Cuckqueening

[TenJed69]

That is, a man having sex with women other than his wife (or long term partner). Or in more modern usage, when this is done with her knowledge and complicitness.

Cuckolding seems to be fairly common in D/s relationships with a male sub. How common is cuckqueening? Anyone do it? I'm thinking, outside of a swinging context, specifically.

 

[RawHumor]

I've known of one or two, but it seems to be a lot more rare for women to fantasize about their men fucking other women than men who fantasize about other men fucking their wives.

I don't really understand the appeal of being a cuckolded guy, but I could handle the reverse of that, as in the thread subject.

 

[Netzach]

I am a cuckoldress, though my relationship with my husband is open and not denial-based, there's definitely a different sexual flavor with my bull - I'd love to see him with other women more, I've only gotten to watch that a couple of times and it's an insane turn on.

My bull has other casual lovers and I kinda dig that. I wish I got to do more watching, but schedules never seem to permit. I like hearing about his adventures when they do happen, it's an interesting tension between jealousy and hotness.

I also like to watch them with other men, trannies, fucking a pocket pussy if I felt like it, I just like to watch. Whatever.

There is something amazingly erotic to me about watching that happen, because it's a pleasure you never get to experience when the man you're with is fucking you - that passive eye pleasure of watching. Watching someone else react to the dick that gets you all riled up. A lot of women I know who do enjoy watching their partner (m or f) with others have talked to me about that, and how it's something you don't realize you are going to find quite as erotic as you do until you do, kind of a hidden upside.

Some women are wired strangely to enjoy this kind of thing. Some women are emotionally masochistic and crave the agony it would cause them, but they're VERY rare - I've met more men in that camp for sure. I am not of that breed myself, if the jealousy reaches more than a light pinch or pang there's something that needs to be discussed or addressed. A little edge of it is nice.

 

[Netzach]

I've known of one or two, but it seems to be a lot more rare for women to fantasize about their men fucking other women than men who fantasize about other men fucking their wives.

I don't really understand the appeal of being a cuckolded guy, but I could handle the reverse of that, as in the thread subject.

If you can't *imagine* the appeal to the person you're doing it to, even if it doesn't appeal to you, it seems like you might be missing something. JMO.

I don't want to switch with H any day soon, but intellectually there's a reason in my head for what he's getting out of things, it's something that can be transmitted. Sure there's some "just turns me on dunno why" stuff, but conjecture just makes it sweeter.

 

[Shadowsdream]

I have not heard of any cuckqueeners good lord where have I been? I am a cuckoldress though and find that much to rare ~~smile~~

 

[SubKekiLee]

I am a cuckoldress, though my relationship with my husband is open and not denial-based, there's definitely a different sexual flavor with my bull - I'd love to see him with other women more, I've only gotten to watch that a couple of times and it's an insane turn on.

My bull has other casual lovers and I kinda dig that. I wish I got to do more watching, but schedules never seem to permit. I like hearing about his adventures when they do happen, it's an interesting tension between jealousy and hotness.

I also like to watch them with other men, trannies, fucking a pocket pussy if I felt like it, I just like to watch. Whatever.

There is something amazingly erotic to me about watching that happen, because it's a pleasure you never get to experience when the man you're with is fucking you - that passive eye pleasure of watching. Watching someone else react to the dick that gets you all riled up. A lot of women I know who do enjoy watching their partner (m or f) with others have talked to me about that, and how it's something you don't realize you are going to find quite as erotic as you do until you do, kind of a hidden upside.

Some women are wired strangely to enjoy this kind of thing. Some women are emotionally masochistic and crave the agony it would cause them, but they're VERY rare - I've met more men in that camp for sure. I am not of that breed myself, if the jealousy reaches more than a light pinch or pang there's something that needs to be discussed or addressed. A little edge of it is nice.

Netzach
I absolutely love the idea of watching my Sir.. be with another woman on a NSA type of encounter to know what he does to me and to see him share that with another woman.. to make her squirm and make her so turned on.. but other women wouldnt want another woman present and not involved..I would love to be forced to watch for awhile and then for him to come over and start to involve me and then maybe to force her to watch out interaction and then who knows.. .But it just seems HOT.. So I agree with you ..

 

[BiBunny]

I'm really not jealous with my play partners, but I think it's hot to know they're out fucking someone else. I keep begging Yeti to go fuck another girl and call me while he's doing it.

"Yeah, I'm just calling to tell you how good this bitch's cunt feels. Unlike yours. You hear her moaning and screaming? Don't you wish it was you? Yeah, I thought so, you dumb cow." *Click*

Smokin' hot.

And, too, I'm also a voyeur about things. I love to *watch* my men fuck other people. Girls, boys, any combination thereof.

 

[im_a_voyeur]

I guess I was doing this. I didn't realize there was a name for it.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I am a cuckoldress, though my relationship with my husband is open and not denial-based, there's definitely a different sexual flavor with my bull - I'd love to see him with other women more, I've only gotten to watch that a couple of times and it's an insane turn on.

My bull has other casual lovers and I kinda dig that. I wish I got to do more watching, but schedules never seem to permit. I like hearing about his adventures when they do happen, it's an interesting tension between jealousy and hotness.

I also like to watch them with other men, trannies, fucking a pocket pussy if I felt like it, I just like to watch. Whatever.

There is something amazingly erotic to me about watching that happen, because it's a pleasure you never get to experience when the man you're with is fucking you - that passive eye pleasure of watching. Watching someone else react to the dick that gets you all riled up. A lot of women I know who do enjoy watching their partner (m or f) with others have talked to me about that, and how it's something you don't realize you are going to find quite as erotic as you do until you do, kind of a hidden upside.

Some women are wired strangely to enjoy this kind of thing. Some women are emotionally masochistic and crave the agony it would cause them, but they're VERY rare - I've met more men in that camp for sure. I am not of that breed myself, if the jealousy reaches more than a light pinch or pang there's something that needs to be discussed or addressed. A little edge of it is nice.

All so true. Problem I have found is that a lot of men are uncomfortable with it, maybe because it is rare they think there is going to be some terrible payback for indulging.

Catalina

 

[TenJed69]

Some good replies I've got to admit, I do like the idea. But in a strange way part of it would be knowing that she's getting a kick out of it, as described by BiBunny and SubKekiLee. On the other hand it also seems like a good punishment for really serious offences if I know that, like being denied orgasm, she HATES it but at the same time there's a pang of 'loving it' from deep down inside.

At the same time, as someone mentioned above, I do feel a little guilty for thinking about this. To be honest, I never get why some men feel guilty for being a dom and treating their sub, well, as a sub. I don't feel the whole 'am I a wife beater?!' thing. But this... I kinda wonder "am I just being a selfish dick?" I guess it depends what she thinks about it

Any suggestions on how to bring it up?

Oh and also: hot fantasy here. I would LOVE to cum in another girl's pussy, and have my little girl clean her out. YUM!

 

[SubKekiLee]

Some good replies I've got to admit, I do like the idea. But in a strange way part of it would be knowing that she's getting a kick out of it, as described by BiBunny and SubKekiLee. On the other hand it also seems like a good punishment for really serious offences if I know that, like being denied orgasm, she HATES it but at the same time there's a pang of 'loving it' from deep down inside.

At the same time, as someone mentioned above, I do feel a little guilty for thinking about this. To be honest, I never get why some men feel guilty for being a dom and treating their sub, well, as a sub. I don't feel the whole 'am I a wife beater?!' thing. But this... I kinda wonder "am I just being a selfish dick?" I guess it depends what she thinks about it

Any suggestions on how to bring it up?

Oh and also: hot fantasy here. I would LOVE to cum in another girl's pussy, and have my little girl clean her out. YUM!

Well you could always start out by asking her how she feels about it first.. and see where she is on it first.. as to the cumming in another girl... Hmmm well we have a an agreement no other girl gets his cum/gift but me.. So I have no experieince on that... but if your sub is bi-sexual it shouldnt be an issue that she would mind another girl be involved... but this is just my opinion..

 

[TenJed69]

She's not bi, but she says she'd eventually be up for being with another girl. I've talked about her being submissive to another girl (not necessarily a dominant one) and she seemed to like the idea.

 

[Pure]

thoughts

netzach said,
I am a cuckoldress, though my relationship with my husband is open and not denial-based, there's definitely a different sexual flavor with my bull - I'd love to see him with other women more, I've only gotten to watch that a couple of times and it's an insane turn on.

My bull has other casual lovers and I kinda dig that. I wish I got to do more watching, but schedules never seem to permit. I like hearing about his adventures when they do happen, it's an interesting tension between jealousy and hotness.

There is something amazingly erotic to me about watching that happen, because it's a pleasure you never get to experience when the man you're with is fucking you - that passive eye pleasure of watching. Watching someone else react to the dick that gets you all riled up.

Some women are wired strangely to enjoy this kind of thing. Some women are emotionally masochistic and crave the agony it would cause them, but they're VERY rare - I've met more men in that camp for sure. I am not of that breed myself, if the jealousy reaches more than a light pinch or pang there's something that needs to be discussed or addressed. A little edge of it is nice.

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pure: if cuckold or cuckoldress are [simply considered as] turned on by seeing or imagining their partner with some else, there is a parallel.

traditionally, however, cuckold is either pathetic, a fool, or an object of amusement. which bring us to the modern, maso wrinkle.

the maso m cuckold is encouraging the wife's contacts, getting off on the humiliation through watching, etc., it's hard to imagine a parallel maso f cuckoldress. i'm not sure why.

perhaps the closest, oddly enough, is the conventional wife of some mediteranean lands [or china], who knows the husband has affairs, mistresses, etc.[e.g. tony soprano's wife]. she may well have a degree of complicity.

how maso she is, can be argued: does she in some way 'get off' on her hurt (if it's there)? or does she merely live with it, try to minimize her knowledge, etc.

 

[im_a_voyeur]

For me there really wasn't a humilation factor to it. I just enjoyed either watching or hearing tales about my dom fucking another girl. I have no clue why I found it hot, I just did. Maybe cuz I'm a voyeur and being able to watch someone I love enjoying sex just did something for me.

I admit that if I am not getting that much sex myself then I have a tendency to become a bit of a hater. My motto has always been "Take care of home first!" Lately, I'm down to having sex twice a month (and I'm not in a LDR) so I haven't enjoyed this activity as much as I have in the past.

I have a high sex drive and when I don't get fucked, I become super grouchy and bitchy. My people can attest to that, lol.

 

[Netzach]

netzach said,
I am a cuckoldress, though my relationship with my husband is open and not denial-based, there's definitely a different sexual flavor with my bull - I'd love to see him with other women more, I've only gotten to watch that a couple of times and it's an insane turn on.

My bull has other casual lovers and I kinda dig that. I wish I got to do more watching, but schedules never seem to permit. I like hearing about his adventures when they do happen, it's an interesting tension between jealousy and hotness.

There is something amazingly erotic to me about watching that happen, because it's a pleasure you never get to experience when the man you're with is fucking you - that passive eye pleasure of watching. Watching someone else react to the dick that gets you all riled up.

Some women are wired strangely to enjoy this kind of thing. Some women are emotionally masochistic and crave the agony it would cause them, but they're VERY rare - I've met more men in that camp for sure. I am not of that breed myself, if the jealousy reaches more than a light pinch or pang there's something that needs to be discussed or addressed. A little edge of it is nice.

--
pure: if cuckold or cuckoldress are [simply considered as] turned on by seeing or imagining their partner with some else, there is a parallel.

traditionally, however, cuckold is either pathetic, a fool, or an object of amusement. which bring us to the modern, maso wrinkle.

the maso m cuckold is encouraging the wife's contacts, getting off on the humiliation through watching, etc., it's hard to imagine a parallel maso f cuckoldress. i'm not sure why.

perhaps the closest, oddly enough, is the conventional wife of some mediteranean lands [or china], who knows the husband has affairs, mistresses, etc.[e.g. tony soprano's wife]. she may well have a degree of complicity.

how maso she is, can be argued: does she in some way 'get off' on her hurt (if it's there)? or does she merely live with it, try to minimize her knowledge, etc.

In my case there's an opposition between the more female nature of my male bodied but feminine partner , versus the heterogeneity of my lover and me. I guess you'd have to see us in action for this to make sense, but it does.

I think that kind of "suffering spouse" is more common, actually than the totally unaware cheated on spouse. I think there's normally a lot more complexity to relationships in which people seek outlets and don't ask don't tell than the usual, expected narrative and a lot less clear cut.


But like sadism and masochism themselves, consensual and aware cuckolding and swapping and numbers games aren't totally comparable to their counterparts among people who are doing it from a less self-aware position. I don't think there needs to be a clear widespread cultural model.

 

[Homburg]

Some good replies I've got to admit, I do like the idea. But in a strange way part of it would be knowing that she's getting a kick out of it, as described by BiBunny and SubKekiLee. On the other hand it also seems like a good punishment for really serious offences if I know that, like being denied orgasm, she HATES it but at the same time there's a pang of 'loving it' from deep down inside.

At the same time, as someone mentioned above, I do feel a little guilty for thinking about this. To be honest, I never get why some men feel guilty for being a dom and treating their sub, well, as a sub. I don't feel the whole 'am I a wife beater?!' thing. But this... I kinda wonder "am I just being a selfish dick?" I guess it depends what she thinks about it

I have those "Am I being a selfish dick?" moments. The usual answer is "Yup," and I move on. I'm not all that bad, but I can be dead selfish.

Any suggestions on how to bring it up?

The same way you'd bring up any other new kink/activity/scene - carefully.

Oh and also: hot fantasy here. I would LOVE to cum in another girl's pussy, and have my little girl clean her out. YUM!

Yup, this is seriously hot. One of my favourites.

I've personally watched that "I hate this, but it makes me hot" response. It's interesting, and dead sexy, in a twisted way. And I have restrained a girl and made her watch while I fucked another. Same situation, hot as hell in a twisted way. When I finsihed and fucked the restrained gal, her orgasms were phenomenal. Made for an interesting counterpoint to her growling and whining while she watched.

ETA: I've done a few other things, the more I think about it. I would not call either of my gals a cuckqueen, but there is an element or two there.

 

[Marquis]

For me there really wasn't a humilation factor to it. I just enjoyed either watching or hearing tales about my dom fucking another girl. I have no clue why I found it hot, I just did. Maybe cuz I'm a voyeur and being able to watch someone I love enjoying sex just did something for me.

I admit that if I am not getting that much sex myself then I have a tendency to become a bit of a hater. My motto has always been "Take care of home first!" Lately, I'm down to having sex twice a month (and I'm not in a LDR) so I haven't enjoyed this activity as much as I have in the past.

I have a high sex drive and when I don't get fucked, I become super grouchy and bitchy. My people can attest to that, lol.

I was thinking of you, as I opened this thread.

Nasty cycle, that whole grouchy/bitchy not getting fucked thing, isn't it?

 

[im_a_voyeur]

I was thinking of you, as I opened this thread.

Nasty cycle, that whole grouchy/bitchy not getting fucked thing, isn't it?

I guess I need to stop pussyfooting around and get more aggressive about finding extracurricular dick.

 

[Marquis]

I guess I need to stop pussyfooting around and get more aggressive about finding extracurricular dick.

That might help.

A nasty thought was kicking around my head today, inspired by the Italian don juan who almost bought my beemer.

 

[RawHumor]

If you can't *imagine* the appeal to the person you're doing it to, even if it doesn't appeal to you, it seems like you might be missing something. JMO.

I don't want to switch with H any day soon, but intellectually there's a reason in my head for what he's getting out of things, it's something that can be transmitted. Sure there's some "just turns me on dunno why" stuff, but conjecture just makes it sweeter.

I guess I can get it on a base level... but yeah, it's not how I'm wired by any stretch.

 

[humbledoll]

Some women are wired strangely to enjoy this kind of thing. Some women are emotionally masochistic and crave the agony it would cause them...

That's me...wired strangely I suppose.


I crave that sort of humiliation and the agony it causes to my cunt and my heart.

(Although he doesn't deny me sexual pleasure. He does have sex with me as well as letting others "use me" so I'm not entirely sure if that makes me a cuckqueen.)

 

[george51]

I have never heard of it either, but the whole idea excites me greatly.

To be the voyeur, to watch her enjoying some other man's cock, to know that feeling of humilation, and to stroke my hard on all the time..

Marvellous.

 

[kinkyknickers]

Does, it count if you're the girlfriend of the woman married to the man you're fucking?
Confused much?
We both have sex with him in front of each other, and with each other whilst he watches and all together.
I suppose that counts somewhat as cuckqueening then.

 

[Breaker_Morant]

Does, it count if you're the girlfriend of the woman married to the man you're fucking?
Confused much?
We both have sex with him in front of each other, and with each other whilst he watches and all together.
I suppose that counts somewhat as cuckqueening then.

Not only that, I would say he qualifies as one lucky s.o.b.

 

[dakotagirl]

Not only that, I would say he qualifies as one lucky s.o.b.

lol...everyman's dream, huh?