cry baby

[the captians wench]

So apearently I'm too emotional for the profesional world.

It really is true I guess. When I get too stressed or overwhelmed I tend to cry. Part of it is that I push myself so hard, my sugar drops quicker, and then I just can't control the tears. And part of it is that I have a hard time letting go of things. I just bottle them and surpress them until they explode out of me.

So I guess I need some stress management tips, and ways I can...well stop being me at work, I do tend to be an emotional creature anyway.

 

[Kajira Callista]

So apearently I'm too emotional for the profesional world.

It really is true I guess. When I get too stressed or overwhelmed I tend to cry. Part of it is that I push myself so hard, my sugar drops quicker, and then I just can't control the tears. And part of it is that I have a hard time letting go of things. I just bottle them and surpress them until they explode out of me.

So I guess I need some stress management tips, and ways I can...well stop being me at work, I do tend to be an emotional creature anyway.

Continue to move forward instead of wasting time and energy on something that has already passed.

 

[midwestyankee]

So apearently I'm too emotional for the profesional world.

It really is true I guess. When I get too stressed or overwhelmed I tend to cry. Part of it is that I push myself so hard, my sugar drops quicker, and then I just can't control the tears. And part of it is that I have a hard time letting go of things. I just bottle them and surpress them until they explode out of me.

So I guess I need some stress management tips, and ways I can...well stop being me at work, I do tend to be an emotional creature anyway.

You're already on the path to better stress management. The first and most important step is to establish awareness of your inner state. The trick to stress management is to keep a stress-o-meter running in the background so that you can check its reading every once in a while.

When you find the stress-o-meter getting up into the dreaded red zone, it's time to take action. A few quick-fix tips you might consider:

Laughter. Find something that tickles your funny bone and laugh your ass off for a couple minutes. Nobody can stay stressed while they're laughing.

Scream. This isn't easy in public, but if you can find a way to let out a primal scream and continue until you're spent, you'll drive away a ton of stress.

Exercise. Regular exercise de-stresses the body in the same way that sleep does. And when you find yourself unusually stressed, an extra workout will help you bring down the stress level to something that's more manageable.

Breathing. Sometimes all it takes is five minutes or so of calm and controlled breathing. Consider facing a wall and concentrating on focusing on the surface layer of paint on the wall while you breathe slowly and rhythmically.

Everyone gets emotional and everyone gets stressed. The difference between what you think of as a professional and what you see as your own less-than-professional behavior (which may or may not be completely accurate, btw) is intent. Be intentional about managing your inner state and you'll soon be the professional you know you are.

Good luck.

 

[intothewoods]

I heard Charlie Kauffman interviewed on NPR a few months ago. He's a very well known screenwriter who was also a character (played by Nicholas Cage) in the movie (that he wrote called) Adaptation. In that movie, he is depicted as having a major sweating problem whenever he goes to meet with movie producers. And it had always been a problem in real life until, that is, the movie came out and the problem was out and the open. He was no longer afraid of sweating during meetings, because everyone already expected him to.

Now, I've had the crying problem at work before, though it's been a while now. There was a time that I just said, fuck it, I sometimes cry in public. It's liberating. Now, I think it's worth trying to do what you can to minimize crying at work (and a big part of that is learning not to take work-related stress and criticism personally), but if it should happen, or just to free yourself of shame over it, just say, yep, I sometimes cry, whadya gonna do. You cry. I still cry. It's okay. We're all human.

 

[Harmony_1985]

Wenchie you are not a cry baby, everyone handles stress in different ways.

i'm the sort that bottles it all up then lets it all out in one great big furious screaming session or small act of violence, such as throwing a cup or something.

That or i let it get to me that much i break down in my tutor's office and end up scribbling a load of self motiviating sayings all over the white board in the music study room

 

[Sir_Winston54]

So apearently I'm too emotional for the profesional world.

It really is true I guess. When I get too stressed or overwhelmed I tend to cry. Part of it is that I push myself so hard, my sugar drops quicker, and then I just can't control the tears. And part of it is that I have a hard time letting go of things. I just bottle them and surpress them until they explode out of me.

So I guess I need some stress management tips, and ways I can...well stop being me at work, I do tend to be an emotional creature anyway.

Note the bolded portion above. You already know one key element to this reaction, so deal with that before trying to "stop being me at work." When you're in a situation that shows signs of becoming stressful, take two minutes (or less) to scarf down some orange juice or something else that will boost your sugar level. That will help.

Secondly, "bottling and suppressing" stressful issues isn't good for you in any way. You don't have to unbottle them publicly; you can unbottle them inside. E.g., someone does something that they shouldn't (and know they shouldn't), and it aggravates you. Inside yourself, read them the riot act. Just give them a mental dressing-down to relieve that bit of stress. Something happens (a piece of equipment isn't operating, for example) that is a stressor. Inside yourself, take ten seconds or so to imagine taking a HUGE sledge hammer and beating the piece of equipment into submission. It's amazing how much pleasure one can gain - and how much stress can be relieved - by this type of internal expression.

 

[Kajira Callista]

*is so wishing she was a piece of equipment that wasn't working*

 

[graceanne]

Or, if you can, wait until you get home and cry. Say 'now is not the time for this.' Put it off, and cry when you get home. Nothing wrong with a good cry, but there is a time and place for doing that.

 

[unpredictablebijou]

I may be the only one wired like this, but I've found that a couple of the accupressure points used for headaches and nausea also help smooth out the urge to cry. If you really feel like you're about to go over the edge, press the tip of your tongue against the gumline just above your front teeth (on the inside, of course...) and breathe in very slowly, in a hiss.

Three fingers' width above where your wrist joins to your hand, on the inside of your arm, is a good place to press also. That one's for nausea and motion sickness, but I find it works well to calm me down emotionally too. Also try the two points just at the top of your nose on either side, just underneath the inner edge of your eyebrow.

Oddly, that first point behind the teeth is also taught for men who want to stave off an orgasm for a while longer.

Just a few extra tools; I hope they help. I personally believe that people should be allowed, even encouraged, to be more emotionally expressive. It's bottling things up that gives us a lot of our stress-based ailments. So think in terms of 'letting it out' in different ways, rather than swallowing it or internalizing it.

And yes, by all means, the minute you get a reasonable chance, cry or scream or whatever.

Sorry your workplace gets so stressful. I hope it eases up.

bj

 

[the captians wench]

Thanks everyone. Some great stuff here.

I am working on snagging a spoon of peanut butter when I feel the stress coming on. I tend to want to keep pushing myself until it's passed, but I think I'll be more productive if I just snag a bite before it gets to be too much. That will probably help tons.

The exersize thing sounds like a good plan of attack as well. I have noticed that I've been craving a good long run. That's something very unusual for me and while I don't think I could actually do runs, I could go back to walking a mile everyday. Maybe before work even so I'm pepped for the day. Or maybe go back to the situp/push up pyrimid thingies I was doing. It getting cold out and all.

I think I have come to terms with the fact that I am an emotional creature. I actually like it that way. When I was young I was taught that you shouldn't display your true emotions, and it left me with a lot of pent up anger, resentment, and a lot of other negitive emotions. As an adult I decided that I wouldn't hide how I truely feel anymore, tho I do still have a tendancy to bottle things up, but not nearly as much as I used to.

This period will pass, there's always points when it's more stressful than others. I just have to keep reminding myself why I'm there, and why I stay, and find ways to calm myself before I break into tears infront of the area supervisor.

 

[00Syd]

I'd just like to pop in and say that I'm the exact same way, and always have been. I get stressed out and frustrated very easily, and it usually ends in tears. It doesn't help that I'm emotionally masochistic because then I have a tendency to push my self (sometimes consciously, sometimes not) to the point where I'm an emotional wreck, in tears, questioning my worth, and on and on, sometimes all starting with something as silly as a home work assignment.

P has been helping my let go of emotions, and let them pass without holding onto them and agonizing about them. This has been slowly, slowly helping me reign in my emotional masochism which has in turn actually helped me be less stressed out.

 

[minx1]

I cried in the office about four weeks ago and then on the phone to my boss the otherday lol.

......oh the shame *laugh*

Thankfully he is very understanding and knows that things haven't been easy. Not to mention he has suffered from stress too, so knows first hand what its like. I am lucky in that respect.

It happens. Life happens.

I don't make a habit of it and things have to get me pretty anxious and worked up to actually burst into floods of tears. And well, things did.

 

[YourCaptor]

Just for the record, sexyness goes way up when tears are involved.

 

[minx1]

Just for the record, sexyness goes way up when tears are involved.

*sobs and wails*

 

[YourCaptor]

*sobs and wails*

nobody said anything about wailing

 

[minx1]

nobody said anything about wailing

I can do it huskily....


.....mmm wait , thats scarey isn't it

 

[YourCaptor]

I can do it huskily....


.....mmm wait , thats scarey isn't it

Its ok, I can fix it

-gets out gag-

 

[Harmony_1985]

i bawled my eyes out last night in front of Sir and all He did was spank me *shrugs*

 

[the captians wench]

i bawled my eyes out last night in front of Sir and all He did was spank me *shrugs*

It's not bawling infront of people that I have a problem with. Jounar loves my tears, well, more when he's intended to cause them or they happen because of something intence we did. But I have to stop crying at work. For every step forward I make, I'm loosing 10 each tear. My supieriors just don't respect me because I have a habbit of crying while I'm there. My store manager is more understanding, but she's not the one who promotes me.

 

[kittenartist]

Do you remember the episode of Friends where Rachel has to talk to her boss about something and before the conversation starts, already half crying, she says along the lines of, "I just want you to know that I might cry but it is not because of you, or what is said, but just because we are having this conversation". Ugh, I wish I could find the exact quote. But yeah, that is me... The topic does not matter, a serious conversation often brings me to tears.

My lack of control over my emotions prevents me from workings so I understand how it is bothering you.

The tongue in front of the teeth that someone mention actually works for me too. You might want to memorize a silly little limerick that you can recite when you feel yourself getting upset. Something that is absurd but also a little difficult so you really have to stop and focus.