Help My First Munch

[Badger82]

hello all

im thinking of attending my first Munch, after spending a year trying to track them down. Its two days before there meeting and ive gotten a major case of cold feet, and not helping much im/ was going to go on my own.

i was just wondering, if anyone could share there first experiance, or tell me what to expect?

 

[Lalah]

A Munch is just a social event, no one's going to jump on you. Just think of it as meeting some new friends. You can go chat up a little, and if you get unconfortable just leave. No one will pressure you.

 

[Untamed_Tygress]

Hi! Munches are really not something to be nervous about...
All they basically are about is a bunch of BDSMers sitting around a big table eating lunch or sipping coffee while the leader of the group asks "get to know you" questions for everyone to take turns answering.

Expect the questions asked to be pretty random...
Most likely some will be BDSM related & some wont be. The one thing i've heard asked at almost every munch i've been to was for everyone to introduce themselves & then share what some of their biggest kinks were. But then i've also heard things asked like "what kind of music does everyone like?" or "does anyone have a favorite comic book hero?"

Of course other people in the group can suggest topics to talk about too, but depending on how good the group is you can either get a lively bunch, or be sitting in a room where you swear you can almost hear crickets chirping while the leader isn't talking. It's the luck of the draw, but you wont know what you'll end up with unless you give it a shot!

I hope this helped!

Cyn

 

[FurryFury]

I went to my first munch alone. Yes, it makes one nervious but really, the other people are just people and probably most of them are nervious as well.

Here is a thread I started about first time munch tips. It details my and a few other's first munches.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=416815

I would encourage you to grab your courage and go. I think it's a really good thing to get started in your local kink community.

 

[SirQittus]

hello all

im thinking of attending my first Munch, after spending a year trying to track them down. Its two days before there meeting and ive gotten a major case of cold feet, and not helping much im/ was going to go on my own.

i was just wondering, if anyone could share there first experiance, or tell me what to expect?

I've only been to one as a newbie, my pyl a couple more before we got together. From those and what I've heard/read from others, they vary from being a bunch of people getting together in a restaurant at the same time, to an organized sort of thing with formal introductions, Q&A, and so on. YMMV. My suggestions (based on the less-organized style) would be #1, don't be surprised (and don't take it personally) if you don't feel very warmly welcomed (particularly at the less-organized ones) - my own experience has been that many people at the munch tend to chat with people they already know, leaving the newbies a little unsocialized. #2, initiate conversations, don't wait for people to chat you up. No one at a munch (well, except for the occasional asshat) is going to mind that a sub speaks without being spoken to, and often they're as nervous about talking to people they don't know as you are in being there. Oh, and #3 - keep an open mind and go a few times before you decide the group is a bunch of cliquish snobs. My pyl and I initially thought that, and looking back we laugh, as we've become really good friends with a lot of those same people.

And many munch groups have email groups or forums, check for one and if it exists get in conversations there to get the lay of the land and have more conversation-starter material ready.

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

I just started going in December. I was fortunate enough to have met someone who was more then willing to go with me, so I had someone to chat with. This group has been meeting every Wednesday night for about 4 yrs... little intimidating to me. I dislike social situations most of the time.

I was welcomed easily into this group. It's not a formal meeting, street clothes required as it's held in a public restaurant. Conversation ranges from daily news events, world events, kink, family, movies, music... you get the idea.

I don't know, I'm kind of wierd... I don't look at people and see them as a *label* (P/pyl). I see them as people. I will approach every and anyone. I always do it with respect, and those in this group at least do not stand on much formality... subs, Dom/mes, tops, bottoms, slaves and Masters, swingers, poly, trans, crossdressers.... all mingle as... *gasp*... regular folk. Just remember... treat everyone with respect and courtesy.. but every P/pyl started life out as just a person.

 

[twysted73]

Went alone.

Was a bit boring. I was outgoing but others, less engaging.
Thus the judgement.

You're bringing something good to the situation. You decide how long they get the opportunity to share that personality of yours.

If they don't earn the right through good conversation and interesting views in the first 30 minutes of starting, etc thank the host/ess and go.

No pressure.

 

[MzChrista]

Last munch I went to all they did was argue about Cloverfield. hahaha

 

[A Desert Rose]

Last munch I went to all they did was argue about Cloverfield. hahaha

Ya know... I've seen this name as the last poster to this thread, several times and it took 'til now for it to click in my head...

My God MzChrista!!!! How the hell have you been? And where the hell have you been?

What a sight for sore eyes you are!!!!

 

[MzChrista]

Ya know... I've seen this name as the last poster to this thread, several times and it took 'til now for it to click in my head...

My God MzChrista!!!! How the hell have you been? And where the hell have you been?

What a sight for sore eyes you are!!!!

I'm doing good, thanks. How are you doing? Doesnt seem like many people from the old days around any more.

I was working extra and going back to school and just sort of got out of the posting habit. Then today me and Caroline Oh were having lunch and said, what the hell, lets drop in over at Lit and see whats up.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I'm doing good, thanks. How are you doing? Doesnt seem like many people from the old days around any more.

I was working extra and going back to school and just sort of got out of the posting habit. Then today me and Caroline Oh were having lunch and said, what the hell, lets drop in over at Lit and see whats up.

How very nice to see you back! I'm glad to hear that you are both doing well.

Hope you make "dropping in" a habit on occassion. You've both been sorely missed.

;-)

 

[MzChrista]

How very nice to see you back! I'm glad to hear that you are both doing well.

Hope you make "dropping in" a habit on occassion. You've both been sorely missed.

;-)

Well, I'm having a pretty good time, so I'll probably hang a while, at least for now. Can't speak for caroline, but I am good at nagging her.