The ask me a question game!

[Lorilei]

Yes.

Do you know phrases in Latin?

I used to. I took 2 years of it in high school, but very little remains now.

Why am I suddenly posting in a southern accent all over the place?

 

[NattyBumppo]

I used to. I took 2 years of it in high school, but very little remains now.

Why am I suddenly posting in a southern accent all over the place?

Could it be that bottle of Southern Comfort on your computer desk?

Do you prefer mountain or road bikes?

 

[fire_breeze]

I used to. I took 2 years of it in high school, but very little remains now.

Why am I suddenly posting in a southern accent all over the place?

I like Natty's explanation the best

Could it be that bottle of Southern Comfort on your computer desk?

Do you prefer mountain or road bikes?

Road.

DO you pick up languages easily?

 

[Lorilei]

Could it be that bottle of Southern Comfort on your computer desk?

Do you prefer mountain or road bikes?

LOL, just beer.

Um, why is stationary bike not an option?

If you were going to paint your bedroom, what color would you choose?

 

[NattyBumppo]

LOL, just beer.

Um, why is stationary bike not an option?

If you were going to paint your bedroom, what color would you choose?

Whatever color Kendra prefers....

Have you ever been to dinner at the White House?

 

[jenniferbaby]

Whatever color Kendra prefers....

Have you ever been to dinner at the White House?

I have not, but I think it would be interesting.

What's the last book you read from start to finish?

 

[oPENsex]

I have not, but I think it would be interesting.

What's the last book you read from start to finish?

Heavenly Pleasures by Kerry Greenwood.

Do you like being read to?

 

[Lorilei]

Heavenly Pleasures by Kerry Greenwood.

Do you like being read to?

Very much. It seems so intimate.

What was the last meal you prepared yourself?

 

[NattyBumppo]

Very much. It seems so intimate.

What was the last meal you prepared yourself?

Dirty rice.

When was the last time you walked a dog?

 

[Lorilei]

Dirty rice.

When was the last time you walked a dog?

Last night. Well, more like he walked me, but I tried.

What is your favorite alcoholic beverage?

 

[NattyBumppo]

Last night. Well, more like he walked me, but I tried.

What is your favorite alcoholic beverage?

Guinness, the nectar of the gods.

Do you think college football should have a playoff to detemine its champion in what used to be Division 1A (I don't remember its new designation)?

 

[RyanBlack]

Guinness, the nectar of the gods.

Do you think college football should have a playoff to detemine its champion in what used to be Division 1A (I don't remember its new designation)?

no I think college should be for learning not sports


environment/ experiences/circumstances or heritage/genetics?? which determines more of who you are

 

[MollyDolly]

no I think college should be for learning not sports

environment/ experiences/circumstances or heritage/genetics?? which determines more of who you are

I think it's been pretty conclusively proven that nature and nurture work together in a person to build who they are. People can overcome environmental circumstances or genetics to be different than they "should" be when you look at where they grew up or who their parents are.

But there are some interesting arguments for genetics. I love hearing about adoption studies or twin adoption studies! And being adopted myself, there's so many interesting things I've noticed now that I email with my birthmother: we both love Stephen King, our writing styles are similar, I loved working on cars and my maternal grandfather was a mechanic- things that weren't nurtured in me, but were there nonetheless. It's strange, and wonderful

Why do many people believe that adoption is a sensitive issue to discuss around adopted children/adults? I'm always open to discussion and questions about it!

 

[Donkeepuncher]

I think it's been pretty conclusively proven that nature and nurture work together in a person to build who they are. People can overcome environmental circumstances or genetics to be different than they "should" be when you look at where they grew up or who their parents are.

But there are some interesting arguments for genetics. I love hearing about adoption studies or twin adoption studies! And being adopted myself, there's so many interesting things I've noticed now that I email with my birthmother: we both love Stephen King, our writing styles are similar, I loved working on cars and my maternal grandfather was a mechanic- things that weren't nurtured in me, but were there nonetheless. It's strange, and wonderful

Why do many people believe that adoption is a sensitive issue to discuss around adopted children/adults? I'm always open to discussion and questions about it!

I think because unless you're adopted yourself people feel like they might say something insesitive or ignorant so they don't bring up the subject. Plus a lot of people don't just bring up the fact that they are adopted in everyday conversation all that often?

Why is it so hard to think of something to say to someone who has just told you that they are terminally I'll?

 

[MollyDolly]

I think because unless you're adopted yourself people feel like they might say something insesitive or ignorant so they don't bring up the subject. Plus a lot of people don't just bring up the fact that they are adopted in everyday conversation all that often?

Why is it so hard to think of something to say to someone who has just told you that they are terminally I'll?

I think for the same reason as adoption- we aren't taught what is right to say and what isn't, and we feel awkward. So many people go with the awkward feelings and say nothing, but really, saying anything is better

Why are we so uncomfortable with the grief of others?

 

[Donkeepuncher]

I think for the same reason as adoption- we aren't taught what is right to say and what isn't, and we feel awkward. So many people go with the awkward feelings and say nothing, but really, saying anything is better

Why are we so uncomfortable with the grief of others?

For me I think it's because I feel guilty that it happened to them and not me. I also feel like if I try to identify with their grief they will just be thinking "what do you know about it kid" or something like that.

Why is it so hard to take compliments well sometimes?

 

[Lorilei]

I think for the same reason as adoption- we aren't taught what is right to say and what isn't, and we feel awkward. So many people go with the awkward feelings and say nothing, but really, saying anything is better

Why are we so uncomfortable with the grief of others?

I think because we feel so helpless. We know there's really nothing we can do or say that will make them feel better.

What do you think is the best way to help someone who is grieving?

 

[RyanBlack]

Why do many people believe that adoption is a sensitive issue to discuss around adopted children/adults? I'm always open to discussion and questions about it![/QUOTE]

Most likely it is like discussing blindness with a blind person or paralysis with a person in a wheel chair.

In truth while it is possible to discuss the cultural implications and societal norms or even legal and moral issues of adoption with a person who has been adopted or has given a child in adoption (not necessarily
'given up" which carries a perjorative sense) it is not possible to carry on a valid discussion of the adopted persons feelings if one person has no basis for understanding those feelings. One can listen and learn but lacks the paradigm for experiential conversations.

A discussion of abandonment or attachment of feeling loved and rejected and the many other mental health issues can certainly be discussed with people of education and experience in counseling fields.

I can listen to a person to color tell me what it is like to grow up in America and "feel" like a second class citizen; I can empathize and sympathize with them, but I do not truly understand what that in particular feels like. I can listen and perhaps even help them explore their own feelings and behaviors. Then the conversations/discussions are more therapeutic in nature as opposed to simply "sharing" so to speak.


MD what would you like to discuss about adoption?

 

[kendra1980]

I think because we feel so helpless. We know there's really nothing we can do or say that will make them feel better.

What do you think is the best way to help someone who is grieving?

Listen, don't push, don't give advice, be there should you be needed.


What do you think is the best thing to say to someone grieving?

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

Listen, don't push, don't give advice, be there should you be needed.


What do you think is the best thing to say to someone grieving?

hard to say
Im so sorry
Please let me know if i can help in anyway
Im thinking of you




Do you think blood is thicker than water as the saying goes?

 

[NattyBumppo]

hard to say
Im so sorry
Please let me know if i can help in anyway
Im thinking of you

Do you think blood is thicker than water as the saying goes?

Not always.

Would you defy your family for the one you loved?

 

[kendra1980]

hard to say
Im so sorry
Please let me know if i can help in anyway
Im thinking of you




Do you think blood is thicker than water as the saying goes?

Personally, no. Do I think others do, yes.


Have you ever done something that sent shock waves throughout your family grapevine?

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

Not always.

Would you defy your family for the one you loved?

I am not close to my family...so thats too hard for me to say



Do you have a friend you would do ANYTHING for (other than your SO)?

 

[NattyBumppo]

I am not close to my family...so thats too hard for me to say

Do you have a friend you would do ANYTHING for (other than your SO)?

A couple, yes.

Has a friend ever gone out of his/her way for you to his/her personal risk?

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

Personally, no. Do I think others do, yes.


Have you ever done something that sent shock waves throughout your family grapevine?

im sure i have done and am GOING TO DO things that do that...lol



Have you ever won a game of chess?