Have you ever questioned your sexuality?

[Guest]

i've been all over the map until i found my treasure.

questioning, straight, bi, gay. dangly bits just dont do it for me.

 

[Boota]

It never even occurred to me to be sexually interested in anyone but women. I have a couple of gay friends who say the fact that I have never questioned my heterosexuality means that I'm scared of finding out that I might really be gay or bi. I don't think that's true at all. I can entertain the idea and ask myself the question. The answer just comes quickly and very obviously. Men simply don't come off as sexually tempting to me. I guess, to my friends at least, I'm supposed to be embarrassed about being born straight. LOL.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

I've questioned Mck's sexuality.

 

[CyranodeMelbourne]

I've questioned it, but all I got was name, rank and serial number...

I'm straight, but I have no issue with being around gays who show an obvious interest, and I would try a MMF if the lady wanted one without freaking out about accidentally touching. But, guys just don't do it for me. I don't find the male form aethestically pleasing, let alone sexually attractive.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Easy answer? No.

More complicated explanation of that answer? No.

There is nothing attractive about men. I don't even know why women find men attractive. I wish I were a female lesbian.

 

[ms.read]

As a general rule I don't even like the male gender. Most are immature, testosterone addled jackasses.

one reason I like women: for thier integrity, intelligence, dilligence in giving and recieving great ( and mutiple) orgasms.


But, for me, nothing can beat the feel of a real live man buried so deep inside me throbbing, wanting, and begging for more.

Bisexual.

 

[Nirvanadragones]

Define "sexuality".

Would I have sex with a man? It's possible, although, I'm not naturally attracted to men. Could I love a man? Not in the way I love a woman. The intellectual, spiritual, emotional and physical attraction is completely different.

Have I ever questioned it? I always knew, and accepted I was attracted to women since I was a child. I tried to be "bi". It didn't work for me.

I struggle with the word homosexual because it makes it all about sex. I'm gay, though. That much I know.

 

[tickledkitty]

It never even occurred to me to be sexually interested in anyone but women. I have a couple of gay friends who say the fact that I have never questioned my heterosexuality means that I'm scared of finding out that I might really be gay or bi. I don't think that's true at all. I can entertain the idea and ask myself the question. The answer just comes quickly and very obviously. Men simply don't come off as sexually tempting to me. I guess, to my friends at least, I'm supposed to be embarrassed about being born straight. LOL.

I've never questioned being straight either. I've thought about this lately in relation to writing. I've written two stories with lesbian encounters in them, which were a total turn on to write. However, I never fantasize about women any other time, and reading what I've written now does nothing for me.

There is nothing attractive about men. I don't even know why women find men attractive. I wish I were a female lesbian.

Which leads me to this. I don't find women sexually attractive. They're too soft, too small, too smooth. They just don't fit for me. I crave the opposite. I'm attracted to men because they're bigger and rougher. The way they smell, the way they taste...all of it. A big tough guy showing vulnerability, especially toward me, just gets me. I know there's more to it because I've been attracted to men who aren't that big and rough. I'm probably oversimplifying.

 

[McKenna]

I've questioned Mck's sexuality.

Oh good, we're even: I've questioned your sanity.

 

[rgraham666]

Oh good, we're even: I've questioned your sanity.

I don't think there's any question about Abs' sanity.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Oh good, we're even: I've questioned your sanity.

Call my shrink for details.

 

[McKenna]

I am reminded of an episode of Sex in the City where one of the women (the dark-haired one, I forget her name) is mistaken for a homosexual. She starts hanging out with lesbians, doing lots of empowering things. . . and then she starts to wonder if maybe she's lesbian, too.

When the group of lesbians she's hanging out with learns she's not homosexual, they drop her. I forget the exact line, but it was something like, "If you don't like to lick pussy, you're not a lesbian."

Here's the thing: I've always admired and been attracted to strong, feminine personalities. A woman who knows what she wants, goes out and gets it, and does not apologize for this, has always been the type to earn my respect. When a man does this, he's considered a man; when a woman does this, she's considered a feminist, with all the negative connotations the word implies.

Stereotypical or not, I've learned that a lot of the women who have those "strong" characteristics in my life are lesbians. These are characteristics I strive to cultivate in myself. This has led me to examine my own sexuality, because as Vana pointed out, being homo or heterosexual is about so much more than the sex.

There are women I admire for their looks as well as their personality, but I don't get those "butterflies" in my tummy when I'm around them like I get with certain men to whom I'm attracted. My sister is a lesbian, and sometimes we get into conversations about sex and what turns her on as a lesbian (because I've always been curious why she, as a lesbian, needs a dildo and/or penetration, but she thinks penises are "yucky.") She shared with me what turns her on about a woman, e.g., her softness, the curve of her breasts, the pliability of her muscle tone. And while I can admire a female form for its aesthetic beauty, I've never desired to be with a woman sexually.

Doesn't mean I'm not curious, but curiosity is not the same as declaring a certain sexual preference.

And so my poll. . . I was curious how many others have tackled this question. Curious to know if there were any others out there like me who question things in a similar manner. Abs' comment about questioning my sexuality is not the first I've heard; which makes me think I just don't fit in any stereotypical category as far as personality characteristics that are common to a certain sexual preference.

And I'm okay with that.

I firmly believe love is love and shouldn't be wasted by strict definitions. I think if my heart led me to a beautiful soul who happened to be female with whom to fall in love, I'd have no qualms doing so. My heart is meant to love and be loved; I'll not question that. To do so seems sacrilegious.

All that said, I still prefer a big, hairy man complete with dangly bits when referring to physical love. It's the contrast I enjoy the most in the physical act. I just wish men were a bit more in tune to what women want emotionally. But then, if they did that, they'd probably be . . . a woman.

 

[impressive]

I just wish men were a bit more in tune to what women want emotionally. But then, if they did that, they'd probably be . . . a woman.

A big, hairy woman.

 

[carverII]

I answered other.

I used to question it years ago. Then I had a epiphany.


I am simply who I am and unique in my own being. My sexuality will not match any one else's so why should I label it?

 

[McKenna]

A big, hairy woman.

Hey, I wax!

 

[Misty_Morning]

Well, I voted but I don't think the poll really had a good fit for me.

I always knew that I am lesbian, but had denied the fact for most of my life.

I accepted that I had to be who I really was. Even if that meant being cut off from family and most friends.

After coming out, I have never doubted.

I just wish I had the courage to do it years before.

 

[Fallenfromgrace]

I did question, kinda. Because i didnt know if it was 'normal'...i didnt have anyone to ask...but when i finally realised that it was normal, i accepted it.

The only reason i really questioned it was because i didnt understand it.

 

[impressive]

(because I've always been curious why she, as a lesbian, needs a dildo and/or penetration, but she thinks penises are "yucky.")

Hell, that part's easy. There's buttons in there that need pressin'

Just sayin'

 

[3113]

It never even occurred to me to be sexually interested in anyone but women. I have a couple of gay friends who say the fact that I have never questioned my heterosexuality means that I'm scared of finding out that I might really be gay or bi. I don't think that's true at all. I can entertain the idea and ask myself the question. The answer just comes quickly and very obviously. Men simply don't come off as sexually tempting to me. I guess, to my friends at least, I'm supposed to be embarrassed about being born straight. LOL.

Or maybe those gay buddies are hoping you'll question yourself enough to give them a chance

 

[matriarch]

Hell, that part's easy. There's buttons in there that need pressin'

Just sayin'

Exactly.
Physiology is physiology.
If a space's been made for fillin', and the accepted way of fillin' it don't set off the rockets, then you have to find some way of doing it......hence toys, fingers..........

 

[voluptuary_manque]

A long time ago I was attracted to two different males, and I do mean a looooonnnngggg time ago. Eventually I discovered women and like them better, a lot better. I even went through a homophobic phase until I started taking art classes. I met so many gay guys who were just a hoot to hang out with that I eventually got comfortable doing just (and only) that. Possibly if I were a teenager today I'd be a 90% het, 10% homo bi-type. But I'm not. Therefore the only category that seems to fit is "other" 'cause you didn't include "hetersexual with occasional twinges".

 

[Misty_Morning]

Exactly.
Physiology is physiology.
If a space's been made for fillin', and the accepted way of fillin' it don't set off the rockets, then you have to find some way of doing it......hence toys, fingers..........

I think the idea is .....not whats doing the act...but WHO's doing the act.


Makes a big difference.

 

[Stella_Omega]

A big, hairy woman.

I never shave.

 

[Huckleman2000]

Yeah, being an actor it's hard not to question a lot about yourself. I kissed a guy once, though, and he was good looking, a good kisser, it was in a gay disco, we were high and had our inhibitions lowered...

...and not even a spark went off.

I did get a minor boner the other night watching two girls dancing, though, so there are aspects of homosexuality that I find arousing...

[eta] Which makes me wonder, and maybe this is a topic for another thread, but to what extent are women aware of the minor boner when you're close to a man?

 

[buxxxom]

I just consider myself sexual. I've loved and been loved in return by both men and women. Love is just that, love. For me, it's the who, not the what.