What are your marriage laws like?

[the captians wench]

Okay, I'm bored, and don't have a whole lot of energy after the extreamly long and stressful week I've had, so I started diving into Irish law again.

On a whim, I googled "marriage laws in Ireland" and found some really neat sites on the subject, along with the government sites. In my reading I've found out (unless I'm miss-reading something) that even if you are an Irish citizen marrying an Irish citizen, you have to register for a marriage licence three months in advance! All of the arangements must be planed and set in stone as you have to show those as proof of your date.

This is totally different from the Friday morning call of "hey you wanna get married today" and then the 4pm cerimony I had the first time around.

When talking to mom about this, her first question was, "huh...I wonder what their devorce rate is?"

So this got me to thinking, what are marriage laws like in other countries? Is some sort of waiting period standard? Do you have to prove that you are following all of the rites of your religious ceremony? (I'm guessing that means that if you are having a catholic cerimony you are either catholic, or have converted, which if I remember right that means going thru a first comunion?) Is it just the states that have these spur of the moment weddings, or is Ireland the one making things difficult (as usual, sorry Love but you know it's true)?

Cat, you got married in a different country than you were born and raised in. Did you find any of the marriage laws of your new country odd?

 

[kinkyknickers]

A minimum of one month and no more than six months notice to marry in Australia.
You have to be at least 18 years of age to marry without parental or guardian consent, a person of the age off 16 or 17 cannot marry a person under the age of 18, even with consent.

And apparently you still aren't allowed to marry someone if they have the same type of plumbing as you. How very archaic.

 

[the captians wench]

A minimum of one month and no more than six months notice to marry in Australia.
You have to be at least 18 years of age to marry without parental or guardian consent, a person of the age off 16 or 17 cannot marry a person under the age of 18, even with consent.

And apparently you still aren't allowed to marry someone if they have the same type of plumbing as you. How very archaic.

No spur of the moment wedding for you either then eh?

But a wedding deadline? so if you don't get married with in 6 months, do you have to re-aply?

 

[kinkyknickers]

No spur of the moment wedding for you either then eh?

But a wedding deadline? so if you don't get married with in 6 months, do you have to re-aply?

No, I'm pretty sure you turn into a pumpkin.......

 

[the captians wench]

No, I'm pretty sure you turn into a pumpkin.......

*giggles*

 

[intothewoods]

So, are there requirements involving the Catholic Church in Ireland? Just wondering.

As for the U.S., I find it hilarious that politicians are always referring to the sanctity of marriage, when you can enter into it without much preparation or foresight. Not that I want the government to require premarital counseling exactly. I'd just prefer politicans not pretend they actually care.

 

[JMohegan]

Wench! Are you engaged?

 

[the captians wench]

So, are there requirements involving the Catholic Church in Ireland? Just wondering.

As for the U.S., I find it hilarious that politicians are always referring to the sanctity of marriage, when you can enter into it without much preparation or foresight. Not that I want the government to require premarital counseling exactly. I'd just prefer politicans not pretend they actually care.

What I read more said something about meeting the religous requirements of a particular religion in order to have a religous cerimony recognized as legally binding. Be it catholic, jewish, muslim, what have you.

Wench! Are you engaged?

No unless "I can do that" as an answer to a half drunken and jokingly asked question from me counts as a proposal. More just exploring the options and what requirements each option...um...requires. *giggles*

(psss....JM I'm trying to move to Ireland, and from what I've read looking into the laws getting married seems to ease the transition a hell of a lot, hence the search into marriage laws. Don't start writing save the date cards yet. )

 

[JMohegan]

No unless "I can do that" as an answer to a half drunken and jokingly asked question from me counts as a proposal. More just exploring the options and what requirements each option...um...requires. *giggles*

(psss....JM I'm trying to move to Ireland, and from what I've read looking into the laws getting married seems to ease the transition a hell of a lot, hence the search into marriage laws. Don't start writing save the date cards yet. )

Ah, okay. Thanks, Wench.

 

[Netzach]

Okay, I'm bored, and don't have a whole lot of energy after the extreamly long and stressful week I've had, so I started diving into Irish law again.

On a whim, I googled "marriage laws in Ireland" and found some really neat sites on the subject, along with the government sites. In my reading I've found out (unless I'm miss-reading something) that even if you are an Irish citizen marrying an Irish citizen, you have to register for a marriage licence three months in advance! All of the arangements must be planed and set in stone as you have to show those as proof of your date.

This is totally different from the Friday morning call of "hey you wanna get married today" and then the 4pm cerimony I had the first time around.

When talking to mom about this, her first question was, "huh...I wonder what their devorce rate is?"

So this got me to thinking, what are marriage laws like in other countries? Is some sort of waiting period standard? Do you have to prove that you are following all of the rites of your religious ceremony? (I'm guessing that means that if you are having a catholic cerimony you are either catholic, or have converted, which if I remember right that means going thru a first comunion?) Is it just the states that have these spur of the moment weddings, or is Ireland the one making things difficult (as usual, sorry Love but you know it's true)?

Cat, you got married in a different country than you were born and raised in. Did you find any of the marriage laws of your new country odd?

Can you divorce in Ireland? I don't think for a very long while that you even could.

 

[FurryFury]

Where I currently live, if you say that you are married, say to registar at a hotel or something, you are.



If you live together too long you are.



Only if you are gay are you not "default married" it seems.



No blood test is required these days. JOP is quick and easy. Church weddings are complicated and stressful.

 

[the captians wench]

Can you divorce in Ireland? I don't think for a very long while that you even could.

Dunno. Didn't even think to look into that. Tho how many people go into a marriage looking into divorce?

 

[FurryFury]

Dunno. Didn't even think to look into that. Tho how many people go into a marriage looking into divorce?

Hopefully most.

Marriage was created by men and for men but smart folks look at the possible endings and how to make all possible outcomes as positive as possible.

 

[the captians wench]

Hopefully most.

Marriage was created by men and for men but smart folks look at the possible endings and how to make all possible outcomes as positive as possible.

I just don't see the point in entering into marriage with the thoughts of it's end. Why bother? *shrug* maybe it's a romantic and nieve notion on my part, but when I say forever I mean it and don't consider the end. I was that way the first time, and I'll be that way the next I'm sure.

 

[FurryFury]

I just don't see the point in entering into marriage with the thoughts of it's end. Why bother? *shrug* maybe it's a romantic and nieve notion on my part, but when I say forever I mean it and don't consider the end. I was that way the first time, and I'll be that way the next I'm sure.

Because you are an intelligent adult individual who is going to be responsible and look out after herself. Aren't you divorced already? Do you really need this explained to you?

 

[graceanne]

In Oregon you have to wait three days.

 

[the captians wench]

Because you are an intelligent adult individual who is going to be responsible and look out after herself. Aren't you divorced already? Do you really need this explained to you?

I understand the logic behind it, furry, but it just seems wrong to me. My divorce was forced on me, it wasn't something I wanted, and so I took no responsibility in making it happen. He had to do everything if he wanted it to happen.

Maybe it's not fair to him, maybe it's irresponsible on my part, but I just feel like looking into the end voids the meaning behind its begining.

Because this is how I feel, it's probably the main reason why I'm trying to avoid *having* to get married before I move there.

 

[FurryFury]

*HUG*

I understand, I truly do but I'm always the responsible one cleaning up and divorce is often a good thing, it truly is.

I always think about what would happen if he died or we divorced, not because I expect that to happen, the divorce part, but because I like to think and plan in my mind.

I've had a lot of losses.

BTW, I have to say your attitude about this reminds me of my mother's about condoms. She thinks if you plan ahead and have them you planned ahead for sex and therefore aren't "good, romantic or spontaneous." I think that's rather disasterious "romantic" thinking myself.

*shrug*

 

[the captians wench]

*HUG*

I understand, I truly do but I'm always the responsible one cleaning up and divorce is often a good thing, it truly is.

I always think about what would happen if he died or we divorced, not because I expect that to happen, the divorce part, but because I like to think and plan in my mind.

I've had a lot of losses.

I understand that it can be, mine wasn't the worst thing to happen to me. But I put death in a different catagory, still not one I can plan out with out working myself into a frizzy.

I don't do anythng lightly, and trust me my next marriage won't be entered into as hurriedly as my first one was.

 

[Lady_Midnight]

Can you divorce in Ireland? I don't think for a very long while that you even could.

Divorce is possible in Ireland, since around the mid-90's I think.

 

[FurryFury]

I understand that it can be, mine wasn't the worst thing to happen to me. But I put death in a different catagory, still not one I can plan out with out working myself into a frizzy.

I don't do anythng lightly, and trust me my next marriage won't be entered into as hurriedly as my first one was.

Sounds good!

My first divorce was messy but it was a good thing!

I won't work myself into a frenzy. I stop myself before I do that but I do think about how I would cope and get by financially and things like that.

To me death is just another way of leaving. Yes, I have issues!

 

[the captians wench]

Sounds good!

My first divorce was messy but it was a good thing!

I won't work myself into a frenzy. I stop myself before I do that but I do think about how I would cope and get by financially and things like that.

To me death is just another way of leaving. Yes, I have issues!

LOL I think we all do!

Getting divorced for me was almost as easy as getting married. We split 3 years earlier, so all assets and everything were already divided. Sign here, here and here. Meet on this date and answer the questions, sign here, and lunch at noon.

 

[FurryFury]

LOL I think we all do!

Getting divorced for me was almost as easy as getting married. We split 3 years earlier, so all assets and everything were already divided. Sign here, here and here. Meet on this date and answer the questions, sign here, and lunch at noon.

Nothing about my first divorce was easy until he died because I was stupid enough to have a child with him.

But, it was the best thing for all of us. Well, maybe not him. LOL But for me and my daughter it was the best thing. I sometimes wonder if I shouldn't have gone underground with her though.

Anyway, you don't sound too keen on marriage.

 

[the captians wench]

Nothing about my first divorce was easy until he died because I was stupid enough to have a child with him.

But, it was the best thing for all of us. Well, maybe not him. LOL But for me and my daughter it was the best thing. I sometimes wonder if I shouldn't have gone underground with her though.

Anyway, you don't sound too keen on marriage.

To be perfectly honest the prospect scares me a bit at the moment. Even tho my divorce was "easy" I do not intend to go thru that again.

My mom, who doesn't want me to get married and move away mind you, is kind of pushing me towards it tho. She doesn't understand what the difference is in moving there and the commitment that takes and getting married.

We still have a lot of exploring to do when we see each other in October. I just want to have all of the facts for what ever we decide. Part of me still thinks he'll change his mind once he's lived with me for a week and a half.

 

[FurryFury]

To be perfectly honest the prospect scares me a bit at the moment. Even tho my divorce was "easy" I do not intend to go thru that again.

My mom, who doesn't want me to get married and move away mind you, is kind of pushing me towards it tho. She doesn't understand what the difference is in moving there and the commitment that takes and getting married.

We still have a lot of exploring to do when we see each other in October. I just want to have all of the facts for what ever we decide. Part of me still thinks he'll change his mind once he's lived with me for a week and a half.

Marriage again scared me too but I couldn't give less to a more deserving man if he wanted it. KMIM?

As a Mom I'd be scared too but I would NOT be pushing marriage regardless.

Now, see, you are being responsible and looking into things! Good for you!