Candle Play

[deviantdiva]

I'm in the process of contributing to a delightful, naughty sexy list called "How To Fuck With Your Head" for one of the websites I write for. Here's a little something I came up with for "Candles".


Before starting this exploration, it is highly recommended you shave your chest and pubic hair. Candle wax sticking to hair can be a bit of a nuisance during the removal phase.

This is a simple, meditative assignment that combines sensation play with orgasm control. All you need is a sturdy candle, like the kind encased in a jar (think candles in churches), and some sort of floor protector you can lie upon during this activity. You will want to do this assignment lying down on your back on a flat surface.

Taking the lit candle in your non-dominant hand, write out a positive word that describes you on your right thigh with the wax. Relax. Think about how this word defines you and how you embody it. Then take the candle again in your non-dominant hand and drip it over your left thigh, this time writing a more negative word you feel represents a personal trait of yours, perhaps this is a trait you wish to change.

Next, pour a line of wax from your left nipple down to your pubic area, but avoid dripping the wax onto your genitals. Then from your pubic region, pour a line of wax back up to your right nipple and across to your left nipple. You should have something resembling a triangle painted in wax across your body now.

Remaining on your back, with the candle in your non-dominant hand, begin to masturbate with your free hand. While doing this, you are to continue to drip wax onto your body, but only within the area you just outlined in a triangle shape. You are not allowed to stop dripping wax on yourself until you have an orgasm.

When cleaning yourself up, look at the words you wrote on your thighs. As you peel and wipe away the positive word, think about how this trait is embedded within you, a part of you. Be proud of yourself. As you remove the negative word, think about how you are erasing negativity and starting anew. No matter what we do in life, it's never too late to start again. We can't change the past, but we can affect what the future will bring.

(For additional resources, check out candle play/wax safety tips: http://vanilla-not.com/fetishlinks/wax.html)

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What are your thoughts on candle games? Care to share any experiences with this kind of play? Does something like the exploration above appeal to you? Why or why not?

I appreciate your feedback. Thanks!

 

[Homburg]

Please advise your readers on candle selection if you publish this. Go for cheap, soft candles, and, frankly, I would suggest soy candles. I would NOT suggest anything else for self-use because you will be holding the candle much closer to the body than a top would for waxplay.

 

[desertslave]

Plain paraffin candles are good too. Easy to find as 'shabbas candles' in many kosher food sections at the grocery store.

 

[Fuckette]

I would wait a day or two after shaving hair to play with candle wax.

 

[Homburg]

Plain paraffin candles are good too. Easy to find as 'shabbas candles' in many kosher food sections at the grocery store.

Paraffin is hotter than soy by quite a bit. Many people cannot stand paraffin at the sort of distances that a top would use. Trying to use it on yourself could easily result in burns. Given that this is presented as a suggestion of something to do, using hot candles (or even medium ones like paraffin) is a bad suggestion. I would suggest the coolest candles commonly available, and then append a note talking about how and when to move to hotter wax.

 

[nh23]

We use those little tea light candles. They are really cheap, and once he starts he can eventually get them close enough to my body that the flame is almost touching me and I've never been burned badly from them. I can't say it will be the same for everyone, but it works for me.

I like the article that you wrote. An interesting spin on wax play..

 

[desertslave]

Paraffin is hotter than soy by quite a bit. Many people cannot stand paraffin at the sort of distances that a top would use. Trying to use it on yourself could easily result in burns. Given that this is presented as a suggestion of something to do, using hot candles (or even medium ones like paraffin) is a bad suggestion. I would suggest the coolest candles commonly available, and then append a note talking about how and when to move to hotter wax.

Interesting! We've always used plain shabbas candles....no scents, no coloring. Or the wax for paraffin hand/foot baths in a pinch.

I've never seen soy candles (I know they're out there just don't know much about them), but I tend to shy away from most candle/gift shops because all the mixed scents trip me into breathing issues.

 

[Homburg]

Interesting! We've always used plain shabbas candles....no scents, no coloring. Or the wax for paraffin hand/foot baths in a pinch.

I've never seen soy candles (I know they're out there just don't know much about them), but I tend to shy away from most candle/gift shops because all the mixed scents trip me into breathing issues.

Paraffin for foot baths is a somewhat different animal than candle paraffin. Most people could handle the sort of heat you are talking about, but this is an article intended for general consumption, so my personal advice is start low and move up.

I'm with you on scented candles though. I learned the joys of soy candles, and how much burn shabbas candles could cause on a sensitive bottom, with MIS. We tried my typical cheap-ass "emergency candles" and they burned too hot. So, after MUCH searching in the small town we were in, found a soy candle. They had vanilla and lavender, and we chose vanilla. We both have issues with scents, but we are both okay with vanilla usually. Well, she was okay with it, but by the time I had her fully waxed, I could not get close to her without sneezing. I would scrape wax off with the knife (the only way I remove wax is via knife) until I had to sneeze, then wait for the sneezing to stop.

It was interestring to get her limp, unable to stand, orgasmed out self into the shower with me trying to keep her at arm's reach. She was crying because I was allergic to her, an dI was sneezing my fool head off. Not a fun ending.

Nowadays I just make my own. I got those votive candles like you see in the Hispanic food section of some grocery stores, and melted out the candle inside. Then I pour in soy candle wax flakes from the craft store, no scent. I toss them in a slow cooker about half full of water and wait. The temperature is just right, and they melt after a bit. You don't get the drips as easily, but you do get pours. And you can easily ad a wick if you want the normal candle drip. It's not tough to make soy candles like that.

 

[EmpressFi]

Plain paraffin candles are good too. Easy to find as 'shabbas candles' in many kosher food sections at the grocery store.

test them. I used shabbat candles when Master was here last, regular parafin, cheap ass candles.. and they burned my skin even held 2 feet over his head.. funny thing.. the travel candles from bath and body works were the best for us.. and left a wonderful lavendar scent

 

[deviantdiva]

Thanks for the compliment, nh, I appreicate that.

And thank you all for sharing your advice and experiences! Personally, I've used regular taper candles and have had them used on me as well (mostly on the breast/chest and stomach area) ....I enjoyed the sensations a lot and didn't have any adverse reaction. I think it's an important thing to note that anyone starting out with wax/candle play should do a test run on their wrist or inside of their arm just to be safe and gauge their tolerance level. I've also head that varying candle colors burn at different heat temperatures...which kinda makes sense. I believe I had success with the red and purple colored tapers, but others may have different experiences.

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

I've used tapers (red and purple too.. what a coincidence) with good results, both in self waxing (gotta test them on someone!!) and with another body. I found they peel off really easily and normally just use a fingernail to lift and my thumb pad to push them off totally. Makes a hell of a mess in the bathtub and I'm picking wax up for days afterwards.

I haven't tried this myself, but I know people who use one of those parafin baths and a ladle for their wax play.. presumably a non-metallic ladle to avoid burning the skin if you accidentally touch them with it.

I'm looking forward to experimenting more with this actually.

 

[mickyp123]

I've used tapers (red and purple too.. what a coincidence) with good results, both in self waxing (gotta test them on someone!!) and with another body. I found they peel off really easily and normally just use a fingernail to lift and my thumb pad to push them off totally. Makes a hell of a mess in the bathtub and I'm picking wax up for days afterwards.

I haven't tried this myself, but I know people who use one of those parafin baths and a ladle for their wax play.. presumably a non-metallic ladle to avoid burning the skin if you accidentally touch them with it.

I'm looking forward to experimenting more with this actually.

How about trying it on yourself, blindfolded...see how accurate you can get

 

[catalina_francisco]

This post from an older thread might provide you with some valuable info for those wanting more exact information.

Catalina

 

[licker4450]

I always prefer plain white candles sold at Dollartree. These are cheap thus burning at a lower temperature. I avoid scented and colored candles unless I know there submissive very well. Some can have alergic reactions to these.

 

[Fauna]

nice idea

Ivy, I liked how you used the positive and negative imagery for the candle wax on the legs. I'm not sure I could use my non-dominant hand to write anything. But, I think it would serve to make me more mindful of what I am writing and thinking. This is a definite assignment I could make to a sub to help him instill a positive thought.