Breaking a Dom woman to a Sub

[loneranger8921]

I am a Dom who has the unique job of breaking a Dominant woman to a submissive woman upon her request any hints or suggestions?

 

[peterbrazen]

If you have to ask you aren't a Dom.

 

[be_ignited]

Ignore the previous poster, for starters. The Infallible Dom Who Never Needs Help or Runs Out of Ideas is a myth. S/he does not exist.

That said, your post reads like a request for wank fodder (particularly your use of the word "break",). You're previous posts are of a similar nature.

My advice is in the same vein as the advice you've received before: get to know your partner.

 

[CutieMouse]

Define "break"... and what's her motivation to request such a thing?

 

[Netzach]

Define "break"... and what's her motivation to request such a thing?

nanny nanny boo boo make me?

 

[JMohegan]

nanny nanny boo boo make me?

Haha!

The first thing I thought when I read the op was - Danger, Will Robinson! I smell a trap. [/arm swinging]

 

[HarlotMinx]

I am a Dom who has the unique job of breaking a Dominant woman to a submissive woman upon her request any hints or suggestions?

Well, I'd want to know why a dominant would want to be a sub.... I mean, is she a switch? Is she curious to know what it's like to be a sub? Is she tired of being dominant and wants a release?

I think motivations are often the most important thing to talk about and probably the least discussed when forming a relationship. We often put focus on limits, goals, safe words, kinks, etc....

Also, I think asking for a clarification of the word "break" is totally valid in this case. We don't know if he means "to force" or something.... else. Based on some peoples threads, the definition can vary into some rather disturbing ideas.

edit: I totally missed the second part of CM's post. Well, in that case I'll second what she said.

 

[ZRT]

I think motivations are often the most important thing to talk about and probably the least discussed when forming a relationship. We often put focus on limits, goals, safe words, kinks, etc....

That is profoundly wise advice, and regardless of what's going on with the OP, I thank you very much for this. I've always tried to gain an understanding of what makes my women tick, but I've never actually formulated it the way you just did.

Fucking bravo.

 

[YourCaptor]

I am a Dom who has the unique job of breaking a Dominant woman to a submissive woman upon her request any hints or suggestions?

A fantasy of mine.

and according to my fantasy

Start with a verbal disagreement on something trivial.

Let push come to shove.

Shove turns to exhausting and hot wrestling match

Pin her, strip her, strip yourself

Then fuck/rape her

Works in fantasy

 

[JMohegan]

A technicality that's surely irrelevant in the fantasy world, but -

submitting and getting raped are not the same thing.

 

[ZRT]

A technicality that's surely irrelevant in the fantasy world, but -

submitting and getting raped are not the same thing.

This is true.

Mind, I have pretty much the same fantasy.

 

[BiBunny]

I'd say unless the Domme in question wants to be a sub, then the only thing that's going to get broken is her foot, off in your ass. Just sayin'.

 

[JMohegan]

This is true.

Mind, I have pretty much the same fantasy.

I've had lots of rape fantasies, but none involving D-types. Not sure why.

 

[ZRT]

I've had lots of rape fantasies, but none involving D-types. Not sure why.

"Conan! What is good in life?"

It's like that.

 

[FurryFury]

I'd say unless the Domme in question wants to be a sub, then the only thing that's going to get broken is her foot, off in your ass. Just sayin'.

LMAO!

Awesome post!

 

[lilylicious]

I'd say unless the Domme in question wants to be a sub, then the only thing that's going to get broken is her foot, off in your ass. Just sayin'.

Excellent post BiBunny! As is often the case, you've managed to post what I was thinking.

I find it really hot when a Dom WANTS to submit. Super hot when they BEG to submit. So I kind of understand the appeal this might have for the OP if she wants to submit, but breaking her?

But to answer the OP's question:

If she consents to submit, make her tell you why and keep questioning her. I think someone mentioned earlier in this thread you need to know her motivation. True, you do, for a few reasons. But what I'm talking about is getting her to tell you in a way that makes her feel humiliated, oh so slutty and not in her usual position of control. Make her keep telling you until you get the answers from her that start to break her. You should be able to find in her answers plenty of fodder for future erotic humiliation. Then make her beg to submit. Maybe even make her tell you what she's willing to do just for the opportunity to submit. Remind her how she's groveling much like she expects her subs to do for her and ask her how it feels to be on "the other side."

 

[loneranger8921]

answering questions

She has been the Dom in her previous relationships and now wants to surrender her role and take the role of a sub. I am wondering should i make a little cermony of this role swap or just be the lead and ignore the role change for her and has anyone done this before and is there any profound thingthat enhances the first time for a sub meetingher master?

 

[Etoile]

She has been the Dom in her previous relationships and now wants to surrender her role and take the role of a sub. I am wondering should i make a little cermony of this role swap or just be the lead and ignore the role change for her and has anyone done this before and is there any profound thingthat enhances the first time for a sub meetingher master?

You cannot force someone to submit. Submission is from the heart, or not at all. You can make someone obey you, but it's not submission unless they want to do it. If she says she wants to be your sub, then the job is already done. There's no need for formalities, just treat her as a sub, since that's what she wants to be.

 

[Netzach]

She has been the Dom in her previous relationships and now wants to surrender her role and take the role of a sub. I am wondering should i make a little cermony of this role swap or just be the lead and ignore the role change for her and has anyone done this before and is there any profound thingthat enhances the first time for a sub meetingher master?

Oh, well that's pretty straightforward, actually. And discussing whether making a Big Deal out of this is hot for her or not is actually going to give you a lot of clues. I guess I've done this in some regard, and honestly the Big Deal is in my head and between me and me. My top likes the attention and blowjobs, I'm the one who's all into the idea that I'm remaking myself in some way. Personally I'd be more into a guy who's not as hung up on whatever else I'm doing or like to do with other people and much more focused on what I'm doing with him. I think being someone's "conquest" might be hot for some people and might just make other people feel that the Top in question has a host of insecurity issues.

Then again it's pretty relaxed also because I switch with him, that's my big stretch. So "ha ha, just like you do but on the other side!" is more "no shit sherlock" and less humiliating.

 

[HarlotMinx]

I'd say unless the Domme in question wants to be a sub, then the only thing that's going to get broken is her foot, off in your ass. Just sayin'.

I'd like to point out, the OP said dominant woman, not Domme. There's a distinct difference. A dominant woman could refer to someone who has to maintain a situation in which they are dominant, either for work or social reasons. I know more than my fair share of subs who are quite dominant in their regular social interactions. Now, not saying you aren't right (my first post on this thread had originally assumed a domme until I went back and reread the OP), but just pointing out that this situation could easily be misread. *shrugs*

-poppet

 

[WriterDom]

If she is asking for it where is the need to break her?

A good ceremony would be:

"Hey slut, no wearing of clothes in the house is allowed. You have 20 seconds and the clock is ticking."

 

[rosco rathbone]

are muppets dom or sub?

 

[HarlotMinx]

are muppets dom or sub?

Are we talking about Miss Piggy or Gonzo?

 

[loneranger8921]

The aftermath

Well she willing accepted her role and wants to stay int that role as a sub or slave. I have not really defined if she is a submissive to a sexslave i feel we are somewhere inbetween. I find alot of my role playing S/M relationships fall there.

 

[CathyDomme]

for horses one way was to put a saddle on them and shut them in a tight stall (like the one behind the starting gate at a rodeo).

I would not expect that to actually work well... but supposedly it did....

Horses break for the whip, they don't desire the whip. Both in the case of a horse and a human the difference is important. Anyone can make someone break for the whip, but getting them to desire it is the real buzz. It is the difference between the flighty stock horse and the galloping barrel racer.

I must say though that I don't like people "wanting to be broken." The thought of it is arousing, but like the rape fantasy it is often better left where it is, the realm of fantasy.

are muppets dom or sub?

Multiple ROFL's