A Question of, ‘Civility’, Between Opposing Ideologies…

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Roxanne Appleby, who used to post regularly here, offered a thread concerning ‘civility’, and insisted that a ‘genteel’ posture should be taken during the discussion of issues.

I disagreed with her theme then; I do now, and proceed to make a case for, ‘incivility’, as the need arises.

Perusing several online dictionaries concerning civility and incivility, I noticed an absence, aside from a Greek reference to ‘civilization’ as opposed to barbarianism, of an objective point of view concerning civil behavior as concerns extreme opposites in both opinion and behavior.

To be sure, one must ascertain that certain fundamental values are acknowledged before any discussion can begin. This is where my Liberal colleagues on this forum begin to whimper that there are no ‘absolute’ values, that everything is negotiable, everything is relative and that, ‘values’ arise from the general, not the specific, e.g., the group, not the individual.

(e.g. abbr. Latin exempli gratia (for example))

My Life, is not negotiable, nor will I remain civil should you threaten it.

My Liberty, my freedom to act, is not negotiable; I will not discuss it in civil tones.

My Property; that which sustains my life and that which I have acquired by expending thought and effort, is not a matter of debate, as to whether you can take it or not.

My collectivist opponents insist upon my civility when their grandiose plans include the confiscation of my freedom, my property, and even my life, should they, as a group, so decide.

Yet they scream to the high heavens’, should I call them out on their unspoken determination to eliminate any or all of my individual rights in favor of their ‘greater good’.

A Joy for life, a Passion for Life is not the province of a ‘herd animal’, nay, my friends, ‘tis for one alone:

Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night

Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
Because their words had forked no lightning they
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,
And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight
Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

And you, my father, there on the sad height,
Curse, bless me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.​

-- Dylan Thomas

http://www.cs.rice.edu/~ssiyer/minstrels/poems/38.html

That poem coursed through my mind as I concluded my thoughts on the value of life and freedom and one’s possessions. Perhaps not entirely an analogy or a metaphor, but close enough…

Amicus
 
Amicus old son

You need to try to be less INTENSE!

Here is a interesting film of a Selling author, who refuses to allow "Them" to destroy his life.

He opposes the willful Governments usurpation of his rights.

It will distract you from the voices in your head. :D
 
I have no voices in my head and I don't do 'not intense'. I have always lived my life at full throttle and risk taking....being a herd animal was never an option....

not that you understand that...

amicus
 
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I don't propose civility for civility's sake. But I'm a rhethorican (or whatever the hell the term is in English) at heart, and I've come to realize that it's almost never a fruitful strategy to alienate people if you want to convince them of your point of view.

If you start ideological statements and exposes by demonizing your opponent... by unreasonable polarisation of issues, by painting a simplistic picture of your position as the one and only possible good and every deviation from that as nothing but evil, perverse or idiotic, you are not very likely to make anyone you denigrate go "hey, maybe he has a point there". The reaction is rather "hey, that guy is a douchebag", and that they shut their minds to what you have to say.

Conviction is not cataclysmic, it's incremental. You nudge people along. And you can't do that when people dig their heels in in anger.

Of course, convincing the people you adress is not always the purpose. You can attack people on "the other side" to gain a social identity, or to get the attention of the people already you on your side and strenthen their conviction.

Or you might just want to poke people with sticks. Now and then. ;)
 
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Liar, rhetoritician or not, you can understand plain language if you really try.

It was the combination of a documentary film, a fiction film and several books describing the plight of the Jewish People in the Warsaw Ghetto's prior and during world war two that left me with both a question and a resolution.

The question was, how could a people, any people, just walk into the concentration camps and the gas chambers without fighting for their lives.

Cattle or Swine in a pen, being shuttled into a slaughterhouse, I can understand; sentient human beings who value life and avoid death, I cannot.

My resolution, long ago, was to attempt to understand that state of mind that would allow a person to calmly face execution and to create a means of disuading people from ever reaching that state of hopelessness.

I attempt, in all my works, to illuminate the individual life and the value it intrinsically has and to insist that life, liberty and the pursuit must be fought for and defended with continuing vigilance.

I do not imagine that passion for life can be expressed as you visualize it; I think it requires those willing to challenge even minor transgressions on one's liberty to keep that spark of humanity alive and well. I think we must pass that on to our children and to the society we live in as a service to our fellow humans.

For if you do not, I assure you, the day will arrive when so many of your rights and liberties have been lost, that the task of regaining them seems beyond the realm of the possible.

Eternal vigilance is not a phrase of my creation, but I surely understand it.

Amicus
 
That poem has nothing to do with what you're talking about. 'Barbarianism'? Twilight of the idols, or how to philosophize with a hammer. That's a little better read for what you're talking about than Virtue of Selfishness.
 
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Civility most certainly is important. Indeed, it's indispensable. Civility is not merely attachment to a set of empty gestures, though—it does not necessarily involve curtseys and elaborate hand-waves and calling each other by our titles and last names. It includes such things as refraining from outright lies, too.

I could get all academic about that and make a long lecture about Gricean Maxims, Daniel Dennett, the principles of critical thinking, and a host of other things, but in this place, I'd get calls of 'idiot!' just the same, so I'll save myself the trouble. Suffice it to say, civility, covering more than just 'manners', is a prerequisite of rational discourse, and when that prerequisite breaks down, all one gets is … braying.
 
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amicus Roxanne Appleby, who used to post regularly here, offered a thread concerning ‘civility’, and insisted that a ‘genteel’ posture should be taken during the discussion of issues.

I disagreed with her theme then; I do now, and proceed to make a case for, ‘incivility’, as the need arises.

Perusing several online dictionaries concerning civility and incivility, I noticed an absence, aside from a Greek reference to ‘civilization’ as opposed to barbarianism, of an objective point of view concerning civil behavior as concerns extreme opposites in both opinion and behavior [...]

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My Life, is not negotiable, nor will I remain civil should you threaten it.

My Liberty, my freedom to act, is not negotiable; I will not discuss it in civil tones.

My Property; that which sustains my life and that which I have acquired by expending thought and effort, is not a matter of debate, as to whether you can take it or not.

My collectivist opponents insist upon my civility when their grandiose plans include the confiscation of my freedom, my property, and even my life, should they, as a group, so decide.

Yet they scream to the high heavens’, should I call them out on their unspoken determination to eliminate any or all of my individual rights in favor of their ‘greater good’


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i habitually supported amicus' 'free speech' views, at least applied in AH, for some time. now i must question them, i.e. myself, applied here. of course i support the first amendment as US constitutional law, with some rational restrictions as are in place.

civility permits rational and productive discussion.

Amicus' confusions above start almost immediately, for Roxanne was talking about HERE as indicated in ami's own words: //[she] insisted that a ‘genteel’ posture should be taken during the discussion of issues.//

Instead, Ami deals with the straw man and question, "should i always act genteel, faced in real life, with any threat, e.g., kidnapping, confinement?" and even that he gets wrong. "genteel" is a biased term and not relevant. but i see no reason *even in the physical situations described* for impoliteness and irrationality. if someone is actually trying to enslave me, kidnap me with force, a rational approach is almost by definition best, e.g. unless there are people nearby, do not scream when a weapon is trained on you. where there is no immediate chance of escape, be cooperative while you figure out how to escape. screaming "murder!" or "murderer" is not usually effective except in specific settings, e.g. where a busy restaurant is the site of a kidnapping attempt.

good police are usually polite, as are good soldiers. ami muddles the whole thing. you don't need to scream "die, bastard!" at someone, in order to use a gun to defend yourself or aid a captured innocent.

But let's get back to the real topic. Here, at AH, or in discussions, even, at the bar down the street, where no one makes a physical threat; and here, could not carry it out, mostly likely.

Ami is wrong about 'objectivity' of the value of civility in discussion: it's as objective as rationality, honesty, and integrity, virtues Rand argues are objective and demonstrable. If 'honesty' is objective, so is the vice of mendacity.

In any case, ami's example does not hold up:
My Life, is not negotiable, nor will I remain civil should you threaten it.

There is no threat here in AH. Even if we assume democratic socialism, *if successful* was somehow a threat, a rational discussion would seem best; a polite one. Liar gives good reasons: to possibly persuade the other side or the onlookers. So, screaming "socialist tyrant' and 'death worshipper", or 'slimy leech' does not seem like the way to this.

Likewise the second point is misguided for the general reason above

My Liberty, my freedom to act, is not negotiable; I will not discuss it in civil tones.

If, ftsoa, socialism in practice is a threat to ami's liberty, as is fascism, then the *discussion of it* is something quite different. The "I see up the road, and it's coming" approach is not defensible: getting abusive or physical, would not seem like the way to go, *if one wants to spread the libertarian gospel.* Indeed the Rand and libertarian websites often insist on civility; it's a pragmatic value, if nothing else.

Civility involves honoring the prerequisites of any conversation, e.g. sincerity, topic relevance etc. Lately the tone of many postings here is simply vicious hostility and abuse. Accusations against the other-- "you're an asshole*-- supplant productive discussion.

The 'moral' of the internet seems to be that it takes, for productive discussion: 1) community spirit, and 2) community activism. And, in most cases the spirit and 'activism' ['stop that, mr. flamer!'] can only be effective if 3) a moderator is present. (such a person acting fairly and transparently, but NOT removable by majority vote).
 
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Amicus has confused the rules of armed combat with the rules of civil discussion.

When he thinks he is being attacked, it's just someone returning fire.
 
i habitually supported amicus' 'free speech' views, at least applied in AH, for some time. now i must question them, i.e. myself, applied here. of course i support the first amendment as US constitutional law, with some rational restrictions as are in place.

civility permits rational and productive discussion.

Amicus' confusions above start almost immediately, for Roxanne was talking about HERE as indicated in ami's own words: //[she] insisted that a ‘genteel’ posture should be taken during the discussion of issues.//

Instead, Ami deals with the straw man and question, "should i always act genteel, faced in real life, with any threat, e.g., kidnapping, confinement?" and even that he gets wrong. "genteel" is a biased term and not relevant. but i see no reason *even in the physical situations described* for impoliteness and irrationality. if someone is actually trying to enslave me, kidnap me with force, a rational approach is almost by definition best, e.g. unless there are people nearby, do not scream when a weapon is trained on you. where there is no immediate chance of escape, be cooperative while you figure out how to escape. screaming "murder!" or "murderer" is not usually effective except in specific settings, e.g. where a busy restaurant is the site of a kidnapping attempt.

good police are usually polite, as are good soldiers. ami muddles the whole thing. you don't need to scream "die, bastard!" at someone, in order to use a gun to defend yourself or aid a captured innocent.

But let's get back to the real topic. Here, at AH, or in discussions, even, at the bar down the street, where no one makes a physical threat; and here, could not carry it out, mostly likely.

Ami is wrong about 'objectivity' of the value of civility in discussion: it's as objective as rationality, honesty, and integrity, virtues Rand argues are objective and demonstrable. If 'honesty' is objective, so is the vice of mendacity.

In any case, ami's example does not hold up:
My Life, is not negotiable, nor will I remain civil should you threaten it.

There is no threat here in AH. Even if we assume democratic socialism, *if successful* was somehow a threat, a rational discussion would seem best; a polite one. Liar gives good reasons: to possibly persuade the other side or the onlookers. So, screaming "socialist tyrant' and 'death worshipper", or 'slimy leech' does not seem like the way to this.

Likewise the second point is misguided for the general reason above

My Liberty, my freedom to act, is not negotiable; I will not discuss it in civil tones.

If, ftsoa, socialism in practice is a threat to ami's liberty, as is fascism, then the *discussion of it* is something quite different. The "I see up the road, and it's coming" approach is not defensible: getting abusive or physical, would not seem like the way to go, *if one wants to spread the libertarian gospel.* Indeed the Rand and libertarian websites often insist on civility; it's a pragmatic value, if nothing else.

Civility involves honoring the prerequisites of any conversation, e.g. sincerity, topic relevance etc. Lately the tone of many postings here is simply vicious hostility and abuse. Accusations against the other-- "you're an asshole*-- supplant productive discussion.

The 'moral' of the internet seems to be that it takes, for productive discussion: 1) community spirit, and 2) community activism. And, in most cases the spirit and 'activism' ['stop that, mr. flamer!'] can only be effective if 3) a moderator is present. (such a person acting fairly and transparently, but NOT removable by majority vote).

If that doesn't work, you can always censor amicus aka JamesBJohnson. I think I'm going to, now that I've experienced some of their brilliance. Imagine that, in my online experience I can deprive Amicus and JBJ of their first ammendment 'right'. Ignore, ignore, lalala.
 
Liar, rhetoritician or not, you can understand plain language if you really try.
Good rhetoric is plain language.

I do not imagine that passion for life can be expressed as you visualize it; I think it requires those willing to challenge even minor transgressions on one's liberty to keep that spark of humanity alive and well. I think we must pass that on to our children and to the society we live in as a service to our fellow humans.

For if you do not, I assure you, the day will arrive when so many of your rights and liberties have been lost, that the task of regaining them seems beyond the realm of the possible.
There is a difference between defending what is right with vigilance and defending it with douchebaggery.

I get that you're passionate. Passion is good. But realize what you're dealing with: people. Even people who either disagrees with you or don't understand what you're talking about. If you want to convince them that you're right, you must first open a channel of communication on which they will listen. Or else you'll be screaming at a brick wall.

A good message doesn't make bad communication work.
 
If that doesn't work, you can always censor amicus aka JamesBJohnson. I think I'm going to, now that I've experienced some of their brilliance. Imagine that, in my online experience I can deprive Amicus and JBJ of their first ammendment 'right'. Ignore, ignore, lalala.

OH! NO! Not the IGGY NUCLEAR OPTION! yawn...

I suppose you can join the DONT QUOTE THE TROLL Chorus, too.
 
I have no voices in my head and I don't do 'not intense'. I have always lived my life at full throttle and risk taking....being a herd animal was never an option....

not that you understand that...

amicus


Oh, I understand Amicus.
I agree with you in general, it's just that I feel that showing civility to others respects their rights to be a weird as they want to. I was just joking about the voices in your head. :)

One problem with living your life, "Full Throttle" is that sometimes on a curvy path, you run off the road. Moderation in all things is a good maxim.

The problem in political arenas is that hammering on a fringe point alienates those who might otherwise be your allies. Also you loose their attention.
 
Rhetoric is the art of using words to persuade.

I the context of the thread as I understand it, "civility" implies a certain rhetoric and the manners to debate politely.


(ducks down and hides from the incoming)
 
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