Pain after (not during) anal sex - help

[cebalrai]

So, I hooked up with this guy last night that I'm kind of in a relationship with. The sex was great, which led up to him fucking my ass.

Normally I don't get penetrated but he's very masculine and assertive so I took the bottom role. Normally if I'm getting fucked, it's pretty uncomfortable for me no matter how much lube I use. It kind of burns and I have to ask him to go ahead and finish up rather quickly. It feels good at the same time, but the discomfort level starts to exceed the pleasure level after only about a minute.

So last night we ended up having sex and it took a good ten minutes or so before I had to ask him to finish. I just leaned back and said "cum in me baby" and he instantly started grunting and ejaculating. So I was like, whoa, I just did that and it didn't hurt at all and I was very happy with myself. But about 15 minutes after we finished I started getting these lower abdominal cramps that lasted for about twenty minutes. Not too bad though.

In the morning we started making out in the shower. He loosened up my anus with his fingers and got me all hot and hard, so we took it to the bed. He was getting three fingers in my ass without it hurting which kind of amazed me, so I started feeling around down there and was able to slide three in as well, quite deep.

He laid on his back while I lowered myself onto his cock. We fucked like that for about 10 minutes then me took me missionary style for another five or so minutes before he had his orgasm. This time, there was almost no discomfort at all which really pleased me!

Then the cramps from hell hit me. From noon when we finished until about 3 PM, I had *awful* cramps in my lower abdomen that were like a pain level 8 on a scale of 1-10. It was really that bad. I took some ibuprofin but that didn't touch it. I didn't have to go to the bathroom or anything...

Anyway, I'm fine now, but I'm really scared that will happen again. Anyone have any experiences like this? Advice?

 

[Julie_in_the_north]

Firstly, my sympathies for the pain and discomfort you have experienced. They must have been both very unpleasant, and understandably quite worrying.

Secondly, I must stress that I am not a doctor, so cannot speak authoritatively about anatomy or anatomical function.

That said, there is an argument that the anus is not really designed to accept the insertion of large objects, and neither is what lies beyond, so perhaps one's body may not always take kindly to being penetrated from that direction.

I happen to enjoy anal sex very much - and I'm interested in issues and discussions relating to it. And I must say that I have never heard of an experience and physical reaction such as yours.

I have anal sex regularly, and have done for around ten years. On the first half-dozen or so occasions, I did feel a little soreness, or tenderness, in my anus afterwards - but it was strictly my anus - the orifice - and nothing deeper within such as my sphincter, colon, or bowels. Your experience certainly seems to be unusual.

I would hazard that your body, perhaps your bowels and abdomen, has perhaps just reacted to what it feels as an invasion, an intruder. It's felt that something was wrong, and protested - and the body's only real language is pain. That's not to mean, whatsoever, that any actual harm was done.

Forgive me if you mentioned it before, but did he ejaculate inside your anus? It's just conceivable that those regions of your anatomy has reacted adversely to his sperm.

As to what you do to avoid such discomfort in future...your account of what happened suggests, if I may be so bold, that you were anally penetrated quite roughly, deeply, and quite often, within a very short period. You mention fingers - I suspect they may have opened up your anus even more than his penis, and possibly gone deeper. Perhaps you just tried too much too soon. Next time, maybe you could take it more slowly, and one thing at a time. Try just his penis inside you - gently - and see what happens.

Do let us know how you get on.

 

[ples]

Could be several things;
- if your guy has a nice size dick or your small framed, he may be close to the upper colon
- if he is pumping in and out a lot, he may be pushing air up, or
- if you have not had a bowel moment, he is interfering with the normal flow of things

This all said, there may be a problem needing a doctor visit (if there is bleeding, etc.) - the ass was never designed for sex and is not to be considered safe sex.

Suggest you find some other way to get it off with him

 

[nakedboater69]

ples

You have a beautiful body.

 

[ples]

Thank you, but that does not help anal pain problems. What is your experience on the matter?

You have a beautiful body.

 

[cebalrai]

Hmm, thanks for the replies so far. Lemme respond.

- Nope, there was no blood. I've never had anything like that.

- We used condoms so I didn't receive his semen.

- I had normal bowel movements that day, and the following day. Nothing seemed to be different in that respect.

- His penis is pretty long, about seven inches. I would say that if anything, it's a bit thin for its length though.

- As far as depth goes, he had his penis all the way inside me when I was on top of him. I actually spread my ass apart when I was on top to give him maximum penetration. I could feel him deep inside kind of behind my belly button... It was sooo nice..

- I always get a little air in there. Maybe there was more than usual though. Like I said, I'm usually the one doing the penetrating, so I'm less experienced in this area.

 

[Programmer Cat]

Like I said, I'm usually the one doing the penetrating, so I'm less experienced in this area.

That might be your problem. You're not used to taking it in the ass.

 

[cebalrai]

His penis also points downward a lot in the last third of it. Maybe that could be contributing?

 

[Programmer Cat]

His penis also points downward a lot in the last third of it. Maybe that could be contributing?

Yes, it it could be. I usually get my ass fucked by my wife with a strap-on, but when I take a guy the wrong angle can hurt.

 

[rthnck]

Could be a "semen allergy". Try using a condom next time and see what happens.

 

[cebalrai]

We used a condom.

Incidentally, I had a long-term (tested) boyfriend in the past who came in my anus a couple times... I never had this issue....

 

[rthnck]

We used a condom.

Incidentally, I had a long-term (tested) boyfriend in the past who came in my anus a couple times... I never had this issue....

Well the condom eliminates my semen allergy guess but I wanted to clarify the second part of your response. The antigens in semen that cause the allergy are different for each person so while you might be able to swallow the semen of one person, the next person's semen might not agree with your body chemistry and you will have bad experiences.

 

[cebalrai]

I'm seeing him again tonight. I'll let you know how it goes!

 

[fma30f]

hi

Keep it going. Get used to it. If it pleases you both, do it often. best of orgasms have to explored there is no rule to define this.

 

[cebalrai]

So he came over again... And we ended up in bed.

We both got tested a couple months ago and we don't have multiple partners, so we decided not to use a condom. His idea was maybe that I was somewhat sensitive to latex and that's what was causing the problem... But not sensitive enough to bother me when a condom was on my penis.

After some mutual oral sex, I rolled onto my belly and stuck my ass up in the air for him. He kissed my anus a few times which was really nice . After applying plenty - TONS - of lube and rubbing the head of his cock on my anus (which drives me crazy), he began to slip inside me.

He was more gentle this time, not wanting to hurt me. I did a lot of the moving around this time instead of him. There was no discomfort at all until about 15 minutes in when it started to get a bit sore. He grabbed my ass with his hands hard, and thrust forward deeply as he began to cum in me. I loved it!

After that, he pulled out and went down on me until I came in his mouth...

The aftermath wasn't good, and the pain returned for about an hour. On a positive note, it wasn't nearly as bad as last time, but it was still crumby. I guess latex wasn't the problem...

In the morning we were both hot again and started making out in bed. I went down on him until he said he couldn't take anymore and wanted my ass again. Then, I went down on him even longer so that he was absolutely ready to pop. He came about one minute after penetrating me so it was really quick... He took my penis in his mouth and drank my semen again. He gives amazing oral and is fixated on my foreskin, which he lacks.

So after this second time he fucked me, there was no pain at all. So I think the solution for now is to simply have sex for less time. Maybe after a while my body just reacts badly, but on a delay?

 

[Digital_Divide]

I think this is one of the hottest descriptions of a problem I have ever read.

Anyway, I never had pain that strong but I have experienced a bit of what you are going through.

When I first got a toy it was about 8 inches long and I thought it would be fantastic to try and take it all the first day. It wasn't. I had bad cramping after I was done playing. In the end I just took my time with it a few inches at a time until I found out that it hurt around 4 or so inside.

It was just a matter of taking it really really slowly. Now I can take the whole thing without any discomfort. It just takes a while to get used to something being in there.

Hope this helps.

 

[miles]

Bump...

 

[cyravance]

You may be having some kind of internal spasms as a result of the friction/stimulation. Like an internal charley-horse. But, always ask your doctor...

 

[Stella_Omega]

Someone like Doctor Phil (!)said, on the radio show (!!!) that this is common enough, and that laying on one side or the other would help, because of the way the intestines lay. I cannot find a reference to laying on one's side during anal, and I cannot remember which side! I betcha you're supposed to lay on your left, but I hope someone wants to see if their google-fu is better than mine is!

 

[rbone04]

Considering there was no bleeding, and you're ok now... and have even fucked since... My guess is you just got a lot of air pushed up there. I experience this quite often when taking larger cocks/objects deep and for an extended period of time. I went to a gay-friendly doctor once about abdominal cramping after sex, and he just massaged my stomach in a circular motion and out came the air (embarrassing). It instantly relieved all of my discomfort. He told me just to tough it out and it would come out naturally over the course of a day or so; or to try lying on my back and rubbing my belly in a similar fashion (clockwise if you are looking down at your stomach) if it was too much of a nuisance. As gross as it may sound, if you have strong urges to pass gas during these spells, you might just want to "let it go". You'll feel much better instantly if this is the cause of your problems