the Un-Hijackable, Non Sequitor, Rambling Thread

Hooray! I'm not surprised, but I'm so happy you surprised yourself.

YOU DA BOMB!
 
Huh. So I recently had a parent/teacher conference with my sons teachers. As I've mentioned my son is severely ADHD. Quite frankly, ADHD is not normally diagnosed until after the child is five or six and with my son it was diagnosed at three cause it was interfering with his ability to learn. He was, developmentally, about 18 months. (The good news is that with therapy he's nearly caught up to his peers).

ANYWAY. His teacher was telling me that a weighted blanket is very helpful in helping him focus during group activities. He does fine in small groups (three or four children to one adult) but otherwise he can't focus. He starts kindergarten next year, and I want to get him a blanket for school. (And maybe home, but they're a bit spendy.) I was researching them, and there prices, and here's what I've learned.

'People who have benefited from the deep pressure touch stimulation (DPTS) provided by a. . . Weighted Blanket include children, teens and adults affected by, but not limited to, those on the Autism Spectrum Disorder, ADHD, ADD, PDD-NOS, Sensory Integration Disorder , Bi-Polar or have other sensory issues. . . . .weighted blankets have also been used with people suffering from CP, Alzheimer's, Dementia, Restless Leg Syndrome, Menopause and Insomnia with good results. In addition, we have several customers who have purchased sleep blankets who just have trouble sleeping and have found the blankets to be an extremely helpful, natural drug free sleep aid.'


So that made me wonder why it helps so much.

'The very short version of the theory behind how . . . weighted products work, is the pressure supplied by the weight in our products releases a chemical in the brain which naturally calms.'

And THAT made me think of the people I've heard that can instantly hit subspace by tight bondage. It's kinda cool to learn that the calming affects of that sort of thing is clinically documented. Anyway, thought I'd share my rambling thought for the day. :D

Grace, my youngest is autistic. And when he starts to go outside his realm of stability, mentally; and i see the "fit" about ready to spark him into tantrums; i do a form of ... (not sure what to call it)...non sexual love bondage to him.

i make sure everything is pushed out of the way in the living room, and right when i see him going into a tantrum; i gently pull him into the middle of the floor, wrap my arms around him tightly. Then i wrap my legs across the backs of his legs, to hold him in a gentle form of bondage.

Meaning that i wrap my arms and legs around him, he always tends to slow down out of the tantrum.

And its comes from the strong arms, strong legs; giving him the feeling of a comfort zone, that seems to make him calm down a whole lot.
 
I like the sound of gentle bondage that helps the person feel secure and comforted.

I have several friends with kids who've been diagnosed with ADHD. The following are simply what I've observed about them and my own kids.

A.) Put her child on the drug. She couldn't handle watching the ups and downs. Took her child off and sought diet modifications, a private school and other coping mechanisms. He also has a learning disability.

B.) Child was put on drugs in elementary school. As far as I know they never took him off or retested him. He went to juvie for a short while. Had to go to school a semester longer and barely graduated. Has several felonies. Last I heard he was working odd jobs.

C.) Child was put on drugs in elementary school. As far as I know they never tested him or took him off. In fact, his functional but not bio father was put on the drugs too.

He was in three different high schools, dropped out, got in a special program to help graduate. Last I heard he is working hourly jobs and taking some community college courses.

D.) Child was put on homeopathic remedy. Mother homeschools him. Father also on homeopathic remedy.

E.) Child was put on latest drug. Suddenly he can do school work. There seem to be no side effects, no ups and no downs. Parents are thrilled.

F.) I refused to believe my kids were ADHD or ADD. I did research on all that and rejected drugs even homeopathic ones. I homeschool, not because of any possible ADD variant but because my kids begged me too.

Please note: Every male child in my son's K-5 classes parents were ALL advised to medicate and hold them back.

My personal belief is that schools no longer favor boys and haven't for a long time. In fact, they don't know what to do with young boys at all.

Therefore the schools either need to address this issue by other methods than drugs and holding back or up the required age for a male to attend school.

None of this may mean anything to anyone. I'm just trying to contribute meaningfully.

Epic fail?
 
It makes sense fury.

The drugs out today to deal with autism, adhd, add, and all the rest that is "typically":rolleyes: considered a mental handicap are made to help the majority. Not the individual.

Each person needs to be worked with to see if there is another way to deal with that persons problems. Not just hand them a script for some drug that may or may not work for that person.

And even then, after finding some way (drugs, home schooling, whatever) to deal with the child or person at a certain stage; that person still needs to keep getting evaluated for change.

Everyone changes, and a lot of times; their focus gets worse as they grow older.

So your post made good sense. Each person deals with their problems in their owns ways.:rose:
 
Thanks!

:heart:

I tell my kids all the time. "It doesn't matter what challenges you have in life, you have to adjust to life, life doesn't adjust to you."

LOL.

I suspect they hate that. I'm just so sick of people thinking that the whole world should change just for them.

I'm thinking of this old man in our neighborhood several years ago. He wanted me to sign a petition against a dog.

Now this dog had a nice deep voice when he barked. He didn't bark often because he owner only let him out twice a day and was very good with him. Hell he was just a good dog period.

But the old man who came to my door outraged was all "I have a heart condition, I can't sleep normal hours."

I told him to try white or blocking noise. I told him that dogs bark. I told him the world won't adjust to your schedule and you shouldn't expect it too.

My husband works nights half the time. We know how much of a pain it can be to be on a different schedule but gee, you just gotta deal, somehow. Of course I said all that in the nicest possible way.

:rose:

Wow, I think I need a rest. I keep just spouting too much.
 
And its comes from the strong arms, strong legs; giving him the feeling of a comfort zone, that seems to make him calm down a whole lot.

Cool. Evidently I might be able to get him a waited blanket for free, cause it's so helpful. Now I just gotta get ahold of the occupational therapist.

I like the sound of gentle bondage that helps the person feel secure and comforted
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Epic fail?

K and I are determined to do everything possible, other than medication. The truth is that medication, by itself, IS NOT THE ANSWER. That's treating the symptoms and not the problem. And I agree with what you say below:

Thanks!

:heart:

I tell my kids all the time. "It doesn't matter what challenges you have in life, you have to adjust to life, life doesn't adjust to you."

D eventually has to learn to handle his problems. He won't always have someone following him, telling him to take his meds. That's the point of him being in the classes he's in, to help him learn coping skills. Beyond that, if it comes to the teachers INSIST on him being medicated I will most likely homeschool. D's got an amazing brain, I won't have him feel that he's not as smart or a 'bad boy'. PERIOD.
 
Cool. Evidently I might be able to get him a waited blanket for free, cause it's so helpful. Now I just gotta get ahold of the occupational therapist.



K and I are determined to do everything possible, other than medication. The truth is that medication, by itself, IS NOT THE ANSWER. That's treating the symptoms and not the problem. And I agree with what you say below:



D eventually has to learn to handle his problems. He won't always have someone following him, telling him to take his meds. That's the point of him being in the classes he's in, to help him learn coping skills. Beyond that, if it comes to the teachers INSIST on him being medicated I will most likely homeschool. D's got an amazing brain, I won't have him feel that he's not as smart or a 'bad boy'. PERIOD.

Sounds like you are walking the best path for your son. Good Mommie!

*HUG*

:rose::rose::rose:
 
Does anyone have the Photoshop software that can take a color photo and edit it to a black & white with a splash of color? ... and .... do you know how to do that?? (it's one thing to have the program; it's another thing to actually know how to use it ... LOL)

I have a picture (or two) of me that I'd like edited that way if anyone is willing to help me.

PM me.

Thanks.
 
Does anyone have the Photoshop software that can take a color photo and edit it to a black & white with a splash of color? ... and .... do you know how to do that?? (it's one thing to have the program; it's another thing to actually know how to use it ... LOL)

I have a picture (or two) of me that I'd like edited that way if anyone is willing to help me.

PM me.

Thanks.

I think you can do that at photobucket.com .
 
Radar my dear friend, i will miss you forever!

You were one of the few guys in our neighborhood who didnt look at anyone in a biased way. You got to know them, and be there for them.

Hell, you were the one who saved me from being bitten by that copperhead the first week i moved in here.

And for that, you will always be my oldest boy's hero. He even wrote about it for a school article he had to do.

You were one of the few people that we all just figured would be around forever.

Even with the liver problems, and that Agent Orange shit; you always smiled for everyone.

At least now, you and your dog Midnight are relaxing at your favorite fishing hole; once again.

God rest your soul, hon.:(


~sorry people, just needed to get that out of my system; we bury him tomorrow~
 
40 more hours and school is finished.
:nana::nana::nana:




Sadly I don't really like the place that will prolly wanna give me a job. The people are mean and backstabbing and stuff.... but i need a job....decisions decisions.
 
Is insanity a state of mind, or, lack there of?

If purple is your favorite color, does it follow that you like black and blue stuff?

Would it be proper to post the lyrics to "Ramblin Man" on this rambling thread?

Are theoretical questions just another form of rambling?

If one gets on a thread that has no direction and celebrates rambling, and they decide that they want to make a point about something that is like really really important to them, but, they can't figure out a way to get directly to the point without rambling, and, they like beat around the bush for awhile, as opposed to beating a dead horse, do they really contribute to the thread by making their point directly, or, would it be more appropriate for them to like dance around the question a bit, not really in a way to show lack of intelligence, but, more like they are shy, to contribute to the rambling non sequitor (don't wanna look that up cus i am really not motivated to do that at this moment in time) thread in this more rambling indirect totally non logical approach, ya know?
 
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