where have all the good Daddies gone ...

daddysgirl83

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how does a man who claims to be a Daddy wake up one morning after 9 years ... and decide He no longer wants His babygirl.

how do you just go from desiring her so badly, telling her everything you'll do to her, make her jump through hoops to show her devotion to you ... and then in the end just say *i changed my mind, i don't think this is going anywhere*

shouldn't you know sooner? why would you string a girl along for 9 years and then just one day, change your mind.

so - what does a babygirl who has depended on her Daddy and desired Him and loved Him for 9 years do now? just start all over? and run the risk of it happening again?

anybody else ever have this happen? how do you move on and start again? where in the world does a young girl find herself a true loving honest sincere Daddy?
 
how does a man who claims to be a Daddy wake up one morning after 9 years ... and decide He no longer wants His babygirl.

how do you just go from desiring her so badly, telling her everything you'll do to her, make her jump through hoops to show her devotion to you ... and then in the end just say *i changed my mind, i don't think this is going anywhere*

I guess he didn't enjoy the anal sex.


so - what does a babygirl who has depended on her Daddy and desired Him and loved Him for 9 years do now?

Continue to live.


anybody else ever have this happen?

No, of course, not. All relationships last till both die the same hour.
 
how does a man who claims to be a Daddy wake up one morning after 9 years ... and decide He no longer wants His babygirl.

how do you just go from desiring her so badly, telling her everything you'll do to her, make her jump through hoops to show her devotion to you ... and then in the end just say *i changed my mind, i don't think this is going anywhere*

shouldn't you know sooner? why would you string a girl along for 9 years and then just one day, change your mind.

so - what does a babygirl who has depended on her Daddy and desired Him and loved Him for 9 years do now? just start all over? and run the risk of it happening again?

anybody else ever have this happen? how do you move on and start again? where in the world does a young girl find herself a true loving honest sincere Daddy?
Well he obviously had some issues, and there could be thousands of variables which contributed to that. But you probably have nothing to do with any of them. Don't be so hard on yourself, someone else will find you.
 
I am terribly sorry to hear this has happened to you. My heart goes out to you.
 
how does a man who claims to be a Daddy wake up one morning after 9 years ... and decide He no longer wants His babygirl.

how do you just go from desiring her so badly, telling her everything you'll do to her, make her jump through hoops to show her devotion to you ... and then in the end just say *i changed my mind, i don't think this is going anywhere*

shouldn't you know sooner? why would you string a girl along for 9 years and then just one day, change your mind.

so - what does a babygirl who has depended on her Daddy and desired Him and loved Him for 9 years do now? just start all over? and run the risk of it happening again?

anybody else ever have this happen? how do you move on and start again? where in the world does a young girl find herself a true loving honest sincere Daddy?


i'm so sorry for you that this has happened and especially in the way that it has.....

try not to answer any of the questions you asked above.....right now....don't start over.....don't run the risk....just take care of yourself right now....there will be time later to consider these questions


pet
 
You have my compassion.

It is plausible that your daddy had a good reason to break up, did he give you any advise for the road ahead?

I would suggest you scrutinize any relationship in the future before getting evolved. When you are suddenly on your own like this it often blinds you to the flawed reality of a new developing relationship so be careful.
 
thanks for all the advice so far - most everyone here is always so nice. it's really uplifting to hear some encouraging words.

and no - he never said anything about the future - he just wrote me an e-mail and said *i don't know that this is going to go anywhere. your patience is wearing thin and mine is gone, so it seems pointless to continue* .... and that was it. it really all happened over a test i didn't pass the way he thought i should have. that's the *straw that broke the camel's back* so to speak.

Daddy always tested me with different comments and questions and scenarios to see how i would respond - if i would respond the way a babygirl should and put Daddy first - or be selfish and think of only how it affected me. I never knew when he was testing me and when he was being serious. it was really hard. i know, that was the point! it was a test.

anyways, Daddy's last question was *if Daddy had his pleasure with another woman and that woman became pregnant, what should Daddy do?* ...... well i know Daddy is with other women, so i was afraid that he was being serious. and to top it all off, i hadn't heard from him in almost 2 weeks! so i thought maybe that's why he was gone so long. so of course i was a babygirl that became jealous that Daddy was spending all his time with someone else and i got really upset. then i calmed down a lot and thought - you know what, it's okay. my Daddy is the best, there is nothing he can't handle ... and so the second part of my email was a lot calmer and a much better response.

Daddy e-mailed me back the next morning and said he was just curious what my answer would be - and that's when he said he didn't think it was going anywhere and it was pointless to continue. if he had a decent reason for leaving maybe i would think differently about it - but he doesn't have a reason. he just decided apparently he was bored with me and is moving on to another, i don't know what to think - he never talks to me about this type of stuff. there is no communication with him. that's what makes it all so hard.

well ... thanks for the advice, hope i get a few more responses!
 
thanks for all the advice so far - most everyone here is always so nice. it's really uplifting to hear some encouraging words.

and no - he never said anything about the future - he just wrote me an e-mail and said *i don't know that this is going to go anywhere. your patience is wearing thin and mine is gone, so it seems pointless to continue* .... and that was it. it really all happened over a test i didn't pass the way he thought i should have. that's the *straw that broke the camel's back* so to speak.

Daddy always tested me with different comments and questions and scenarios to see how i would respond - if i would respond the way a babygirl should and put Daddy first - or be selfish and think of only how it affected me. I never knew when he was testing me and when he was being serious. it was really hard. i know, that was the point! it was a test.

anyways, Daddy's last question was *if Daddy had his pleasure with another woman and that woman became pregnant, what should Daddy do?* ...... well i know Daddy is with other women, so i was afraid that he was being serious. and to top it all off, i hadn't heard from him in almost 2 weeks! so i thought maybe that's why he was gone so long. so of course i was a babygirl that became jealous that Daddy was spending all his time with someone else and i got really upset. then i calmed down a lot and thought - you know what, it's okay. my Daddy is the best, there is nothing he can't handle ... and so the second part of my email was a lot calmer and a much better response.

Daddy e-mailed me back the next morning and said he was just curious what my answer would be - and that's when he said he didn't think it was going anywhere and it was pointless to continue. if he had a decent reason for leaving maybe i would think differently about it - but he doesn't have a reason. he just decided apparently he was bored with me and is moving on to another, i don't know what to think - he never talks to me about this type of stuff. there is no communication with him. that's what makes it all so hard.

well ... thanks for the advice, hope i get a few more responses!

He was this way for all 9 years?

It seems to me that you were a lot more invested in this relationship than him.

I'm sorry it happened but now you can take your time to heal and find a real relationship with another Daddy when you are ready.

Good luck.
 
To thine own self be true!!

thanks for all the advice so far - most everyone here is always so nice. it's really uplifting to hear some encouraging words.

and no - he never said anything about the future - he just wrote me an e-mail and said *i don't know that this is going to go anywhere. your patience is wearing thin and mine is gone, so it seems pointless to continue* .... and that was it. it really all happened over a test i didn't pass the way he thought i should have. that's the *straw that broke the camel's back* so to speak.

Daddy always tested me with different comments and questions and scenarios to see how i would respond - if i would respond the way a babygirl should and put Daddy first - or be selfish and think of only how it affected me. I never knew when he was testing me and when he was being serious. it was really hard. i know, that was the point! it was a test.

anyways, Daddy's last question was *if Daddy had his pleasure with another woman and that woman became pregnant, what should Daddy do?* ...... well i know Daddy is with other women, so i was afraid that he was being serious. and to top it all off, i hadn't heard from him in almost 2 weeks! so i thought maybe that's why he was gone so long. so of course i was a babygirl that became jealous that Daddy was spending all his time with someone else and i got really upset. then i calmed down a lot and thought - you know what, it's okay. my Daddy is the best, there is nothing he can't handle ... and so the second part of my email was a lot calmer and a much better response.

Daddy e-mailed me back the next morning and said he was just curious what my answer would be - and that's when he said he didn't think it was going anywhere and it was pointless to continue. if he had a decent reason for leaving maybe i would think differently about it - but he doesn't have a reason. he just decided apparently he was bored with me and is moving on to another, i don't know what to think - he never talks to me about this type of stuff. there is no communication with him. that's what makes it all so hard.

well ... thanks for the advice, hope i get a few more responses!


Hi, I am sorry for the pain and sadness that you are having. The ending of a relationship is never easy especially when one is not certain why it is over. I am fairly new to these boards myself and I have spent the past month just reading and lurking in the threads. But, I have learned many things in that time.

One of the things that I have learned in this forum over the past 3 months is the amount of communication that many of the posters here put into their relationships.

I have come to understand that the level of trust and understanding that I believe many of us are looking for in a partner, takes time and honesty to develop and nurture.

I think that is easy for us to make excuses when we see the warning signals. We hope and want for it to be right, real. OK. We forget to trust our inner knowing.

Know that you deserve better, someone who will talk and listen to you and with you.

Good Luck
 
thanks for all the advice so far - most everyone here is always so nice. it's really uplifting to hear some encouraging words.

and no - he never said anything about the future - he just wrote me an e-mail and said *i don't know that this is going to go anywhere. your patience is wearing thin and mine is gone, so it seems pointless to continue* .... and that was it. it really all happened over a test i didn't pass the way he thought i should have. that's the *straw that broke the camel's back* so to speak.

Daddy always tested me with different comments and questions and scenarios to see how i would respond - if i would respond the way a babygirl should and put Daddy first - or be selfish and think of only how it affected me. I never knew when he was testing me and when he was being serious. it was really hard. i know, that was the point! it was a test.

anyways, Daddy's last question was *if Daddy had his pleasure with another woman and that woman became pregnant, what should Daddy do?* ...... well i know Daddy is with other women, so i was afraid that he was being serious. and to top it all off, i hadn't heard from him in almost 2 weeks! so i thought maybe that's why he was gone so long. so of course i was a babygirl that became jealous that Daddy was spending all his time with someone else and i got really upset. then i calmed down a lot and thought - you know what, it's okay. my Daddy is the best, there is nothing he can't handle ... and so the second part of my email was a lot calmer and a much better response.

Daddy e-mailed me back the next morning and said he was just curious what my answer would be - and that's when he said he didn't think it was going anywhere and it was pointless to continue. if he had a decent reason for leaving maybe i would think differently about it - but he doesn't have a reason. he just decided apparently he was bored with me and is moving on to another, i don't know what to think - he never talks to me about this type of stuff. there is no communication with him. that's what makes it all so hard.

well ... thanks for the advice, hope i get a few more responses!

OMG lol, what a fucked up question!! I didnt want to say it but I will. Pardon me lol. :rolleyes:

Daddy should go fuck himself and stop calling himself a Daddy Dom!! pffffft


as for you girlie, I feel for you {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

I am sorry you have to go thro this and I wish you luck in finding someone who will treat you better and love you more.


:rose: :rose: :rose:
 
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anyways, Daddy's last question was *if Daddy had his pleasure with another woman and that woman became pregnant, what should Daddy do?* ......

well ... thanks for the advice, hope i get a few more responses!

OMG lol, what a fucked up question!! I didnt want to say it but I will. Pardon me lol. :rolleyes:

Daddy should go fuck himself and stop calling himself a Daddy Dom!! pffffft

Honestly, while I think it's pretty crappy that he tests you that way, if a Dom is with another person, it IS a valid question. Perhaps it would be better used as part of a discussion where a Dom and his/her sub discuss the "what if this happens" of their relationship. God knows my Master and I have discussed what happens if he meets someone else closer to his home or what happens if we no longer love the other..etc. But it's not a fucked up question.

And why should he stop calling himself a Daddy Dom? Because he's sleeping with other women or for asking the question in the first place. Many Dom's have more than one partner or have wives. If the Dom cares for his "little girl", cares for each one as if they were special and in a way they're happy with, then the number of partners has no bearings on the title or the respect he should be given.

I'm sorry you're going through this, daddy'sgirl. No one deserves to be treated with this much callousness.

This part

- he never talks to me about this type of stuff. there is no communication with him. that's what makes it all so hard.

is the part that sends up my red flags. As was mentioned, communication is so... so key to this relationship. Communication goes hand in hand with trust. As I said, while I think it's a valid question... I think they way he did it.. that was harsh.
 
Honestly, while I think it's pretty crappy that he tests you that way, if a Dom is with another person, it IS a valid question. Perhaps it would be better used as part of a discussion where a Dom and his/her sub discuss the "what if this happens" of their relationship. God knows my Master and I have discussed what happens if he meets someone else closer to his home or what happens if we no longer love the other..etc. But it's not a fucked up question.

And why should he stop calling himself a Daddy Dom? Because he's sleeping with other women or for asking the question in the first place. Many Dom's have more than one partner or have wives. If the Dom cares for his "little girl", cares for each one as if they were special and in a way they're happy with, then the number of partners has no bearings on the title or the respect he should be given.
Well you are right, it is a valid question, I still dont like it tho.

I just dont share, thats it.
 
it was really hard. i know, that was the point! it was a test.

anyways, Daddy's last question was *if Daddy had his pleasure with another woman and that woman became pregnant, what should Daddy do?*

These sort of tests are never easy, especially when you are not sure how much is a test based on possible reality, or just musing for the sake of it. Anyway as time does not permit me to get into too much right now, I have bumped this thread for you which looks at the question you were asked and in which some shared their various feelings and possible reaction to such a scenario....thought you might find it of interest.:rose:

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3222/2343270267_2f4eca8ca9_t.jpg Catalina
 
I'm curious - did you ever meet Daddy in person? And if the "83" in your name is your birth year, that would mean you met him when you were 16 :confused:

how do you just go from desiring her so badly, telling her everything you'll do to her, make her jump through hoops to show her devotion to you

Has he ever done anything to you in real time? Please correct me if I'm wrong, but 9 years seems a very long time to be online without taking it any further....:confused:
 
thanks for all the advice so far - most everyone here is always so nice. it's really uplifting to hear some encouraging words.

and no - he never said anything about the future - he just wrote me an e-mail and said *i don't know that this is going to go anywhere. your patience is wearing thin and mine is gone, so it seems pointless to continue* .... and that was it. it really all happened over a test i didn't pass the way he thought i should have. that's the *straw that broke the camel's back* so to speak.

Daddy always tested me with different comments and questions and scenarios to see how i would respond - if i would respond the way a babygirl should and put Daddy first - or be selfish and think of only how it affected me. I never knew when he was testing me and when he was being serious. it was really hard. i know, that was the point! it was a test.

anyways, Daddy's last question was *if Daddy had his pleasure with another woman and that woman became pregnant, what should Daddy do?* ...... well i know Daddy is with other women, so i was afraid that he was being serious. and to top it all off, i hadn't heard from him in almost 2 weeks! so i thought maybe that's why he was gone so long. so of course i was a babygirl that became jealous that Daddy was spending all his time with someone else and i got really upset. then i calmed down a lot and thought - you know what, it's okay. my Daddy is the best, there is nothing he can't handle ... and so the second part of my email was a lot calmer and a much better response.

Daddy e-mailed me back the next morning and said he was just curious what my answer would be - and that's when he said he didn't think it was going anywhere and it was pointless to continue. if he had a decent reason for leaving maybe i would think differently about it - but he doesn't have a reason. he just decided apparently he was bored with me and is moving on to another, i don't know what to think - he never talks to me about this type of stuff. there is no communication with him. that's what makes it all so hard.

well ... thanks for the advice, hope i get a few more responses!

That’s tragic… keep your head up, be aware of your surroundings is all I can say. If this is a serious emotional thing, get somebody to just blurt it all out to, or if necessary, hire somebody to help you figure it out.

Other then that, life goes on, you will meet somebody to care for you, but remember that you have a place in that relationship just as they do. That means if it doesn’t suit you, its not going to work.
 
I'm curious - did you ever meet Daddy in person? And if the "83" in your name is your birth year, that would mean you met him when you were 16 :confused:



Has he ever done anything to you in real time? Please correct me if I'm wrong, but 9 years seems a very long time to be online without taking it any further....:confused:


yes, you would be correct on that - 83 is my birth year, and yes i was only 16 when we met. my plans were to move to NY after highschool, and i used to visit a chatroom based on NY - that was where we met. He was 24, i thought it was cool. we were strictly friends for quite awhile. but the more i talked to him the more i wanted him. he just seemed so perfect - i don't know, maybe it was just because i was young and naive and believed every word he ever said. apparently that's where i went wrong. i never questioned him, i just believed him. probably not my smartest move ever.
and yes ... 9 years is a very long time to be only online. that should have been my 2nd red flag i suppose. the more i think about it, the more i see i missed so many warning signs - i was so wrapped up in everything he said to me, i just never questioned him. if he said it, it was the way it was. ya know?
obviously, things happened in those 2 1/2 years and i didn't make it out to NY like i wanted to. we had talked about meeting, but at first i was too scared to - i'm very shy, i was afraid i would freeze and ruin the whole thing. and then every time we talked about meeting - something always happened. either on his end or my end, and it never got to happen. before i knew it 9 years had flown by and we were still sitting in square 1.
the more i think of everything that has happened the dumber i feel about the whole thing - how could i have missed so many signals. i was so blinded to what was really happening - i was only following my heart and not my head. there goes red flag #3 haha!
well, that's that, seems kinda crazy - i know. i just don't know how to explain it.
 
That’s tragic… keep your head up, be aware of your surroundings is all I can say. If this is a serious emotional thing, get somebody to just blurt it all out to, or if necessary, hire somebody to help you figure it out.

Other then that, life goes on, you will meet somebody to care for you, but remember that you have a place in that relationship just as they do. That means if it doesn’t suit you, its not going to work.


thanks Captor. i'm sure it'll get better each day - i should have seen it coming, it was my own fault. suppose that's what i get for being so naive about it all. next time i'll have to make sure i take time to focus on what is really happening and just try to be more cautious. heaven knows i don't want to be feeling this pain ever again!

i don't know what to do about it really, guess i'll just wait and see what comes my way. maybe i need to find myself a single Daddy who's into psychiatric therapy lol that'll help me in more ways than one! ;-)
 
daddysgirl83, you wrote in part, "obviously, things happened in those 2 1/2 years and i didn't make it out to NY like i wanted to. we had talked about meeting, but at first i was too scared to - i'm very shy, i was afraid i would freeze and ruin the whole thing. and then every time we talked about meeting - something always happened. either on his end or my end, and it never got to happen. before i knew it 9 years had flown by and we were still sitting in square 1. "

As others have written above, please try not to be so hard on yourself. You are an young female with sufficient spunk to seek sexual awareness, something which so many women yearn to do, but do not for any number of reasons.

Shy girls can be very attractive girls, as I am sure are you. Think well of yourself, think well of your former Daddy, remember the good times, arouse yourself sexually frequently, maintain the arousal. Women aroused have a glow which adds to their attraction.

As has been written above, you will find another.....and continue to be safe, please.
 
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yes, you would be correct on that - 83 is my birth year, and yes i was only 16 when we met. my plans were to move to NY after highschool, and i used to visit a chatroom based on NY - that was where we met. He was 24, i thought it was cool. we were strictly friends for quite awhile. but the more i talked to him the more i wanted him. he just seemed so perfect - i don't know, maybe it was just because i was young and naive and believed every word he ever said. apparently that's where i went wrong. i never questioned him, i just believed him. probably not my smartest move ever.
and yes ... 9 years is a very long time to be only online. that should have been my 2nd red flag i suppose. the more i think about it, the more i see i missed so many warning signs - i was so wrapped up in everything he said to me, i just never questioned him. if he said it, it was the way it was. ya know?
obviously, things happened in those 2 1/2 years and i didn't make it out to NY like i wanted to. we had talked about meeting, but at first i was too scared to - i'm very shy, i was afraid i would freeze and ruin the whole thing. and then every time we talked about meeting - something always happened. either on his end or my end, and it never got to happen. before i knew it 9 years had flown by and we were still sitting in square 1.
the more i think of everything that has happened the dumber i feel about the whole thing - how could i have missed so many signals. i was so blinded to what was really happening - i was only following my heart and not my head. there goes red flag #3 haha!
well, that's that, seems kinda crazy - i know. i just don't know how to explain it.

Hun you've had 9 years of hopes and dreams which have just come crashing down on you, of course you're going to be hurt and disappointed. But think about this - you now have the opportunity to find someone who will love and care for you the way you should be treated.

Don't worry, I'm sure we have all been there - I spent a year in a long distance relationship with someone who wasn't free to be with me, but who made all sorts of promises that he either could not or would not keep. Until he found someone else closer to home, and I ended up dumped and hurt.

Take the time to regroup, grieve for what might have been, and then pick up the pieces and go out and live :) My relationship with Sir developed after the breakup with the other guy. We are now married and very happy together. Life may seem bleak right now, but I'm sure you will come back stronger than ever :rose:
 
thanks Captor. i'm sure it'll get better each day - i should have seen it coming, it was my own fault. suppose that's what i get for being so naive about it all. next time i'll have to make sure i take time to focus on what is really happening and just try to be more cautious. heaven knows i don't want to be feeling this pain ever again!

i don't know what to do about it really, guess i'll just wait and see what comes my way. maybe i need to find myself a single Daddy who's into psychiatric therapy lol that'll help me in more ways than one! ;-)

Don’t beat yourself up about it, it was an experience, you enjoyed it for the most part, but like all things it came to and end. Just the same all things have a beginning too. Keep your memories, learn your lessons, and go from where it left you in search of something new. That’s life, enjoy.
 
Having a relationship collapse sucks... There is no way around that...

There are a lot of good Daddy Doms out there.

I wasn't going to say too much more on it, but fuck it... I am sleep deprived and well am likely to speak my mind...

9 years of a relationship without taking it offline at all just seems like it would get to be too much... I can't say that I am crazy about the mind fucks coming from a Daddy Dom, but who am I to say?

Don't give up on your dreams, but let yourself heal....
 
Daddysgirl

I am sorry to read of how things have turned out for you.

Red flags are easy in hindsight, not so easy at the time.

As Bandit said, take time to grieve and put yourself back together again.

Breakups, regardless of the situation are hard.

Please be aware that you are vulnerable right now, there are plenty of people who will try to take advantage of you when you are feeling this way.

That doesn't mean everyone is, but there are people online who troll for women in your situation; and take advantage of them.

Please be kind to yourself, and believe you deserve better at this point in your life
 
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