Too much for just getting self off?

[wetlilsweettart]

First off, I'll tell you that I am 19, but I want to know opinions on this so that I can rest easy or seek help.

I have a little bit of a fetish lying in the realm of puppy play, wearing a collar when I get off to using a leash to tether myself to the bed, I like to scoot down just enough so that it pulls, but when I did this last, someone suggested I add the twist of gagging myself with my soaked panties... so I did...

Is there anything wrong with doing this at my age? I regretted it post throes of an amazing orgasm, feeling like there should be shame in it, but I wanted to ask the advice of those who know bdsm and smut best and see if I should worry or rest easy knowing my hormones are just telling me to go for it.

 

[00Syd]

Nothing wrong with getting yourself off. Just make sure there isn't a risk that you could choke yourself.

 

[wetlilsweettart]

Nothing wrong with getting yourself off. Just make sure there isn't a risk that you could choke yourself.

As a general rule, I keep it a notch lower than I would like so that it doesn't choke me.

 

[twysted73]

First off, I'll tell you that I am 19, but I want to know opinions on this so that I can rest easy or seek help.

I have a little bit of a fetish lying in the realm of puppy play, wearing a collar when I get off to using a leash to tether myself to the bed, I like to scoot down just enough so that it pulls, but when I did this last, someone suggested I add the twist of gagging myself with my soaked panties... so I did...

Is there anything wrong with doing this at my age? I regretted it post throes of an amazing orgasm, feeling like there should be shame in it, but I wanted to ask the advice of those who know bdsm and smut best and see if I should worry or rest easy knowing my hormones are just telling me to go for it.

Doing this at your age? HA! Women your age should BE so enlightened and in-tune with their desires!! I commend you and applaud you.
"Shame" is what this society wants you to feel when you don't follow the herd.
Blaze your own path woman.

 

[myinnerslut]

i dont see aythign wrong as long as your being safe.

as far as your age, i started damn young. at 19 i think your pretty good.

 

[Chicklet]

god, if you only knew what *I* do to get myself off...

no, it's not too much. It's pretty tame. It's absolutely nothing to be ashamed of, and you'll probably be able to find someone who can indulge that when you're ready to move it out of the bedroom and into a relationship (either kinky sex only or maybe more)

 

[SweetGigi]

Doing this at your age? HA! Women your age should BE so enlightened and in-tune with their desires!! I commend you and applaud you.
"Shame" is what this society wants you to feel when you don't follow the herd.
Blaze your own path, woman.

I agree with my main man here with that 'gorgeous' sea foam green. Awe, how pretty!!

Yes, I think there is nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality. Just so long as you are safe and responsible, play away, sista?

 

[Miki647]

It's true that 19 is young, but you have the confidence to know what turns you on, and to go for it, and the maturity to ask about the things that make you feel unsure. I think thats great. If I had either one of those traits, I wouldn't be here, at age 44, just starting to enjoy the "kinky" side of myself that I always knew was there, but kept buried.

Just be safe, and have fun.

 

[WickedEve]

First off, I'll tell you that I am 19, but I want to know opinions on this so that I can rest easy or seek help.

I have a little bit of a fetish lying in the realm of puppy play, wearing a collar when I get off to using a leash to tether myself to the bed, I like to scoot down just enough so that it pulls, but when I did this last, someone suggested I add the twist of gagging myself with my soaked panties... so I did...

Is there anything wrong with doing this at my age? I regretted it post throes of an amazing orgasm, feeling like there should be shame in it, but I wanted to ask the advice of those who know bdsm and smut best and see if I should worry or rest easy knowing my hormones are just telling me to go for it.

I don't know much about puppy play, but are you getting off on pretending to be a puppy, or are you more turned on by the sensation of being choked? I know I like the sensation of being choked by my partner, and I've even done similar things, like what you've done, when I'm alone. Heck, after I play alone, it looks like the scene of a gang bang.

 

[madetotakeit]

There is no age limit to when you should be turned on by something. Keep in mind that everyone has things that turn them on. Most people do not talk about what turns them on (this board aside) so it can feel like you are out of the norm. Nothing could be further from the truth. What is more natural than being turned on?

As for the post orgasmic regret, that isn't so unusual either. It comes from you having yet to accept what you enjoy. From an early age we are told what we should enjoy and anything that falls outside of those constraints is looked down upon. The fear that if anyone saw you or knew what was in your mind, you would be judged or condemned. Eventually you will realize that when it comes to what turns you on others' opinions don't have an effect on you. It's the fear of judgment that holds you back. Your interests are your own. Own them, accept them, have fun.

Trust me, you aren't the only one who enjoys the feeling of a leash pulling on a collar around your neck even at your age. Just wait until there is somebody pulling that leash rather than securing it to the bed frame.

 

[wetlilsweettart]

I don't know much about puppy play, but are you getting off on pretending to be a puppy, or are you more turned on by the sensation of being choked? I know I like the sensation of being choked by my partner, and I've even done similar things, like what you've done, when I'm alone. Heck, after I play alone, it looks like the scene of a gang bang.

More of just being tied up, I don't think I need the sensation of being choked, having a cold is doing that for me quite well!

 

[wetlilsweettart]

There is no age limit to when you should be turned on by something. Keep in mind that everyone has things that turn them on. Most people do not talk about what turns them on (this board aside) so it can feel like you are out of the norm. Nothing could be further from the truth. What is more natural than being turned on?

As for the post orgasmic regret, that isn't so unusual either. It comes from you having yet to accept what you enjoy. From an early age we are told what we should enjoy and anything that falls outside of those constraints is looked down upon. The fear that if anyone saw you or knew what was in your mind, you would be judged or condemned. Eventually you will realize that when it comes to what turns you on others' opinions don't have an effect on you. It's the fear of judgment that holds you back. Your interests are your own. Own them, accept them, have fun.

Trust me, you aren't the only one who enjoys the feeling of a leash pulling on a collar around your neck even at your age. Just wait until there is somebody pulling that leash rather than securing it to the bed frame.

I think this may be a lot of it, I grew up in a catholic family, though not practicing, the morals and ethics were that of by the book or to hell I go, well fuck, I'm bisexual, hand me a hand basket and ship me to satan, because if that's a sin, I'm fucked.

Looking back, my what excitement it was, though if I were to do it again, no gagging myself with the panties, oh dear... I think I brushed my teeth and washed my mouth four times today!

 

[MasterPhoenix]

If thats what you enjoy, go for it.

 

[faeriefire]

Shoot. I feel like we should start a Catholic subbie support thread. There are enough of us floating around As for the question of what is ok or not ok, only you can decide that for yourself. There are a lot of people in the world who feel fulfilled by life choices and sexual practices that conform to social norms. And there are also a lot of people who are not satisfied with such. Feeling guilty while you come to grips with your sexuality is one thing. Feeling down about yourself is another. If your desires lead you to a place where you dislike yourself that is a problem and will reflect on many aspects of your life and your relationships. But if you come at them from a place of self-knowledge and acceptance they will be affirming and lend an inner power, a radiance that can be seen and felt.

I'm young too, and I've wondered about this a lot, not specifically regarding puppy-training but definately in regards to bdsm. Wondering how far down the rabbit hole I'll go in a lifetime of exploration. For me I've come to recognize some of my own limits, realized which things to me seem way too gross or revolting to explore, and which are more fascinating but foreign and deserve a second look with safeguards in place. In bdsm the main safety net is your own self-knowledge and the ability to delineate your wants and needs as well as your limits. When I first began using fantasies to get off they were relatively tame, but still would be considered unacceptable socially, so I tucked them away and they were my secret, to be shared with no one. When I wasn't fantasizing those thoughts didn't exist for me. It's how I rationalized that part of myself.

But when I realized I needed more than a secret, more than the allure of the forbidden and accepted myself as I was, wow! The first steps are heady and alluring and very powerful. I doubt the shininess has worn off yet...I've heard about 'sub fever' and some of the crazy things folks do when they first discover bdsm/kink. Just be careful, ok? You'll get a lot of support and encouragement here which is absolutely wonderful. And at the end of the day you still need to be yourself. Only you can decide if your fantasies and desires will be acceptable to you or not regardless of what anyone else says either positive or negative. Because at the end of the day we all live with our own actions, desires, wishes and dreams and know for ourselves that we're content or not with the way we've lived our lives. Best of luck to you and if you have any questions feel free to pm. Sounds like we might have a thing or two in common Take care.

 

[twiggy_the_spider]

I dont think the post orgasm regret thing is a big deal, I mean, who hasn't had that post orgasm 'jeeesus, is this really what gets me off' thought. As long as you're safe, go for it.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

... I have a little bit of a fetish lying in the realm of puppy play, wearing a collar when I get off to using a leash to tether myself to the bed, I like to scoot down just enough so that it pulls, but when I did this last, someone suggested I add the twist of gagging myself with my soaked panties... so I did...

And there is a problem with this why? ? ?

 

[wetlilsweettart]

And there is a problem with this why? ? ?

Somehow when I saw you had replied I knew this would be your answer! Haha

Looking back, not much of a problem, it was a major turn on, I'm just waiting for someone else on the other end of the leash.

 

[ero_dream]

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[madetotakeit]

I'm just waiting for someone else on the other end of the leash.

You certainly alone in that either!

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Somehow when I saw you had replied I knew this would be your answer! Haha

Looking back, not much of a problem, it was a major turn on, I'm just waiting for someone else on the other end of the leash.

Hmmmm... I don't suppose you are looking for a service position in South Carolina?

 

[wetlilsweettart]

Hmmmm... I don't suppose you are looking for a service position in South Carolina?

Oh if only I lived out there! I'd jump on that if I wasn't about to start school and lived out that way.

 

[ShyVixen]

First off, I'll tell you that I am 19, but I want to know opinions on this so that I can rest easy or seek help.

I have a little bit of a fetish lying in the realm of puppy play, wearing a collar when I get off to using a leash to tether myself to the bed, I like to scoot down just enough so that it pulls, but when I did this last, someone suggested I add the twist of gagging myself with my soaked panties... so I did...

Is there anything wrong with doing this at my age? I regretted it post throes of an amazing orgasm, feeling like there should be shame in it, but I wanted to ask the advice of those who know bdsm and smut best and see if I should worry or rest easy knowing my hormones are just telling me to go for it.

I had this conversation with my friend the other day, although not about puppy play. She has issues with fantasizing about group sex, and what she called the 'more extreme' side of sex - which in fact turned out to be pretty tame.

Long story short, there is NOTHING wrong with exploring your desires. There is no shame in pleasure. As long as you are safe (and I think you've already established you are!), my advice - keep exploring

 

[TeachMeSir]

I am older than you, by over a decade! I have always been sexually active since reaching adulthood (define that yourself!). Sometimes it's been satisfying, sometimes not so much. Anyway, my point is that anything you do that feels right, that does not infringe on the right of others, and that does not become an obesssion (everything in moderation) is OK. How will you know unless you explore? Know what you like, know what you don't like, know what you absolutely must have & know what you really appreciate but can cope if it's not part ofte scene every time. And all this takes expeience (which I'm still going through).

On a personal note, I tether myself to the bed. Not spread eagle or anything, just my ankle with a loose rope. It's not a puppy play thing as such, but it's definately a grounding. It tells me where I am, where I want to be, and anchors me to that place. Children have security blankets or lovies, why shouldn't we have tethers as long as it doesn't become our sole defining trait?

 

[Marquis]

Ha ha, I know the feeling of, "damn, if I need this already, what the fuck am I going to do when I get older?"

Trust me, there is more shit.

 

[_kiana_]

You've got no worries. Learning about what gets you hot by yourself can only help you when you're looking for or have a partner. Cuz then you're able to articulate it to them and that leads to the best kind of fun!