For all those who have never...

[mrbimystery]

...had a GLBT encounter, what's been holding you back?

For me, I've never been able to set up an encounter with someone I've been comfortable with. Plus I want to make sure my first encounter is anonymous.

What about you?

And for those who have already had encounters, tell me how you got over you initial fear or hesitation.

 

[texharley]

...had a GLBT encounter, what's been holding you back?

For me, I've never been able to set up an encounter with someone I've been comfortable with. Plus I want to make sure my first encounter is anonymous.

What about you?

And for those who have already had encounters, tell me how you got over you initial fear or hesitation.

My last encounter was 40 years ago. My hold up is my wife she does not know and I don't want to be divorced.

 

[JHarrison01]

Yes...I agree

 

[carcobia]

I've looked. Really, I have. But finding people who listen and I can be comfortable with are hard to find. Craigslist has been dismally sad, and I've spent many a time explaining the ins and outs of queerdom to confused straight men.

Other than that, I spent a bit of time in the navy and have generally been surrounded by homophobic people my whole life. Makes a thing difficult. Now I'm with open-minded people in a town that has a very high std count. It's quite sad.

 

[bithebi2000]

For me it is a couple of things. The first is the fear of being outed. The second is safety (stds). I can't afford to let my sexual desires ruin my life.

My ideal situation is to meet a married man that I've 'vetted' in a city not my own, have some drinks in a bar, then head back to my hotel for blow jobs. I am about ready to burst waiting to take my first cock in my mouth and have it erupt from my work.

I fantasize about sucking endless cock at bookstores/glory holes/theatres/MSP airport bathroom, but that isn't going to happen.

 

[human_male]

I'm only up for the idea and in the mood when I'm turned on. I know that as soon as I met the guy face to face, fucking him would be the last thing I'd want because I wouldn't be in the mood.

The only way it would ever happen is if I could get in the mood and there were guys there. Like have you ever been to a party and there's a couple of guys watching porn in the basement or someone's bedroom? If I could settle down in a relaxed setting, get nice and turned on and have someone hit on me then I'd do it. But since I never go to parties...

 

[Bicuriousone]

Like some have stated the main reason that I have not thus far is my wife. She does not know and I do not want a divorce. If the opportunity did come up, I probably would jump at it. Would definity love the idea of finally being in bed with another guy exploring all of my bisexual urges.

 

[klippert]

That friend with extras

Like some have stated the main reason that I have not thus far is my wife. She does not know and I do not want a divorce. If the opportunity did come up, I probably would jump at it. Would definity love the idea of finally being in bed with another guy exploring all of my bisexual urges.

I have been looking for that friend with extras for a while.....shouldn't be that hard.....play some golf, then the real fun begins.....

 

[texharley]

For me it is a couple of things. The first is the fear of being outed. The second is safety (stds). I can't afford to let my sexual desires ruin my life.

My ideal situation is to meet a married man that I've 'vetted' in a city not my own, have some drinks in a bar, then head back to my hotel for blow jobs. I am about ready to burst waiting to take my first cock in my mouth and have it erupt from my work.

I fantasize about sucking endless cock at bookstores/glory holes/theatres/MSP airport bathroom, but that isn't going to happen.

STD's are a problem. I agree we cannot let our desires ruin our lives. I guess it is a good thing I do not have a real good friend who is safe and bi or else I might give in to my desires.

 

[groove_kid]

You just need a drink or something to loosen up
and relax.Then it's just go baby!

 

[kindahorny]

same

For me it is a couple of things. The first is the fear of being outed. The second is safety (stds). I can't afford to let my sexual desires ruin my life.

My ideal situation is to meet a married man that I've 'vetted' in a city not my own, have some drinks in a bar, then head back to my hotel for blow jobs. I am about ready to burst waiting to take my first cock in my mouth and have it erupt from my work.

I fantasize about sucking endless cock at bookstores/glory holes/theatres/MSP airport bathroom, but that isn't going to happen.

well some of what you say is just how i feel, to scared about what if, or what about (stds), and it wood only be blowjobs, no kissing or stuff like that, who knows

 

[mrbimystery]

You just need a drink or something to loosen up
and relax.Then it's just go baby!

i wish it were that simple

 

[infinity706]

Well, honestly, I never had this issue and practically mauled the first guy that wanted to fuck me.

I can say, though, that bookstores are a good place if you want an anonymous hookup. I think that'd work especially well for human_male since you can sit there in your own little room, watching porn. You don't even have to even see the guy because they will probably come up next to your room since they have holes in the walls. Of course, obviously, you'll want to bring condoms. Chances are, no one else will have them and you don't want to be stupid about hooking up with a random guy, unprotected.