Male attractiveness (TO FEMALES)

[tickledkitty]

...and HEY!! you were lurking on my thread!?

You'd rather I didn't?

 

[tickledkitty]

I totally get all that.
BUT...same guy... flat stomach or beergut? No pref?

I think we're talking semantics here.

Would you be happier with a flat stomach? Then that's what I prefer.

I think you can't concieve of this because YOU would prefer a woman with a flat stomach and perky boobs. You can't believe women don't think that same way.

 

[THROBBS]

You'd rather I didn't?

I'd rather you spoke up when there.

And you are dodging the question.

I know that I do not find my wife unattractive and she has become QUITE overweight.
Yet I certainly find her MORE attractive and PREFER to see her fit.

I also understand that when I get more fit it CAN make her self-conscious about her weight.

 

[Daniellekitten]

I kind of enjoy a guy with some meat on him. It just gives a woman more to wrap her legs around.

 

[THROBBS]

I think we're talking semantics here.

Would you be happier with a flat stomach? Then that's what I prefer.

I think you can't concieve of this because YOU would prefer a woman with a flat stomach and perky boobs. You can't believe women don't think that same way.

I am not as dense as I may seem.

I understand the semantics...so I am trying to clarify.
I also get that physical beauty may not be TOP priority to women, but I do believe that they DO have a preference. I actually have a pretty "liberal" view of beauty in women.

 

[tickledkitty]

I'd rather you spoke up when there.

And you are dodging the question.

I know that I do not find my wife unattractive and she has become QUITE overweight.
Yet I certainly find her MORE attractive and PREFER to see her fit.

I also understand that when I get more fit it CAN make her self-conscious about her weight.

I would have if I'd have had something to say.

I'm not dodging. I just told you, my husband is QUITE fit and pretty attractive, yet, I find him completely unappealing.

Now my head hurts. Pick on someone else for a while.

 

[tickledkitty]

I kind of enjoy a guy with some meat on him. It just gives a woman more to wrap her legs around.

SEE??? Pick on Danielle now.

 

[damppanties]

I would have if I'd have had something to say.

I'm not dodging. I just told you, my husband is QUITE fit and pretty attractive, yet, I find him completely unappealing.

Now my head hurts. Pick on someone else for a while.

SEE??? Pick on Danielle now.

*gurglegiggle*

Is he harassing you? Do you need saving?

You'll need a big, strong man to do the saving...

 

[Stella_Omega]

You "don't mind a beer gut or a receding hairline"... but wouldn't you PREFER a flat stomach and a full head of hair?

It's about the body language, really; If the beer gut comes with a walk that swings from the hips, a flexible spine and shoulders, a sense of confidence in the arms and hands-- then I have no problem with a beer gut!

These manifestations of promise are easier to evince, when your waist has good muscle tone... For many people, the effort of keeping tone means you lose the gut. But not always.

Likewise, a full head of hair can disguise some facial characteristics-- especially long hair. A guy can tuck a weak jawline into his curly locks, for instance. But a man with a good, strong, symmetrical skull will simply keep on looking better and better the more of it is revealed.

For the same guy? Sure, less flab makes a sexy man sexier!

(Edtied to add; ) Dance classes! Bellydance for men, if you can find it!

 

[THROBBS]

I would have if I'd have had something to say.

I'm not dodging. I just told you, my husband is QUITE fit and pretty attractive, yet, I find him completely unappealing.

Now my head hurts. Pick on someone else for a while.

Not unappealing because of his fitness though.

Not exactly picking on you... I am trying to get a straight answer.

 

[NoJo]

Last December I wanted to lose excess lard because I didn't like my overweight flabby shape when I was naked. So I started a tough regimen of exercise. I've lost almost no weight, but I look (and feel) much better because I carry myself well, walk and stand straight, with more "core strength" in my upper body. People keep telling me I've lost weight when I haven't.

At first I thought that consciously holding my stomach in was kind of cheating. But in fact if a man has good core muscles it does hold in the abdomen, and generally gives a more "manly" appearance and posture.

So basically what I'm saying is that for a male mid-life crisis (which Throbbs is clearly undergoing) I recommend exercise.

 

[lisa123414]

Top ten reasons for loving men, from my hero…Ms. West

1. A hard man... is good to find
2. It's not the men in my life that counts -- it's the life in my men.
3. He who hesitates is last.
4. I go for two kinds of men. The kind with muscles, and the kind without.
5. So many men... so little time
6. I like two kinds of men: domestic and imported
7. A man has one hundred dollars and you leave him with two dollars, that's subtraction.
8. I only have 'yes' men around me. Who needs 'no' men?
9. Love thy neighbor - and if he happens to be tall, debonair and devastating, it will be that much easier.
10. A man can be short and dumpy and getting bald but if he has fire, women will like him.

 

[THROBBS]

I kind of enjoy a guy with some meat on him. It just gives a woman more to wrap her legs around.

By "meat" do you mean "volume"...does it matter the consistency of the bulk?

 

[THROBBS]

Last December I wanted to lose excess lard because I didn't like my overweight flabby shape when I was naked. So I started a tough regimen of exercise. I've lost almost no weight, but I look (and feel) much better because I carry myself well, walk and stand straight, with more "core strength" in my upper body. People keep telling me I've lost weight when I haven't.

At first I thought that consciously holding my stomach in was kind of cheating. But in fact if a man has good core muscles it does hold in the abdomen, and generally gives a more "manly" appearance and posture.

So basically what I'm saying is that for a male mid-life crisis (which Throbbs is clearly undergoing) I recommend exercise.

Right on, Joe.

I'll exercise regardless of the answers here. I would like to look and feel better, myself...and to/for myself.

Yet... I am curious about women's views

 

[THROBBS]

It's about the body language, really; If the beer gut comes with a walk that swings from the hips, a flexible spine and shoulders, a sense of confidence in the arms and hands-- then I have no problem with a beer gut!

These manifestations of promise are easier to evince, when your waist has good muscle tone... For many people, the effort of keeping tone means you lose the gut. But not always.

Likewise, a full head of hair can disguise some facial characteristics-- especially long hair. A guy can tuck a weak jawline into his curly locks, for instance. But a man with a good, strong, symmetrical skull will simply keep on looking better and better the more of it is revealed.

For the same guy? Sure, less flab makes a sexy man sexier!

(Edtied to add; ) Dance classes! Bellydance for men, if you can find it!

That's what I figured.
Being fit sure won't hurt. ('cept for that "no pain, no gain" concept ).

 

[millennium_bard]

I used to be if not handsome, at least presentable.
Of course that depends on a persons definition of presentable and the circumstances.

Way back when I was an active Biker, I had my hair shaggy and a full bushy beard. In my leathers and on my Harley, I looked right at home.

When I turned my attention to being a businessman and shaved the beard, trimmed the hair etc. and donned a suit I looked fairly respectable. Respectable enough to get elected to the city council for 3 terms anyway. (Ya know, that there kinda makes me want to re-define the word respectable.)

Not that it really matters these days, but back in my Biker days and later in my business days, I seldom had trouble finding feminine companionship. I was never in perfect physical shape, but the ladies I was with told me that it was my confidence without being arrogant and my sense of humor that attracted them.

These days however my face tends to make women turn green and look away. At least one of my old Biker buddies got sick when he saw me the last time.
As I can no longer speak aloud, I tend to stay away from social situations as much as possible.

 

[Stella_Omega]

That's what I figured.
Being fit sure won't hurt. ('cept for that "no pain, no gain" concept ).

yeah, the pain for the gain is what's stopping me, too!

I really like SubJoe's post, too.

 

[NoJo]

yeah, the pain for the gain is what's stopping me, too!

I really like SubJoe's post, too.

After exercsie I exude confidence through every pore.

 

[Guest]

How about a kilt? That seems to turn on some of the Lit ladies.

*whimper*

 

[THROBBS]

I feel moderately attractive. Enough so that someone important thinks so. I'd like to look better for her.

On the other side... I never have been attracted to women just on looks alone, BUT the women that I find really attractive are also physically attractive to me. That is NOT to say that I dislike or mind; wrinkles, stretch marks, cellulite, scars, unperky boobs, or what have you. I would never think of trading in a woman I loved for a "better model". I think that holds true for a woman who loves me. I just think I could be more appealing physically.

I am not stupid. (crass, often ignorant & oblivious sure)
I can be funny (to some).
I do have kissable lips.
I am losing my hair...and don't mind... I'll just cut it shorter.
I don't give a shit about my fingernails.. UNLESS they are "going somewhere".
I rarely dress nice. I don't iron my clothes. But I would if someone wanted me to.

 

[THROBBS]

yeah, the pain for the gain is what's stopping me, too!

I really like SubJoe's post, too.

heehee!
I'm not really afraid of the "pain" required. Up until recently an injury prevented some exercise and it wasn't really a priority. Now it seems a bit more important.

 

[THROBBS]

After exercsie I exude confidence through every pore.

thought that was sweat.

 

[NoJo]

I think you're highlighting an obvious, but little-discussed fact: We men have confidence issues regarding our attractiveness as we get older. We don't just want to be liked, or even loved. We want to feel desired, sexually. Men are really just women with dicks.

 

[THROBBS]

I think you're highlighting an obvious, but little-discussed fact: We men have confidence issues regarding our attractiveness as we get older. We don't just want to be liked, or even loved. We want to feel desired, sexually. Men are really just women with dicks.

Absolutely, Joe.

 

[amicus]

millennium_bard
Literotica Guru

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Read both your recent posts with interest and offer this:

The AH is fast becoming a Geriatric ward, whether openly admitted or not, you are in good company here.

The perspective you offered in both, are, to me, indicative of a life well lived and no one ages gracefully, I think.

I will never sail a boat in 30' seas again, nor make love under a statue in Paris, but the perspective gained, as with yours, holds value, even if it must be applied under less strenuous circumstances than a Harley.

Keep sharing your thoughts and experiences, smiles, it is about all we are left with...

regards...



amicus...