Chicago Litogether 2008 After Action Report

[Corylea]

Repeat after me:

Litogethers are not giant orgies. Litogethers are not giant orgies. Litogethers are not giant orgies.

Honestly, it's great people meeting each other and talking. Any private choices are theirs alone and not for public posting. Unless they cared to share for all.

Flirting and joking are not the same as orgies, and it's flirting and joking that we've been doing.

 

[sophia jane]

Repeat after me:

Litogethers are not giant orgies. Litogethers are not giant orgies. Litogethers are not giant orgies.

Honestly, it's great people meeting each other and talking. Any private choices are theirs alone and not for public posting. Unless they cared to share for all.

I absolutely agree and I've been a huge defender of this in the past. Litogethers are social gatherings of like-minded people and sex is not necessarily going to happen for anyone, let alone everyone. In fact, I've never done more than kiss anyone at a litogether.

That said, I have every intention of being very naughty at the next one, though who I'll be naughty with is yet to be determined. I, too, am very picky about my partners.

 

[Katyusha]

Repeat after me:

Litogethers are not giant orgies. Litogethers are not giant orgies. Litogethers are not giant orgies.

Honestly, it's great people meeting each other and talking. Any private choices are theirs alone and not for public posting. Unless they cared to share for all.

No, they're not giant orgies, and yes, I do realize that some people reading this thread may get that idea.

Despite all the flirting and suggestive talk here, a lot of what happens is just meeting new people and having a good time; one of the best times that I had there was sitting with Gizz and two other people and talking shop for two hours.

A lot of these conversations lead to story ideas without anything happening between those getting the ideas and those giving them the ideas; they come from our talking about our own experiences, and they come from people cracking jokes or making statements that are just too perfect for the moment, and they come from us sharing ideas.

It's a great time, whether other, more private things happen or not.

 

[pleaz_me]

I absolutely agree and I've been a huge defender of this in the past. Litogethers are social gatherings of like-minded people and sex is not necessarily going to happen for anyone, let alone everyone. In fact, I've never done more than kiss anyone at a litogether.

That said, I have every intention of being very naughty at the next one, though who I'll be naughty with is yet to be determined. I, too, am very picky about my partners.

Definitely agreed ... sometimes for newer members it's a good reminder that the flirting that goes on here doesn't necessarily spill into the actual event ... and a gentle nudge to watch what's said on the thread is sometimes necessary so on-lookers don't get the wrong intentions and show up for the wrong reasons.

Also that all meeting information is confined to PM only via the one in charge ... that'd be our sweet Sarahh ... so that we are all safe from the lurkers that think they can crash a party just to get some.

 

[OneLustyWench]

I absolutely agree and I've been a huge defender of this in the past. Litogethers are social gatherings of like-minded people and sex is not necessarily going to happen for anyone, let alone everyone. In fact, I've never done more than kiss anyone at a litogether.

That said, I have every intention of being very naughty at the next one, though who I'll be naughty with is yet to be determined. I, too, am very picky about my partners.

Just wanting to ensure others reading the postings know, we're having fun, joking around and any play is personal. Expectations should not be a giant orgy. If you come, expect to have fun with like minded people, discuss a huge variety of subjects, family, work, life, fun, writing, etc.

Then you won't be disappointed, on the contrary, you will be very glad you went and will have lots to write about.

 

[mansome]

Amen! ~Tips hat~

you wear hats?

 

[sophia jane]

Just wanting to ensure others reading the postings know, we're having fun, joking around and any play is personal. Expectations should not be a giant orgy. If you come, expect to have fun with like minded people, discuss a huge variety of subjects, family, work, life, fun, writing, etc.

Then you won't be disappointed, on the contrary, you will be very glad you went and will have lots to write about.

I agree completely. I had the great pleasure to go the Love Shack and had probably the best weekend of my life there, and all without getting naked.

 

[pleaz_me]

you wear hats?

Only with the right outfits.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

And given the advanced ages of some of the members here (ahem!) orgies might lead to a series of unfortunate events and we all want to go home upright.

I'm just teasing. I'm coming because, living in a world of children, I occasionally need other adults to talk to. And since we happen to all ejoy "adult entertainment", what better place than a Litogether?

 

[mansome]

The interesting thing to me at the Chicago Lit-together was that I honestly enjoyed seeing Lit people with their clothes on...... I'm use to seeing them on Lit with their avs, profile pictures, or posted pictures.. in various stages of undress.....

 

[mansome]

Only with the right outfits.

*sings* Joe Cocker...... "You can leave your hat on"...

 

[AphroditeReborn]

Not saying this would happen but I'd like to know the laws if applicable.....

In Virginia there are ABC laws and one of them states "in a public area no sexual misconduct up to and including flashing intimate parts {meaning breasts} or same sex kissing" {not quoted verbatim of course}

Are there similar laws in Illinois?

 

[AphroditeReborn]

*sings* Joe Cocker...... "You can leave your hat on"...

Love that song

 

[pleaz_me]

Not saying this would happen but I'd like to know the laws if applicable.....

In Virginia there are ABC laws and one of them states "in a public area no sexual misconduct up to and including flashing intimate parts {meaning breasts} or same sex kissing" {not quoted verbatim of course}

Are there similar laws in Illinois?

I'm sure there are. Out of respect for others, and for the simple fact that we'd like to continue using this hotel, we expect people to use discretion when outside of the rooms.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Not saying this would happen but I'd like to know the laws if applicable.....

In Virginia there are ABC laws and one of them states "in a public area no sexual misconduct up to and including flashing intimate parts {meaning breasts} or same sex kissing" {not quoted verbatim of course}

Are there similar laws in Illinois?

I don't think that hotel rooms qualify as public areas in any state. The lobby would be a different story but we'd just be hugging there.

 

[pleaz_me]

*sings* Joe Cocker...... "You can leave your hat on"...

I'll see if I can dig that outfit out .... soon.

 

[OneLustyWench]

Love that song

Yes, it's cool to dance to in a tux jacket, stockings, heels and a hat of course!

 

[rgraham666]

If so we haven't been busted yet.

And we've given them plenty of opportunity.

 

[pleaz_me]

Yes, it's cool to dance to in a tux jacket, stockings, heels and a hat of course!

Hey, I could pull that off with my new wardrobe!

 

[fieryjen]

It took me a while to realize how this might appear to others who weren't there. I've gotten pretty careful about the things I say since. After the Litogether last year, when I was just sort of joking and teasing with a few other attendees in a thread, I got two PMs from people who assumed that everything we talked about were things that actually happened that weekend. They weren't. But apparently it looked that way to some of those who hadn't attended and were sort of imagining that this was what it would be like. I feel really bad about having contributed to these false expectations some people might have gotten.

The last thing I want is for the Litogether to turn into something different than it has been. The thing I most fondly remember was, in fact, the getting to know everyone, talking to all the like-minded people, and just hanging out without there being any sort of sexual expectations in the air. And that's the part that truly makes me wish that it was March already. I miss many of those I met last year quite a bit.

That's all I'm expecting from the Litogether, everything else that might happen is just an unexpected bonus.

 

[AphroditeReborn]

I'm sure there are. Out of respect for others, and for the simple fact that we'd like to continue using this hotel, we expect people to use discretion when outside of the rooms.

I don't think that hotel rooms qualify as public areas in any state. The lobby would be a different story but we'd just be hugging there.

I kinda figured, and I sincerely hope I don't do anything to embarrass myself or others... this kind of get together is similar to the hotel takeovers I've participated in before, but in those cases, everyone WAS there for sex...

 

[mansome]

Yes, it's cool to dance to in a tux jacket, stockings, heels and a hat of course!

tux jacket with stockings and heels?

*gulp*

 

[voluptuary_manque]

I kinda figured, and I sincerely hope I don't do anything to embarrass myself or others... this kind of get together is similar to the hotel takeovers I've participated in before, but in those cases, everyone WAS there for sex...

Careful, dear, my blood pressure you know . . .

 

[pleaz_me]

It took me a while to realize how this might appear to others who weren't there. I've gotten pretty careful about the things I say since. After the Litogether last year, when I was just sort of joking and teasing with a few other attendees in a thread, I got two PMs from people who assumed that everything we talked about were things that actually happened that weekend. They weren't. But apparently it looked that way to some of those who hadn't attended and were sort of imagining that this was what it would be like. I feel really bad about having contributed to these false expectations some people might have gotten.

The last thing I want is for the Litogether to turn into something different than it has been. The thing I most fondly remember was, in fact, the getting to know everyone, talking to all the like-minded people, and just hanging out without there being any sort of sexual expectations in the air. And that's the part that truly makes me wish that it was March already. I miss many of those I met last year quite a bit.

That's all I'm expecting from the Litogether, everything else that might happen is just an unexpected bonus.

I kinda figured, and I sincerely hope I don't do anything to embarrass myself or others... this kind of get together is similar to the hotel takeovers I've participated in before, but in those cases, everyone WAS there for sex...

Aphrodite ... I think Jen's post right above you is right on. NO ONE is going there for the sole purpose of sex.

 

[mansome]

I kinda figured, and I sincerely hope I don't do anything to embarrass myself or others... this kind of get together is similar to the hotel takeovers I've participated in before, but in those cases, everyone WAS there for sex...

I've been to 3 hotel takeover parties with a lifestyle club in my area....

I actually didn't have sex at one of them... or do anything sexual.....

Oh yes.. THIS is totally different than that..... It's a hotel though.. sex does go on at hotels.. actually I always say hotel sex is the best.... But I wouldn't discuss any specific happenings with anyone unless in private with those involved..

hmm did I say "those" *laugh*