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DreamAngel44

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I have tried searching a bit for threads on this, so I apologize if it is a repeat of something someone else has posted, but I am very curious...

What does the psychological satisfaction feel like for a Dominant; or more specifically, how does it make you feel to have someone truly submit to you?

Thanks in advance for all replies...
 
DreamAngel44 said:
I have tried searching a bit for threads on this, so I apologize if it is a repeat of something someone else has posted, but I am very curious...

What does the psychological satisfaction feel like for a Dominant; or more specifically, how does it make you feel to have someone truly submit to you?

Thanks in advance for all replies...
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Are you asking this question from the point of view of someone who thinks they may want to be a PYL, or someone who thinks they are/may be a pyl, or as a college student doing research for a "Human Sexuality" paper, or what? To be honest with you, each of those personas - and many others - would get a somewhat different answer, at least from me. Identify and expand the parameters of your question, please.
 
Sir_Winston54 said:
Are you asking this question from the point of view of someone who thinks they may want to be a PYL, or someone who thinks they are/may be a pyl, or as a college student doing research for a "Human Sexuality" paper, or what? To be honest with you, each of those personas - and many others - would get a somewhat different answer, at least from me. Identify and expand the parameters of your question, please.
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Thank You for your reply. I am submissive, and am terribly curious of how the mind of a Dominant works. I apologize for not being as specific as I could have been. I'm no college student researching a paper, but rather searching for the answers for my own satisfaction.

I know the satisfaction which a sub receives pleasing a Dominant, but how does that pleasure effect the Dom?
 
Every Dominant's mind works differently, with different motivations, different desires, different ways of deriving satisfaction from their submissives. But if you google up "Alpha Male" or "Alpha Female" and "Dominant personalities' that info might give you a general idea.

The day you can fiqure out how ANY persons mind works you be sure to write it up and submit it for publication to a medical journal.
 
I'm sitting here trying to think of something more expansive than what Hommy or D2MLG said, but... it's kind of hard.

Except I'd put it as 'Damn, this is sweet.'

But I'll try. It's part Conan for me, hearing the lamentation of the women, the thrill of conquest, even if my more rational mind knows that it's an agreed-upon conquest, it feeds the dark part of me that wants something more traditional in the pillaging and raping department.

Then there's the aspect that purely thrills and gets off on the fact that a woman has made herself into property for my use and my use alone, and put herself into my hands, trusting in my care and responsibility.

Then there's the satisfaction of being able to exercise the kind of power that I have to restrain myself from exercising in day to day existence, the kind of control that breaks people that aren't willing to bend for it.

And damn, it's sweet.
 
It's really not all that interesting, actually, because it's de rigeur in my intimate relationships and has been for a long time, even in the case of the man I bottom to, it's just part of my package of needs in order to be with someone.

It's more what happens if that doesn't happen for a long while that's notable.

Part of me is like, oh, hot, sweet, amazing, and part of me is just like, systems normal.
 
ZRT said:
But I'll try. It's part Conan for me, hearing the lamentation of the women, the thrill of conquest, even if my more rational mind knows that it's an agreed-upon conquest, it feeds the dark part of me that wants something more traditional in the pillaging and raping department.
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The Conan quote encapsulates that portion of the mindset beautifully.

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Netzach said:
Part of me is like, oh, hot, sweet, amazing, and part of me is just like, systems normal.
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This is one reason why I was uncharacteristically obtuse in my response. It's just ... normal. So while part of it feels like "Tastes... like.... CONQUEST!", the rest of it is just the satisfaction of things being as they are supposed to be.
 
Aw, hell... I was going to come back in here and be all articulate and expansive and wise after a few folks had posted... :rolleyes:

So then I came back and Daddy2, ZRT, Netz and Homburg had already done it for me.
 
Sir_Winston54 said:
Aw, hell... I was going to come back in here and be all articulate and expansive and wise after a few folks had posted... :rolleyes:

So then I came back and Daddy2, ZRT, Netz and Homburg had already done it for me.
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Wait, I am on the articulate, expansive, and wise list?
 
Homburg said:
This is one reason why I was uncharacteristically obtuse in my response. It's just ... normal. So while part of it feels like "Tastes... like.... CONQUEST!", the rest of it is just the satisfaction of things being as they are supposed to be.
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Homburg said:
Just confused on how the posts in this thread allow for entrance into that list. "Awwww, yeah," is neither articulate nor expansive.
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I wasn't referring to "Awwww, yeah."
 
DreamAngel44 said:
I have tried searching a bit for threads on this, so I apologize if it is a repeat of something someone else has posted, but I am very curious...

What does the psychological satisfaction feel like for a Dominant; or more specifically, how does it make you feel to have someone truly submit to you?

Thanks in advance for all replies...
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From my perspective; having her surrender control is arousing, her giving up her will in order to please me. Whatever it might be within her limits. The act provides a rush through the hormonal system as I see it.
 
How does it make me feel?

I feel "normal". I feel at ease, peaceful and calm. Dominant is not a role that I play. It is who I am. Everyday. All of the time. It's just a natural thing and I get no extra high from it.

A fully submissive woman is a part of that. She's the yin to my yang. And when we are clicking together, it's a beautiful thing. Not a power trip. Just the natural order of things.
 
Content, that everything is right with the world and I can just enjoy it. She makes me feel warm, happy, confident, relaxed. You know that phrase, “Its good to be king”, it’s like that. When you got what you want, and all things are in order, its good.

Sexually, its thrilling, in a manic yet humble sort of way. Just seeing someone squirm because of you and for you, it gives a rush of power, but at the same time brings you down to her and makes you adore her for being so good. But usually it’s a lot more intermixed creating one intense experience.

Like the unconditional love of a puppy plus the power high you get from pointing a pistol at it. Maybe that’s not the greatest analogy. :rolleyes:

If I was to put it super short, its like the feeling of giving mercy to someone that deserves it.
 
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