Is this what people really think?

[~His Kitten~]

I received two interesting pms from a person on Lit today. Both were equally annoying and upsetting.

A few days ago I made a post about not being able to wear my collar to bed due to my skin acting up. It was a rant of which I expected no one to respond to. However someone pmed me today about it....

small foot stomp
small foot stomp* I hate it, absolutely hate it when I need to not wear my collar to bed
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Don't you have to wear your chastity belt to bed though?

...I responded with my usual f* you and where do you get off. The man, yes it was a he, actually replied. This was what irked me more than anything else...

Just having a chuckle thats all. I hear so many die heard subs moaning that they can't wear sub clothing EVERYWHERE for whatever reason. But they can, one way or another. They just have to put a little thinking into it.
The collar is not the only sign of your submission.

Besides his ability not to be able to spell he made several assumptions. What is sub clothing? Is it "die heard" to want and enjoy wearing a collar?

Perhaps what hurt ish the worse was him assuming that a collar only represented "my submission." Is that most assume? We really don't know anything about someone to begin with and to sterotype is horrible.

(This person has posted many times, 194 to be exact, in various forums where he has statd opinions about bdsm.)

Do you most agree with him or is this just me?

 

[intothewoods]

He's just trying to get your attention. Look, it worked!

 

[~His Kitten~]

I actually just yelled at him. lol

That was entertaining but I am seriously wondering if his opinion is the general one or not?

 

[Betticus]

I actually just yelled at him. lol

That was entertaining but I am seriously wondering if his opinion is the general one or not?

His very own opinion.

Look at it this way. No two people have the exact same psyche, same life experiences or the same influences no matter how small that mix into your past to make you who you are right now. If you were standing on a beach with another person just like you, a twin you would both have an entirely different experience.

You may feel more strongly about the sand under your toes, the sound of the wind and surf and the feel of the sun on your skin while your twin may be fixated on the clouds and the way her shirt tag makes her itch and be wondering if her hair looks ok.

For everyone the collar means something different. To some it may simply be a symbol of submission but I doubt it. There are a myriad of big and small feelings attached to a collar and it would be influenced by even the way that the collar was presented to you. Did it arrive in the mail without even a note? Did he plan and execute a very special evening and build an entire story into it, weave your dreams and fantasies into how he caught you and put his claim around your neck?

Does he/she even use a collar? A symbol is just a symbol, a physical thing to stir your memories. It's meaning will be special to you and you are the only one who can really appreciate it.

So, your collar and its meaning to you can't be fully appreciated by anyone else. Your daddy can come close if your communication is very open and you've explored it with him every way, back and forth until you both see it the same way but it will still always be special just for you.

Some random dude reading a few of your posts will have absolutely no clue about what your collar means. Maybe he read a generic description in a bdsm resource or something but he's imposing his own view of it over what it means to you.

You have to have confidence about it young lady and don't let others stir any confusion into your relationship between you and your daddy.


I hope that what I typed out makes sense.

Now don't be telling anyone about this, I have a rep to protect.

 

[~His Kitten~]

You have to have confidence about it young lady and don't let others stir any confusion into your relationship between you and your daddy.


I hope that what I typed out makes sense.

Now don't be telling anyone about this, I have a rep to protect.

I have now realized why you are one of the more loved people on the boards.

Said it very well and its very understood. Made sense to me

And for the record, it didn't cause confusion on my part other than me wanting to know if the general population shared the same point as he. But as I think you would put it "It doesn't f* matter".

Ty

 

[Betticus]

I have now realized why you are one of the more loved people on the boards.

Said it very well and its very understood. Made sense to me

And for the record, it didn't cause confusion on my part other than me wanting to know if the general population shared the same point as he. But as I think you would put it "It doesn't f* matter".

Ty

Well, is sounds like to you your collar is a beloved possession and sleeping with it on makes you feel good.

I do know of and have seen examples of people throwing others into confusion or insecurity by trying to convince them that they aren't doing it right, aren't a "real" sub or dom. I was just trying to cover all the bases and sometimes it is very helpful to reassure people that they are doing just fine.

Keep posting your rants Keep asking questions. You may very well be helping out someone who is too shy to post about or ask the same things.

Now, run into Gracies room and there is a cloth covered plate on the little table next to her chair. It has cookies on it, take all you want.

 

[madetotakeit]

Now, run into Gracies room and there is a cloth covered plate on the little table next to her chair. It has cookies on it, take all you want.

Does Gracie know you're giving away her cookies? I hope for your sake there's no chocolate in those!

*Very well stated post btw.*

 

[h_i_s]

.....

 

[~His Kitten~]

Does Gracie know you're giving away her cookies? I hope for your sake there's no chocolate in those!

*Very well stated post btw.*

And I hope for your sake there is chocolate in the cookies

 

[Betticus]

So yeah, I wish that I had a warm body to play with. I'm also an asshole. I just may not be an asshole for the reasons people think I am.

 

[~His Kitten~]

So yeah, I wish that I had a warm body to play with. I'm also an asshole. I just may not be an asshole for the reasons people think I am.

And I'm a cold hearted bitch to most of the world. What is your point? (I'm asking that in a very kind hearted way).

People hurt the ones they love with relative ease that is beyond frightening. Sometimes they know exactly what they are doing and other times they are completely obvilious to the fact. I am not sure which one is worse. For better or for worse they have made us who we are today, and that is why we are liked or hated.

We can be an ass to the rest of the world but as long as we are able to open up to at least someone, no matter what the format, we aren't an asshole. The trick is to find someone who we are able to open up to and trust again. Not an easy task at all but with the right person it is very possible. When that happens we are finally able to let go of the past, and become who we are meant to be.

So you aren't an asshole at all, perhaps misunderstood a tiny bit, and there is a warm body waiting for you to play with once you find her.

 

[Betticus]

No point, I took something someone said personally and was just ranting a little.

 

[~His Kitten~]

No point, I took something someone said personally and was just ranting a little.

LOL.

Sounds like the perfect place to rant. All the rage here.

P.S. I still don't think you classify as an asshole.