a suitable punishment

[tinylittlegnat]

looking for ways to punish my girl when she is bad. not into leaving marks of flogging. no spanking with anything besides a hand. and teasing isnt a punishment. any advice would be good. we dont live together and i live with my parents so anything to wild is out sadly but would still like to hear about it for future reference

 

[FurryFury]

Make her write sentences or an essay about what she did that displeased you.

Make her stand with her nose in a corner.

Make her kneel on rice scattered on the floor.

Make her clean up her room.

I'm not into punishments but there ya go, a few ideas.

 

[WickedEve]

looking for ways to punish my girl when she is bad. not into leaving marks of flogging. no spanking with anything besides a hand. and teasing isnt a punishment. any advice would be good. we dont live together and i live with my parents so anything to wild is out sadly but would still like to hear about it for future reference

Must the punishment be done in your room at your mom and dad's house? How about her place?

Take her for a walk/ride while she has a butt plug in her ass. That might be a punishment for her, if not, then you'll probably get some good sex later.

 

[Sqoodd]

While in the same house/apartment, send to the another room (withholding contact with you).
Same idea, tie her to the bed and walk away. Be careful not to leave her like that too long. Just long enough for her to regret her action.
Call her at night over and over. Sleep Deprivation is a powerful motivation.
Make her sit on a spiked door mat. The ones that clean shoes, usually kept outside the front door.

I'm not that much into punishment, but those are a few that have worked for me.

 

[FurryFury]

Just a quick post to say one person's punishment might be another's hard limit.

Sleep deprivation (too much like brain washing for me and far too frustrating, good sleep is a sacrosanct thing in my priorities) and being tied up then left (due to fear of abandonment and the potential danger involved) are two of mine.

Be sure you have some great discussions to find out her known hard limits. Don't be surprised when some hard limits surface from time to time she did not consciously know she had.

 

[Tyr51]

I just have to say that the whole writing out a sentance so many times was probably rather efficient with me. Boring as hell, pointless, boring, not fun, boring, and it cemented the message into my head. Also it was terribly pointless and boring. Add a vibrator through the whole ordeal and it became pointless, boring and sexually frustrating. lol

It was a good way to get through to me, I suppose.

Best of luck!

 

[CutieMouse]

looking for ways to punish my girl when she is bad. not into leaving marks of flogging. no spanking with anything besides a hand. and teasing isnt a punishment. any advice would be good. we dont live together and i live with my parents so anything to wild is out sadly but would still like to hear about it for future reference

Intentionally bad, unintentionally bad, or both?

Punish, or discipline?

Physical limitations (writing lines wouldn't work for me, as I have issues with my wrist), emotional limitations, mental limitations?

What does she dislike?

ETA: I always kinda wonder why people [in general] are so keen to have some sort of "punishment arsenal" handy for when their submissives do something wrong...

 

[tinylittlegnat]

Take her for a walk/ride while she has a butt plug in her ass. That might be a punishment for her, if not, then you'll probably get some good sex later.

definitely not a punishment but a damn fine idea

While in the same house/apartment, send to the another room (withholding contact with you).
Same idea, tie her to the bed and walk away. Be careful not to leave her like that too long. Just long enough for her to regret her action.

actually thats one of the things we do that we both enjoy

I just have to say that the whole writing out a sentance so many times was probably rather efficient with me. Boring as hell, pointless, boring, not fun, boring, and it cemented the message into my head. Also it was terribly pointless and boring. Add a vibrator through the whole ordeal and it became pointless, boring and sexually frustrating. lol

actually i think i am liking this idea

Intentionally bad, unintentionally bad, or both?

Punish, or discipline?

Physical limitations (writing lines wouldn't work for me, as I have issues with my wrist), emotional limitations, mental limitations?

intentional and unintentional. but mostly unintentional

more discipline but once again both.

she has bad knees so no kneeling. no verbal punishments(calling names type stuff)

 

[CutieMouse]

intentional and unintentional. but mostly unintentional

more discipline but once again both.

she has bad knees so no kneeling. no verbal punishments(calling names type stuff)

[hint]

My questions were to get you thinking about your goals/reasons re: "punishment" and what would, or wouldn't, work in your relationship to accomplish said goals/reasons.

[/hint]

 

[Zoots_owner]

ETA: I always kinda wonder why people [in general] are so keen to have some sort of "punishment arsenal" handy for when their submissives do something wrong...

I wonder at it, too... that thought's probably worthy of its own thread.

 

[Sqoodd]

Just a quick post to say one person's punishment might be another's hard limit.

Sleep deprivation (too much like brain washing for me and far too frustrating, good sleep is a sacrosanct thing in my priorities) and being tied up then left (due to fear of abandonment and the potential danger involved) are two of mine.

I do not look at sleep deprivation as brainwashing since I have never tried to indoctrinate a sub into something she did not want to do. Yes, in brainwashing, they use sleep deprivation, but it is not the other way around.

I have never left a sub tied to a bed for a long time. The "fear of abandonment" is the punishment just as not allowing her to be near me for a given amount of time.

If you think she might be in danger from being tied to the bed, then you could keep a close eye on her after placing a blindfold on so she cannot see you checking. You could turn on the radio so she cannot hear you leave and return.

 

[Sqoodd]

Originally Posted by CutieMouse
ETA: I always kinda wonder why people [in general] are so keen to have some sort of "punishment arsenal" handy for when their submissives do something wrong...

I wonder at it, too... that thought's probably worthy of its own thread.

I agree.
I have my opinions, but I will wait to see if that thread starts.

 

[midwestyankee]

ETA: I always kinda wonder why people [in general] are so keen to have some sort of "punishment arsenal" handy for when their submissives do something wrong...

I wonder at it, too... that thought's probably worthy of its own thread.

Just my couple of pennies worth, but who'd be interested in a thread dedicated to the predilections of Horny Net Geeks? Or am I misreading the situation?

 

[CutieMouse]

Just my couple of pennies worth, but who'd be interested in a thread dedicated to the predilections of Horny Net Geeks? Or am I misreading the situation?

(I feel I should note that I am not implying the OP is a HNG or anything - I just don't get the whole Laundry List of Punishments thing.)

I'd be up for a HNG and/or punishment arsenal discussion/thread, I'm just not feeling articulate enough these days to start it.

 

[midwestyankee]

(I feel I should note that I am not implying the OP is a HNG or anything - I just don't get the whole Laundry List of Punishments thing.)

I'd be up for a HNG and/or punishment arsenal discussion/thread, I'm just not feeling articulate enough these days to start it.

I don't mean to imply that either, actually, but it really does seem like the kind of checkbox, I'm ready now, kind of thing that a HNG would do. And while such a thread might generate a dozen or so germane posts I could see it easily devolving into the second cousin of the worst PMs ever thread.

 

[Mel_Loves_Jess]

You might try denying her the pleasure of your company, no calls, no being around you, etc...

Jus' a suggestion

 

[the captians wench]

Corner time is by far the worst form of correction I have ever recieved. We don't get a lot of time together, so having some of it taken away becuase I did something stupid is not fun.

But I don't do no contact. If you aren't taking my calls, you better have an excuse other than I pissed you off, or you're "teaching me a lesson". The only lesson I'd learn from that is that you're a jack ass who does not care about my needs and vulneribilities.

But I'm jumping on the "why have a list" band wagon. I mean, having a punishment list brings to mind two senarios. 1. It's a set up. You have a list now you just need an excuse to exicute it. or 2. Something like a wheel of fortune type thing "spin the wheel and find out what horrible thing you will have to endure tonight because you forgot to cap the"S" in Sir". I mean, do parents have lists of punishments just in case their kid acts out? I didn't think that was the way it worked, I thought most people went on the "spir of the moment/ let the punishment fit the crime" notion.

 

[FurryFury]

My kids know I've really been pissed off and, often, made fearful too, when they have to write sentences. They've only had to do this a very few times as they are great kids but it's probably one of the biggest and worst tools in my punishment arsenal.

LMAO.

 

[Sqoodd]

Since we are talking about this now, I will also jump in the ‘why have a list’ discussion.

I think the list is needed for a determinant to the pyl’s action. Punishment needs to be issued at the time of the infraction (or at least closest to the time). It does the pyl no good to have the punishment given several days, weeks, or months after the infraction. I have a list of acceptable punishments, but IT IS NOT A SET UP. I have witnessed those PYL that ‘set up’ their pyl to fail and I dislike those people immensely. Those PYL are on a “power trip”.

Parents do have a list of punishments for their children and they do not lay in waiting for the child to trip up. Each child (and pyl) is different. It pays for the parent (and PYL) to know their child (and pyl) and what things they would enjoy and things they hate doing.

To the captains wench: The ‘spir of the moment’ decision by the parent is the length, severity, and which punishment from the list is APPROPRIATE for the infraction. If the parent (and PYL) does not already have a list then they cannot make that quick ‘spur of the moment’ decision so the child (and pyl) will know they did wrong and avoid repeating it.

I hope to find that sub that does not need ANY punishment and will perform every duty, chore, and task faultlessly. But if she steps out of line, I do have a list ready.

Corner time is by far the worst form of correction I have ever recieved. We don't get a lot of time together, so having some of it taken away becuase I did something stupid is not fun.

But I don't do no contact. If you aren't taking my calls, you better have an excuse other than I pissed you off, or you're "teaching me a lesson". The only lesson I'd learn from that is that you're a jack ass who does not care about my needs and vulneribilities.

But I'm jumping on the "why have a list" band wagon. I mean, having a punishment list brings to mind two senarios. 1. It's a set up. You have a list now you just need an excuse to exicute it. or 2. Something like a wheel of fortune type thing "spin the wheel and find out what horrible thing you will have to endure tonight because you forgot to cap the"S" in Sir". I mean, do parents have lists of punishments just in case their kid acts out? I didn't think that was the way it worked, I thought most people went on the "spir of the moment/ let the punishment fit the crime" notion.

 

[tinylittlegnat]

why have a punishment?

because its turns her on. and me as well. and asking what would be a good one isnt part of the game so to say. asking if its ok if i do something takes away the fun. if your lover asked you if it was ok everytime they wanted to touch you it would get real annoying. same with this. you dont ask you just do

 

[FurryFury]

why have a punishment?

because its turns her on. and me as well. and asking what would be a good one isnt part of the game so to say. asking if its ok if i do something takes away the fun. if your lover asked you if it was ok everytime they wanted to touch you it would get real annoying. same with this. you dont ask you just do

Knowing her hard limits would be smart and it's not asking each time if something is okay.

Being prepared for unexpected switches to be thrown is simply wise.

Using punishment as a game is something that many couples enjoy though. Is this what you are doing?

"Oh you are a bad girl. You need to be punished."

"Oh no! Please not that." (smile, gush)

 

[the captians wench]

why have a punishment?

because its turns her on. and me as well. and asking what would be a good one isnt part of the game so to say. asking if its ok if i do something takes away the fun. if your lover asked you if it was ok everytime they wanted to touch you it would get real annoying. same with this. you dont ask you just do

Punishment because you both get off on it is completely different from what I thought you ment. If you like it cool, enjoy, it does widen your prospects a bit.
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As to asking, Jounar will ask me what I think a suitable punishment is. Usually my ideas are harsher than he inteds (I tend to be very hard on myself), but he will have me keep going until I come up with one he thinks is suitable. If he isn't satisfied with what I come up with, after a few tries, he'll send me to a corner to think about it for a while. Then he asks me about what I did, how I feel about it, do I understand why I'm being punished, and so on. Most of the time this is enough and he sends me to bed, but on very few occations I will recieve some sort of correction after this.

I've always thought it was fitting that he asks me what my punishment should be. Very rarely is my idea used as I spell it out, but it makes me stop and think just that much more. Of course like I said, I'm very hard on myself, so usually I punish myself more than any one else does.

 

[Homburg]

ETA: I always kinda wonder why people [in general] are so keen to have some sort of "punishment arsenal" handy for when their submissives do something wrong...

Just my couple of pennies worth, but who'd be interested in a thread dedicated to the predilections of Horny Net Geeks? Or am I misreading the situation?

This is why I despise these threads. If they're legit, they strike me as pointless, and a bit weak, and if not legit, well, I have no interest in feeding HNG's.

 

[tinylittlegnat]

bump bump

 

[LFO]

Since I'm still in a LDR - when my girl is naughty I've either used orgasm denial or I make her write out what she did that was wrong in a private blog for me.

When she gets here, however, things will be a little different. I may get a paddle for when she's naughty and a butt plug that she'll have to wear around. I still like the blogging thing though, I'll keep using that and orgasm denial if she's been really bad.