Rules for my girlfriend

[girl_4_girl]

Hi there, my girlfriend is mine, she will do as I say and without question. Earlier today I told her I would give her tasks to complete on a daily basis. These are things that she would have to do every day, on her own, so they cant be too intricate. Ideas such as masturbating while at work, or not wearing any underwear, stripping naked in the car, etc. I just need some ideas as I for some reason am drawing a blank. I told her I would have them by tomorrow, so any help would be great. Thank you.

 

[Kathykitten]

Hi there, my girlfriend is mine, she will do as I say and without question. Earlier today I told her I would give her tasks to complete on a daily basis. These are things that she would have to do every day, on her own, so they cant be too intricate. Ideas such as masturbating while at work, or not wearing any underwear, stripping naked in the car, etc. I just need some ideas as I for some reason am drawing a blank. I told her I would have them by tomorrow, so any help would be great. Thank you.

Hey there!

Daily rules can be a fun thing, just remember not to overdo anything, it becomes mundane and hard to live up to really quickly. Also you need to consider very carefully that you do not endanger her work, or her safety in public. (Ie: If it’s a daily thing in public, you should probably not be too far away when it happens yea?)

There are many things you can put up as a "weekly" basis as well, such as making sure your place is clean and tidy (washing your bathroom, cleaning kitchen, doing laundry, changing your bed, vacuming etc), that she's always shaven and presentable to you in the lower departments (apart from that lovely time a month of course), and you could take away her right to touch her own sweet nether, and tits, as a new overall rule to determine her status around you. They are yours after all, not very polite to do anything without asking you

Another you could give on a daily basis is to have her masturbate for 15 minutes without cumming each morning in her bed before she gets up and goes to work / school (Or at night when she has gone to bed). That way she is always kept horny, eager and ready to serve you.

 

[CutieMouse]

Hi there, my girlfriend is mine, she will do as I say and without question. Earlier today I told her I would give her tasks to complete on a daily basis. These are things that she would have to do every day, on her own, so they cant be too intricate. Ideas such as masturbating while at work, or not wearing any underwear, stripping naked in the car, etc. I just need some ideas as I for some reason am drawing a blank. I told her I would have them by tomorrow, so any help would be great. Thank you.

Not to be snarky, but this is a good example of why it's important to think things through before announcing tasks, etc...IMO it isn't very fair to your girlfriend to announce you are giving her a list of daily "jobs" (implying you have a plan in mind - taking her situation/job/personality/needs/family/your dynamic/etc into consideration) - then go online and ask a bunch of strangers to give you a cheat sheet full of ideas.

If you're going to make decisions for someone else - put in a little work before opening your mouth.

 

[MALIBUMAN666]

A task that would be interesting and building on the masturbating one would be that if she has a video option on her phone she could video herself masturbating and then send it back to you.

 

[subwannabe]

I agree that you should have never told her you were going to give her a list without even having a list in mind. You should keep it small, so that you can add variety to it later to keep the interest level up. I personally disagree with her masturbating. I think it would be more fun to make her tease herself without cumming and then she would be more ready for you. I'll leave the actual list up to you, but again, make it small.

 

[Jack_Samuel]

Im sorry mate but the girls are correct. Being a top involved a huge responsbility and care on your part. If you do get suggestions please ensure you alteast make them personal to your relationship

 

[Daddyslilpet]

You know I've never understood why everyone on here gets so ticked off when people ask for ideas... I thought the whole reason for having this forum was for the sharing of information and ideas... silly me.

Even at our local munches the Dominants all get together and talk "shop", so I really don't see the difference in Dominants asking for ideas on here when they are drawing a blank. Just my opinion as usual take it for what it is worth.

 

[Kathykitten]

You know I've never understood why everyone on here gets so ticked off when people ask for ideas... I thought the whole reason for having this forum was for the sharing of information and ideas... silly me.

Even at our local munches the Dominants all get together and talk "shop", so I really don't see the difference in Dominants asking for ideas on here when they are drawing a blank. Just my opinion as usual take it for what it is worth.

Same. The hostility towards those that are new and inexperienced is really strange.

Instead of bringing them down, and possibly take away their wish to attempt to explore their lusts, why not build them up and in a gentle way point out what they need to be careful about.

The guy in question obviously likes his girl a lot, and really want's to give her a great experience. He's just inexperienced, and now he's learning yea?

 

[CutieMouse]

You know I've never understood why everyone on here gets so ticked off when people ask for ideas... I thought the whole reason for having this forum was for the sharing of information and ideas... silly me.

Even at our local munches the Dominants all get together and talk "shop", so I really don't see the difference in Dominants asking for ideas on here when they are drawing a blank. Just my opinion as usual take it for what it is worth.

I don't have a problem with someone wanting to "talk shop." IMO she should do the "shop talk"/idea gathering stuff before she tells her girlfriend she's got an assignment for her.

Edited to fix gender typo boo boo.

 

[Etoile]

Interesting. I can see how the text of the post would lead some to think the poster was male, but I assumed the poster was female based on the username.

 

[CutieMouse]

Interesting. I can see how the text of the post would lead some to think the poster was male, but I assumed the poster was female based on the username.

Apologies - early morning gender- typo on my part.

I know it may be hard to understand, but my original post to the thread was not intended as hostility. If one is going to assume control of another ("she will do as I say without question"), then one needs to approach that with a certain degree of responsibility. Which (to me) means do your homework before making an assignment; not after. I don't coddle "newbies" to BDSM - this stuff can get too risky too fast to worry more about hurt feelings than pragmatic realities.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

If one is going to assume control of another ("she will do as I say without question"), then one needs to approach that with a certain degree of responsibility. Which (to me) means do your homework before making an assignment; not after. I don't coddle "newbies" to BDSM - this stuff can get too risky too fast to worry more about hurt feelings than pragmatic realities.

Agrees with the Mouse.

 

[Kathykitten]

Quote:Originally Posted by CutieMouse
If one is going to assume control of another ("she will do as I say without question"), then one needs to approach that with a certain degree of responsibility. Which (to me) means do your homework before making an assignment; not after. I don't coddle "newbies" to BDSM - this stuff can get too risky too fast to worry more about hurt feelings than pragmatic realities.

Agrees with the Mouse.

Aye, if noone helps them out yea? Isn't her comming her a way of showing that she really wants to learn, explore, discover, and do it right? If she was careless she'd have looked at some pictures or vids, and then attempted those on the GF.

Understand the concern thogh, jsut think that her comming here to ask (even if she started it off wrong) is a good thing, and a way for her to get help in exploring this safely for the both of them.

 

[Etoile]

And for risky, I think emotional damage is the biggest risk of all in what we do.

 

[BiBunny]

You know, I don't think we're particularly brutal to newbies around here. I think there's a certain kind of mindset that presents itself in a lot of these newbies that we're not so polite about, but I think someone with that mindset deserves a kick in the ass.

It's not so much that this person is asking for ideas, but the way he or she (to cover all bases) comes off in the asking. I think it's one thing to start a thread in which one asks about what other people do, in a curious manner or with the intention of perhaps modifying others' ideas into ways that'll work for that person. It's another to come in, calling oneself a Dom/me, and expecting everyone else to do the legwork for you. "What kinds of things do you enjoy with your sub?" is much more respectful and palatable than "Spoonfeed me because I'm too lazy to do any research on my own and don't really give a shit if it'll work for me and mine, as long as it saves me the trouble of having to get off my ass and do the necessary work that everyone else has to do."

If you really want to know, you can find out. Google it. Or even search the boards here. There are hundreds of ideas. But, to me, expecting other people to do all the "domination" work for you is both lazy and disrespectful of others, as if YOUR time is more important and more valuable than theirs. If you're truly interested and truly want to learn, then you can find these things out. Expecting other people on a message board to do your work for you isn't domination, it's laziness.

 

[Netzach]

And another thing - how many newly-into-it budding dominants with real live SO's willing to do anything under the sun can't think of things to do?

I mean I had a lot of challenges and worries early on.

"What should I make him/her do?" was not one of them. I'd been saving ideas since I was cognizant.

Sorry, but nine times in ten, these are bored with boner threads, I'll bet money.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

And it is responses like this that have made me no longer willing to give my opinions here.

 

[Harmony_1985]

You know, I don't think we're particularly brutal to newbies around here. I think there's a certain kind of mindset that presents itself in a lot of these newbies that we're not so polite about, but I think someone with that mindset deserves a kick in the ass.

You were all lovely to me

 

[Netzach]

Jesus, my disagreement is a powerful social force. I wish disagreeing with Rush Limbaugh was this devastating. Just whose opinion is apparently completely unwelcome? Kill me for not handing hearts and flowers to the new girl, who I have my theories about based on the patterns of the internet.

 

[Tuomas]

I'm sure we can all agree that there's nothing wrong with asking for advice, but the original post seems more to be looking for a short-cut to fulfill a promise she had no way of following through on when she made it. A lot of people were probably annoyed more with the sense of irresponsibility conveyed in the post -in the lines of, "I don't care enough about this thing to actually know what I'm talking about"- than an actual appeal for help. In fact, most people are really helpful around here. (Maybe not me, but then I'm a jerk, so I have an excuse )

Also some of us are frankly surprised that the OP couldn't come up with a list of sexy things they would like their partner to do. Certainly you might like new ideas to adapt, things to incorporate in a repertoire, how to spice things up... but drawing a blank?

Really, what kind of Domme will draw a blank when it comes time to decide what their sub is to do? Will we have a post here on lit starting with, " Hi there, my girlfriend is mine, she will do as I say and without question. We are in the middle of a play session, and I was wondering what I could do...?"
*blinks*
Very confidence inspiring.


And I agree with Netzach.

 

[BiBunny]

You were all lovely to me

I don't recall you coming in and showing your ass, either.

(Of course, if you HAD shown your ass, I don't think I'd have minded too much.

Jesus, my disagreement is a powerful social force. I wish disagreeing with Rush Limbaugh was this devastating. Just whose opinion is apparently completely unwelcome? Kill me for not handing hearts and flowers to the new girl, who I have my theories about based on the patterns of the internet.

It's not you, it's me.

*Throws around lots of sunshine and rainbows to make up for saying what I think*

 

[midwestyankee]

I don't recall you coming in and showing your ass, either.

(Of course, if you HAD shown your ass, I don't think I'd have minded too much.



It's not you, it's me.

*Throws around lots of sunshine and rainbows to make up for saying what I think*

Would you cut that out? I just tripped on two rainbows that were rolling around on top of each other.

 

[Etoile]

Would you cut that out? I just tripped on two rainbows that were rolling around on top of each other.

OW no wonder my back hurts!

 

[midwestyankee]

OW no wonder my back hurts!

That couldn't have been you, Etoile. You're definitely prettier than a rainbow.

 

[BiBunny]

Oops. My bad, y'all.