Have you ever questioned your sexuality?

[Pure]

note to theegoat [my lettering]

TGPa.If you only desire heterosexual sex, you are straight.
b.If you only desire homosexual sex, you are gay.
c.If you desire both, regardless of which you are having now, you are bi.


Pure: i don't buy this at all, if these are necessary conditions, i.e.

a* //It is necessary that you only desire hetero sex, to be considered hetero. //

this would be like saying, 'you must desire ONLY to play the piano, {and play only the piano}, to be considered a pianist.'

even in diluted form, i would question these:

a#/// If you MOSTLY desire hetero sex, then you are [MOSTLY] hetero.

b# If you MOSTLY desire homo sex, then you rare [MOSTLY] homo sexual.

etc.
///

what's left out, among other things, is emotional bonding. for example, if you, MOSTLY, desired and carried out hetero sex, but, much less often desired and carried out homosexual connections, BUT the latter were long term, and were the ONLY emotionally bonded relationships you had in life, there is a good case for saying you are [mostly] homosexual.

 

[CharleyH]

Oh good grief. Just choose "other" already. You've no idea how long I stewed over the 6 options I did include in the hopes of finding something for everyone. No one was meant to feel excluded, I assure you.

I could only choose bisexual, but sure and of course I did question. I came to the conclusion at 16 that I was "BI-NATURED" not bi-sexual. I chose that word for myself because I concluded that I loved both women and men and didn't just want to have sex with them.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I could only choose bisexual, but sure and of course I did question. I came to the conclusion at 16 that I was "BI-NATURED" not bi-sexual. I chose that word for myself because I concluded that I loved both women and men and didn't just want to have sex with them.

That's a nice distinction, Charley

 

[TheeGoatPig]

note to theegoat [my lettering]

TGPa.If you only desire heterosexual sex, you are straight.
b.If you only desire homosexual sex, you are gay.
c.If you desire both, regardless of which you are having now, you are bi.


Pure: i don't buy this at all, if these are necessary conditions, i.e.

a* //It is necessary that you only desire hetero sex, to be considered hetero. //

this would be like saying, 'you must desire ONLY to play the piano, {and play only the piano}, to be considered a pianist.'

even in diluted form, i would question these:

a#/// If you MOSTLY desire hetero sex, then you are [MOSTLY] hetero.
etc.///

what's left out, among other things, is emotional bonding. for example, if you MOSTLY desired, and carried out hetero sex, but, somewhat less ofter desired and carried out homosexual connections, BUT the latter were long term, and were the ONLY emotionally bonded relationships you had in life, there is a good case for saying you are [mostly] homosexual.

You are looking at it the wrong way.

1) IF I only desire to play the piano, I am a pianist.
2) IF I only desire to play the guitar, I am a guitarist.
3) If I want to play both, you are a well rounded musician (assuming you are any good at it )

Straight requires one. Gay requires one. Bi requires both. Degree involved in bi is not important. You can like one more than the other. But if you like both, I consider you Bi.

Black paint is black. White paint is white. Add any ammount of one to the other, you get gray. Black and white are a lack of combinations. But once you start combining, I don't care how gray, it's still gray to me.

 

[Guest]

HA!
You are as curvy as an hourglass!

I did ponder on that when I wrote my response - I am a straight as a board, curvy woman.



Maharat

 

[CharleyH]

That's a nice distinction, Charley

Kisses, Stell.

 

[CharleyH]

You are looking at it the wrong way.

1) IF I only desire to play the piano, I am a pianist.
2) IF I only desire to play the guitar, I am a guitarist.
3) If I want to play both, you are a well rounded musician (assuming you are any good at it )

Straight requires one. Gay requires one. Bi requires both. Degree involved in bi is not important. You can like one more than the other. But if you like both, I consider you Bi.

Black paint is black. White paint is white. Add any ammount of one to the other, you get gray. Black and white are a lack of combinations. But once you start combining, I don't care how gray, it's still gray to me.

I think you need to give Kenna a bit of room. I also think you are misguided regarding bisexuality. Kisses for your OP though.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I just got off the phone woth a woman in tears.

She's been single for ten years or more, and is too old and too well-padded-- NOT fat, this is L.A. the land of anorexia-- to be attractive to the men hearabouts.
I got to listen to her story of the last three failures. Men who are grossly overweight, with horrible breath (I know, I've smelt it on the man in question) feel they deserve better than this beautiful, intelligent woman who is a hellofa dancer-- who happens to be 49 years old.
We talked about the gorgeous baby-butch who flirts outrageously with her. She said the woman is cute in the way that all her favorite young men are cute. She agreed with me that women --even me find it hard to fuck and walk away-- there's a sense of intimacy that happens pretty quickly when two women get in bed. But, my friend is straight.

I've said this before to her and I said it again;
"I wish you were bisexual."

I'm not," she said. "If women had penises..."

"They do," I said.

"They have vaginas, and if I want a vagina I have one myself. I know this, from the times I've made love with women."

So, okay. Her quest for a loving heart is stopped by frontal anatomy, despite her experimenting. That's about as straight as it gets.

 

[CharleyH]

I just got off the phone woth a woman in tears.

She's been single for ten years or more, and is too old and too well-padded-- NOT fat, this is L.A. the land of anorexia-- to be attractive to the men hearabouts.
I got to listen to her story of the last three failures. Men who are grossly overweight, with horrible breath (I know, I've smelt it on the man in question) feel they deserve better than this beautiful, intelligent woman who is a hellofa dancer-- who happens to be 49 years old.
We talked about the gorgeous baby-butch who flirts outrageously with her. She said the woman is cute in the way that all her favorite young men are cute. She agreed with me that women --even me find it hard to fuck and walk away-- there's a sense of intimacy that happens pretty quickly when two women get in bed. But, my friend is straight.

I've said this before to her and I said it again;
"I wish you were bisexual."

I'm not," she said. "If women had penises..."

"They do," I said.

"They have vaginas, and if I want a vagina I have one myself. I know this, from the times I've made love with women."

So, okay. Her quest for a loving heart is stopped by frontal anatomy, despite her experimenting. That's about as straight as it gets.

I've slept with straight women. Now they're gay! LOL

Liked your story, a lot Stell.

 

[rgraham666]

I just got off the phone woth a woman in tears.

She's been single for ten years or more, and is too old and too well-padded-- NOT fat, this is L.A. the land of anorexia-- to be attractive to the men hearabouts.
I got to listen to her story of the last three failures. Men who are grossly overweight, with horrible breath (I know, I've smelt it on the man in question) feel they deserve better than this beautiful, intelligent woman who is a hellofa dancer-- who happens to be 49 years old.
We talked about the gorgeous baby-butch who flirts outrageously with her. She said the woman is cute in the way that all her favorite young men are cute. She agreed with me that women --even me find it hard to fuck and walk away-- there's a sense of intimacy that happens pretty quickly when two women get in bed. But, my friend is straight.

I've said this before to her and I said it again;
"I wish you were bisexual."

I'm not," she said. "If women had penises..."

"They do," I said.

"They have vaginas, and if I want a vagina I have one myself. I know this, from the times I've made love with women."

So, okay. Her quest for a loving heart is stopped by frontal anatomy, despite her experimenting. That's about as straight as it gets.

Have your friend move to Toronto. There's at least one straight, skinny guy with fresh breath who'd appreciate her.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Have your friend move to Toronto. There's at least one straight, skinny guy with fresh breath who'd appreciate her.

I have suggested that she get out of L.A. "Move North", I said.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I've slept with straight women. Now they're gay! LOL

Liked your story, a lot Stell.

I wonder how she defines "making love with a woman" myself. You don't love to eat pussy? There are about a hundred other ways to get your jollies-- I have a feeling we are looking at a lack of knowledge here...

But there's no way in hell I'll broach that subject with her!

 

[McKenna]

Just because you are only with one, does not mean that you aren't attracted to the other, or negate the fact that you have slept with (and hopefully enjoyed) both.

If you only desire heterosexual sex, you are straight.
If you only desire homosexual sex, you are gay.
If you desire both, regardless of which you are having now, you are bi.

I really like this, Thee.

 

[McKenna]

I do know bis who did "make up their mind" and found a monogamous relationship with the sex they were happiest with, and I don't consider them any less bisexual for that-- other people simply make a choice to be monogamous for the sake of the person they've fallen in love with-- whatever sex that person happens to be. In other words, some people are gender-motivated, and some are motivated by the individual.

I really like this, too.

 

[McKenna]

I could only choose bisexual, but sure and of course I did question. I came to the conclusion at 16 that I was "BI-NATURED" not bi-sexual. I chose that word for myself because I concluded that I loved both women and men and didn't just want to have sex with them.

 

[rgraham666]

I look at McKenna's face and I have no doubts whatsoever about my heterosexuality.

 

[LoquaciousLady]

Pardon my saying so about a virtual stranger but McKenna's face reassures me of my bisexuality as well. 'Tis a lovely face.

 

[McKenna]

I look at McKenna's face and I have no doubts whatsoever about my heterosexuality.

Pardon my saying so about a virtual stranger but McKenna's face reassures me of my bisexuality as well. 'Tis a lovely face.

Thank you both!

 

[cheerful_deviant]

I look at McKenna's face and I have no doubts whatsoever about my heterosexuality.

Hey, get in line! I was stalking her first!

 

[Belegon]

Hey, get in line! I was stalking her first!

oh, we're both YEARS ahead of these latecomers...

 

[cheerful_deviant]

oh, we're both YEARS ahead of these latecomers...

We'll have to leave it up to the Lovely McK to decide.

*goes off to roll in granola*

 

[McKenna]

Bwahahaha! Roll in granola?!

You two make me laugh! 'Tis a GOOD thing!

 

[Pure]

note to thee

1) IF I only desire to play the piano, I am a pianist.
2) IF I only desire to play the guitar, I am a guitarist.
3) If I want to play both, you are a well rounded musician (assuming you are any good at it )

Straight requires one. Gay requires one. Bi requires both. Degree involved in bi is not important. You can like one more than the other. But if you like both, I consider you Bi.

Black paint is black. White paint is white. Add any ammount of one to the other, you get gray. Black and white are a lack of combinations. But once you start combining, I don't care how gray, it's still gray to me.

P: i agree with charley, theegoat; this doesn't seem useful. it simply means almost everyone is bi, regardless of how they act. and regardless of the gender to which they emotionally bond, if there is only or mainly one.

i'd say--IF i had to make categories (i.e. under protest):

if most of those you emotionally bond with are opposite gender, your'e hetero.
if most of those you emotionally bond with are same gender, you are homosexual.
if, among those you emotionally bound with, both genders are well represented, you are bi.

the categories, however are NOT 'basic character', or 'core'; they are no more 'core' than 'meat eater' or 'prefers to vacation at the beach,' or even 'shuns "meaningless" sex.'

 

[Liar]

IMO, it helps if you look at "homosexual" "bisexual" and "heterosexual" as adjectives, and not as nouns.

At least for me, bisexual is not what I am, it's how I am. Describing and analog, not defining and absolute.



Oh, and I'd roll on granola for McK too. Any time any day.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Pardon my saying so about a virtual stranger but McKenna's face reassures me of my bisexuality as well. 'Tis a lovely face.

It reminds me of my heterosexuality