Strap-on experiences

Well my wife are just new into exploring strap-on play and I really want her to be able to cum from it. Right now we are using the new-cummers kit and the dildo is quite small and there is also a velvety cloth between it and her, so while she gets "some" stimulation, it's not enough to make her cum. We've ordered the nexus jr and the feeldoe and they should arrive in a week or two, and hopefully they will do the trick.. but..

I was wondering if you could share some tips from a female point of view. How to position the dildo/harness to get maximum pleasure for the wearer. Which positions are the best. We're both young and fairly fit so we could try a good few. Also do you mind my asking which dildo/harness do you use? We've ordered a couple of ones with the dildos including one that has an option for vibrator bullets.

Will be grateful for any info!


This is the strap on harness I use (have owned several types over the last 20plus years): http://www.stockroom.com/KinkLab-Low-Rise-Leather-Strap-On-P2814.aspx

You can switch out the o ring which allows you to change the size of the dildo (for those size queens). There isn't any padding between the dildo and the woman's pubic bone area so basically it is just the matter of finding a comfortable spot. Having a dildo that has "balls" can add extra stimulation. My current dildo is 9 inches long and 2 inch width - not exactly your beginner dildo. Positions really depend on height differences and physicality of each person. I am only 5'4 and I have arthritis so no being on my knees - so for me it is easier to have my partner laying crosswise on the bed so I can stand. He/she can be ass up with pillow under the tummy, can be on the back with knees pushed up or wrapped around me - either way allows me to play and stroke deep. I also like to be ridden once in awhile which allows my partner to have the control. Also if you decide you want to suck her cock, you can always finger her or use the vibrator if she wants. Lots of gender bending type possibilities!

I would say most women would prefer the nexus type set up or the ability to use the bullet in order to orgasm. Enjoy your new purchases! :)
 
This is the strap on harness I use (have owned several types over the last 20plus years): http://www.stockroom.com/KinkLab-Low-Rise-Leather-Strap-On-P2814.aspx

You can switch out the o ring which allows you to change the size of the dildo (for those size queens). There isn't any padding between the dildo and the woman's pubic bone area so basically it is just the matter of finding a comfortable spot. Having a dildo that has "balls" can add extra stimulation. My current dildo is 9 inches long and 2 inch width - not exactly your beginner dildo. Positions really depend on height differences and physicality of each person. I am only 5'4 and I have arthritis so no being on my knees - so for me it is easier to have my partner laying crosswise on the bed so I can stand. He/she can be ass up with pillow under the tummy, can be on the back with knees pushed up or wrapped around me - either way allows me to play and stroke deep. I also like to be ridden once in awhile which allows my partner to have the control. Also if you decide you want to suck her cock, you can always finger her or use the vibrator if she wants. Lots of gender bending type possibilities!

I would say most women would prefer the nexus type set up or the ability to use the bullet in order to orgasm. Enjoy your new purchases! :)

Thanks so much for sharing! We'll definately give some(more likely all) of this a try
 
can't wait for a comparison between the feeldoe and nexus!

Well my wife are just new into exploring strap-on play and I really want her to be able to cum from it. Right now we are using the new-cummers kit and the dildo is quite small and there is also a velvety cloth between it and her, so while she gets "some" stimulation, it's not enough to make her cum. We've ordered the nexus jr and the feeldoe and they should arrive in a week or two, and hopefully they will do the trick.. but..

I was wondering if you could share some tips from a female point of view. How to position the dildo/harness to get maximum pleasure for the wearer. Which positions are the best. We're both young and fairly fit so we could try a good few. Also do you mind my asking which dildo/harness do you use? We've ordered a couple of ones with the dildos including one that has an option for vibrator bullets.

Will be grateful for any info!

check out the feeldoe group to search for solutions to how to manage your feeldoe
 
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This is the strap on harness I use (have owned several types over the last 20plus years): http://www.stockroom.com/KinkLab-Low-Rise-Leather-Strap-On-P2814.aspx

You can switch out the o ring which allows you to change the size of the dildo (for those size queens). There isn't any padding between the dildo and the woman's pubic bone area so basically it is just the matter of finding a comfortable spot. Having a dildo that has "balls" can add extra stimulation. My current dildo is 9 inches long and 2 inch width - not exactly your beginner dildo. Positions really depend on height differences and physicality of each person. I am only 5'4 and I have arthritis so no being on my knees - so for me it is easier to have my partner laying crosswise on the bed so I can stand. He/she can be ass up with pillow under the tummy, can be on the back with knees pushed up or wrapped around me - either way allows me to play and stroke deep. I also like to be ridden once in awhile which allows my partner to have the control. Also if you decide you want to suck her cock, you can always finger her or use the vibrator if she wants. Lots of gender bending type possibilities!

I would say most women would prefer the nexus type set up or the ability to use the bullet in order to orgasm. Enjoy your new purchases! :)


Hi ! I just found this web site www.babes n horny.com which though in London has alot of strapons harnesses etc etc. Check it out. A lady friend from another site recommended it and said she loved the strapon she got from it!! I will try to get her to post on here in the mean time check it out!


Kierae and any other ladies/couples out there please let me know what you think?

ES
 
some interesting choices ES on that site - I can't say any of the harnesses appealed to me but then again I like the sturdiness of my current one. Plus being the UK and our lovely dollar tanking...

I do adore the multi colored dildos they have though - those rock!
 
some interesting choices ES on that site - I can't say any of the harnesses appealed to me but then again I like the sturdiness of my current one. Plus being the UK and our lovely dollar tanking...

I do adore the multi colored dildos they have though - those rock!

Cool and thanks for your thoughts!

Yes the dollar does suck here....I am off to dinner now and it will cost me about $35.00 and that is a casual dinner.

I did like the mutilcolored one alot too...I hope to get my friend to give her thoughts about the one she bought soon...

www.babes-n-horny.com is the site for others interested I did not get it completely correct.

ES
 
This continues to be a favorite fantasy.

When simple play just isn't enough I treat myself to a 6" dildo and some extended play.
 
So.... our nexus jr. arrived a couple of days ago along with our new harness and bullet vibe. When I first opened the box and took it out and looked at it I had to gasp, it looked obscenely big (which it isn't really compared to some of the pics of strapons I've seen out there). I left the box lying in the bedroom, open, but knew we wouldn't have time for it till the weekend. This was on Tuesday. The Mrs. saw it and seemed to have the same initial reaction as me.

Fast forward to thursday night and she gets home pretty late from work and we go out to dinner, but not before she teases me with some very hot kisses. We had a really nice, romantic candle light dinner, and just spent some time together talking about our day. By the time we got home it was near to 10pm and needless to say I wasn't expecting anything.

We began our nightly routines of going to bed and my wife took a shower. She looked so hot coming out that I couldn't resist, and I had to go and kiss her soft back and smooth neck. This obviously led to other things and we ended up on the bed, missionary style. After only fifteen or so minutes of vigorous love making she came and was begging me to cum inside her. At which point I had an idea, and told her I was going to use the new toys on her. She was a little hesitant but acceeded to my request.

I started by turning on the bullet vibe and massaging it gently against her clitoris. Tonight was a night of MANY firsts as we have never used a vibrator before. She liked the sensation of it and soon relaxed. I then took our smaller pink dildo and applied generous lube to it. It slipped in effortlessly and I started to pump her with it while still massaging her clitty with the vibe. She took it in turn to also hold the vibe and play with the dildo. Then it was time for the nexus and she was a little bit apprehensive as we are very new to dildo play.

Lots of lube again and I asked her to keep playing with the vibe on her clit to keep her mind occupied. Again it went in surprisingly easy. I took it very slowly and worked it gradually into her, making sure she was not feeling any pain along the way and applying more lube as need be. She doesn't have any problems getting wet but I wanted to use extra lube just to make it as easy as possible for her. Soon she was holding the other end of the dildo with both hands and pumping it vigorously in and out of herself, clearly having a very good time of it.

Emboldened by my success I took the harness and slipped it on her. She stood up, holding the nexus within her I helped her to secure the harness to a snug fit and slipped the bullet vibe into the inside pocket positioned against her clit. I asked her how it felt and she said that it was a new sensation that was nice but she was still getting used to it.

Being the total slut that I am, I started to suck on the dildo and she responded by fucking my mouth with it, clearly enjoying the blowjob. After a few minutes she told me to stand up. We kissed a little and she asked me if I was ready. I have to be honest, I was a little nervous and scared, as I've never taken anything this big before. But, like a proper whore I put a pillow on the edge of the bed and straddled it. She lubed up the dong and I could feel her pushing it between my butt cheeks till she found my hole. She pushed it in and for a second I thought I was going to burst.

'Baby, please go slow,' I begged her. She did, but it was still too much. She asked if I wanted her to pull out, and I said yes and she did. But I still wanted to get fucked so I begged her to go again. She applied more lube and went in again, but this time I asked her to just hold it in me to give me a few moments to get used to it. She slowly worked it inside me, inching it in and holding it for a few seconds before going further. Within a few minutes she was buried to the hilt. Once she was sure I was more comfortable she started to slowly thrust back and forth inside me.

Any initial discomfort I had soon dissapeared and I was moaning and begging her to fuck her little bitch which she happily obliged. She gave it to me hard and fast, reaching around to squeeze my nipples. I loved every moment of it and didn't want it to stop and kept egging her on. 'Is that all you got? Fuck me harder if you can. Use me for your pleasure. Use my man cunt for your own pleasure baby.'

She was not only thrusting in and out of me but also grinding side to side against me and I could her her moaning softly as she got more and more into it. Then something unexpected happened. She told me she was about to come. I couldn't believe it but at the same time I was ecstatic. My biggest fantasy for god knows how long hasn't just been to get fucked by a strap-on, but to have the woman doing the fucking be able to have an orgasm from it. This was our first time with a double ended dildo and since she had already come a few minutes ago, I didn't expect her to be able to come again so soon. I had just wanted her to get some pleasure from it. Nevertheless, her fucking became more intense and I could feel her body buck and shudder behind me. She rode me to and through her orgasm and never stopped. Then she told me to play with myself and come.

I didn't need to be told twice and as I begged her to fuck me more and harder and faster and pinch my nipples and bite my neck I came within seconds.

We talked about it afterwards. She said that she had been a little apprehensive about it before hand but had really loved it. It had felt a lot "nicer" than she had thought it would be. For my part, I'm still overjoyed and not completely over the fact that she was able to orgasm while doing me with the strapon, which shouldn't surprise me since she always cums when we have sex, and it was just a matter of finding the correct amount and kind of physical stimulation.

It's friday now and I have a feeling we are going to be using our new toy a lot more over the weekend.
 
So.... our nexus jr. arrived a couple of days ago along with our new harness and bullet vibe. When I first opened the box and took it out and looked at it I had to gasp, it looked obscenely big (which it isn't really compared to some of the pics of strapons I've seen out there). I left the box lying in the bedroom, open, but knew we wouldn't have time for it till the weekend. This was on Tuesday. The Mrs. saw it and seemed to have the same initial reaction as me.

She was not only thrusting in and out of me but also grinding side to side against me and I could her her moaning softly as she got more and more into it. Then something unexpected happened. She told me she was about to come. I couldn't believe it but at the same time I was ecstatic. My biggest fantasy for god knows how long hasn't just been to get fucked by a strap-on, but to have the woman doing the fucking be able to have an orgasm from it. This was our first time with a double ended dildo and since she had already come a few minutes ago, I didn't expect her to be able to come again so soon. I had just wanted her to get some pleasure from it. Nevertheless, her fucking became more intense and I could feel her body buck and shudder behind me. She rode me to and through her orgasm and never stopped. Then she told me to play with myself and come.

Awesome!! Now... can you find us some pics of the Nexus in use?? I posted a link to some pics from Strap Attack 8 on the feeldoe thread. I can't seem to get them here. LONG time since I've posted pics... sorry.

GREAT POST! Hope you find time to keep us up to the moment on all the fun you have!
 
this thread is so damn hot. i've had a fantasy now for a while of having a girl use a strap on on me but havent found someone into it yet but i really want to. i would love for her to make me suck on it first then fuck me while i get spanked and have my long hair pulled. im a straight guy but im all kinds of curious.
 
Awesome!! Now... can you find us some pics of the Nexus in use?? I posted a link to some pics from Strap Attack 8 on the feeldoe thread. I can't seem to get them here. LONG time since I've posted pics... sorry.

GREAT POST! Hope you find time to keep us up to the moment on all the fun you have!


I would like to take some pics too but for some wierd reason we've never bought a camera! We're always lazy about it. + I don't think the Mrs. would agree to posting pics... all in good time!
 
no nexus pics on the internet?

I would like to take some pics too but for some wierd reason we've never bought a camera! We're always lazy about it. + I don't think the Mrs. would agree to posting pics... all in good time!

So... she's not into... photography? I wasn't implying that you needed to post your own, but have you seen any pictures on the net??
 
Not for everyone...but definitely for me

I have had the pleasure of being taken by a strap-on "both" ways. The first time was a gentle, loving kind of play where we reversed roles. No real BDSM elements, just good lovemaking where I was the one being taken and she was doing the taking. This is a fun way to experience it, but not the only way.

The other way was a clear, straightforward situation where the lady was totally in charge, did whatever she wanted, and force me to submit to any and every desire in her mind. Let's say that I had a VERY good time. Usually, I am the top, but that only made things hotter as she let every little humiliation build up until she unleashed her frustrations onto me. The sense of power was thrilling for her and the sense of release, as I gave in to her power, was very erotic for me.

Strap-on play is not for everyone....but should be tried at least 3 times before you dedide to give it a pass. Me, I am looking for the right ladies who can let their inhibitions drop as they enjoy a somewhat kinkier-than-the-average-bear type of play. If you are interested in tall, rugged, Alaskan men....drop me a note.
 
It gets better and better

The wife and I have been exploring strapon play for about a year or so ever since I confessed to having been involved in a suckbuddy relationship with my best friend as a teenager. Although I consider myself fairly well endowed, my friend's cock was substantially larger and I learned to enjoy the sensation of taking it completely down my throat and swallowing his sperm. We got turned on to "pegging" after watching the 'Bend over Boyfriend"series of DVD's and began collecting dildos and butt plugs. At first we tried the feeldoe and nexus dildos, but I found them to be too small, considering my earlier experience so we then purchased the Jeff Stryker UR3 dildo which is 10" long and 2.25" in diameter! Wow! With patience and a lot of lube, my wife is able to shove it all the way up my ass while I am on my hands and knees, doggy style. The sensation of that immense cock sliding in and out of my ass is indescribably delicious, Even though her newest dildo is bigger than my friend's cock was, I can deep throat it with ease and I love the feeling when she holds my head and fucks my face as I do with her. The only thing missing is getting a mouthful of pungent semen to swallow. I guess you can't have it all.
 
Seems like i almost killed this thread by posting that link to my article. Sorry :eek:


subbie_333,

Do not take personal offense to the thread activity. This particular strap on thread moves and stops much like city traffic. It's not your post that causes that. All of the strap on threads have their own movement activity patterns. Which are, umm totally random! <grin>

I read your post and I have intentions of reading your article to give you the feedback you requested, but only on the parts I have knowledge or experience with. Would you prefer that information be exchanged via PM or out on the thread?

I hope that relieves your stress. Now for relieving my stress....

MissIntrigue
 
I read your post and I have intentions of reading your article to give you the feedback you requested, but only on the parts I have knowledge or experience with. Would you prefer that information be exchanged via PM or out on the thread?

i think that everyone would benefit from a discussion on the thread. In the article i discuss certain problems with different harness designs and materials. Perhaps others can chime in with funny/sad stories related to strap-on harness disasters. One time, in a discussion i had with a woman wanting to purchase one of the harnesses i make, she asked if it could handle one of those "fist" dildos, the type with the forearm and kinda pointy fist. *shudder* Knowing that i might hook up with her, the answer was "no". :eek:
 
so... you're passing up private communication?

i think that everyone would benefit from a discussion on the thread. In the article i discuss certain problems with different harness designs and materials. Perhaps others can chime in with funny/sad stories related to strap-on harness disasters. One time, in a discussion i had with a woman wanting to purchase one of the harnesses i make, she asked if it could handle one of those "fist" dildos, the type with the forearm and kinda pointy fist. *shudder* Knowing that i might hook up with her, the answer was "no". :eek:

I was going to complain that I wanted pm's... but if you don't want them, Miss Intrigue you can pm me all you want!
 
i think that everyone would benefit from a discussion on the thread.

Not to be the topic police, but no, this would not be the best thread for discussing your article. A new thread would be more appropriate, perhaps located in the BDSM forums.

If we go back to the OP for this thread, it's not asking about hardware used, so feel free to start a nice shiny new thread about your article and hardware used to strap-on fuck those willing participants.

Okay, I'll step down off the soap box now, I really didn't get up here on my own though ;) Okay, maybe I did.
 
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