first time sucking at age 36

marcmilten

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hello im married but have had some bi feelings for other men lately especailly after watching bi videos, so i actually acted out on it and answered a craigslist add in my area, where i explained to a guy that we had to wear condoms and that i was just trying it out on a fling sort of thing and that it was just sex fo me as i know i could never care for another guy etc, we watched porn while we stroked each other, he nelt over and began to suck my dick, i was really rock hard and then he backed off and we inner tangled our legs as he scooted his tail towards me his cock was really close to my face i sort of bent over and took his cock into my mouth and went up and down about 4-5 times, it really felt like a mucle to me and was no big deal, i came quickly and felt immense shame and got up and left, since then though when i get horny i think about it and i want to do it again but im afraid of being gay, i think its experment sex, i dont care for kissing men, i have no feelings for men or anything its just he sex thing what do i do should i worry about labels etc..
 
I wouldn't worry

I wouldn't worry about the label part. The one experience that I had with another male was when I was younger and we use to J/O each other and once I did suck on his cock for about a minute or two. He didn't cum into my mouth which I regret and we did continue to J/O each other after that. He also sucked on me for a little bit. Even though this has been years ago I still have a strong desire to go to bed with another man. I would love to try it all at least once but hopefully more. The terms straight, Gay, or Bi are just words. I feel that if you want to experiment with sex with another man go for it. I think that you should experiment as much as you want and if enjoy the pleasure that it has given you, keep experimenting. Don't feel shame because of it enjoy it for what it is.


hello im married but have had some bi feelings for other men lately especailly after watching bi videos, so i actually acted out on it and answered a craigslist add in my area, where i explained to a guy that we had to wear condoms and that i was just trying it out on a fling sort of thing and that it was just sex fo me as i know i could never care for another guy etc, we watched porn while we stroked each other, he nelt over and began to suck my dick, i was really rock hard and then he backed off and we inner tangled our legs as he scooted his tail towards me his cock was really close to my face i sort of bent over and took his cock into my mouth and went up and down about 4-5 times, it really felt like a mucle to me and was no big deal, i came quickly and felt immense shame and got up and left, since then though when i get horny i think about it and i want to do it again but im afraid of being gay, i think its experment sex, i dont care for kissing men, i have no feelings for men or anything its just he sex thing what do i do should i worry about labels etc..
 
Hon', wanting cock doesn't make you gay! To me (personal opinion only here), it takes much more than a physical want from the same sex to make you gay. If you have no mental/emotional attachments to men in general or even a specific man, you are so NOT gay! You're just broadening your viewpoints of what you like sexually! There's SO many women out there who wish their men were as open-minded as you are. And SO many men who want their women to be accepting of men wanting cock.

You are no more gay then my husband--who also loves toys/cock but will always consider pussy his first love, lol. He doesn't want to kiss, cuddle, snugglebunny, make love or any of that with a guy--just suck and fuck! That is incredibly erotic to me. I encourage it and look forward to witnessing it happen. I have no worries whatsoever about him becoming gay; he and I have been married 17 years, have 4 kids, and an amazing sex life with even just the 2 of us.

BUT... a word of warning here! For God's sake, don't go sneaking around behind your wife's back if you can help it! Broach her on the subject, see if she's at all turned on by it, and can encourage or join you. Sneaking could seriously end your marriage!

 
Hon', wanting cock doesn't make you gay! To me (personal opinion only here), it takes much more than a physical want from the same sex to make you gay. If you have no mental/emotional attachments to men in general or even a specific man, you are so NOT gay! You're just broadening your viewpoints of what you like sexually! There's SO many women out there who wish their men were as open-minded as you are. And SO many men who want their women to be accepting of men wanting cock.

You are no more gay then my husband--who also loves toys/cock but will always consider pussy his first love, lol. He doesn't want to kiss, cuddle, snugglebunny, make love or any of that with a guy--just suck and fuck! That is incredibly erotic to me. I encourage it and look forward to witnessing it happen. I have no worries whatsoever about him becoming gay; he and I have been married 17 years, have 4 kids, and an amazing sex life with even just the 2 of us.

BUT... a word of warning here! For God's sake, don't go sneaking around behind your wife's back if you can help it! Broach her on the subject, see if she's at all turned on by it, and can encourage or join you. Sneaking could seriously end your marriage!


you gotta alucky husband.....most women are NOT open to everything like you are.
 
you gotta alucky husband.....most women are NOT open to everything like you are.

so true... my exgf thought sex toys for men was disgusting. That was the tip of the iceberg. When we started living together I got rid of my anal toys being afraid she would find them one day while I was at work.

you guessed it. When we finally broke up you know I ran out and bought a new anal toy.
 
I wouldn't call it gay if you're not actually attracted to him, but only to the sex. I don't know. That's just me.
 
hello
i would not worry about labels. just because you feel like sucking a cock every now and then does not make you gay even if you are married. if i was a guy i would want one in my mouth from time to time also! I have to say i am jealous my husband and i have been trying out the craigs list thing for about 2 weeks now my guy wants to have a nice hard cock in his mouth for the first time, and i want him too also. i know he is not gay. this is just something that we both think about and makes us really hot. sex is sex make it fun. maybe you should bring it up to your wife you never know. it just might get her excited.
 
I totally agree with what everyone else said.

I love pussy and I enjoy sucking a cock every now and then. I don't consider myself to be gay... just open to erotic adventure.
 
I totally agree with what everyone else said.

I love pussy and I enjoy sucking a cock every now and then. I don't consider myself to be gay... just open to erotic adventure.

i find both sex,s enticing and what ever you enjoy is ok
 
1 fallen angel

Hey one fallen I can't believe I never saw you guys on craigs I was looking for a couple/guy with woman who wanted to watch.
 
not to worry

reduce the stress and forget the labels, it took me awhile to admit to myself that I am bi and it is OK to have desires that are taboo for straight guys, if you were raised with any religion in your family at all a big time sin - & still is - forget that and be yourself...I have not acted on the desires but the guilt part is gone, I am who I am, I am married with kids, white picket fence, good job, etc...and I have the desire to give blowjobs and get fucked in the ass, I have not come out to family, only to 2 friends that I can trust, if I ever do it, great, if not, it's OK too. I would be cautious about doing it behind your wife's back, that can only add to the guilt. It is done though so let go of it and move on. I am envious in one respect, I have wanted to do it, but fear stops me.....
 
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i have only had a couple of experiences of sucking cock,neither of which were totally satisfactory.i urgently need to improve!anyone willing to be a test-dummy so to speak?!
 
Screw the labels! Do whatever feels good and let it be!

Be careful and try it again...I'm in the same boat...I was actively BI years back, but then got married and gave it up..I had one encounter since then, but I'm looking for another SAFE encounter!

I always say if it feels good...DO IT!

Good luck! (btw, you don't happen to be in the Harrisburg/Hershey, PA area do you? If so pm me and we can have some fun!) woo hoo!
 
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I'm with you. I'm straight but I'd like to try it with a guy also. I've got fantasies and stuff, but I'm afraid I'll regret it afterward. I don't think there's anything wrong with it but I don't think sex is something I could take lightly, and I don't want a relationship with a guy.

I'm starting to wish I was gay, actually. Women aren't interested in me. They never have been and I've no reason to believe they ever will be. So either I go without my entire life or I go gay. If there was a pill or something I could take I would take it right now (and hope men aren't of the same opinion of me that women are haha).

I don't think you should worry about labelling yourself either. But I don't think it makes you gay. I don't think you should go behind your wife's back though. If it's something you just wanted to get out of your system then fine. But if it's something you'd like to make part of your life then it would be a shame to have to go behind her back when it might be something she'd want to share with you. Although I'm not going to actually suggest you tell her. I'd hate for it to go horribly wrong and wreck your marriage.

Whatever happens, I wish you well and I'm happy to talk privately with anyone about this stuff. Or anything for that matter.
 
im a55 yr old swm sucked my first one this year, i liked i,t but i also like like women.if i could get both in bed at the same time id be so happy.
 
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