Collaring Ceremonies
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BiaTcHiNFiRe
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Never heard of it either, but guess it would be quite handy to do hear about it!! 
A Desert Rose
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I looked in the library and didn't find a thread about this although I know it's been discussed in some threads. There are several posters here who have done the collaring ceremony thing and I'm sure they'll be posting about their own experiences. I think it's flexible and people do them differently, but the basics are the same. And most will tell you that it's a very touching and emotional experience.
If I recall, and mind you, it's been a long time now, my collar was handed to me...
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true story. Yes.
If I recall, and mind you, it's been a long time now, my collar was handed to me...
hhhhhhhhahahahahahahah!
true story. Yes.
BiaTcHiNFiRe
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Yea i bet its very emotional experience. Cannot wait to get my collar in October.
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Lol. Mine too.
Daddyslilpet
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Daddy and I have never had a formal collaring ceremony either exactly. He did say some very touching things the first time he put the collar around my neck though.
We just ordered an eternity collar for me, and I can hardly wait for it to come in.
Here's some links to other threads on this subject you might find helpful...
Collars and Collaring by serijules
About Being Collared by Lunarkitten
Collaring Ceremonies? by 3113
Collaring Ceremonies by crazyivan
We just ordered an eternity collar for me, and I can hardly wait for it to come in.
Here's some links to other threads on this subject you might find helpful...
Collars and Collaring by serijules
About Being Collared by Lunarkitten
Collaring Ceremonies? by 3113
Collaring Ceremonies by crazyivan
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I'm a Master, and although everyone who I'm with wears my collar I will not have a collaring ceremony until I am getting married. For me it will be the BDSM equivilent of marriage, with my bitch vowing to serve me for her entire life and me vowing to always discipline her as needed and never abandon her.
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Then why do you give them out now? I know it is your choice, but if you hold the ceremony so special, one would think you would consider the wearing of your collar even more serious given it continues on instead of for just that short period of time when words/vows etc., are exchanged or spoken, thus something reserved for someone worthy of that honour. For me it would be like giving everyone you date an engagement and wedding ring, but saying you will only go through with the marriage ceremony when the right one comes along...doesn't seem to make sense.
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Then why do you give them out now? I know it is your choice, but if you hold the ceremony so special, one would think you would consider the wearing of your collar even more serious given it continues on instead of for just that short period of time when words/vows etc., are exchanged or spoken, thus something reserved for someone worthy of that honour. For me it would be like giving everyone you date an engagement and wedding ring, but saying you will only go through with the marriage ceremony when the right one comes along...doesn't seem to make sense.
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That's what's always puzzled me too Cat. Kinda goes back to those velcro collars we hear so much about doesn't it? Oh well to each their own I guess.
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I'm sorry to say this but someone who keeps saying "I'm a master" over and over again yet, makes counterintuitive statements about not "letting his bitches and sluts" know he cares and who is 18 is likely a bit clueless at this point.
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I read his profile...it's even more exciting than his post on this thread earlier...
As far as collaring ceremonies...I don't know much about them. I am interested to hear some of the responses to this thread.
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Daddyslilpet
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I did a google search for some sample collaring ceremonies... here's the results:
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Collar ceremonies, eh? I don't really go for such over dramatic things but it sounds more along the lines of living out a fantasy then something practiced in reality. Perhaps something the Goreans came up with. I can't really answer that as I only know the basics on the Gorean BDSM culture.
From what I know of collar ceremonies there is no "right way" to do so. It's mostly you winging it or doing something you read in a book/online.
It's quite similar to sanguinarians (people who think they're vampires). There's no one way of doing something....and is generally adapted from some story. I wouldn't be surprised if most collar ceremonies you see are online are derived to some master/slave fantasy book and been over hyped to the point people think it's a real thing.
Course, this is merely my two cents on the matter. I could be wrong.
From what I know of collar ceremonies there is no "right way" to do so. It's mostly you winging it or doing something you read in a book/online.
It's quite similar to sanguinarians (people who think they're vampires). There's no one way of doing something....and is generally adapted from some story. I wouldn't be surprised if most collar ceremonies you see are online are derived to some master/slave fantasy book and been over hyped to the point people think it's a real thing.
Course, this is merely my two cents on the matter. I could be wrong.
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If memory serves, most often the ones that hold ceremonies are Gorean, but not always. GOR is chuck full of ceremony and rituals. However, that shouldn't stop someone from having one if they so desire. There's no right or wrong way to do this thing that we do. There's no "rule book" as far as I know for BDSM... that's why we have to negotiate each relationship. 
I bought a "generic" collar to use with a sub years ago, but it wasn't a special collar. I got it because I liked how it looked and he liked how it looked. There wasn't any ceremony or commitment significance to it. I guess you could say it was more of a scene prop. I've since used that collar with two other subs as part of what we do.
Two weeks ago my slave and I were in bed cuddling after a play session. I heard him take a deep breath and he had an almost scared look on his face. He told me that he wanted his own collar, one that was bought for him, that no one else had worn for me. He was so sweet it brought tears to my eyes.
We went up to San Fran the next day to find him a collar. We made an adventure out of it, going to different leather shops and looking at new toys and accessories. We finally found the right collar, in the right color and size, and I bought a set of matching suspension cuffs.
There was no ceremony, but when we got in the car to drive home, I put the collar on him and gave him a kiss. He had the biggest smile on his face.
He wears the collar around the house, and when we play, and whenever he wants to feel near to me.
We didn't need a ceremony, somehow what we did felt right.
Two weeks ago my slave and I were in bed cuddling after a play session. I heard him take a deep breath and he had an almost scared look on his face. He told me that he wanted his own collar, one that was bought for him, that no one else had worn for me. He was so sweet it brought tears to my eyes.
We went up to San Fran the next day to find him a collar. We made an adventure out of it, going to different leather shops and looking at new toys and accessories. We finally found the right collar, in the right color and size, and I bought a set of matching suspension cuffs.
There was no ceremony, but when we got in the car to drive home, I put the collar on him and gave him a kiss. He had the biggest smile on his face.
He wears the collar around the house, and when we play, and whenever he wants to feel near to me.
We didn't need a ceremony, somehow what we did felt right.
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I'm very unceremonial. The relationships are special, the collar is just hot. The stories behind acquiring them are kind of like Fauna's story. I pick a color and a style because I like them on the person, it feels special and nice in a symbolic way. But I don't have anyone in one 24/7, it's just a little too hard to use obvious neck jewelry with men in suit jobs without it looking like a mafia movie.
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You always make me giggle with your posts Netz. I absolutely love that last line! I also couldn't agree with you more about being very unceremonial. I wear a collar daily but I picked mine out and Daddy just sort of put it on me. I've actually had several different ones since he and I started the D/s portion of our relationship, but that doesn't change the way I feel about him. I just need a change in my "jewelry" from time to time... I'm such a girl.
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As I understand it, a collaring ceramony can be as elaborate or simple as one wants it to be. In some cases it can be the marriage equivilant for BDSM. In others it can be something simple. Whenever I use to choose a new sub that was going to be with me for an extended period I would do a short ceremony. Large or small, it generally involves making promises to each other fallowed by the Dom placing the collar on the sub.
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i am both collared and married to my Master - and we do live a 24/7 TPE life - we are far from Gorean though
when Master collared me it was a very intimate moment - there was no "ceremony" as such - just the two of us together in a room lit with firelight and candles - and that was because that is how we usually light the room on winter evenings
we had discussed at great length the meaning of the collar - how it was in essence similar to a wedding ring and the responsibilities and rights each of us had once He collared me
it was very emotional because of the meaning and a night i will never forget but it was not ceremonial - just a personal intimate time - Master did ask me to answer some questions and then He put my collar on my throat
He never intended for me to wear it 24/7 - purely because it was not practical with family, friends and society as a whole but i was to wear it when we were alone together or when i was home alone
at that time also Master had His initials tattooed onto my hip to mark me as His property
we were married 6 months later - and in our wedding ceremony we made the traditional vows where i promised to love, honour and obey and He promised to love, honour and protect - and we also wrote our own vows - which were written to each other to clearly restate our Master/slave relationship
on our wedding day not only did Master give me the most beautiful wedding ring but also a slave bracelet which i have never taken off and never will - it is a simple circle of white gold with a clasp made from a circle to symbolise our M/s life
i have friends who have had very elaborate collaring ceremonies - but that was not how we did it
when Master collared me it was a very intimate moment - there was no "ceremony" as such - just the two of us together in a room lit with firelight and candles - and that was because that is how we usually light the room on winter evenings
we had discussed at great length the meaning of the collar - how it was in essence similar to a wedding ring and the responsibilities and rights each of us had once He collared me
it was very emotional because of the meaning and a night i will never forget but it was not ceremonial - just a personal intimate time - Master did ask me to answer some questions and then He put my collar on my throat
He never intended for me to wear it 24/7 - purely because it was not practical with family, friends and society as a whole but i was to wear it when we were alone together or when i was home alone
at that time also Master had His initials tattooed onto my hip to mark me as His property
we were married 6 months later - and in our wedding ceremony we made the traditional vows where i promised to love, honour and obey and He promised to love, honour and protect - and we also wrote our own vows - which were written to each other to clearly restate our Master/slave relationship
on our wedding day not only did Master give me the most beautiful wedding ring but also a slave bracelet which i have never taken off and never will - it is a simple circle of white gold with a clasp made from a circle to symbolise our M/s life
i have friends who have had very elaborate collaring ceremonies - but that was not how we did it
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