Wedding Panic

[Vermilion]

OK, is this just me being stupid and vain and un-self-confident, or did any other Brides to be completely freak out about their appearance before the wedding, to the point of hysteria?

I know this doesn't paint me in a great light, but I just feel so unprepared and not at all what a bride should look like. It doesn't help that my health is so damn poor at the moment, i feel like a big, stupid lump.

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[English Lady]

You're gorgeous, you're lovely and you will be a fantastic bride. *hugs*

 

[CharleyH]

OK, is this just me being stupid and vain and un-self-confident, or did any other Brides to be completely freak out about their appearance before the wedding, to the point of hysteria?

I know this doesn't paint me in a great light, but I just feel so unprepared and not at all what a bride should look like. It doesn't help that my health is so damn poor at the moment, i feel like a big, stupid lump.

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V

Congrats babe! I dunno, I am not freaked or nervous and my appearance is impending, but I have resigned myself to the fact that I am a reluctant crier. I will cry during the vows, no doubt, and no worries about it either. Breathe, BREATHE! JUST breathe, V! xox

 

[Vermilion]

Congrats babe! I dunno, I am not freaked or nervous and my appearance is impending, but I have resigned myself to the fact that I am a reluctant crier. I will cry during the vows, no doubt, and no worries about it either. Breathe, BREATHE! JUST breathe, V! xox

Yeah, the breathing is hard <takes deep breath>
ooh- that actually hurt. Guess I'm more tense even than I realise...
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[Anna_Malia75]

Worried what I looked like? My biggest worry was whether the groom would show up sober.

At least he showed up...

You'll be fine, love! A beautiful, blushing bride. Well, you do write for a porn site, so maybe "blushing" is going a little overboard.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

My advice sucks because you won't be able to follow it, but you just need to relax. Everything will be fine. You will be lovely, the ceremony will be great, and you will have a happy life with the man that you love.

 

[3113]

You will be considered the loveliest bride on Earth by those attending so long as the ceremony is reasonably short.

Honestly, you and I both know, there's only one person whose opinion really matters: your groom's opinion and I promise you...I promise!...he is going to take one look at you and (you won't remember this because you won't remember anything, but you'll see it on the video)...and one of three things will happen:

1) He'll mouth this "Wow!" over and over again in pure awe.
2) His eyes will glow and he'll grin in sheer delight and be unable to stop grinning.
3) He'll get teary-eyed with love and his best man will have to grip his shoulder to help him man-up before he starts to cry because you're so damn beautiful and he can't believe how lucky he is that this so damn beautiful woman is about to become his wife!

Possibly all the above will happen. But I promise you, it will happen. I've been to many a wedding, and even if bride and groom have taken pictures before hand, the appearance of the bride walking down the aisle, in that wedding dress with flowers in hand and hair all done up just blows the man away.

No matter what you look like in the mirror, to him you are going to be the most beautiful woman ever. The rest is gravy.

P.S. Remember to eat, and yes, it will go by in a flash and no, you won't remember anything. So just try to relax and enjoy.

 

[CharleyH]

Yeah, the breathing is hard <takes deep breath>
ooh- that actually hurt. Guess I'm more tense even than I realise...
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Look on my thread regarding SILLY LOVE SONGS! It's all about, well, I hope just silly!

 

[Zeb_Carter]

What 3 said in triplicate. A groom, husband to be, has never looked upon the women he is about to marry and thought her to be nothing but the most beautiful woman on the planet.

I know when my wife was walking down the aisles I was absolutely speechless I was so in awe of her beauty. She was so happy that day she forgot to breath and almost passed out. She was crying so hard she could barely repeat her part of the vows. She was beautiful, the most beautiful woman in the world to me.

So don't fret. You are a beautiful person already and once you are in that wedding dress walking down the aisles smiling at your husband to be, he will just be dumbfounded at the beautiful, gorgeous, delicate creature he is going to have standing at his side, until death do us part.

 

[Vermilion]

Thanks everyone - I know what you say make sense, but it's the photos I'm terrified of - I hate having my pic taken and am so worried that I'll be tuck with these vile photos of me looking all fat and idiotic (I look odd when caught freeze-framed whilt smiling) for the rest of my life.
Guess I'll just have to buck up, huh?

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[john-the-author]

OK, is this just me being stupid and vain and un-self-confident, or did any other Brides to be completely freak out about their appearance before the wedding, to the point of hysteria?

I know this doesn't paint me in a great light, but I just feel so unprepared and not at all what a bride should look like. It doesn't help that my health is so damn poor at the moment, i feel like a big, stupid lump.

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V

Yes, this is par for the course.

Also remember that no wedding ever started on time, ever. Just make sure it's not hours late.

 

[rgraham666]

…one of three things will happen:

1) He'll mouth this "Wow!" over and over again in pure awe.
2) His eyes will glow and he'll grin in sheer delight and be unable to stop grinning.
3) He'll get teary-eyed with love and his best man will have to grip his shoulder to help him man-up before he starts to cry because you're so damn beautiful and he can't believe how lucky he is that this so damn beautiful woman is about to become his wife!

3 nailed it.

You'll be cool. No worries.

 

[3113]

I hate having my pic taken and am so worried that I'll be tuck with these vile photos of me looking all fat and idiotic

You won't be stuck with any such things. That's what photoshop is for

 

[voluptuary_manque]

You won't be stuck with any such things. That's what photoshop is for

And may I point out one reason why you, and most other women, hate your own photographs? The image you see is reversed so you think that somehow it is all wrong. It's not. The photo is reality. What you're used to is what you see in the morning when you brush out all that gorgeous hair and that's the incorrect, reversed image. What you're used to isn't what you really look like, at all. Take deep breaths, smile, you will be absolutely lovely and everyone will tell you so. Including me and I won't even be there.



Good thing, too. I shed like crazy!

 

[SeaCat]

When I was married to my wife it was an absolute nightmare.

My Mother in Law took over and everything went according to her plans. My wife was dressed in this simple, stupid looking dress that didn't even fit her. The official was a J.P. her mother had picked at random from the phone book. There were maybe 20 people there, all were her mothers friends. My wife also had Larybgitis due to a cold.

We suffered through this with her brother taking the pictures.

As far as I was concerned my wife was the most beautiful woman in the world. (I still feel that way.)

Then we scrammed. We headed south intent on getting to our apartment. We were intercepted along the way by the Fire Department I belonged to as well as Locla Law Enforcement. We were escorted by an Engine and 2 Cruisers to my parents house where we were married again in a German Ceremony.

At this wedding my bride wore my Mothers Wedding Dress modified to fit her. At this ceremony we were married by the Fire Department Chaplain. At this ceremony we were attended by the entire department as well as most of my family and our friends. My wife wouldn't have been able to talk even if she didn't have a cold, she was completely floored. Once again my wife was the most beautiful woman in the world.

A wedding can be an absolute nightmare and yet the bride is still beautiful even if she doesn't feel that way.

Take a deep breath and remember, it isn't the wedding but what it symbolizes.

Cat

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

I had the most beautiful wedding dress in the world... but I look at the pictures and think: Damn, those glasses are huge!

 

[fifty5]

OK, ... etc. ...

V, you're a woman. To you, you'll never be as beautiful as you want to be, but you are wrong. To everyone else there, you'll be absolutely perfect. Believe me - and everyone else - we have the outside perspective!

Relax and enjoy!

 

[voluptuary_manque]

V, you're a woman. To you, you'll never be as beautiful as you want to be, but you are wrong. To everyone else there, you'll be absolutely perfect. Believe me - and everyone else - we have the outside perspective!

Relax and enjoy!

Good advice from another wise old head. Believe, V, believe.

 

[Vermilion]

You lot bowl me over with your kindness and care for a silly, hysterical woman. I wish there was some way all my Lit friend could be there with me on the day.
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[scheherazade_79]

Thanks everyone - I know what you say make sense, but it's the photos I'm terrified of - I hate having my pic taken and am so worried that I'll be tuck with these vile photos of me looking all fat and idiotic (I look odd when caught freeze-framed whilt smiling) for the rest of my life.
Guess I'll just have to buck up, huh?

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V

You will look absolutely beautiful. I know that for a fact

Just relax and treat it as one day of your life that revolves completely around you.

 

[PublicAffection]

OK, is this just me being stupid and vain and un-self-confident, or did any other Brides to be completely freak out about their appearance before the wedding, to the point of hysteria?

I know this doesn't paint me in a great light, but I just feel so unprepared and not at all what a bride should look like. It doesn't help that my health is so damn poor at the moment, i feel like a big, stupid lump.

x
V

I am also such a bride. I've got 31 days left, and all I can think about is slimming down just a wee bit to look better for the photos.

I am apparantly imagining "backfat" that isn't a problem. But oh well. It has inspired me to start working out and eat better, if only for the next 31 days!

PM me if you need another bride-to-be to vent to. I'm right there with you!

 

[TheeGoatPig]

You lot bowl me over with your kindness and care for a silly, hysterical woman. I wish there was some way all my Lit friend could be there with me on the day.
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Webcam!

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

You're gorgeous, you're lovely and you will be a fantastic bride. *hugs*

That's what I was gonna say.

And the answer to your question is "all of them."

Relax. Savor.

 

[NoJo]

Pretty much every week I go to a wedding -- no, not to crash it, to play in a dance band. So I see about 50 brides a year. And I can tell one thing they almost all have in common: They're beautiful. About half of them are nervous and beautiful, the other half are serene and beautiful. But they're all gorgeous. I'd like to fuck every one of them, only of course that would be absultely terrible for business and a very poor show, so I don't.

 

[evanslily]

I agree with everyone else, I think you'll look beautiful. Like Sub Joe said, it's pretty rare to see a bride who isn't beautiful. And don't worry about the photos. Any wedding photographer worth his or her salt will know exactly how to get the best out of you. My wedding photos are among the only ones taken of me that I actually like.

Oh, and be prepared for your face to ache from smiling all day. Seriously