I'm not a freak, I think

[pleased2pleaseU]

OK I am new here...I have always been submissive, I have always needed to please. I have known for some time that I like rough sex. Right now in my personal life I am the strongest I have ever been....very self-assured and happy with life. (I thought that article was cool, in the thread I can no longer find) Anyway, my boyfriend slapped me during sex the other day (across the face) and I was fine with it....I didn't feel demeaned, didn't feel ashamed. Of course the few I told freaked out, but I think it's ok....please someone tell me I'm not the only one....the sex was very hot....I would be ok if he did it again...is that bad?

 

[KellysCrack]

I would think that if it was only done in the heat of the moment per say then no problem...If he decided to smack my face outside the bed we might have some issues...
Nah he would have some issues..

I will take all he can give in the bed but that is where we tend to keep ours..

 

[Adakgirl]

If he slapped you in the face in anger and you liked and accepted that anger as ok..then that is not a good thing and a poisonous way to think ..but that doesn't make you a freak.

If he did it because he was sexually excited and wanted to heat things up between you while having sex, and you were ok with it..then no you are not a freak.

But he should have discussed with you beforehand about wanting to try it and gotten your consent before he did it. Also there are safe ways to slap someone in the face, and unsafe ways that can cause you damage.

 

[myinnerslut]

you are not the only one.

there are plenty of us who like things rough in bed. Some like to be slapped, and some like to be beaten black and blue, with everything in between.

as long as you keep things safe, sane, and consensual (SSC) there isnt a problem with hat you are doing.

some people are just less open then others, so the reactions from your friends will most likely be very mixed.

 

[A_Kefka]

As long as it was done for the pleasure of you both and not because he was pissed and wanted to hurt you then its ok. You should talk about what is and isn't ok though, because if you don't this kind of thing could easily get out of hand.

 

[romantic_always]

I think you should ask him why he did this and what was going on in his mind. If his response is one of purely sexual enjoyment, and you are ok with it, then there is no problem. But if you receive hesitation or a non-sexual answer, you should talk...

It's probably best to talk about it regardless, because if it is something you enjoy, you can figure out how to incorporate it further into your sex life and some other elements as well.

Like everyone else said, just be safe! Have a "safe" word!

 

[pleased2pleaseU]

I definitely feel like it was just to heat things up, which it did. I would never be ok with anyone hitting out of anger or outside of the bedroom. I do think he and I should discuss it... I do see how normally you'd have the discussion before, but it was just a really crazy night in the bedroom and I think we both just knew it was no holds barred. Thank you for responding...I feel like i should be ashamed but I am not...I am loving it and you made me feel better about that....

 

[Etoile]

If you're not a freak, you're not trying hard enough! Life is more interesting if you're a freak.

 

[intothewoods]

You are not a freak.

Be aware of the safety concerns. I also recommend you not tell people who are uncomfortable with s&m. It's very tempting in the beginning because you think you're a freak, and you want your friends to assure you that you're not. I felt really vulnerable about this part of my life; a few of my friends treated it as a source of titilation. I wish I'd never told them. Fortunately, stop talking about it for long enough and they move on to other things.

 

[Over_Lord]

No freakery whatsoever.

Slapping during sex is scarcely the stuff of world exclusive, society-shaking headlines.

 

[pleased2pleaseU]

The funny thing was my friend who kind of freaked on me is into bdsm as a rule so I thought she'd get it. Apparently there are levels of what people are comfortable with. Now I can't wait to see him again and see what is next....

 

[Netzach]

The funny thing was my friend who kind of freaked on me is into bdsm as a rule so I thought she'd get it. Apparently there are levels of what people are comfortable with. Now I can't wait to see him again and see what is next....

Face slapping freaks some people way the hell out, it's just very emotional for some people. For others it's just some really sexy angry sex hotmaking. I loved doing this with an old GF of mine while fucking.

 

[myinnerslut]

The funny thing was my friend who kind of freaked on me is into bdsm as a rule so I thought she'd get it. Apparently there are levels of what people are comfortable with. Now I can't wait to see him again and see what is next....

there is bdsm, and there is bdsm, and then there is bdsm. its kind of an umbrella term and covers a whole range of things. your friend may have a hang up about face slapping, but be perfectly fine with being pissed on and licking cum off the concrete floor.

 

[Etoile]

there is bdsm, and there is bdsm, and then there is bdsm. its kind of an umbrella term and covers a whole range of things. your friend may have a hang up about face slapping, but be perfectly fine with being pissed on and licking cum off the concrete floor.

Took the words right out of my mouth there, girl.

 

[ineeddaddyscock27]

I've been slapped b4 & I liked it, but if he did it out of anger that's not good, but if it was in the heat of the moment its all good, if you enjoyed it do it again