Non-verbal safe "words"

[KokopelliRises]

Disclaimer: This is not my normal stomping grounds here on Lit, so please excuse me if this question has been asked before. I did a search on Google and I didn't find anything on my question on these forums here, so here's my question.

Consent is a big thing for me in all my relationships, sexual or not.

I was wondering what could be used instead of safe words if one is gagged. I'm not a big fan of getting the attention of anyone in any situation by using violence of any kind (hitting, pinching, that kind of thing)--but if it is the absolute best way to get their attention, it is not beyond me. I know it's good to talk to the other person involved and figure these things out, I just want to have something to bring to the table in that discussion.

If needed, I'll give some background to the situation--there really isn't much though.

 

[missy_me]

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[graceanne]

Any dom worth his or her salt most likely will check you out if you start screaming like a crazy person through your gag.

But what about the non-salty ones?

Sorry, odd sense of humor here.

Missy pretty much ocvered the options. I usually snap, but one of those little cat toys with the bells in them are good, too. I honestly, can't think of any other options for a gagged sub.

 

[Bandit58]

Three desperate sounding grunts through the gag would work

If I'm giving Sir a bj and I can't breathe I tap Him three times on the thigh or butt.

 

[KokopelliRises]

Thank you all for your very quick and useful responses--I honestly didn't expect anyone to still be up.

The cat toy with the bell in it--that's a good idea. I like that one.

Any further ideas from anyone else?

 

[MisterSir]

Do what the ultimate fighters do and tap out.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Or hold a ball or some small object that you can drop if need be. It's probably good if the object makes some sound when it drops, so I wouldn't use scarves or any really light objects.

This is a really good idea as it will also work if you become faint. People who indulge in breathplay often use this trick because a fainting sub won't snap his/her fingers but s/he will drop whatever s/he's holding. You can shake the cat-toy if you're lucid but need out. If you drop it, your partner will then know you're fainting or possibly zoning into subspace.

 

[graceanne]

Thank you all for your very quick and useful responses--I honestly didn't expect anyone to still be up.

Yeah, well, you have a group of insomniac's here.

And one person who, for reason's she's not sure, will often wake from a dead sleep SURE she has to get online. *sigh*

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Yeah, well, you have a group of insomniac's here.

And one person who, for reason's she's not sure, will often wake from a dead sleep SURE she has to get online. *sigh*

Make that two.

Good morning, Gracie-my-dear. And possibly good night, too, because I won't be here long.

 

[graceanne]

Make that two.

Good morning, Gracie-my-dear. And possibly good night, too, because I won't be here long.

Good luck. I'm about to re-try myself. I gotta get up in five hours. *sigh*

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Good luck. I'm about to re-try myself. I gotta get up in five hours. *sigh*

Pfffft. I have to get up in *two* hours. Eastern time, ya know?

 

[graceanne]

Pfffft. I have to get up in *two* hours. Eastern time, ya know?

Yah. But you probably went to bed (the first time) before I did. I went to bed at midnight my time, which is . . . what? Three? your time.

 

[Bandit58]

It was early Tuesday evening when I posted (Australian Eastern Time)

 

[DiscusDave]

The cat toys with the bells are nice ideas, but I've noticed that some can be kind of quiet. SO make sure you get one that can be heard easily.

If you really want it to be clear it's time to stop, maybe another pet toy... one of those dog chew toys that squeak. Those are annoying as hell, but they sure would get your point across. Plus the shrill noise of it would cut through any ambient noise that would be around (i.e. music; slapping of an implement on bare skin; other people, if your in a public club or dungeon type setting; etc.).

Just another idea to add on to all of the good ones offered so far.

 

[KokopelliRises]

Quite a lot of excellent suggestions. Thank you all.

I'm a bit of an insomniac too, but there are some places on the internet that the people all sleep well, so I never know.

 

[Abraxas Winterlight]

But what about the non-salty ones?

Sorry, odd sense of humor here.

Missy pretty much ocvered the options. I usually snap, but one of those little cat toys with the bells in them are good, too. I honestly, can't think of any other options for a gagged sub.

airhorn??

 

[Sayyid]

I call these "safe gestures," and there is no real trick to them. They just have to be simple yet recognizable. A tap-out words. If the hands are bound, try moving your head to the side three times.

But I'd prefer not to put my partner in such a compromising situation to begin with. I'm not really a fan of gagging.

 

[Staplegunnr]

In the past I have used many things, but the item of choice is a cow bell. It will get your attention.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

In the past I have used many things, but the item of choice is a cow bell. It will get your attention.

Shaken if conscious, dropped if losing same... either way, it *will* get your attention.

 

[nh23]

All great tips. I've also never had a gag I couldn't at least moan loudly through.

 

[shy slave]

If it is with someone you know well, it can be signalled through the gagged persons eyes, but as nh said; most gags you can make a noise through.

 

[KokopelliRises]

Shaken if conscious, dropped if losing same... either way, it *will* get your attention.

Oh, I imagine.

Thank you all for your responses and I look forward to hearing more if anyone has them.

 

[Daddyslittlekitten]

i have a hand signal that i use when im gagged. crossed fingers and he knows to keep his eye out for the hand signal when i am not in a position to use a safeword.

 

[ms_sub_liminal]

might i suggest something along these lines?

they're usually quite loud and distinct enough sound to be noticed.

 

[KokopelliRises]

might i suggest something along these lines?

they're usually quite loud and distinct enough sound to be noticed.

Ooh, that's real clever. Not very expensive either. Thanks.