Mambo Italiano

[naughtycakes]

Ok, so last time I asked for advice, I got tons of good suggestions. Here's my latest quandry ~

Today I met my dad for a quick lunch downtown at a little counter-service place in the train station. We were in line for sandwiches made on the spot by a very helpful, very hot Italian guy who I've seen there a couple of times. It's obvious he likes what he does and he's a people person. It's also quite obvious he's got a stake in the place - he just cares too much, plus after our interaction he told a couple guys working there what to do, somewhat for my benefit, I hope.

Anyways, so as he was making my sandwich, I started to flirt a bit, asking him why there wasn't anything Italian on the menu. He told me he was Italian and that was enough and then guessed from me and my dad's appearance and the fact we were speaking Spanish to each other that we were Argentine. Nope. Peruvian I said.

He told me his ex-gf was Peruvian but had left him and then he expounded on his love of Peruvian food and told me how he made the best Lomo Saltado. By now he was making my dad's sandwich, and my poor dad was trying to tell him what kind of cheese he wanted, but my bambino was not listening.

I asked him if he knew how to make Papa a la Huancaina, a really good potato dish served cold which includes this super spicy, complicated cheese sauce, and he said no, that he had been told several recipes but had given up because it was just too many ingredients. He made sure to tell me he could really cook, though.

So then I told him I'd bring him my recipe next time I came around and that it was a simplified version with just a few ingredients. He perked up and said sure.

So here's the question, what do I include with the recipe, other than my phone number? I was thinking of maybe saying "Call me if you have any questions" or maybe "Call me if you want any more recipes" or "Call me if you want to go to a good Peruvian restaurant."

I don't want to offer to cook for him. Too soon. Also, I hardly ever pick up my phone, so should I tell him to make sure to leave a message or is that just too much? Hahahhaahah. Discuss....

 

[IPeregrinator]

"Call me if you want it spicier."

Make him sweat a bit.

 

[PannieMonster]

Include in your note:

For a real good time call me at (insert Phone number here).

Or

If you want this spicey Peruvian call me at (insert phone number here).

Don't forget to add your name to the note so he remembers which flirting customer you are.

 

[Not Normal]

I'd go with "Let me know how it tastes or if you have any questions." "Any questions" is nice and vague and broad...

 

[naughtycakes]

"Call me if you want it spicier."

Make him sweat a bit.

Nice. I like it, 'cept I thought about adding a spicy comment and, since I'm really looking for a date and not a fuck at the moment, I wasn't sure if this was too much. What say you?

See, since I know me, everything sounds too suggestive, and it's pretty forward leaving him my number, so is a spicy comment too much you think?

 

[piove_essa]

Tell him you make NaughtyCakes too. That there is no recipie for it though- it is more about a process, would he like a demo?

 

[naughtycakes]

Include in your note:

For a real good time call me at (insert Phone number here).

Or

If you want this spicey Peruvian call me at (insert phone number here).

Don't forget to add your name to the note so he remembers which flirting customer you are.

Ok, see response to Perg!

Thanks for your help, but I want this to be a nice note, not bathroom grafitti! But yes, good point about the name on the note. I ran a restaurant for 5 years and have worked in the business for many, many more, so I know about flirting with customers. It can mean nothing or it can mean lots. You never know till you ask.

I'd go with "Let me know how it tastes or if you have any questions." "Any questions" is nice and vague and broad...

Thanks! I think the first one's perfect.

 

[Wrong Element]

See, since I know me, everything sounds too suggestive...

I have the same problem. The curse of the glib.

Since you want to avoid suggestiveness, I would probably lean towards neutrality ("call me if you have any questions"), and then wait till you see him in person again to gauge his demeanor.

 

[Not Normal]

Thanks! I think the first one's perfect.

What did you expect?

 

[IPeregrinator]

Nice. I like it, 'cept I thought about adding a spicy comment and, since I'm really looking for a date and not a fuck at the moment, I wasn't sure if this was too much. What say you?

See, since I know me, everything sounds too suggestive, and it's pretty forward leaving him my number, so is a spicy comment too much you think?

Meh. Go big or go home. If you ski slow you get a punch. Scars are tattoos for the brave. If you're not living on the edge, you're taking up too much space.

Besides, he's Italian. That will sound like a vague hint to an Italian man. You might have to pinch his ass to get him to realize what you mean.

 

[moana15]

"enjoyed talking to you. Please feel free to call me if you want to discuss the dish more."

 

[naughtycakes]

Tell him you make NaughtyCakes too. That there is no recipie for it though- it is more about a process, would he like a demo?

Mmmmm. I'll save that line for the second date...

I have the same problem. The curse of the glib.

Since you want to avoid suggestiveness, I would probably lean towards neutrality ("call me if you have any questions"), and then wait till you see him in person again to gauge his demeanor.

Yes, good call. Though if he doesn't call me, I might wait a bit to see him again. He could be in a relationship or just not interested and I don't want to bother him at work, if that's the case.

What did you expect?

Only the best from you, of course...

 

[piove_essa]

What did you expect?

Cute AV you.

and Naughty

just ask him on a date- why not?

 

[Saint Peter]

Did he put the correct cheese on your Father's sammy?

 

[Not Normal]

Cute AV you.

and Naughty

just ask him on a date- why not?

Thanks it was a gift.

Yea Naughty, just ask him out.

 

[naughtycakes]

Meh. Go big or go home. If you ski slow you get a punch. Scars are tattoos for the brave. If you're not living on the edge, you're taking up too much space.

Besides, he's Italian. That will sound like a vague hint to an Italian man. You might have to pinch his ass to get him to realize what you mean.

GRRRRrrrrrr! Good point! Now I'm torn. But he wasn't all smarmy Italian. Maybe I can include a slightly suggestive spicy comment. Like, in the recipe, note that I like to use the seeds and veins of the aji amarillo chili pepper, cause I like it real spicy, but you can de-seed and de-vein it, if you don't. This is totally accurate and can be mildly suggestive with the correct phrasing.

"enjoyed talking to you. Please feel free to call me if you want to discuss the dish more."

Hi lady! This seems very civilized. I like the "enjoyed talking to you." I really did, and I'd love to discuss more food with him, maybe I should use that.

Cute AV you.

and Naughty

just ask him on a date- why not?

Yeah, but include that in the note, like ask him out right then?

 

[PannieMonster]

Ok, see response to Perg!

Thanks for your help, but I want this to be a nice note, not bathroom grafitti! But yes, good point about the name on the note. I ran a restaurant for 5 years and have worked in the business for many, many more, so I know about flirting with customers. It can mean nothing or it can mean lots. You never know till you ask.



.

So depending on exactly what kind of message you are trying to convey, you could just say:

This is my recipe and only one of my best Peruvian assets. If you would like to know more, call me. Add name and phone number.

Just what is it exactly that you want from this man?

 

[piove_essa]

Yeah, but include that in the note, like ask him out right then?

I know you are shy to do it, because there are lots of people around no doubt, but... that is the charm of it, you will make him feel great either way. I was once once asked out over the loudspeker at work, when I was younger.... it was too cute, and I couldn't refuse.

 

[naughtycakes]

Did he put the correct cheese on your Father's sammy?

Hahahah. I think so. My poor dad, he had to stand there while I flirted with this guy. I commented to him about it while we were eating and he just smiled and said nothing.

Thanks it was a gift.

Yea Naughty, just ask him out.

Oooh, Ok, I would normally, but this is a super busy lunch spot and there's always a line of customers and all these people working behind the counter and this bambino's doing three things at once at all times.

I guess I could ask him out while he makes my sandwich. I'm not so scared of rejection anymore, but fuck, I'm not a glutton for it either. I mean, if he's gonna turn me down, I don't want to have to wait in line to pay for 15 minutes after he gives me the brush off.

So depending on exactly what kind of message you are trying to convey, you could just say:

This is my recipe and only one of my best Peruvian assets. If you would like to know more, call me. Add name and phone number.

Just what is it exactly that you want from this man?

A date. That's it.

 

[Saint Peter]

Months ago somebody here posted a youtube of a guy bringing his girlfriend onto the basketball court during halftime to ask her hand in marriage.

She said no and walked off.


Taking the veins and seeds out of chile peppers is not suggestive. That is mechanical.

Put your phone number on the recipe and circle it.

 

[IPeregrinator]

GRRRRrrrrrr! Good point! Now I'm torn. But he wasn't all smarmy Italian. Maybe I can include a slightly suggestive spicy comment. Like, in the recipe, note that I like to use the seeds and veins of the aji amarillo chili pepper, cause I like it real spicy, but you can de-seed and de-vein it, if you don't. This is totally accurate and can be mildly suggestive with the correct phrasing.



Hi lady! This seems very civilized. I like the "enjoyed talking to you." I really did, and I'd love to discuss more food with him, maybe I should use that.



Yeah, but include that in the note, like ask him out right then?

"Here's the recipe. I hope you really enjoy it. Let's get dinner sometime. 867-5309."

 

[PannieMonster]

Ok, well ask him out. It's as simple as that.

 

[naughtycakes]

Months ago somebody here posted a youtube of a guy bringing his girlfriend onto the basketball court during halftime to ask her hand in marriage.

She said no and walked off.


Taking the veins and seeds out of chile peppers is not suggestive. That is mechanical.

Put your phone number on the recipe and circle it.

YES! My name, my phone number... IN BIG BOLD LETTERS!!!

"Here's the recipe. I hope you really enjoy it. Let's get dinner sometime. 867-5309."

Ding-da-Ling-da-Linggggg!!!! We have a winner! Thanks, IPerg! Hahahah, it's like the Apple version of Perg

Ok, so one more question. I'm hardly ever able to pick up my phone cause of work, but I shouldn't include any instructions to leave a message right? Is that just too retarded? Guys like the chase, supposedly, and that just seems like too many instructions, but I'm not sure?

Ok, well ask him out. It's as simple as that.

Yes, you're right.

Boy, it's so great to get the male point of view here!

 

[Not Normal]

"Here's the recipe. I hope you really enjoy it. Let's get dinner sometime. 867-5309."

"who can I turn to?"

 

[UCJ]

I can relate to not knowing how to approach a guy that you might REALLY be interested in...especially when its someone that you'll probably run into often. How about you write down your number when you give him the recipe? You can say something like, 'this recipe usually serves about? Here's my number. Call me if you have any questions. Let me know how it turns out' That places the ball in his court. If he calls then you can go from there. This also allows you to do follow up the next time you see him. You can ask if he's tried the recipe yet...