Struggle with my bisexuality

[TexasWild]

First of all, I was just about to add my post when I noticed that a few minutes ago, there was another post added with the question on whether or not your wife or partner knows about being bisexual. Some of my thoughts below probably overlap but I still want to go ahead and put my post in.

Gentlemen, I need some thoughtful insights/comments about your struggles and/or acceptance of your bisexuality. Many times over the years I have felt that I am the only guy in the world who have struggle the vast majority of my life in dealing with the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual aspect of my sexuality. I have always tried to push my feelings toward the back of my mind but the desires all still there. With a help of a good therapist, I am trying to taking stock of my situation but I want to hear from fellow travelers.

Unfortunately, there are not any organizations around the area that I could talk to other “middle age men who love their wives, a active member of the community including church and youth sports but yet are still attracted to having a “bonding” experience with other men even if just means sitting around jacking each other off.”

FYI, I had a few experiences in college and when I was a young adult. I felt guilty as hell after the experience but yet it felt so good to touch and play with another nude man in the shower. To be honest with you, if a goodlooking guy came along and said lets take a shower together, I probably could not resist anymore.

To add to my frustration, my wife who comes from a very conservative, small town Baptist background does not know about the extent of my bisexuality. If she knew about my background and desires, she would divorce me. It has been hell in trying not to act out which I have not besides a couple of male massages with happy endings. The only people who know about my bisexuality are my aunt and a good friend from college.

The bottom line is that I would to hear from other married bisexual guys who can share their peaks and valleys of being bisexual. Thanks for your help!

 

[Samuelx]

First of all, I was just about to add my post when I noticed that a few minutes ago, there was another post added with the question on whether or not your wife or partner knows about being bisexual. Some of my thoughts below probably overlap but I still want to go ahead and put my post in.

Gentlemen, I need some thoughtful insights/comments about your struggles and/or acceptance of your bisexuality. Many times over the years I have felt that I am the only guy in the world who have struggle the vast majority of my life in dealing with the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual aspect of my sexuality. I have always tried to push my feelings toward the back of my mind but the desires all still there. With a help of a good therapist, I am trying to taking stock of my situation but I want to hear from fellow travelers.

Unfortunately, there are not any organizations around the area that I could talk to other “middle age men who love their wives, a active member of the community including church and youth sports but yet are still attracted to having a “bonding” experience with other men even if just means sitting around jacking each other off.”

FYI, I had a few experiences in college and when I was a young adult. I felt guilty as hell after the experience but yet it felt so good to touch and play with another nude man in the shower. To be honest with you, if a goodlooking guy came along and said lets take a shower together, I probably could not resist anymore.

To add to my frustration, my wife who comes from a very conservative, small town Baptist background does not know about the extent of my bisexuality. If she knew about my background and desires, she would divorce me. It has been hell in trying not to act out which I have not besides a couple of male massages with happy endings. The only people who know about my bisexuality are my aunt and a good friend from college.

The bottom line is that I would to hear from other married bisexual guys who can share their peaks and valleys of being bisexual. Thanks for your help!

I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm a bisexual Haitian-American police patrolman in Boston, and my wife, who's an exec, knows about my bisexuality. She's a few years older than me, and knew about my bisexuality in college. We're alright together. Now, I know lots of women out there aren't like her and they think bisexual men are designed to cheat. Give me a break, my marriage is a lot more stable than that of my heterosexual neighbors, many of whom are getting into fights and divorcing left and right. Maybe you should try having a talk with her. If she's rigidly against your being bi, then maybe she isn't the right person for you. Don't hold your breath in trying to change her mind if she's dead set against male bisexuality. Many women are. Hell, I know one bisexual policewoman in my squad who had to be restrained after her hubby, a mailman, told her he was bi. That kind of prejudice exists. Good luck to you.

 

[Gavionn]

Not sure I fit the mold

TW ~ I'm fairly sure you saw my post on the other thread, but yours has a slightly different slant to it, so I'll respond here as well.

Maybe I just don't like labels, but I don't consider myself bisexual. I have no interest in building the kind of relationship I have with my wife with a man. None. But I do have an apparently incurable desire to suck cock, and maybe do more.

I rarely think about a nameless, faceless cock though. Throughout my life, there has usually been one or more friends who I fantasize about. I'm not sure whether that is actual closeness or just knowing that they have just as much to lose as I do.

My wife knows that I'm basically a "perv". Which in most people's definition means I subscribe to the concept that "if all involved are consenting adults, and no one is getting hurt... game on!".

I know without a shadow of doubt that she wants to be with multiple men. And she knows that I am freely willing to appreciate a nice cock when I see one. She has also had her own bisexual experiences, with no regrets.

I think there is just an overwhelming "don't talk about it" vibe with her. No matter how badly she might want to have another cock, she would rather fantasize about it alone and perhaps allow it to happen when it could be explained away by alcohol or "the heat of the moment". Somehow, talking about or planning such an adventure is utterly taboo, but if it were to "just happen" I'm pretty sure she'd happily go along for the ride.

The same can be said about her opinion of my cock-desire. If I were licking her clit while she was being fucked and "in the heat of the moment" the 3 of us decided it would be fun for me to suck her juices off his cock - that would be fine... but going into it with that in mind? No way.

I have no particular sexual agenda right now, other than just getting her to loosen up and have some fun.

 

[VincentFloyd]

im in texas too maybe i could help

 

[jim69jim]

Texas here too. Feel free to contact me if you want to explore this further. Good luck!

 

[Wolfman1982]

Hell, I know one bisexual policewoman in my squad who had to be restrained after her hubby, a mailman, told her he was bi. That kind of prejudice exists. Good luck to you.

What the fuck ??? holy shit mate, a bisexual woman going insane on her husband because he is bisexual like her ? dude, that woman really needs some restraints, cause she has the biggest double standards I have heard about in a while.

 

[michaelinteas]

What the fuck ??? holy shit mate, a bisexual woman going insane on her husband because he is bisexual like her ? dude, that woman really needs some restraints, cause she has the biggest double standards I have heard about in a while.

I was thinking the same thing

 

[michaelinteas]

First of all, I was just about to add my post when I noticed that a few minutes ago, there was another post added with the question on whether or not your wife or partner knows about being bisexual. Some of my thoughts below probably overlap but I still want to go ahead and put my post in.

Gentlemen, I need some thoughtful insights/comments about your struggles and/or acceptance of your bisexuality. Many times over the years I have felt that I am the only guy in the world who have struggle the vast majority of my life in dealing with the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual aspect of my sexuality. I have always tried to push my feelings toward the back of my mind but the desires all still there. With a help of a good therapist, I am trying to taking stock of my situation but I want to hear from fellow travelers.

Unfortunately, there are not any organizations around the area that I could talk to other “middle age men who love their wives, a active member of the community including church and youth sports but yet are still attracted to having a “bonding” experience with other men even if just means sitting around jacking each other off.”

FYI, I had a few experiences in college and when I was a young adult. I felt guilty as hell after the experience but yet it felt so good to touch and play with another nude man in the shower. To be honest with you, if a goodlooking guy came along and said lets take a shower together, I probably could not resist anymore.

To add to my frustration, my wife who comes from a very conservative, small town Baptist background does not know about the extent of my bisexuality. If she knew about my background and desires, she would divorce me. It has been hell in trying not to act out which I have not besides a couple of male massages with happy endings. The only people who know about my bisexuality are my aunt and a good friend from college.

The bottom line is that I would to hear from other married bisexual guys who can share their peaks and valleys of being bisexual. Thanks for your help!

I am open for chatting about it