My fiance and I have been wanting to spice up life in the bed room without making to much noise. Don't want to dirupt the roomates. My fiance wants me to take the lead roll of a Mistress but without being loud. So if anyone could help me out on this I would greatly appreciate it. Just some commands that I could tell him on what I would like him to do to me. I am really shy about doing this with him because I have never been the controlling one. So any information would help. Thank you!!!
Advice Please?
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Sir_Winston54
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Both of you should learn basic ASL - then you could give him all the commands you want without making a sound. 
subwannabe
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Sometimes spicing up your love life involves doing things outside the bedroom.
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I suspect Sir_W was being a smart ass...
You said he wants you to take the lead - do you want to?
You said he wants you to take the lead - do you want to?
Sir_Winston54
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Moi??? Mais non!
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What would you enjoy about being able to control him? Make a little wish list like lots of oral sex, or a full body massage. Does he want you to cause him physical pain or discomfort? If so this can be achieved without raising the roof. Ice cubes and ginger root can be used to good effect, as can clothespins. Have a look at what's lying around and make use of it. If he wants you to tie him up, you could maybe bind his wrists and have him go down on you or tie his wrists to the headboard and take your pleasure without letting him cum.
Find out what he wants to get from this but don't make it all about him. If you're going to be his mistress, ultimately it has to be mostly about you.
CutieMouse- I would not mind taking the lead, its just the fact I have never really role played in the bedroom before so I am not sure what to do and I get shy when it comes to doing things like this. I am not that exserianced in sex and neither is he but its something new that we want to try. I just dont have any real ideas of how to go about this.
Velvet Darkness- Thank you so much for your advice. He didnt really give me any idea of what he wants he just wants me to become his mistress. I did try a binding thing with him but I just dont know what commands to really give him. I am not really sure how to punish him. I well am just not sure what to do in this situation. I dont watch porn and like I said I am not that exsperianced in bed. He hasnt really told me anything about how to go about being a mistress. This is why I am seeing some solutions on here.
Thank you all for your posts and ideas with advice.
Velvet Darkness- Thank you so much for your advice. He didnt really give me any idea of what he wants he just wants me to become his mistress. I did try a binding thing with him but I just dont know what commands to really give him. I am not really sure how to punish him. I well am just not sure what to do in this situation. I dont watch porn and like I said I am not that exsperianced in bed. He hasnt really told me anything about how to go about being a mistress. This is why I am seeing some solutions on here.
Thank you all for your posts and ideas with advice.
Vixandra
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If you're going soundless, or at least non-verbal commands, hand gestures are a good way to go.
I have my literal dog trained to do certain things like sit when my hand is held out palm down, etc. I see no reason why it wouldn't work for a human pet. Maybe take it further and pick up "treats" and a crop. Good behavior gets a treat, bad behavior gets a sharp crack to the nearest safe-to-strike body part. Not terribly complicated but effective nevertheless.
Go find some inspiration. Lit has hundreds of stories to get you rolling plus the BDSM library thread has even more information.
What turns you on? If you're doing this for him, you should be enjoying it as well. Is there something you want to try?
I have my literal dog trained to do certain things like sit when my hand is held out palm down, etc. I see no reason why it wouldn't work for a human pet. Maybe take it further and pick up "treats" and a crop. Good behavior gets a treat, bad behavior gets a sharp crack to the nearest safe-to-strike body part. Not terribly complicated but effective nevertheless.
Go find some inspiration. Lit has hundreds of stories to get you rolling plus the BDSM library thread has even more information.
What turns you on? If you're doing this for him, you should be enjoying it as well. Is there something you want to try?
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I'm a research junkie, and having been [sort of] in your position before, I'd recommend this book.
A BDSM checklist might help both of you get some ideas - if nothing else, it will help you know what to avoid with one another.
I'd also ask him to describe his idea of a Mistress to you, and take some time to figure out what pops into your head when you think "Mistress" [in this context]. Make sure you're on the same page; it'll make things easier.Above all else - make sure you want to Top him and you actually get something out of it. If you get to be Mistress, even if it's a role play thing, even if y'all take turns being in charge - for the period of time that you are Mistress it is at least 51% all about you, not him.
