Are you one of the bdsm cool kids?

[WickedEve]

Are you a bondage dork? A bdsm doofus? A subbie dweeb?

Ever had to google breath-play or search the forum to find out what PYL/pyl stands for? Did you giggle the first time you heard the expression munch? Maybe when you realized it didn't refer to Edvard Munch but to a bdsm gathering? I giggled.

There are some brilliant people on the bdsm forum. But I'm hoping there are some people just like, a bit of a goof.

Maybe I'm wrong but reading the main bdsm forum, I'm starting to think it's not cool to use the terms: vanilla and lifestyle. I may be wrong but I think it's not cool to have a monstrous-sized, custom-built, bondage chair. Or maybe it's not cool to mention it. It's probably cooler to use a tree stump or something else creative and spontaneous.

I once started a thread about wanting my very own dungeon/playroom.
"Master, I think those bdsm people on the forum think I'm a goof. A few of them said that they have playrooms and dungeons in their minds. Should I use my imagination, too? I want to be cool! Set up that fat ass bondage chair in my head right now, dammit! Please..."

Well, I'm learning as I go but I'll probably never truly be bdsm cool.

 

[00Syd]

Oh man, I didn't know what PYL/pyl sood for for the longest time. I just didn't say anything and pretended that I knew what it meant

 

[WriterDom]

I have a spanking bench. About 7 years ago a buddy came to help me move and asked what it was. I was caught off guard and said it's something women make quilts with. He was a good friend from high school and I could have told him the truth. But I didn't. I was uncool I guess.

 

[YourCaptor]

well, theoretically to be cool is to have no passion.

So "BDSM cool" is sort of an oxymoron

+ :caning: =

 

[WickedEve]

I have a spanking bench. About 7 years ago a buddy came to help me move and asked what it was. I was caught off guard and said it's something women make quilts with. He was a good friend from high school and I could have told him the truth. But I didn't. I was uncool I guess.

That's funny as hell, WD. lol
Several times I've left toys out and had to say, "It's a medical device!"
But quilts? HA!

 

[WickedEve]

Oh man, I didn't know what PYL/pyl sood for for the longest time. I just didn't say anything and pretended that I knew what it meant

I drive my dom nuts by telling him what I've read on the forum then demanding to know why we haven't tried it yet. "Would you enjoy some CBT?" If I recall correctly, I got in trouble when I told him what it stood for.

 

[sinnocence]

i didn't know what PYL/pyl was either. My embarassing/stupid thought on it was that it meant "Person you love". *rolls eyes* i had to ask Master what it meant. i tend to always ask Him if i don't know something. But i have looked things up before to make sure i wouldn't post something without knowing.

 

[WriterDom]

That's funny as hell, WD. lol
Several times I've left toys out and had to say, "It's a medical device!"
But quilts? HA!

Yeah good thing he didn't have a follow up question.

 

[WickedEve]

Yeah good thing he didn't have a follow up question.

Well, the behemoth bondage chair is in my boyfriend's bedroom. He did have to take it apart after play and store it in the walk-in closet, because he has a teen at home. We rarely play with Chair Kong because of that. What a pain to take it apart and put it back together. A few weeks ago, he finally decided to keep it out in the open. Of course he had to come up with a story for it. He told his son that it was a prop from a play and it was a torture chair. He told him that I bought it at a yard sale. lol His son tried to sit on it and he told him it was only for looks and not sturdy enough for anything else. So, problem solved. Hey, got a quilt I can throw over it?

 

[ZoeBird]

Well I guess I qualify as a major dork, because there is still plenty I don't know! I'm very interested though...

Why is it if you are a newbie, or don't know much about the lifestyle, you tend to get treated like a total reject for asking? I don't get it. It's a common thing among all kinds of BDSM boards...

 

[FurryFury]

I don't often see people here get treated as total rejects. That's one of the reasons I like this board.

I didn't know there were cool kids though. I may have to rethink liking it here.



I may have said I have a dungeon in my mind. If I did, that's mostly because I can't currently have on IRL but it's not trying to be cool. That's not something I do.

WD,

That made me laugh because if I'm uncomfortable I can make up something on the spot and sell it to someone. Later, I'm like, whoa, what came out of my mouth and why? LOL.

 

[graceanne]

Yeah good thing he didn't have a follow up question.

Good thing he didn't know what a quilting pin really looks like.

No one knows everything. They just pretend they do. And everyone has at one time wondered what PYL/pyl means.

“Those who stop learning find themselves equipped to live in a world that no longer exists”

- Eric Hoffer
Philosopher

 

[AngelicAssassin]

And everyone has at one time wondered what PYL/pyl means.

i haven't ...

 

[graceanne]

i haven't ...

Of all the times for you to show up. You've been lurking waiting for a comment like that, have you.

For the uninformed, AA made up the PYL/pyl term.

 

[Betticus]

Of all the times for you to show up. You've been lurking waiting for a comment like that, have you.

For the uninformed, AA made up the PYL/pyl term.

Well, you made up the run thru cookie snatching!

 

[graceanne]

Well, you made up the run thru cookie snatching!

Shh! We have newbies who don't know yet!

 

[Betticus]

Shh! We have newbies who don't know yet!

Hands over plate of fresh chocolate chip cookies.

 

[graceanne]

Hands over plate of fresh chocolate chip cookies.

...

 

[the_mgp]

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[WickedEve]

I didn't know there were cool kids though. I may have to rethink liking it here.

Hey, you're one of those cool kids, aren't you?
I spend most of my time on the poetry forum and have been there for years. It's the same way. We're very nice to newbies, like you guys are on the bdsm forum. But new poets always feel a little out of place. "What the hell is a terzanelle?"

 

[WickedEve]

I may have said I have a dungeon in my mind. If I did, that's mostly because I can't currently have on IRL but it's not trying to be cool. That's not something I do.

Don't take the cool thing too seriously. I'm often not very serious about anything. I like to be humorous -- even if I don't come across that way. I'm not complaining about the bdsm forum. I just find my reaction to it amusing. I am the one feeling like a dork for starting a thread about a dungeon (complete with dungeon doodle attached) lol Hey, I was in a long distant relationship for 8 years and only saw him in person for about 6 days the entire time. Everything was either in my head or vibrating in my hand. Now I think I go a bit overboard because I'm in a relationship with someone I see 3 or 4 days a week. So now I spend more time reading the forum and feeling a little lost and making crazy suggestions to my dom and telling him that I want a playroom/dungeon but not sure if it's a bit too much -- kind of like that big, big, big bondage chair.

 

[graceanne]

When I first started posting here, that's what I thought it meant too. I used to post on another kink forum and I'd never heard it used over there.

That's cause it was coined by AngelicAssassin.

 

[JMohegan]

Are you a bondage dork? A bdsm doofus? A subbie dweeb?

Ever had to google breath-play or search the forum to find out what PYL/pyl stands for? Did you giggle the first time you heard the expression munch? Maybe when you realized it didn't refer to Edvard Munch but to a bdsm gathering? I giggled.

There are some brilliant people on the bdsm forum. But I'm hoping there are some people just like, a bit of a goof.

Maybe I'm wrong but reading the main bdsm forum, I'm starting to think it's not cool to use the terms: vanilla and lifestyle. I may be wrong but I think it's not cool to have a monstrous-sized, custom-built, bondage chair. Or maybe it's not cool to mention it. It's probably cooler to use a tree stump or something else creative and spontaneous.

I once started a thread about wanting my very own dungeon/playroom.
"Master, I think those bdsm people on the forum think I'm a goof. A few of them said that they have playrooms and dungeons in their minds. Should I use my imagination, too? I want to be cool! Set up that fat ass bondage chair in my head right now, dammit! Please..."

Well, I'm learning as I go but I'll probably never truly be bdsm cool.

The coolest kinky guy I know owns quite a bit of BDSM furniture - including multiple bondage chairs. He has no kids and hosts fabulous parties in his home.

"Vanilla" is used so frequently as a pejorative by self-important BDSM aficionados that I do consider it very uncool.

"Lifestyle" doesn't bug me, though I don't find the word particularly useful. "The typical way of life of an individual, group, or culture." Given the wide variety of proclivities and practices embraced by kinksters, I have no idea what a typical way of BDSM life might be. Therefore, as generally used (in discussing "the BDSM lifestyle"), I'd say that word has no real meaning at all.

On a related note, WIITWD (What It Is That We Do) is an acronym I find laughable. I see no "we" in the "what" - and find the attempt to imply otherwise very odd.

I am totally bored by elaborate bondage, and therefore yes - absolutely a bondage dork! Not a BDSM goofus, but not into edge play, public play, poly, degradation, or complex mindfuckery. People who are into those things would find me very dull and uncool indeed.

 

[Windflower]

<---- Disqualified.
Reason #1 ----> D.O.B.

Are you one of the bdsm cool kids?

 

[Homburg]

Hey, you're one of those cool kids, aren't you?
I spend most of my time on the poetry forum and have been there for years. It's the same way. We're very nice to newbies, like you guys are on the bdsm forum. But new poets always feel a little out of place. "What the hell is a terzanelle?"

I still have no clue what a terzanelle is.

And I am not a BDSM cool kid. AA is though. You can ask him.