Type A personality and being submissive

[Kajira Callista]

Do they go together?
Why/why not?

 

[00Syd]

What is a Type A personality?

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Here's a link to one definition of Type A and Type B personalities... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Type_A_personality

 

[caela]

Being a bit type A (especially at work) myself I think it makes it both harder but also sweeter in the end. It's hard for me to give up control but when I do I do it as entirely as I do anything else.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Do they go together?
Why/why not?

IMO, Type A personalities go with being Submissive because most Type A personalities are people who are in charge in thier everyday lives so they like to give up control somewhere where they do not have to think, they give up control and be less inhibited and let someone else make the decisions.. Hence why huge powerful CEO's and Presidents of companies pay Pro Domme's for thier services

 

[EmpressFi]

I dont think a Type A would be a submissive for the fact that they need to be in control all the time, there is no way of releasing that. If they're not in control, they're tense and all knotted up inside thinking things are going to fall apart. I once had a patient who was a type A, in for a bleeding ulcer, we had to turn all outgoing calls from his room off because he wouldn't stop calling his work to ..well to work. I know there are some submissives who are like that, but I know of at least one who isnt.

Perhaps an AB personality mix would be more conducive to a submissive nature.

 

[celticsunspiral]

Type A

I know I am a Type A personality (on time, overachiever, etc) in work and home.

I always have control of everything around me. Don't want to, at least at home, but that is what happens. It was handed to me and I didn't have a choice.

However, I notice in the rare instances my SO tries to enter the BDSM arena I release that control and let him do whatever he wants. Those are the nights I throughly enjoy be they far apart and few. Something about being tied up or forced to hold a position, etc. just shuts my mind down and for me that is heaven.

I know if I had someone I could respect, someone dominant, someone to share with, and who deeply cared for me (enough to exert some time) I could hand my type A personality over to them and be perfectly exhuberantly happy.

Ok, done rambling. I hope I explained myself well enough.

 

[00Syd]

Well, I don't like to make generalizations like "oh this type of person makes a good submissive and that type doesn't, or this type is lore likely to be" or anything like that. Everyone's different and people come in all shapes and sizes. A type B personality might be more prone to being submissive, but I could totally see a type A going that way as well for the reason SubKekiLee gave.

 

[intothewoods]

I just read the wiki entry. I'm competitive and direct andI multi-task, but I also hate confrontation and I self-analyze a lot.

Maybe I'm a switch?

 

[EmpressFi]

I just read the wiki entry. I'm competitive and direct andI multi-task, but I also hate confrontation and I self-analyze a lot.

Maybe I'm a switch?

you know.. I was thinking that..wondering if A's and AB's were more switches than submissives. Hmm think we could get a governmental grant to study this?

 

[FurryFury]

I have no idea about Type A personalities and submissiveness.

The way I think of a Type A is someone who is never happy and always pushing. I avoid that type of personality.

The definition posted isn't the way I think of type A.

Some might think otherwise but I do not think of myself as an over achiever. I am time conscious though. I am somewhat competitive. I am somewhat direct and assertive.

However I feel that I'm also very relaxed, easy going and yes, I do avoid confrontations. I do self analyze and evade stressful situations when possible. I am very able to deal with stressful situations when I'm unable to avoid them.

I HATE waiting in line, in traffic or at all but I deal with it pretty well.

 

[00Syd]

I am definitely closer to a B, but there is still a lot of A personality Traits that I have. *shrug* Classifications like that are usually to general for me, and usually a little ridiculous because of it.

 

[EmpressFi]

I have no idea about Type A personalities and submissiveness.

The way I think of a Type A is someone who is never happy and always pushing. I avoid that type of personality.

The definition posted isn't the way I think of type A.

Some might think otherwise but I do not think of myself as an over achiever. I am time conscious though. I am somewhat competitive. I am somewhat direct and assertive.

However I feel that I'm also very relaxed, easy going and yes, I do avoid confrontations. I do self analyze and evade stressful situations when possible. I am very able to deal with stressful situations when I'm unable to avoid them.

I HATE waiting in line, in traffic or at all but I deal with it pretty well.

you may be an AB..which is a combination of both. Im not competitive unless shoved,nudged, etc, but I HATE being made to wait. Drives me INSANE.

 

[FurryFury]

you may be an AB..which is a combination of both. Im not competitive unless shoved,nudged, etc, but I HATE being made to wait. Drives me INSANE.

I can understand that.



I rarely fit any category neatly.

 

[Marquis]

I'm not sure I could deal with a Type A submissive, but I'm sure there are those who could.

 

[BiBunny]

I don't really have a good answer to the OP, but I just wanted to say that everybody's not divided into Type A and Type B. There are twice as many (or more) of the mixed types as there are of pure A or pure B.

 

[BeachGurl2]

Very interesting question. I tend to be a pretty easy going person, don't get upset by lines or driving or things outside of my control. Don't worry too much about what others think. But I have a very strong work ethic, am a bit of a perfectionist in my work, am almost always on time if not early. I love performing well, but don't really care much about winning. I've been in leadership positions, held supervisory positions, been on several non-profit boards. So I'm not type A but I'm not type B either. At the same time, I'm no switch. Funny how that doesn't seem to work, huh?

I also noticed that the information about Type A/B personalities also questions the veracity of the designations. That struck me as interesting. I wonder what, exactly, that should tell us.

 

[cherokee_dove]

Being a divorced mom of two, with all the responsibilities involved in that; i have had the "Type A" more or less forced upon me. With all the responsibilities of raising my kids, taking care of the house, holding down a good paying job, etc.

But i know that if there was One to ease some or all that pressure, it would be "Type B, come on back out and feel free once again". Thats the way i was before, and hopefully will again be.

 

[graceanne]

I don't really have a good answer to the OP, but I just wanted to say that everybody's not divided into Type A and Type B. There are twice as many (or more) of the mixed types as there are of pure A or pure B.

That's true of most personality tests and types - very few people fit neatly into a slot.

That said, my mother is VERY type A (for instance, she rarely reads anything that doesn't have something to do with self improvement). My mother is also very dominant.

I'm pretty type B - I hate it when people tell me I HAVE to have long term goals. How can you make long term goals when you have NO idea what's going to happen between now and then? I'd say the only thing about me that's type A is that I handle stressful situations just fine - I just prefer NOT to handle them. lol

 

[Netzach]

I am type B and Dominant, M is type A and sub. Not totally strictly, but we both fall more to those sides. I don't give a crap about things like being stuck in traffic, while those situations make him explosively angry at times. I can choose a good fight or a good reason for blood pressure to go up if I feel like it, but I can also walk away very easily, I can ignore an insult or a bad hair day, I let a lot of stuff just go.

I think some type A people are far more sensitive and aware - which actually makes their service and masochism more interesting to me. Overstimulation and claustrophobia are things I have to be on top of with him.

There's nothing impossible about being type A and submissive. I just find that it takes a lot more work specific conditions and smarts to get a seriously type A person into a relaxed enough frame of mind to submit and it's a little more tenuous, I don't always know what I'm going to get.

 

[YourCaptor]

After reading the wiki article, type A personality sounds just fine. They get caught up in the environment surrounding them and try to fit in perfectly.

 

[Netzach]

IMO, Type A personalities go with being Submissive because most Type A personalities are people who are in charge in thier everyday lives so they like to give up control somewhere where they do not have to think, they give up control and be less inhibited and let someone else make the decisions.. Hence why huge powerful CEO's and Presidents of companies pay Pro Domme's for thier services

Yep, but so do truckers, farmers, pastors and students.

People totally relaxed, happy in their bodies, and fun.

People with Issues six miles thick.

I've yet to find a correlation.

 

[BiBunny]

Yep, but so do truckers, farmers, pastors and students.

People totally relaxed, happy in their bodies, and fun.

People with Issues six miles thick.

I've yet to find a correlation.

*Blink*

Father. Truck driver. Upper midwest. Oh, shit. Must PM Netz.

But, yeah, I agree. I don't think there's a correlation between Type A/B personalities and relative dominance or submissiveness. Nor do I think there's a correlation between dominance/submissiveness and one's MBTI score. Pop psychology can only go so far.

 

[Marquis]

I've yet to find a correlation.

You're just jaded.

Correlations are easy to find when you're new to BDSM and still know everything.

 

[BiBunny]

You're just jaded.

Correlations are easy to find when you're new to BDSM and still know everything.

Awww, shit.