sexy, not too extreme, long distance "assignments" to give my partner?

[edea]

I don't know if this belongs in bdsm or not... we like bdsm but we tend to do somewhat light stuff compared to a lot of people I suppose.

we came up with the idea of giving each other assignments and taking turns, and I was just wondering if you had any ideas for any. a few I had so you can know roughly what I'm looking for:

- she's told me she went into a sex toy store once but she was way too shy to buy anything. I thought about making her go back and buy something, but make it something a little embarassing also. maybe a butt plug? and of course she has to use it before talking to me again

- write something like "sarah's little slut" on her body under her clothes before she goes out, so she'd be reminded of it all day

- before going to bed, she has to masturbate and smear her own juices on her face and leave it like that until morning, not being allowed to wash off. that one might be too strange for her, I dunno

- have her go out not wearing a bra/panties. maybe purposely go into a bathroom and go make her nipples erect.

- make her masturbate in a public bathroom

that's about all I've come up with so far

 

[Homburg]

Check the Distance Domination Support Thread. You can find some ideas and support there.

 

[myinnerslut]

some things ive done in the past in and LDR (and some i do currently in an LDR) were

~write in a journal (i use livejournal and set it to private giving the person i want to read it the password for privacay's sake)

~ sleep in a certain outfit or with a certain item (cuffs, collar, toy)

~ take a picture of what i am wearing

~ write about how i played with myself if i did that day

~write erotica

~ take pictures of the not so nice variety (you can go all out with these, costumes and lack therof, backgrounds, the self timer is your friend)

~ some sort of chemical heat under clothes in public (icy hot, tiger balm)

~wearing a small toy or ben wah balls in public

there was a bunch more, but these are just some idea off the top of my head

 

[Snoozebutton2]

Why not go to bookstore and buy Story of O or any number of other lifestyle books. She will have to face cashier and will be in a more mundane setting to begin her joirney.

 

[CyberChas]

It doesn't have to be sexual

When I was in a LDR many years ago, my Mistress made me go into a candle store and find and smell vanilla-scented candles because that was her favor scent. Not BUY any, just go in and smell them.

I can't smell vanilla in a store even a decade later without thinking of that.

The mind is powerful and doing something for another because you are TOLD to is powerful. Tie it to the senses, and it impresses even more.

It doesn't have be sexual.

 

[twysted73]

Photo assignments!!!

Have her take your list of places you want her to expose and pose herself with varrying levels of difficulty to include a point-based system of reward.

~ Viola`!!

A steady stream of enticing lovlies from your lovely.
Post them here in the photo thread even as a show of pride in her efforts.

If we're helping with ideas, I feel there should be a reward for us as well, no?

Good luck.

 

[Homburg]

When I was in a LDR many years ago, my Mistress made me go into a candle store and find and smell vanilla-scented candles because that was her favor scent. Not BUY any, just go in and smell them.

I can't smell vanilla in a store even a decade later without thinking of that.

The mind is powerful and doing something for another because you are TOLD to is powerful. Tie it to the senses, and it impresses even more.

It doesn't have be sexual.

This is awesome. Kudos to her for this idea.

 

[raven2]

Why not go to bookstore and buy Story of O or any number of other lifestyle books. She will have to face cashier and will be in a more mundane setting to begin her joirney.

In the same vein, I know one person who was told to go to a drug store and buy just an enema kit, condoms and lube.

 

[subwannabe]

Interesting thread with some good ideas, especially the vanilla candle thing. That was actually quite hot. I am a male but have been fantasizing some lately about how it would feel as a respectable woman to go out in a dress with no panties and sit somewhere in a position to purposely show herself to someone, AKA Sharon Stone.

 

[oysterman]

How about a short skirt and either sexy panties or no panties at all and have her drive through a drive thru and order some food?

 

[EmpressFi]

if the submissive's cellphone take a camera.. you could always tell her

well it's better to describe what I had to do

Master and I live an hour apart, timezone-wise, and some days, I dont leave work until he's already home. It was one of those days when he told me, "Sometime before you leave but not until I leave the office, I want you to go the the bathroom, lift your shirt and take a picture of your breasts for me." (Part of my assignments is to send a picture of myself every day, though usually it's just a morning picture)

But something like that, something to do for you at work, but give her a strict time restraint.. between the hours of 5 - 6pm..for example..

 

[sexikyttn]

With my first LDR, here's a few:

- at least one pic a day--not necessarily sexual though that was requested sometimes

- wearing a small toy during the day, turning it on for a set period of time at specific intervals but not allowed to come.

- an explicit written description of an encounter between us (I had/still have issues with using certain descriptive words--it's better than it used to be, but that area still needs work)

In my most recent, it wasn't so much assignments, but the goal's the same.

I think that with each relationship, the focus can be a bit different.

At least for the sub in the relationship (i.e. me), it's been my experience that you should focus the assignments around things that help "gently expand or push their bounderies" or that help them overcome issues. I still resist at times, as is natural for a sub I think, but I also acknowledge that it does help and in the end he's almost always the one who was right.

 

[ecstaticsub]

My PYL has never been a believer in orgasm denial. But as he says he owns my orgasms. I masturbate at least once at day by myself. At the beginning of our relationship (3 yrs ago) after any and every time that I masturbated I had to write up the fantasy I was having at the time. Not only did it further impress on me that my orgasms belonged to him but he also got to learn a lot about me, my inner fantasies and how my mind worked. It also kept me focused on him during masturbation, I wouldn't dare not have him at least partly in my fantasy.

Now I video every time I masturbate and describe what I am thinking as I am playing with myself.

 

[EmpressFi]

My PYL has never been a believer in orgasm denial. But as he says he owns my orgasms. I masturbate at least once at day by myself. At the beginning of our relationship (3 yrs ago) after any and every time that I masturbated I had to write up the fantasy I was having at the time. Not only did it further impress on me that my orgasms belonged to him but he also got to learn a lot about me, my inner fantasies and how my mind worked. It also kept me focused on him during masturbation, I wouldn't dare not have him at least partly in my fantasy.

Now I video every time I masturbate and describe what I am thinking as I am playing with myself.

That's a great idea... that last part though.. makes me smile because the more turned on I get, the more my ADD brain takes over and I cant focus on words... no matter what I do, I cannot turn thought into words...

 

[SubKekiLee]

if the submissive's cellphone take a camera.. you could always tell her

well it's better to describe what I had to do

Master and I live an hour apart, timezone-wise, and some days, I dont leave work until he's already home. It was one of those days when he told me, "Sometime before you leave but not until I leave the office, I want you to go the the bathroom, lift your shirt and take a picture of your breasts for me." (Part of my assignments is to send a picture of myself every day, though usually it's just a morning picture)

But something like that, something to do for you at work, but give her a strict time restraint.. between the hours of 5 - 6pm..for example..

I think your master thinks very much like my Sir thinks... my Sir makes decisions off the cuff.. but He does do things that pleasure him and show my respect for him

 

[ecstaticsub]

That's a great idea... that last part though.. makes me smile because the more turned on I get, the more my ADD brain takes over and I cant focus on words... no matter what I do, I cannot turn thought into words...

It hasn't been easy believe me. LOL It's been more of me thinking since I want this orgasm then I better figure out a way to vocalize it. On the few time I preview the videos before sending them to him, they really don't make much sense. But I do try. I also don't usually watch the videos myself, I get way too embarrassed. (which of course, he has noticed and loves when we get together watching me watch some that I have made for him...lol)

 

[sexikyttn]

My PYL has never been a believer in orgasm denial. But as he says he owns my orgasms. I masturbate at least once at day by myself. At the beginning of our relationship (3 yrs ago) after any and every time that I masturbated I had to write up the fantasy I was having at the time. Not only did it further impress on me that my orgasms belonged to him but he also got to learn a lot about me, my inner fantasies and how my mind worked. It also kept me focused on him during masturbation, I wouldn't dare not have him at least partly in my fantasy.

Now I video every time I masturbate and describe what I am thinking as I am playing with myself.

I've only been with the one that was into denial--even that changed somewhere during our relationship.

I must admit that what you described yours requested is far more "exciting" to me--and, as you said, a really good way for him to learn more about you.
Thanks for sharing that.

 

[subwannabe]

I like the idea of a sub having to masturbate on camera, following prearranged direction. The Dom would give verbal or written direction along with a time to do it. That way the Dom could be at work or wherever and know that at a certain time the sub would be following their instructions. When the Dom got home the sub would have to show the video for proof.