Submission and... voice type?

[WhiteKnight326]

Just a recent thought that had been running through my head... actually started as I was having a conversation with a group of friends; one of whom has a very soft, rather high voice... he got cut off mid thought and had really no chance of "muscling" his way back into the conversation, and I thought... this person must have spent their entire lives being at least socially a little bit submissive...

Does anyone else notice similar things? Like have you ever known a strong dominant personality with a whiny little voice? Or a sub with a deep booming bass?

I think it has a lot to do with environment and experience... my voice would air on the side of lighter and softer, and it seems very odd for me to try to bellow my demands at someone Of course things could work both ways in a trusting relationship...

So does anyone else have similar trends? Do you think it has more to do with self image/confidence? Or does your voice volume/depth automatically "type" you as weak/commanding? I think it's a really interesting topic

 

[saphicsub]

Remember the tiny female cop in Police Academy with the diminutive munchkin voice who was constatly ignored and spoken over?

When she finally snapped and lost it she did so with a deeper attitude voice and a drawn .38 and was then noticed !

 

[kinkyknickers]

Funny, now that I think of it, any man that I've ever been in love with.... or seriously in lust with, has had a deep voice, usually with little inflection.
My current is no exception.
I think the sexiest pop/rock star in the world is Jarvis Cocker from Britpop band Pulp. He's the weediest looking runt in history but his sexy deep voice is just dishy!
I can't even take myself seriously when I talk in a high voice, so I don't see how I could make an exception for anyone else.

 

[minx1]

I think the sexiest pop/rock star in the world is Jarvis Cocker from Britpop band Pulp. He's the weediest looking runt in history but his sexy deep voice is just dishy!

Jarvis is a god *sigh*

Personally I think that vocal ''attractiveness'' or appeal is a very subjective thing...one mans meat and all that. Whether its pitch, accent whatever I think its a very personal thing.

I think the most important thing for me in terms of commands is the delivery rather that the decibel(sp?) it delivered at. My D is generally softly spoken I would say and rarely raises his voice but the intent and firmness in it, is always effective.

 

[YourCaptor]

I have a deep but soft voice, so sometimes I have to use effort in order to be heard. Yelling isn't my style though, I am usually extremely relax so I am more likely to just wave someone closer. My eyes seem to be a different story though, they seem to make anyone shut up in mid sentence. Its rather mysterious to me really, often if I just look at someone they apologies for having done nothing. -shrugs-

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

Voice is a great weapon for those who knows how to use it well. Especialy for the Dom's. Theres a power in a way how you talk, how you say things, how you demand thigs. Great great power in ones voice.

I love that. *nods*

 

[BeachGurl2]

Voice can be very important. But so can the look in the eyes. And the presense.

I don't think it's any one specific thing, I think that several things come together to make someone seem more dominant or more submissive - not just in the lifestyle, but socially, in their career, etc.

Personally, I like a deep, quiet voice. I don't need to be bellowed at. And deep and quiet will get you a lot more than loud, deep or not.

 

[madetotakeit]

I tend to be attracted to voices that are in the mid-range. It can be something in the accent that adds to it, but for the most part it is the variation. A voice that can go from soft and gentle to strong and insistent without resorting to bellowing...that's the voice that I pay attention to. It is more about how the voice is used, but at the same time a pitch that is too high or too low to find pleasant to my ear is one I will have a hard time following.

 

[ownedsubgal]

interesting topic, this is actually something i've pondered a time or two myself. people always tell me that i have a very "submissive" voice...really soft, high-pitched, quiet, kinda hesitant. men tend to like it, although i have had some tell me i need to learn how to inject some bass into my voice, lol. in a conversation it's very easy to speak over me or just shut me up completely, i never raise my voice or anything in an attempt to be heard, i just kinda give up and let others do their their thing. and that does correlate with my generally submissive personality.

my Master has a deep voice and tends to sound really authoratative and sure/confident. He always sounds calm, even when he's angry. i loooooove his voice, and i do think it matches his dominant personality. while of course people aren't always at the extremes, i do think one would be highly unlikely to find a submissive person with a "dominant"-type voice (assertive, commanding), or a dominant person with a "submissive"-type voice (soft, shrinking).

 

[FurryFury]

Jarvis is a god *sigh*

Personally I think that vocal ''attractiveness'' or appeal is a very subjective thing...one mans meat and all that. Whether its pitch, accent whatever I think its a very personal thing.

I think the most important thing for me in terms of commands is the delivery rather that the decibel(sp?) it delivered at. My D is generally softly spoken I would say and rarely raises his voice but the intent and firmness in it, is always effective.

I don't know Jarvis but the rest of your post I agree with.

For me personally, voice is very important and not just for D/s. It's my favorite instrument whether speaking or singing.

I really can't stand high pitched or breathy voices very well at all. I do know some find it hot though.

I don't think there is any correlation between voice types and D/s roles.

 

[Netzach]

I don't know Jarvis but the rest of your post I agree with.

For me personally, voice is very important and not just for D/s. It's my favorite instrument whether speaking or singing.

I really can't stand high pitched or breathy voices very well at all. I do know some find it hot though.

I don't think there is any correlation between voice types and D/s roles.

Marilyn Monroe worked both.

Submissiveness and eye color, coming to a theater near you.

 

[lakuriousity]

I quite like a deep voice, but it has to have the force and substance behind it to really turn me on. Deepness on its own just isn't enough!

 

[Tyr51]

I change my voice according to need.

There is only so deep I can go as I'm a lyric soprano.


But if I am with someone I'm attracted to, I definately speak in my higher range (not the same as squeaky... it's just about a bit higher in pitch) and my tone becomes softer.

If I am telling my tech crew what to do, I use my lower range (which is still never going to be low... but it's low for me), I project, my diction gets clearer and my tone more pointed.

Definately a difference in how I sound in regards to how I relate to others.

I just happen to either a) notice it when I do it or b) do it quite deliberately.

 

[A Desert Rose]

The honey-est voice I know: WriterDom
He's a melter.



Someone told me once that I sound like cigarettes and vodka. I liked that, actually.

What is this thread about, anyway?






LOL

 

[WhiteKnight326]

Just an observation/discussion topic on how voice depth/volume/tone/etc relates to dominance etc.

It might be more interesting to ask: Does anyone know/is anyone themselves a dom/domme with a light, fluffy, high, non-scary voice? Or a sub with a booming bass? lol How does that work?

I also found it interesting when people change their voice (within reason and physical ability of course) almost subconsciously depending on what level of dominance they want/need to present at the moment, i.e. cuddle time vs. telling your employees you what you need on your desk and by when.


Oh! And ever notice like when you're really sick or early in the morning when your voice is super deep and low? I love that!

 

[ImpishSeraph]

I actually have a very strong voice, but it does soften when I'm vulnerable or asked to open my soul.

 

[Homburg]

I also found it interesting when people change their voice (within reason and physical ability of course) almost subconsciously depending on what level of dominance they want/need to present at the moment, i.e. cuddle time vs. telling your employees you what you need on your desk and by when.

My own voice is all over the place. I have a mutable voice with a broad range and the ability to portray and mimic all sorts of voices and accents. I can sing or fake a broad range, and can pull off vocal effects.

My accent, cadence, diction, vocabulary, etc are all mutable as well, based on the audience to which I am speaking, my emotional state, and, most commonly, what sort of emotional effect I am trying to produce.

It is largely because of work, and years spent in negotiations, investigations, and hostile witness interviews. I know all sorts of techniques for conversation and interview, and tend to use them without conscious thought most of the time. As a result, I can really be quite different from one conversation to the next.

I'm a fairly large fellow, but my voice is not as deep as most people seem to assume. It is also not particularly hard, being described as smooth and all sorts of other similar adjectives that tend to embarrass me. That said, I've never had trouble getting someone to do what I say, and have been complimented many times on my voice. I consider it to be my primary tool insofar as domination is concerned, and utterly indispensable.

I have no idea if I have a "dominant" voice. Can't say that I've paid attention to that many dominants, and have no idea what one should sound like

 

[intothewoods]

Dr. Drew, first known for the radio call-in show Loveline, thinks there is a correlation between a high pitch babygirl type voice and a history of sexual abuse.

 

[BeachGurl2]

Dr. Drew, first known for the radio call-in show Loveline, thinks there is a correlation between a high pitch babygirl type voice and a history of sexual abuse.

You're kidding, right? I'd love to know how he came to that conclusion. What a crock.

 

[seekingsusie]

The sexiest female voice I can think of was husky and low -- Lauren Bacall.

 

[celticsunspiral]

Like alot of those that have posted I have different types of voices. At one time people talked over me constently, but I got tired of that and so I changed how I spoke. I can be close to a Type A and I got tired of never getting to put my .02 in on decisions.

I have always had the ability to project my voice when needed, but the most I had done with it was plays and haunted houses. Now as a teacher I project my voice alot and sometime I find that I may talk louder at home than I should, my daughter is always saying "Mom don't talk so loud." Although this could be because I probably have some hearing loss.

I like men with average voices but never really been attracted to those with super deep voices. Yes, I do tend to make small initial judgement call based on a voice, but not so much that it clouds my long term view of the person.

 

[seekingsusie]

I have a naturally baritone voice, yet speaking to my Mistress the other day, I realized that it was quite a bit higher than I normally speak.

This was totally unconscious on my part.

 

[minx1]

Personally, my comfortable speaking voice is sort of mid/high range and not loud at all. I don't think any sort of dominant role would come naturally to me, and I think this is a big reason why.

Oh! And ever notice like when you're really sick or early in the morning when your voice is super deep and low? I love that! It's like putting on a magic cape and *boom* I can give people orders

But isn't that just because you either don't 'naturally' relate to being dominant or a lack of confidence to deliver because of your voice.

It just seems a bit chicken and egg to me, you know what came first. I would imagine that your propensity to being dominant doesn't hinge on your voice. Its there or it isn't.

 

[Qpet05]

i love Master's deep gravelly voice. He never raises it, nor does He ever "shout" at me or any of my subsisters. Even when He is whispering it is deep, sexy, sensual.

Now, my voice.. it can go from soft and quiet when i am with Master (to the point where He will tell me to speak up) to LOUD and BOOMING (heck last week at a Ren Faire.. my loud booming "mom" voice beat out 2 big burly men to get the part of the "evil dragon" in an audience particicpation play ~smile~) it honestly depends on the situation..

 

[Homburg]

I find that I may talk louder at home than I should, my daughter is always saying "Mom don't talk so loud." Although this could be because I probably have some hearing loss.

I am the other way. My hearing loss used to result in me speaking louder. These days, if anything, I speak too quietly when my hearing gets widgey.