Humiliation

[BlackWingedOne]

Greetings A/all. Master has tasked me with gathering ideas on how He can humiliate me at home and in public, without being too obvious in public. He wanted to see what suggestions everyone on here had.

Also, if anyone knows of any good BDSM, D/s groups or gatherings in the South Florida area, He wanted some input if possible.

Thanks for any and all help.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Greetings A/all. Master has tasked me with gathering ideas on how He can humiliate me at home and in public, without being too obvious in public. He wanted to see what suggestions everyone on here had.

Also, if anyone knows of any good BDSM, D/s groups or gatherings in the South Florida area, He wanted some input if possible.

Thanks for any and all help.

But humiliation is such a subjective thing...

What's good for the goose is not necessarily good for the gander, in this case.

Personally, I think you both should have a good poke around inside your brain and see what presses your buttons. It'll be entirely more satisfying.

 

[Cattypuss]

Hear, hear.

 

[BlackWingedOne]

Well, He wants me to get examples, so that He can come up with things to surprise me with.

W/we have talked about things such as objectification and whatnot, but He wanted somethings others have used and has worked well for them.

 

[Cattypuss]

How will they be a surprise for you if you have seen them on this public forum?

 

[SimonBrooke]

Greetings A/all. Master has tasked me with gathering ideas on how He can humiliate me at home and in public, without being too obvious in public. He wanted to see what suggestions everyone on here had.

Also, if anyone knows of any good BDSM, D/s groups or gatherings in the South Florida area, He wanted some input if possible.

Thanks for any and all help.

Lizzy and Catty are of course right, but here are a couple of things which I enjoy which are actually quite safe but get an excellent response from a sub. They may work for you.

At night, in the dark, you go with your dom to an unlit public park (obviously in a safe area). Both of you wear long, loose coats (for example, trench coats); he's fully dressed under his, you're naked. The rules of the game are, he's allowed to order you to unbutton your coat at any time, or order you to take it off and give it to him at any time.

The first time you do this, you probably just walk in the park. The second time, he probably orders you to open your coat. The third time, he probably orders you to take it off. The fourth time, you might have to trade sex to get it back; later, you may leave your coat in the car, and just be naked, or even naked and cuffed.

The reason this is actually pretty safe is that if anyone appears he can wrap his coat around you and smooch, and you're covered even if you aren't wearing anything yourself - and if you're smooching people will mostly not approach anyway. Of course, he can tease you by pretending he's not going to do this until the last minute.

My subs have found this exceedingly hot (and so do I). I have a long cloak, which works even better than a loose coat.

The other game which is actually extremely safe but very effective is foot bridges over major roads - obviously, choose foot bridges which aren't used much, and again I'd suggest at night. The modus operandi is pretty much as for the park - except in this case, strangers can potentially see you, but can't get at you. With this one it is possible to fuck, and for strangers to be able to see you're fucking; and for the sub being buggered from behind by a mostly-dressed dom while naked and facing the traffic (and optionally cuffed to the handrail) can be intense.

Obviously don't try this too often in the same place in case the police get interested. The foot bridge isn't a requirement for this game, it's an example of a suitable place. What makes a place suitable is

• Strangers can see you
• It's pretty unlikely that any of them will recognise you
• They cannot get to where you are

I know someone who's done this in the window of an empty shop on a busy street late at night. That sounds to me extremely hot! I've done it on one side of a mountain gorge where there was a public footpath (in use) the other side, and that's a very pleasant memory.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Lizzy and Catty are of course right, but here are a couple of things which I enjoy which are actually quite safe but get an excellent response from a sub. They may work for you....

Prime example of different strokes for different folks.

While almost hot in other ways, that didn't make my humiliation radar ping at all.

For me, humiliation is much more emotionally based. Made to feel ashamed of my needs and wants, the lengths I would go to for them. Bathroom use control. Bargaining. Forced choices.

For those things though, the key is in the delivery.

 

[BlackWingedOne]

The whole point is to get the gist of what others have used and have worked for them, and then taking those ideas and He makes them His own as a surprise for me. W/we just want some ideas that have worked for others.

Thank You, SimonBrook, for the ideas, definitely hot and out of my comfort zone enough to be hot. If You have any other ideas, please do share, Master liked those ^_^

Lizzie, I know it's different for everyone, and such things as restrictions are a good idea as well. Thank you both.

 

[CutieMouse]

Corner time.

 

[BlackWingedOne]

Hmmm, thank you Cutiemouse, i will have to tell Master about that one for punishment, since i enjoy pain He has a hard time trying to figure out how to punish me.

 

[kitten_candy]

humiliation - for me - is a nifty way to make me more vulnerable. like the OP, most pain is not punishment.

i can have 99 clothespins attached to me and yeah - it hurts and i know that caning each one off will hurt worse - but that last 100th clothespin stuck on my tongue is the one that will make me cry.

his undies stuck in my mouth.

having to sit in bathroom with him while he went because i bitched about him leaving the door open.

usually am restrained for anal stuff because i squirm so much. being made to "present" that end and stay still.

asked not to chew gum. made to put gum on my nose while we hung out, watching tv.

being made to pee in front of him. having to write piss whore written on inner thigh with permanent marker (it does come off)

a lot of it is elementary which - i think - is the point. feeling like a kid, feeling embarrassed, confronting some fears and anxieties.

 

[Harry1985]

spank her and say bad girl real loud

 

[MisterSir]

Don't use the "W/we" convention because it makes the Lord Baby Jesus shit himself in angry rage (that's rage even more angry than normal)

 

[CutieMouse]

Hmmm, thank you Cutiemouse, i will have to tell Master about that one for punishment, since i enjoy pain He has a hard time trying to figure out how to punish me.

I view corner time as more a discipline thing, than punishment... And a resourceful partner can always find a way to remove pleasure from pain, when necessary.

 

[BlackWingedOne]

Awesome responses so far everyone, except one. Anyways...just bumping the thread so more people will see it.

 

[Netzach]

Karaoke.

Asking a girl for her phone number in a bar.

Things that happen every day, but to the person petrified of them, tortures of humiliation. Way worse than going and buying sex toys in person or wearing their sissy panties or whatever.

What scares the ever loving bejesus out of YOU, socially?

The closer it cuts to those things, the more fun. For him anyway.

I also choose to do most of my public play either in bars, which have all adults in them by nature, or in very mundane ways (see above) because children shouldn't have to put up with my shit. Neither should some random evening dog-walker, IMO. If the public or third party has no idea that there's some freaky sex trip going on, I consider that ethical and even MORE humiliating, actually. Win!

In bars, especially the right kind of bars for this, stupid behavior can be passed off as something else, while the subject can still be totally freaking humiliated.

 

[kitten_candy]

harry1985 wrote:

spank her and say bad girl real loud

for me, this is all good.

Karaoke.

Asking a girl for her phone number in a bar.

Things that happen every day, but to the person petrified of them, tortures of humiliation. Way worse than going and buying sex toys in person or wearing their sissy panties or whatever.

What scares the ever loving bejesus out of YOU, socially?

The closer it cuts to those things, the more fun. For him anyway.

I also choose to do most of my public play either in bars, which have all adults in them by nature, or in very mundane ways (see above) because children shouldn't have to put up with my shit. Neither should some random evening dog-walker, IMO. If the public or third party has no idea that there's some freaky sex trip going on, I consider that ethical and even MORE humiliating, actually. Win!

In bars, especially the right kind of bars for this, stupid behavior can be passed off as something else, while the subject can still be totally freaking humiliated.

it's mind-numbing (for me) when i read some post about sending the sub to a mall in _____ (insert standard stereotypical thing here: short skirt, no panties, stockings, heels... whatev) and "innocently" exposing body parts to families.

be a little clever, a little creative. play off your fear, your anxiety.

 

[HisSexyPet]

Greetings A/all. Master has tasked me with gathering ideas on how He can humiliate me at home and in public, without being too obvious in public. He wanted to see what suggestions everyone on here had.

Also, if anyone knows of any good BDSM, D/s groups or gatherings in the South Florida area, He wanted some input if possible.

Thanks for any and all help.

Sorry, but i am not into humiliation so have nothing for you on that front. But as for BDSM, D/s groups in South Florida check out fetlife.com. You need to sign up for it but it's free. Here is a link to the South Florida groups.

 

[The_Good_Sub]

try these 10 steps for fun

step 1. Get naked
Step 2. Put on a collar and leash.
Step 3. Have him take you for a walk around the house.(on all fours)
Step 4. Let him have sexes of various kinds with you.
Step 5. He will have to cum on a saucer.
Step 7. You lick it all up like a good kitty/doggy/goat/alpaca.... whatever.
Step 8. I missed step 6.
Step 9. I lied there aren't 10 steps

You can also try just licking up some milk or water from a bowl like an animal while he ravages you from behind, no spilling!


use a disposable camera and take some pics of yourself doing sex type stuff like masturbation and things and then you both go to some 1 hour photo development place and have the film developed.
(is that legal?)

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Regarding finding South Florida Munches - Google is your friend. Search BDSM Groups [Insert City Here]... VOILA!

I'll even make it easier.

To find local Munches, email groups, and events in your area, try:
SceneUSA - http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html
Caryl's Page - http://www.drkdesyre.com/
The BDSM Events Page - http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/ which has links to both organizations AND events.
SirPaul's National Munch Page - http://phoenixdragon.dreamknight87.com/nmp.htm

Regarding public humiliation: He has to use _your_ fears and limits to find what works to humiliate you. Going out in public with no panties on obviously doesn't embarrass Britney Spears... hell, having pics of her hoohaw splashed across the internet probably doesn't embarrass her either. But someone else I know is absolutely MORTIFIED by the thought she might get caught without panties on... *shrugs*

Y'all will figure it out. Good luck!

 

[TNO31416]

Blumpkins. It is ironic that such a seemingly innocuous word can describe such a depraved practice. Regardless, she'll know where she stands after this one.

 

[Homburg]

Step 7. You lick it all up like a good kitty/doggy/goat/alpaca.... whatever.

Alpaca? Now that is kinky. Damn.

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I am boggled that these threads keep on happening. I also find it interesting that this time no one told the OP to piss off, as that is the most common response. You know, the "We aren't going to do your assignment for you," line.

Is humiliation really all that difficult? It is just a matter of figuring out what makes the bottom tick, and playing off it. Avoid the really core identity stuff, but poke, prod, and expose the next layer. Voila. It's not rocket science.

 

[mistressmaxine]

The other game which is actually extremely safe but very effective is foot bridges over major roads - obviously, choose foot bridges which aren't used much, and again I'd suggest at night. The modus operandi is pretty much as for the park - except in this case, strangers can potentially see you, but can't get at you. With this one it is possible to fuck, and for strangers to be able to see you're fucking; and for the sub being buggered from behind by a mostly-dressed dom while naked and facing the traffic (and optionally cuffed to the handrail) can be intense.

Obviously don't try this too often in the same place in case the police get interested. The foot bridge isn't a requirement for this game, it's an example of a suitable place. What makes a place suitable is

Strangers can see you
It's pretty unlikely that any of them will recognise you
They cannot get to where you are


Did I mention that I LOVED this idea?!

 

[UKforester]

Oh wow...I LOVE that idea too!

 

[Adakgirl]

I am boggled that these threads keep on happening. I also find it interesting that this time no one told the OP to piss off, as that is the most common response.

I find this interesting, I was just thinking...
Had the OP been a male submissive the " go piss off " would have been the common, automatic, knee jerk reaction to his question and he probably would have been treated to some mean, possibly vicious verbal insults as well... for even daring to ask.

How new male submissives are treated here...no matter what they ask it seems...compared to how new female submissives are treated here, in my opinion is strikingly opposite. Other than people offhandedly assuming all of them are just here for "wank material" and so treat them like they are. Why don't their questions get answered too?

You know, the "We aren't going to do your assignment for you," line.

I am going to pull my head out of my ass and express myself freely now because I have a few things I that have been on my mind anyway.
Again I question this.
Why do people think that replying with a few suggestions to a new submissive, who is here asking a question, in obedience to her Master's wishes....is doing her assignment for her? I don't think these couples would ask if they weren't curious to know and eager to learn new things. I thought that's what this board was about. Sharing ideas, information and opinions.

He sent his submissive to ask us and that makes sense. For had he come on here and started a thread asking the same question himself, he most likely would have been treated like shit for it and left pissed off, with no new ideas or insight into the topic.

I don't understand why this board seems to be becoming ,...I am trying to express how I feel here.ummmm
more and more too big for it's own britches, I dunno...it's like some people don't want to lower themselves in order to help other people out with these little things because these little things are unworthy of them.

Is it just easier and more fun to be nasty, snarky and rude, than be tolerant of those people who simply do not know things about things or who are at a dead end regarding fresh ideas?

Could attitudes like this be one of the reasons behind why hardly any fresh new members who come here to learn about BDSM, seem to stick around here for very long?

Ok there I said it...go ahead and beat the fuckout of me if ya all want, I don't care and it's worth it to me because I said exactly what has been on my mind. (that is beat me up...if you are fast enough to catch me) lol *winks*