (and still do). And of course trust is paramount in a relationship like this.

It almost makes me fall speechless. This rediscovery, this...renewed sharing. This love. I am so happy I am moved to tears. But such love cannot be denied and thus I was willing to have the long distance relationship.

We have been experimenting with long distance punishments. It has been an interesting and insightful journey so far.

Do we have a thread already on long distance punishments?

A new one pops up every few months.

Of course those are usually people more focased on the fantasy role play type D/s LDR.

We tend to jumble all questions involving LDRs here. The people who visit here are usually ones with the most experience.

Did you have a question?

 

[WA_cop]

Hey everyone!

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[minx1]

G'day all,

I'm reading this thread with great interest as i have somehow wound up in a long distance Dom situation with an online sub.....

This is a very new (and holy fuck!) exciting situation to be in....

Good bless yahoo messenger I say and please cut loose with any advice to the (extremely) new boy on the block!

*stifles a squeal*

omg. a Perth person!!

 

[ecstaticsub]

Hello fellow LD'ers. This is only my second post on the forum so bear with me.

I am new to D/s relationships, and I didn't even know this was what I wanted until later in life. I am 41 now. I have only just this month found my Sir. As it so happens, he is someone I was involved with over a decade ago. I left my heart with him then, and he holds it still.

G'day all,

I'm reading this thread with great interest as i have somehow wound up in a long distance Dom situation with an online sub.....

This is a very new (and holy fuck!) exciting situation to be in....

Good bless yahoo messenger I say and please cut loose with any advice to the (extremely) new boy on the block!

Just wanted to extend a quick hello to you both! Welcome

 

[WA_cop]

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