Distance Domination-Support Thread

[the captians wench]

I got an hour on the phone today

He sounded so stuffy.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

I got an hour on the phone today

He sounded so stuffy.

*does the happy dance with wenchie* I'm so glad you got to spend the extra time with him today

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

fair enough.

Thank you, Sweetie. I'll try to make sure you're the first to see it

 

[gypsy*seer]

Welcome here....and my appreciation for writing in! Expect more input from you and other like-minded people!

It would be great if you share some of your experiences over time just as an encouragement for those insecure in this...

It is considered that 'online domination' is ONLY for players and wannabe's. Though the large number of fakes do earn us this malicious 'credit', there are few serious contenders and followers.

Frustration and insecurity can and does set it in these long distance relation. Possibly we could all come together to make things work better. Feel free to open up and share and ask so we can make our experiences more fulfilling! Though online domination can never replace r/l domination, as accepted by all (including me)....should we discard it? should we despise it? I guess not.

Lend in your ideas....and of course, constructive criticism, aimed at making things better. The rest of the uses, no offence meant, who do NOT meet eye to eye, can walk across our fence to the next thread/forum!

Also, pour in the remote punishments that you would give/have been given.


P.S:
I am actually now thinking of an idea wherein the Master can possibly punish tio some extent according to His wish. -the concept of Remote punishment. If there was a way.....from the technology that we can that we can make a 'self made' remote punishment toy at an affordable cost! I havent yet framed my idea but have some blue print of the idea which I will be working on!

Regards,
Boobsqueeezer
Orient Master from India

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[KayKat]

I got an hour on the phone today

He sounded so stuffy.

Great news Wenchie..Hate that he was sounding stuffy!!

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

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[Lady_Fiona]

Hi, I've been lurking for a while now , am a little overwhelmed by you all tbh. I just thought I would say hello and thank you really, daddy and I have been out of contact all weekend through no fault of our own and its driving me to distraction. Its just nice to be able to come here and read that you are all missing people too.

 

[myinnerslut]

Hi, I've been lurking for a while now , am a little overwhelmed by you all tbh. I just thought I would say hello and thank you really, daddy and I have been out of contact all weekend through no fault of our own and its driving me to distraction. Its just nice to be able to come here and read that you are all missing people too.

welcome to the thread.

dont be overwhelmed, we are just people. freaky kinky people, but people.

 

[rhet]

anyone else..

hello, i'm new to this thread and this forum really (just posted an introduction post in the new faces thread) but i'm also in a long distance D/s relationship so i'm excited to have a thread with so many people in the same position as me!

neither sir or i have been in this sort of relationship before so we're still kind of working things out and finding out what works best for us and one thing thats been on my mind recently is that i kind of wish he was a bit stricter with me and a little more consistent with discipline. If he's lax with punishing me when i mess up, i find myself breaking even more rules because i can and also to draw attention to the issue so he puts me back in line.

however, it also makes me guilty because i know all of that takes a lot of time and energy and i don't want to burden him with my needs.

i feel so much happier and secure when the rules are consequences are clearly defined and enforced though!

anyone else with this problem?

 

[Homburg]

If he's lax with punishing me when i mess up, i find myself breaking even more rules because i can and also to draw attention to the issue so he puts me back in line.

As opposed to talking to him about the issue?

 

[rhet]

As opposed to talking to him about the issue?

i tell him every time i break a rule/disobey him and we've discussed it. he said he'd try to be more consistent and strict but he just doesnt have the energy to chastise me for every little missed 'sir' sometimes..

so maybe i should just work harder on being a good sub and not expect him to do all the work to keep me in line.

 

[Homburg]

so maybe i should just work harder on being a good sub and not expect him to do all the work to keep me in line.

Might just be a good idea. It is your job to follow the rules, not his to sit on your shoulder and make sure you do. More often than not, the relationships where you are expected to provide that sort of constant oversight are the ones that get tiresome the fastest.

 

[ecstaticsub]

hello, i'm new to this thread and this forum really (just posted an introduction post in the new faces thread) but i'm also in a long distance D/s relationship so i'm excited to have a thread with so many people in the same position as me!

neither sir or i have been in this sort of relationship before so we're still kind of working things out and finding out what works best for us and one thing thats been on my mind recently is that i kind of wish he was a bit stricter with me and a little more consistent with discipline. If he's lax with punishing me when i mess up, i find myself breaking even more rules because i can and also to draw attention to the issue so he puts me back in line.

however, it also makes me guilty because i know all of that takes a lot of time and energy and i don't want to burden him with my needs.

i feel so much happier and secure when the rules are consequences are clearly defined and enforced though!

anyone else with this problem?

Hello and welcome. It's a little easier when rules and consequences are clear, but who said being a submissive was easy? When you are breaking rules is it by accident or are you really trying to get more attention?

Following his rules and doing what is expected of you is your responsibilty whether he notices or not. I've never been one to do something wrong just to get punished. I know some submissives who do and even some Dominants who don't mind this but my PYL would tolerate it.

If I am needy or want more attention I ask for it. Sometimes I get it, sometimes not. I have found much better ways of getting attention then misbehaving. Things like making a video for him, or writing a story or doing something special for him that he hasn't asked for. This is much more productive. I also find writing stories to be a way of expressing needs Ihave for the relationship without sounding like i am topping from the bottom.

Anyway, your situation and how you feel is not unique. You just may need to find better ways to get that attention you want.

 

[CutieMouse]

i tell him every time i break a rule/disobey him and we've discussed it. he said he'd try to be more consistent and strict but he just doesnt have the energy to chastise me for every little missed 'sir' sometimes..

so maybe i should just work harder on being a good sub and not expect him to do all the work to keep me in line.

So if you point it out to him, you know you're breaking a rule, right? Easy solution - stop breaking them. If there are so many silly little rules you can't keep track well enough to stop breaking them (which I doubt, given that you remember them well enough to tell him you broke them), simplify the rules thing to the point that you can keep track of them.

Also - do you both want to be in the sort of relationship where you get chastised for "every little missed 'sir'"?

 

[rhet]

Hello and welcome. It's a little easier when rules and consequences are clear, but who said being a submissive was easy? When you are breaking rules is it by accident or are you really trying to get more attention?

no, im not really doing it for attention because i don't want him to be displeased with me but sometimes i just don't feel like following a certain rule or something so i think to myself 'i'll skip it this time and if he cares or notices i'll just deal with the punishment'

but if sometimes i don't feel like it, then i can't whine at him not coming after me for every little thing.

soo the lesson is learned if i just behave then i won't have to worry about being a burden to him and he can go on his merry slaphappy way.

thanks everyone who chimed in. i feel a little silly now cause the answer was pretty obvious but ah well. live and learn!

 

[myinnerslut]

*snip* i kind of wish he was a bit stricter with me and a little more consistent with discipline. If he's lax with punishing me when i mess up, i find myself breaking even more rules because i can and also to draw attention to the issue so he puts me back in line.

however, it also makes me guilty because i know all of that takes a lot of time and energy and i don't want to burden him with my needs.

i feel so much happier and secure when the rules are consequences are clearly defined and enforced though!

anyone else with this problem?

i tell him every time i break a rule/disobey him and we've discussed it. he said he'd try to be more consistent and strict but he just doesnt have the energy to chastise me for every little missed 'sir' sometimes..

so maybe i should just work harder on being a good sub and not expect him to do all the work to keep me in line.

this sounds all too familiar and like a recipe for disaster. figure it out now before it goes any further. this is not the sort of thing you want flying under the radar un-acknowledged

 

[rhet]

this sounds all too familiar and like a recipe for disaster. figure it out now before it goes any further. this is not the sort of thing you want flying under the radar un-acknowledged

i don't really understand why its a recipe for disaster if we've discussed it and i've come to the conclusion i just need to work on being more obedient and not expecting him follow me around cleaning up after my bad behavior.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

Good Morning,

Daddy and I have just had an hour on the phone , I was a little emotional to say the least and for once was not the brat I normally am I did exactly as I was told.

I am not certain who this is more difficult for, I have been sub before but he is relatively new to it and neither of us have been involved in a long distance D/s relationship before, its hard work sometimes, but the rewards are worth it.

Just under 7 weeks until we are together for far too short a span of time. Don't know if I want to throw up out of nervousness or excitement

Thank you for the welcome btw MIS, it feels good to be here.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Good Morning,

Daddy and I have just had an hour on the phone , I was a little emotional to say the least and for once was not the brat I normally am I did exactly as I was told.

I am not certain who this is more difficult for, I have been sub before but he is relatively new to it and neither of us have been involved in a long distance D/s relationship before, its hard work sometimes, but the rewards are worth it.

Just under 7 weeks until we are together for far too short a span of time. Don't know if I want to throw up out of nervousness or excitement

Thank you for the welcome btw MIS, it feels good to be here.

Hi Fiona, nice to meet you. Will the visit be the first time you have met in person or did you know each other before it became a LDR ?

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

welcome to the thread.

dont be overwhelmed, we are just people. freaky kinky people, but people.

I second this welcome motion, Lady Fiona *gives a welcome hug*

 

[Lady_Fiona]

I second this welcome motion, Lady Fiona *gives a welcome hug*

Thank you Nala

Hi Fiona, nice to meet you. Will the visit be the first time you have met in person or did you know each other before it became a LDR ?

Nice to meet you too . Its going to be the first time we have met in person. We have been 'together' 8 months now, I am in the UK and he is in Ireland so we have managed to steal a few days. Its only going to be 3 days and I know I am going to hate coming home again but with his help I will survive it.

 

[the captians wench]

Thank you Nala




Nice to meet you too . Its going to be the first time we have met in person. We have been 'together' 8 months now, I am in the UK and he is in Ireland so we have managed to steal a few days. Its only going to be 3 days and I know I am going to hate coming home again but with his help I will survive it.

*tries not to think about all the thoughts of Irish men doing it better and makes an innocent look*

Neigther on of us had ever been in a LDR before either. I was a newbie (tho well experienced for such a newb thanks to some friends) and he was a seasoned vet. I was intimidated a bit by the fact that he had had subs there (what if by some chance he decided he liked home town girls better) so it put even more of a strain on the great distance in the begining. I'm in the states btw and he's in Ireland.

It is a lot of work, more work than probably any other relationship that I've been in. But well worth it, as I think any one here would agree. He's such an amazing man, I can't imagine letting a little thing like an 8 hour flight (plus a two hour flight to Philly after an hour drive to dayton...oh yeah and layovers and sometimes a stop in London) holding me back from experiencing him.

Coming back is rough. But a lot of us have found ways to ease that pain. I think the majority of us go for something with his sent. I stole a t-shirt right off of his back. Then when I got home I used it as a pillow case and it really helped me sleep. When I closed my eyes it was almost like being snuggled in his arms again.

Here's wishing you a pleasent journey.



And thanks everyone for the congrats. YOu all know how tough it has been lately with such limited contact. Should be easier for a while after this week. I'm covering for the opening manager while he's on vacation (my "Dublin 9-5's") so I'll be home when he's usually bouncing around online, and then I go on vacation with not a lot of plans. So two weeks to soak him in as much as I can before we're in the 6 week streatch.

 

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[Lady_Fiona]

*tries not to think about all the thoughts of Irish men doing it better and makes an innocent look*

Neigther on of us had ever been in a LDR before either. I was a newbie (tho well experienced for such a newb thanks to some friends) and he was a seasoned vet. I was intimidated a bit by the fact that he had had subs there (what if by some chance he decided he liked home town girls better) so it put even more of a strain on the great distance in the begining. I'm in the states btw and he's in Ireland.

It is a lot of work, more work than probably any other relationship that I've been in. But well worth it, as I think any one here would agree. He's such an amazing man, I can't imagine letting a little thing like an 8 hour flight (plus a two hour flight to Philly after an hour drive to dayton...oh yeah and layovers and sometimes a stop in London) holding me back from experiencing him.

Coming back is rough. But a lot of us have found ways to ease that pain. I think the majority of us go for something with his sent. I stole a t-shirt right off of his back. Then when I got home I used it as a pillow case and it really helped me sleep. When I closed my eyes it was almost like being snuggled in his arms again.

Here's wishing you a pleasent journey.



And thanks everyone for the congrats. YOu all know how tough it has been lately with such limited contact. Should be easier for a while after this week. I'm covering for the opening manager while he's on vacation (my "Dublin 9-5's") so I'll be home when he's usually bouncing around online, and then I go on vacation with not a lot of plans. So two weeks to soak him in as much as I can before we're in the 6 week streatch.

Your distance must be twice as hard as mine, at least with me working shifts I get the chance to have him to myself as it were, he can contact me from work and the phone calls don't cost the earth.

Home life for both of us is...well lets just say not the easiest and leave it at that, so time alone is always precious.

The end of day goodbye hurts the most, knowing that I am not going to talk to him the next day or if I am starting a run of 4 shifts, knowing that I will not hear his voice for all 4 days, thank god for texts but its not the same is it? Its still contact, and this weekend I have found that its contact that I cannot do without.

Colour me needy but there are so many aspects of him that I crave on a day to day basis and until we meet, some of those cravings are almost consuming. I don't know if they will lift any when we meet, I rather suspect that if anything the crave and need will become worse, if thats possible.

I have every intention of coming home with something, I do know I have rewards waiting for me, and knowing him, a couple of remembered punishments the brat in me really does get the better of me sometimes, I see that bit of elastic and HAVE to see how far it will go before it twangs back and whacks me on the arse.

I hope your journey is a safe one, I have no reason to say I hope its thoroughly enjoyable, I know it will be. Gotta love the Irish

 

[the captians wench]

Your distance must be twice as hard as mine, at least with me working shifts I get the chance to have him to myself as it were, he can contact me from work and the phone calls don't cost the earth.

Home life for both of us is...well lets just say not the easiest and leave it at that, so time alone is always precious.

The end of day goodbye hurts the most, knowing that I am not going to talk to him the next day or if I am starting a run of 4 shifts, knowing that I will not hear his voice for all 4 days, thank god for texts but its not the same is it? Its still contact, and this weekend I have found that its contact that I cannot do without.

Colour me needy but there are so many aspects of him that I crave on a day to day basis and until we meet, some of those cravings are almost consuming. I don't know if they will lift any when we meet, I rather suspect that if anything the crave and need will become worse, if thats possible.

I have every intention of coming home with something, I do know I have rewards waiting for me, and knowing him, a couple of remembered punishments the brat in me really does get the better of me sometimes, I see that bit of elastic and HAVE to see how far it will go before it twangs back and whacks me on the arse.

I hope your journey is a safe one, I have no reason to say I hope its thoroughly enjoyable, I know it will be. Gotta love the Irish

Distance is distance, whether it's the next city over or oceans apart. If you're not with the one you want to be with, you might as well be in another solar system for that matter. But thank you for your empathy.

Phone calls didn't used to be too terrible on my end. But the phone companies decided to raise the rates on calls to Irish mobile numbers so now insted of five cents a minute, I'm paying thirty. That's going to savierly cut back on phone convos.

One of the things I loved most about visiting him was how laid back every thing was. I'm in such a "hurry up and wait" kind of socity that it was nice to absolutlely feel the "meh, there's always tomorrow" mind set in the air. I knew he was that way, and I had been told that it's just an Irish trait, but I was blown away by how true that was. It balanced me, as he does. My ying to my yang....or something like that.