Hurting

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And so when one you care about turns their back and rejects you, what do you do?

I didn't do anything, was just myself.

And don't think he did anything, is just being himself.

He's new to this -- and it might even piss him off for me to say so.

It's probably completely over, but I don't know that. Loss of the friendship is the worst part there.

I am in pain, though, and am lost. He was challenging me in some very good ways. I was reluctant, of course, but was moving forward. And now I feel like I failed and am the cause for both our pain.
 
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If you did your best and he chose to walk away then I would guess that the major issues rest with him. Are you sure that your friendship can't be saved? It takes a little work to reset boundaries and let water pass under the bridge but it is doable if you value each other enough.

I'm sorry to hear that you're hurting right now.
 
And so when the one you care about turns their back and rejects you, what do you do?

I didn't do anything, was just myself.

And don't think he did anything, is just being himself.

He's new to this -- and it might even piss him off for me to say so.

It's probably completely over, but I don't know that. Loss of the friendship is the worst part there.

I am in pain, though, and am lost. He was challenging me in some very good ways. I was reluctant, of course, but was moving forward. And now I feel like I failed and am the cause for both our pain.

Sometimes, tears say all that can be said, and understanding comes only with time.

I am sorry you goin thro this as i know how much it SUCK....

*HUGGS*
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I am sorry to hear you are hurting.. give it a few days... I know it sounds weird but go to a quiet place and let your tears flow.. then slowly start to heal... an then realize he must not have been the one for you ... If he walked away at the slightiest hint of a small discord he wasnt the dominant for you.. I can promise you that.. Someday the one you are meant to be with will come along In the mean time Us SUBSISTERS will be here for you .. ;)
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Chin up if it wasn't to meant be it wasn't meant be you will find somebody to take care of you!
 
i am so so sorry, i know what that pain feels like all too well. Just hang in there, take it one day at a time, conserve your energy for healing and be gentle on yourself. :rose:
 
Rejection sucks. No two ways about it.

I felt like shit when I really faced the fact that my ex does not want to fight for me. And that's probably a very self-absorbed way to look at it. It may be just that he's smart enough to realize it can't work out, but there is a part of me that wanted to see him fight for me. It's selfish. I know that, but there it is.

Hell, it bothers me when minor crushes just aren't that into me. It's not my finest moment, but what can I say? I don't like rejection. It sucks.

The good news is that facing it, and saying, you know what, this just sucks, but someday it will pass, does eventually work.
 
I am sorry to hear you are hurting.. give it a few days... I know it sounds weird but go to a quiet place and let your tears flow.. then slowly start to heal... an then realize he must not have been the one for you ... If he walked away at the slightiest hint of a small discord he wasnt the dominant for you.. I can promise you that.. Someday the one you are meant to be with will come along In the mean time Us SUBSISTERS will be here for you .. ;)
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*hugs* I'm sorry you are going through this... I also know what that pain feels like, and how comforting it is to have 'subsisters' who understand and offer support.
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