I Hate Valentine's Day...Or The Broken-Hearted Perverts' Club

[BiBunny]

I've always hated Valentine's Day. I'm sort of the anti-romantic, anyhow. It's not that I'm opposed to romance. I just...need it in "unconventional" ways. I've also never really had anyone other than Kitty or occasionally my parents do something truly kind and thoughtful for me, just because. *Sigh* I have terrible taste in men, I suppose.

Anyway, I've never been too crazy over the damned holiday. This year, it's even worse. You see, B., my ex-Master, the man I love more than anything in the world, is getting married Saturday. Yes, it was hurried. (They've only been engaged about 5 months. Guess she figured if she didn't snatch him up in a hurry, he'd run to someone else.) Yes, I should be over it. But I'm not.

Oh, I pretend. I've mentioned how much it hurts here, but most people who know me in real life would have no idea. We spoke recently, for a couple of weeks, and then he dropped off the face of the earth again, I guess because he was too much of a coward to tell me he'd finally decided to go through with it. I can't even put into words how it feels, so I'm not even going to try. Suffice it to say that Valentine's Day this year, which will be five whole days after the wedding, seems superfluous at best. Cruel is actually a better term, I think.

Ok, I don't want to talk about that anymore. I've been doing my best to not think about it at all. I plan on crawling into a whiskey bottle some time Thursday and not coming out again 'til some time next week, so that it'll all go by in a blur for me.

Anyhow, I'm starting this thread because I know I can't be the only one who feels like her heart's been run over by a herd of buffalo. Feel free to come in, commiserate, post things to cheer one another up, whatever. Just please don't bring the negativity and the "you're only getting what you deserve" in this thread, unless you want Teh Bunneh to absolutely lose her mind. Thanks.

All righty, let's commence to making one another feel better.

Duh, I forgot my own good news. I have boys with which to distract myself. That's always good, right?

 

[Yang4yin]

Send your land lady a Valentine's Day card. It'll make you both feel good, for different reasons.

 

[BiBunny]

Send your land lady a Valentine's Day card. It'll make you both feel good, for different reasons.

*Snicker* You're an evil, evil man. I like that!

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Geeeeesh Miss Bunny, I was in a good mood before, between your opening post ( including the fact that I care about you ), the stupid song I just posted for Shy, Chicklet's current news and the private stuff I choose to keep of the boards, I now find myself bordering on tears.

Think I'll go swim, or sleep or something. Back latter when I can come up with something a little more amusing. Cool thread ( << not sarcasm )

 

[HottieMama]

Awwww...Bunny... i generally hate the holiday as well, but i think it's going to be kind of fun for me this year. i'm kinda looking forward to it...

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Glad that you started this thread Bunny..I hate, detest, loath Valentine's day..I think it is the stupidiest day in the year!!! I am glad that I am not the only one that feels this way!

 

[BiBunny]

Geeeeesh Miss Bunny, I was in a good mood before, between your opening post ( including the fact that I care about you ), the stupid song I just posted for Shy, Chicklet's current news and the private stuff I choose to keep of the boards, I now find myself bordering on tears.

Think I'll go swim, or sleep or something. Back latter when I can come up with something a little more amusing. Cool thread ( << not sarcasm )

I'm sorry I made you sad, Miss Rebecca. Hope you come back feeling better.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

I never really liked it cause I think it's a fake holiday.

Romance and being romantic is much better spontaneous than predictable and forced.

 

[BiBunny]

Awwww...Bunny... i generally hate the holiday as well, but i think it's going to be kind of fun for me this year. i'm kinda looking forward to it...

Lucky girl! Like I said, I sorta have someone(s) to distract myself with, but Mr. Daniels is going to be calling this weekend.

Glad that you started this thread Bunny..I hate, detest, loath Valentine's day..I think it is the stupidiest day in the year!!! I am glad that I am not the only one that feels this way!

*Hugs* I understand. I totally do.

I never really liked it cause I think it's a fake holiday.

Romance and being romantic is much better spontaneous than predictable and forced.

True, but every now and then, I wish someone would do something nice for me, predictable or not, LOL.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

*Hugs* I understand. I totally do.

*hugs* right back to you!

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

True, but every now and then, I wish someone would do something nice for me, predictable or not, LOL.

Well of course. Everyone wants that and I'm sure one day you will get it.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I'm not much of a Valentine's Day fan, either. I'd rather do that sorta stuff when *I* feel like it, not the jewelry, candy and greeting card industries.

ETA: Oops! I hit the wrong button, too quick!

Sorry you have these extra reasons to not like it this year, though, Bunny. Huggles, snuggles and a good flogging to ya, just cuz I like ya.

 

[BiBunny]

Well of course. Everyone wants that and I'm sure one day you will get it.

One hopes it's sooner rather than later.

I'm not much of a Valentine's Day fan, either. I'd rather do that sorta stuff when *I* feel like it, not the jewelry, candy and greeting card industries.

ETA: Oops! I hit the wrong button, too quick!

Sorry you have these extra reasons to not like it this year, though, Bunny. Huggles, snuggles and a good flogging to ya, just cuz I like ya.

Thank you, Sir W. I could use all of the above right about now. And I like you, too!

 

[sanjuaneros]

V-day is a hallmark holiday.

 

[Netzach]

Holidays are really pretty fucking stupid and annoying across the board.

This one no exception. It rocks inasmuch as people buy jewelry.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

I'm sorry I made you sad, Miss Rebecca. Hope you come back feeling better.

Noooo Bunny you didn't ! I was being a sook. Some types of music illicit vulnerability faster than the speed of light with me. Just a simple culmination of random emotive thangs tripped me up a bit, I am just fine, as I hope you will be. Not sure I am so entirely thrilled to hear about 'da plan' to wrestle yourself into a bottle of whiskey though. : insert tsk tsk with a smile :

 

[BiBunny]

V-day is a hallmark holiday.

Yes, it is.

Holidays are really pretty fucking stupid and annoying across the board.

This one no exception. It rocks inasmuch as people buy jewelry.

I imagine the holiday does help you out a bit. Still sucks, though.

Noooo Bunny you didn't ! I was being a sook. Some types of music illicit vulnerability faster than the speed of light with me. Just a simple culmination of random emotive thangs tripped me up a bit, I am just fine, as I hope you will be. Not sure I am so entirely thrilled to hear about 'da plan' to wrestle yourself into a bottle of whiskey though. : insert tsk tsk with a smile :

I don't make the whiskey bottle thing a regular event. This is just *sigh* special, shall we say? No Domly type around to keep me from doing it, unfortunately.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

V-day is not really my day either. I might like it if there was really some nice guy to spend that day with. I don't like V-day same as birth days, New Year and Christmas cuz for me its days that just reminds me all I miss.

I just want someone to love me and hold me and kiss me and tell me sweet-nothings. I just want someone to wrap me in their arms and touch my soul. I want someone to keep me safe from harm. And someone who will say, 'Baby, I love you.' over and over again. Why is that so hard for a guy to do? ~sigh~

This V-day I will prolly spend in Hospital so it suck even more LOL. Only good thing about it is I won't be coming home alone then.

 

[Yasashii_Kaze]

http://images.vd.meish.org.s3.amazonaws.com/cards/cat.png

Found here, a site with some cute, free "Be My Anti-Valentine" e-cards.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

http://images.vd.meish.org.s3.amazonaws.com/cards/cat.png

Found here, a site with some cute, free "Be My Anti-Valentine" e-cards.

Nice pic and very true. My cat is so much better in showing me some love than "someone" LOL.

 

[~His Kitten~]

I love that anti-valentine

And you can throw me in with this bunch as well. Feb. is such an odd month for me...4 years ago my cat died on Feb 16th, my very first bf cheated on me on V-day. Just a mess with no purpose really.

Love lasts 365 days a year, those are what count, not just one random day off the calendar.

 

[BiBunny]

V-day is not really my day either. I might like it if there was really some nice guy to spend that day with. I don't like V-day same as birth days, New Year and Christmas cuz for me its days that just reminds me all I miss.

I just want someone to love me and hold me and kiss me and tell me sweet-nothings. I just want someone to wrap me in their arms and touch my soul. I want someone to keep me safe from harm. And someone who will say, 'Baby, I love you.' over and over again. Why is that so hard for a guy to do? ~sigh~

This V-day I will prolly spend in Hospital so it suck even more LOL. Only good thing about it is I won't be coming home alone then.

I assume that your last paragraph means that you're about to have your baby? If so, congratulations!

I'm sorry things sucketh, though. I know how it feels.

I suppose I should explain myself a little more about the Valentine's Day thing. I'm an only child. My parents had me long after they'd given up hope of ever actually having a child. I wasn't a spoiled brat, but I was indulged more than most children, admittedly. Mother and Daddy made a big deal out of ALL the holidays for me. Little Bunny had a huge fuss made over her birthday, over Christmas, over Easter, over Valentine's Day, over anything where you give other people presents. To this day, my parents and I still exchange Valentine's gifts, and I'm 24 years old. And, truthfully, it wasn't just for me, either. My whole (very small) family makes a gigantic production out of Christmas. Like, I truly can't imagine only buying someone (even aunts and uncles and cousins) one thing for Christmas. It just seems so cold and impersonal to me. And we're not exactly a bunch of rich folks, either.

So I guess that having grown up that way, I'm at a loss that people don't make a huge deal out holidays. I end up crying damn near every year on my birthday because my friends Just. Don't. Get. It. It's my day. I want to be fussed over and petted on. I fuss over you and pet on you when it's your day. I expect the same treatment in return. But no one but me thinks that way (though I seem to have Kitty trained nowadays...).

I crave love and attention on ANY holiday, even if it's a stupid, commercial one (like all of them undoubtedly are). When I don't get it, it hurts me, even when I know it's stupid and irrational to think that way. *Sigh* Stupid, shallow Bunny. I need to grow up, I guess.

 

[Netzach]

I assume that your last paragraph means that you're about to have your baby? If so, congratulations!

I'm sorry things sucketh, though. I know how it feels.

I suppose I should explain myself a little more about the Valentine's Day thing. I'm an only child. My parents had me long after they'd given up hope of ever actually having a child. I wasn't a spoiled brat, but I was indulged more than most children, admittedly. Mother and Daddy made a big deal out of ALL the holidays for me. Little Bunny had a huge fuss made over her birthday, over Christmas, over Easter, over Valentine's Day, over anything where you give other people presents. To this day, my parents and I still exchange Valentine's gifts, and I'm 24 years old. And, truthfully, it wasn't just for me, either. My whole (very small) family makes a gigantic production out of Christmas. Like, I truly can't imagine only buying someone (even aunts and uncles and cousins) one thing for Christmas. It just seems so cold and impersonal to me. And we're not exactly a bunch of rich folks, either.

So I guess that having grown up that way, I'm at a loss that people don't make a huge deal out holidays. I end up crying damn near every year on my birthday because my friends Just. Don't. Get. It. It's my day. I want to be fussed over and petted on. I fuss over you and pet on you when it's your day. I expect the same treatment in return. But no one but me thinks that way (though I seem to have Kitty trained nowadays...).

I crave love and attention on ANY holiday, even if it's a stupid, commercial one (like all of them undoubtedly are). When I don't get it, it hurts me, even when I know it's stupid and irrational to think that way. *Sigh* Stupid, shallow Bunny. I need to grow up, I guess.

M grew up in a family like that, kind of, and it's like an alien encounter sometimes to be married to someone so different that way. He kind of burns out on it because there's so much stress, but he's very into birthdays, anniversaries and all that stuff.

My sweet 16 my mom and stepdad came home, handed me a pair of socks and said "we'll go get your present this weekend." That was my rude awakening into the end of the important birthday fuss on the actual date.

There's nothing selfish if that's your norm. Just different priorities.

 

[myinnerslut]

i hate valenties day. moreso becuase A refuses to do anything at all for it.

in high school i wore black while everybody wore red and pink. yeah, depressing, i know.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I assume that your last paragraph means that you're about to have your baby? If so, congratulations!

Yeah I am about to have my baby in few days, thank you Bunny!

13th february is my due date, but it seems my baby doesn't want to get out just yet, so it maybe won't happen the next week as I thought, but the next one, dunno. I was at my gyno doc today and he asked me if I wanna go to Hospital already, erm, thats not really smart question to ask me cuz when it comes to Hospital my answear will always be NO. There are things about its better not to ask me if I want it or not, this is surely one of them. When it comes to Hospital I am still little scared kid. :/

Well I am doing fine, so my doc let me home for now. One way or another my baby will born in few days. Still hope it will happen natural way tho, that would be nice and very appreciated.

I crave love and attention on ANY holiday, even if it's a stupid, commercial one (like all of them undoubtedly are). When I don't get it, it hurts me, even when I know it's stupid and irrational to think that way. *Sigh* Stupid, shallow Bunny. I need to grow up, I guess.

I hear ya cuz my parents raised me the very same way. Any holiday, be it Birthday, Christmas, New Year etc etc was made for me to really enjoy it. Always a big cake, lots of good food, lots of presents, all family around. My mum always see to it that it was a special day for me. Beautiful day just for me. I was loved and pampered in a very special way, I won't ever forget my birthdays and Christmas when I was young. I had all the attention and love you can imagine. And not just me, all of my bro's and my sister too.

We had very less of cash, but my mum always made these days special. Guess I am an addict to this way of celebrating now and I am hurting when my bday goes as nuthing special happening. I am doing impossible for my loved ones on their bdays or for Christmas etc, buying lots of presents and gifts, making them feel happy and loved same as my mum did to me. It's sad then when my bdays comes and I don't get the same treating back tho. Well its okay I am a big girl now I know, but it still makes me sad cuz somewhere deep inside of me I am still the child that want and needs all the love and attention I used to have when I was a kid.

I understand your feelings very well Bunny and I am glad Kitty treats you the way you need to be treated as a person. Theres nuthing better than a true friend right? The one who listen and understands. I am glad you two have each other. In many ways it's so much better to have one true friend than hundert of lovers, eventho I know very well how bad it suck to feel lonely and abandoned.

Your time will come. Theres a man out there who will love you the way you are, all of you. Man who will appreciate you very much, love you dearly and cherish the time you'll spend together. A man who will make your Birthdays, Christmas and all the Holidays beautiful for you again just so he could see you smile. A man who will care for you with the same love and devotion as you will care for him. I think theres someone like this for everyone. Find this special person is fucking hard tho IMO....

I love this quotes:

"Maybe someday soon, I'll find the perfect guy who will dry away my tears and never make me cry again or maybe there is not a guy that's right for me. I'll be single all my life -- drowning in misery. I pray there will be someone I can cherish and adore. But he has to love me back so I won't have to look anymore."

Sometimes I just want someone to kiss me and hold me and tell me everything's going to be all right. But I haven't found that special person yet."

"Do you ever feel like there's something missing? Like there's something that you've been waiting for all your life and you wonder if you'll ever have it? I think love should be so beautiful and powerful….you know, I want to be swept away by love."


I am a dreamer, I always was. Guess I will dream my little dream about my true love untill it comes true.