what do you like about BDSM?

[ivantheterrible]

for me it takes sex way beyond the idea of naked flesh, and an orgasm.
it delves into the part of your mind you feared, and then found out it turns you on.
exploration of the mind takes sex beyond just mere sex.
taking a shy, closed minded woman, and taking her to her limits of her own mind. the part she feared.

 

[subbie_333]

You mean, besides the cool outfits? WOO HOO

OK, well, the chemicals released in the brain are like, WOW man

 

[Zoots_owner]

It gives one a chance to restore everything that was lost from relationships during the course of becoming civilized.

 

[Harmony_1985]

The release.

I'm a responsible person in the real world, in charge of alot of stuff, like to be a hands on person.

BDSM allows me to let go of all of that.

 

[Dominant_Chef]

The pretentious people who allegedly practice BDSM fascinate me. These people are usually the dregs of society. Their numerous character flaws and mental instability have resulted in the failing of uncountable vanilla relationships.

They then stumble upon BDSM and think that their personality deficiencies will not be noticed by people in an identical quandary.

Despite their obvious inadequacies, they then find conform in the knowledge that other sick individuals have been reduced to seeking kinky, perverted and outrageous sex online… They then start to bond with fellow moronic clowns and pathetically call them “bro” or “sis.”

Eventually they find somebody who actually believes that these sub-humans have the potential to serve in a BDSM relationship… unbelievable…

 

[SubKekiLee]

The pretentious people who allegedly practice BDSM fascinate me. These people are usually the dregs of society. Their numerous character flaws and mental instability have resulted in the failing of uncountable vanilla relationships.

They then stumble upon BDSM and think that their personality deficiencies will not be noticed by people in an identical quandary.

Despite their obvious inadequacies, they then find conform in the knowledge that other sick individuals have been reduced to seeking kinky, perverted and outrageous sex online… They then start to bond with fellow moronic clowns and pathetically call them “bro” or “sis.”

Eventually they find somebody who actually believes that these sub-humans have the potential to serve in a BDSM relationship… unbelievable…

This might be true for some but not for all..I dont know so I am not going to bash you in anyway but I can tell you this part of me is not from uncountable vanilla relationships If I knew what being submissive was when I was little I would have identified with it long ago, I know I enjoy the 'atagirl" when I was little I loved making people smile... I knew I was submissive when I was prollu 14 or 15 and that I enjoyed the different things in life... You should be careful how you identify people not all of us are losers, or pathetic indivuduals... we are productive members of society who enjoy the different side of life...

As for what I enjoy

I am a very dominant person in my everyday life... I enjoy the loss of control and being there for my Sir and making him happy

 

[Dominant_Chef]

This might be true for some but not for all..

I've reduced your quotation as that is as far as I read...

Are you suggesting that I don't know anything about you and I'm stereotyping things?

If so, utter blasphemy, I know everything about everything and every fucker...

How very rude of you to even think I'm wrong… let alone type that I’m wrong in an Internet forum...

 

[Harmony_1985]

I've reduced your quotation as that is as far as I read...

Are you suggesting that I don't know anything about you and I'm stereotyping things?

If so, utter blasphemy, I know everything about everything and every fucker...

How very rude of you to even think I'm wrong… let alone type that I’m wrong in an Internet forum...

See, this is where you show that you're so obviously NOT involved in BDSM in any way, shape or form.

This post reeks of egocentrical thought, and most of the doms on here aren't disrespectful to anyone on these boards.

You're playing at it

 

[Dominant_Chef]

See, this is where you show that you're so obviously NOT involved in BDSM in any way, shape or form.

This post reeks of egocentrical thought, and most of the doms on here aren't disrespectful to anyone on these boards.

You're playing at it

Apart from your considerable knowledge of what not to eat, you are totally clueless...

A. You don't for one moment imagine that I INTENTIONALLY wrote an egocentrically based reply do you?

B. Like all the other ridiculous comments I make about disciplining the insubordinate... How come you are always the silly fucker who points out that this is the Internet and asks how I'm going to punish people...

C. One day you'll work out whom is taking whom for a ride and the current stupidity that you are so clearly displaying, will indeed make you cringe...

 

[Netzach]

I'll answer this question if everyone else stops responding to the bloviating thing.

 

[celticsunspiral]

Ignoring DC comments

In my daily life I am in control, I have to be or chaos would reign, fights break out, people could get hurt. I plan, organize and deliver 5 days a week. I am a pleaser, tring to help everyone, and have a hard time saying No.

What do I get out of it: at first a while back I thought it was a way to get something I crave, a little pain with my pleasure , but then I realized that I also enjoy being able to let go, let someone else carry the load. To just follow instead of leading. I look forward and derive pleasure from doing for Sir , to hearing from him "good kitten," and it upsets me when I disappoint him. Intrinsically, I want to make him happy and in doing so I am happy.

It isn't that I am weak or stupid, because I am not. I have a Masters Degree, I hold leadership positions both at work and in volunteer duties. Just that I want a strong dominant man who will allow my brain to rest because I trust in him to make the best decisions for all. To be able to let go for a few hours is heaven.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I like that it fits my preconceived ideas about the proper roles of the sexes.

 

[Netzach]

I don't have any high-flown answers to this one. I like it because it's what works for me. Like straight guys like pussy.

I don't think it's special, magical, or anything other than the sexual puzzle piece that works for me.

 

[Netzach]

I like that it fits my preconceived ideas about the proper roles of the sexes.

That too. Just because no one else seems to see it my way doesn't mean I have to buy in.

 

[ryan_blakely]

I see women as the dominant sex. Every man needs a woman... women don't need men., they can live without us. I like being submissive and letting her decide what and when I do anything. Women are dominant and superior and I trust fully that she'll guide me, like I could never do for myself because i'm a male.

 

[Netzach]

That's a bit much. If I wanted an untrained doggie, I'd get one. I'm not interested in guiding the undisciplined, helping the unorganized, fixing the unfixable.

I just want as much sexual and social passivity as I want when I want it. Not too demanding.

 

[00Syd]

What do I like about BDSM?

Uh. I like that it feels good. I don't think I've got any better answer to this one

 

[ownedsubgal]

i don't like BDSM.

 

[00Syd]

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[midwestyankee]

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Interesting. I didn't realize you felt that way.

To answer the OP: taking the dominant role in a relationship is my default. When I try to do the all-romantic-all-the-time thing sex and the surrounding relationship are as interesting as day-old milk-soaked corn flakes. When I take command and use my partner to satisfy my own needs to whatever level suits me at the time, it's like eating at Charlie Trotter's.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

I love the feelings and emotions. The rush of Dominance throughout my body when I am talking to my slave. The power and control I have over her. Knowing her life is in my hands.

There's nothing quite like it.

 

[ivantheterrible]

midwestyankee and daddy2mylilgirl, i know what you mean.
vanilla sex is just plain ol shit boring.
having control gives me even more reason to protect my slut. or any other woman who has the guts to even try me.
some people may think all because us dominants in the bedroom means we are utter assholes in everyday life. me? unless i told you, you'd never know what kind of bedroom life i have. i'm nice, sweet and caring to any woman in everyday life, but in the bedroom, she's my dirty little slut.

 

[Dominant_Chef]

What do I like about BDSM?

Uh. I like that it feels good. I don't think I've got any better answer to this one

"It feels good..." what a well thought out response...

I now understand why most of the folk into BDSM, (yourself included) are weight challenged... because McDonalds tastes good...

 

[Dominant_Chef]

I'll answer this question if everyone else stops responding to the bloviating thing.

What a sad comment... ignore him and I'll reply...

 

[midwestyankee]

"It feels good..." what a well thought out response...

I know understand why most of the folk into BDSM, (yourself included) are weight challenged... because McDonalds tastes good...

What a crock!