The ask me a question game!

[MollyDolly]

TYPO...I'm dying here. LOL

No, you know I laugh all the time when I eat...snot/snort

That's what I get for multitasking?

Do you like to be teased?

I love to be teased- for hours on end... well, I don't always last hours...

How long can you allow your lover to tease you for before you beg for release?

 

[NattyBumppo]

I love to be teased- for hours on end... well, I don't always last hours...

How long can you allow your lover to tease you for before you beg for release?

I'm not sure. We'll find out shortly.

Do you like surprising your lover with gifts for no reason whatever?

 

[MollyDolly]

I'm not sure. We'll find out shortly.

Do you like surprising your lover with gifts for no reason whatever?

Occasionally... I don't always love surprise gifts, so I don't do it often- don't want to be a hypocrite. But I do like to surprise him

How soon is too soon to say, "I love you?"

 

[NattyBumppo]

Occasionally... I don't always love surprise gifts, so I don't do it often- don't want to be a hypocrite. But I do like to surprise him

How soon is too soon to say, "I love you?"

I don't know that there's a hard-and-fast rule on this. I think the dynamic of the couple should determine that. Of course, I once had an infamous inkling, so my opinion means bupkes.

Is it preferable for the man to choose the engagement ring before proposing or should he wait for the woman to accept so that they can choose it together?

 

[bisolom]

Occasionally... I don't always love surprise gifts, so I don't do it often- don't want to be a hypocrite. But I do like to surprise him

How soon is too soon to say, "I love you?"

I they ask you "why?" and you have no clue. I know its nearly impossible to answer that question completely, but...you should have some idea as to why.

When is it too soon to hear "I love you?"

 

[MollyDolly]

I don't know that there's a hard-and-fast rule on this. I think the dynamic of the couple should determine that. Of course, I once had an infamous inkling, so my opinion means bupkes.

Is it preferable for the man to choose the engagement ring before proposing or should he wait for the woman to accept so that they can choose it together?

*shrugs* I suppose it's traditional to have it beforehand, but what do I know? And I'm rarely one to do things traditionally... maybe it should be the couple choosing it together so that no ring given is too heinous looking

I they ask you "why?" and you have no clue. I know its nearly impossible to answer that question completely, but...you should have some idea as to why.

When is it too soon to hear "I love you?"

When hearing it makes your stomach drop for all the wrong reasons

Why do some people feel the need to rush into professing their love?

 

[bisolom]

*shrugs* I suppose it's traditional to have it beforehand, but what do I know? And I'm rarely one to do things traditionally... maybe it should be the couple choosing it together so that no ring given is too heinous looking


When hearing it makes your stomach drop for all the wrong reasons

Why do some people feel the need to rush into professing their love?

People who say "I love you" before they can say why are usually trying to "stake a claim" on another. In my opinion.
I think some people feel that once they have professed their love, they have certain "rights" and that the other person now has certain "responsibilities."

When you say "I love you"...what do you expect in return?

 

[MollyDolly]

People who say "I love you" before they can say why are usually trying to "stake a claim" on another. In my opinion.
I think some people feel that once they have professed their love, they have certain "rights" and that the other person now has certain "responsibilities."

When you say "I love you"...what do you expect in return?

I expect honesty, pure and simple. I expect the other person to respond honestly, and if that involves reciprocating, great. If it doesn't, great. I'd hate to hear it and not believe it- that's happened too many times before (well, the unbelieveable "I love you," but not reciprocated since I've never said it to a non-family member/platonic friend). I never said it back because I never felt it, and I felt pressured to say it back. I wouldn't want anyone I love to feel that way.

Why do we look out for others before we look out for ourselves- even when we need it more than anyone?

 

[NattyBumppo]

I expect honesty, pure and simple. I expect the other person to respond honestly, and if that involves reciprocating, great. If it doesn't, great. I'd hate to hear it and not believe it- that's happened too many times before (well, the unbelieveable "I love you," but not reciprocated since I've never said it to a non-family member/platonic friend). I never said it back because I never felt it, and I felt pressured to say it back. I wouldn't want anyone I love to feel that way.

Why do we look out for others before we look out for ourselves- even when we need it more than anyone?

It's how I am. Being first born, I was always looking out for the younger sibs.

What makes a good parent?

 

[bisolom]

I expect honesty, pure and simple. I expect the other person to respond honestly, and if that involves reciprocating, great. If it doesn't, great. I'd hate to hear it and not believe it- that's happened too many times before (well, the unbelieveable "I love you," but not reciprocated since I've never said it to a non-family member/platonic friend). I never said it back because I never felt it, and I felt pressured to say it back. I wouldn't want anyone I love to feel that way.

Why do we look out for others before we look out for ourselves- even when we need it more than anyone?

Guilt. Some of us were ingrained with the bullshit concept that if we think of ourselves, we are selfish, self-centered, greedy, and un-caring. Thanks mom.
Thanks church.
So we go through life frustrated while feeling guilty about it.

Is it possible to change? To admit we want certain things without feeling shame?

 

[MollyDolly]

It's how I am. Being first born, I was always looking out for the younger sibs.

What makes a good parent?

Responsibility, good listening, understanding that you're not your child's friend, selflessness, willingness to learn- parenting is about sacrafice.

Guilt. Some of us were ingrained with the bullshit concept that if we think of ourselves, we are selfish, self-centered, greedy, and un-caring. Thanks mom.
Thanks church.
So we go through life frustrated while feeling guilty about it.

Is it possible to change? To admit we want certain things without feeling shame?

I'm working on it, but it's not easy to admit what we want and need without feeling shame- or at least without feeling guilt for asking someone to help you get what you need and can't get on your own. I struggle with this everyday, but then, you know that Bis

How can we open up and ask for what we need without feeling guilt or shame?

 

[bisolom]

Responsibility, good listening, understanding that you're not your child's friend, selflessness, willingness to learn- parenting is about sacrafice.


I'm working on it, but it's not easy to admit what we want and need without feeling shame- or at least without feeling guilt for asking someone to help you get what you need and can't get on your own. I struggle with this everyday, but then, you know that Bis

How can we open up and ask for what we need without feeling guilt or shame?

Ha! I was hoping you knew the answer to that one. I'm afraid my guilt and shame training was very thorough.
I'd have to be very close to someone even to admit I was having a problem.

Do you have friends you can tell your troubles to? Sounds like a song.

 

[MollyDolly]

Ha! I was hoping you knew the answer to that one. I'm afraid my guilt and shame training was very thorough.
I'd have to be very close to someone even to admit I was having a problem.

Do you have friends you can tell your troubles to? Sounds like a song.

And you've been preaching to me?

I do have some friends. I tend to split up my troubles and dole them out in pieces so no one person knows how messed up I am

Are there certain things you don't/won't share with your partner?

 

[bisolom]

And you've been preaching to me?

I do have some friends. I tend to split up my troubles and dole them out in pieces so no one person knows how messed up I am

Are there certain things you don't/won't share with your partner?

Of course. There are some things I wouldn't share with anyone!

Same question for you.

 

[MollyDolly]

Of course. There are some things I wouldn't share with anyone!

Same question for you.

Yep, there are things about myself that I wish I didn't even know!

Do you Facebook?

 

[sweetgypsy]

Yep, there are things about myself that I wish I didn't even know!

Do you Facebook?

Yes I do

Do you tend to be passive or aggressive in a relationship?

 

[MollyDolly]

Yes I do

Do you tend to be passive or aggressive in a relationship?

I tend to be more passive, but I try hard to be assertive- it's not easy though!

What are some great ways to keep an online/long distance relationship fresh and vibrant?

 

[kendra1980]

Yes I do

Do you tend to be passive or aggressive in a relationship?

I tend to be more ... both????



Are you more the giver in a relationship?

 

[sweetgypsy]

I tend to be more ... both????



Are you more the giver in a relationship?

It is mutual.

Molly's question
What are some great ways to keep an online/long distance relationship fresh and vibrant?

 

[fire_breeze]

It is mutual.

Molly's question
What are some great ways to keep an online/long distance relationship fresh and vibrant?

Sending fresh colours?

I'm not sure.... "Watching" a movie together? (typing away while watching the exact same thing at the same time). Sending little mementoes?

I really don't know...


Can an old dog learn new tricks?

 

[kendra1980]

Sending fresh colours?

I'm not sure.... "Watching" a movie together? (typing away while watching the exact same thing at the same time). Sending little mementoes?

I really don't know...


Can an old dog learn new tricks?

Not typically, no.


Is it always better to be safe, than sorry?

 

[jenniferbaby]

Not typically, no.


Is it always better to be safe, than sorry?

It isn't, but it always depends on the situation. I do agree with the adage I heard in "Tuck Everlasting": "Don't be afraid of death, be afraid of the unlived life." I've tried to keep that in mind.

What's a quote or adage that has helped you in your life?

 

[fire_breeze]

It isn't, but it always depends on the situation. I do agree with the adage I heard in "Tuck Everlasting": "Don't be afraid of death, be afraid of the unlived life." I've tried to keep that in mind.

What's a quote or adage that has helped you in your life?

De gustibus non disputandum.

Do you have a motto?

 

[NattyBumppo]

De gustibus non disputandum.

Do you have a motto?

Yes.

Do you know phrases in Latin?

 

[fire_breeze]

Yes.

Do you know phrases in Latin?

Yes.


Do you pick languages easily?