Help!

[haldir]

How do I stop drinking again?

6 months sober and now I've fucked it up again.

useless arse that I am.

dont want to do this but can't seem to stop.

sorry to put this out there but I'm desperate.

 

[English Lady]

*hugs* for a start, sweetheart.

Can you go to your GP? They can help you start the process again, maybe direct you to organisations that can help?

You've done it for 6 months, you can do it again. This is only a hiccup, yeah? it's not the end.

 

[haldir]

EL - this kilted man thanks you for the hugs and hugs you back.

My GP is great but I don't think he can help me much here.

I know the places to go but I think I am where I need to deal with this on my own - with my own strengths - if Ihave them.

I have medication sitting in the cupboard - but am I really dealing with the problem if I have to rely on chemicals?

Sorry to be so down but instinct tells me that this is a cross-roads and I am struggling to find the strength to chose the right path.

You know my beliefs but if you think it would help me, a prayer would be appreciated.

 

[haldir]

EL - thanks for being there for me.

Off to sink into Mr Pratchett -"The Nightwatch", my favourite.

For some reason I empathise with Sam Vimes - I wonder why?

I'll let you know how I am doing. Feeling better for getting all this off my chest.

Much love xx

 

[English Lady]

EL - this kilted man thanks you for the hugs and hugs you back.

My GP is great but I don't think he can help me much here.

I know the places to go but I think I am where I need to deal with this on my own - with my own strengths - if Ihave them.

I have medication sitting in the cupboard - but am I really dealing with the problem if I have to rely on chemicals?

Sorry to be so down but instinct tells me that this is a cross-roads and I am struggling to find the strength to chose the right path.

You know my beliefs but if you think it would help me, a prayer would be appreciated.

Well, I can offer you more hugs but I've not got much advice to give.

I think if you need the meds for now, then you should use them, then try to take yourself off those at a later point -with medical person supervision of course.


And you can ALWAYS just send me a PM if you ever need a bit of encouragement and a hug. Always. Never hesitate In fact, if you've not got it already you can have my email addy -just PM me for it

 

[keeblercrumb]

Friend..... I have nothing to say you almost certainly have not heard before...

Here is the thing..... Think of your alcohol addiction as any other physical condition..... It is like your eyes have gone bad and you cannot read without glasses.... Does it make you a better person of higher character to stumble through life without glasses??? Of course not....

You can use any physical "problem" as an analogy....

You know... alcohol will fuck up your life if you let it.... and hurt everyone around you until they cannot tolerate it anymore. But you know all that.... you can't cure the disease... you can only treat it... use the medications.

Start today. And tomorrow? Solve that problem tomorrow. You cannot do anything if you are not sober.

It's not fair... but it is you... deal with it, treat it.... The alternative is not worth considering as you clearly know.

Good luck....

-KC

 

[SpencerAlanMacLeod]

How do I stop drinking again?

6 months sober and now I've fucked it up again.

useless arse that I am.

dont want to do this but can't seem to stop.

sorry to put this out there but I'm desperate.

*Hugs* from me too...

I'm unclear here...
Are your meds different from your drinking or do you call alcohol your meds?
Not trying to be difficult just trying to be clear here...

 

[oggbashan]

...

My GP is great but I don't think he can help me much here.

I know the places to go but I think I am where I need to deal with this on my own - with my own strengths - if Ihave them.

I have medication sitting in the cupboard - but am I really dealing with the problem if I have to rely on chemicals?

...

The medication is there to help when will-power weakens. Use it as a tool to work through it.

Every time you feel the urge, hit yourself over the head with your spirtle - it'll hurt less than the feeling after drinking and remind you that you can control your craving. I don't suggest using the Skean Dhu - that might hurt too much.

Remember that you have friends here who are backing you (Just keep your back to the wall!).

Og

 

[impressive]

Find something you like to do more.

Seriously.

 

[McKenna]

Sorry to hear of your troubles. It does indeed sound like you're at a crossroads, but the very fact that you're here reaching out instead of reaching for a bottle speaks volumes.

Addiction is a disease; your brain has been wired to crave what it craves. It takes just as long to rewire it as it did to wire it. Hiccups are a normal part of the process. Congratulations, you're normal!

Now pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get on with it. Use the meds as a tool (as Og said). It's not he "cure-all", but it may certainly help you get back where you desire to be.

Meanwhile, you've got support coming to you from the other side of the Atlantic (as well as your own side. ) Be well.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

How do I stop drinking again?

6 months sober and now I've fucked it up again.

useless arse that I am.

dont want to do this but can't seem to stop.

sorry to put this out there but I'm desperate.

*hugs* You're not useless, no one is.

My SO has been sober for twenty years and was an AA sponser for many of those years. He's a firm believer that no one can quit on their own. His advice is to get into an AA program for support and to take it one day at a time. Slipping up is part of the process, hardly anyone ever makes it without messing up. Don't tell yourself you're a failure, just tell yourself that every day is a new day.

http://www.aa-uk.org.uk/

 

[Chantilyvamp]

*hugs loads* they all said it much better than I could. If your ready half the battle is making it day to day and having access to people who won't judge you and will care how you are. We care and on days if you start to flounder come play with us and we'll help you through minute by minute.

Your strength is there, you might have had a set back but you have already shown how strong you can be and will be. Many blessings and good vibes to help you along your way.

 

[BabyBlue2005]

How do I stop drinking again?

6 months sober and now I've fucked it up again.

useless arse that I am.

dont want to do this but can't seem to stop.

sorry to put this out there but I'm desperate.

Just because you failed yesterday does not mean you will fail today.

It takes a great deal of strength to stay sober for 6 months ... be proud of that and use it to begin again, Haldir

I wish you well.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

Get to a meeting.

Do it today.

 

[3113]

Haldir! I wish I could say welcome back to the AH, but I'm sorry to see you back under these circumstances. I'm glad you came to us all the same.

The main point has been said, but I'll say it again: You're thinking is completely wrong. You do not and should not deal with this on your own. That just daft, and setting yourself up for more failure.

So stop it. It's time to admit it. You don't have the "strength." Because it's not about strength. And you know this. So call your GP. That's what he's there for. And take the meds, that's what they're for. And get all the help you can get, from us included. Because if you came here, you know we want to help.

It's not about you, it's about your addiction, and that's not something you can fight alone, no more than you could fight a war all on your own.

Hang in there, and let those who want to help you, help you.

 

[Belegon]

Use that strength of will to use your meds, dude. Use all the tools. You can do this.

 

[Weird Harold]

If your GP has prescribed medications, USE THEM! If they're not doing the job, consult with your GP and see if there are other medications that will do the job.

Medication may be trading a one addiction another one, but the medications aren't going to ruin your life like drinking will.

My SO has been sober for twenty years and was an AA sponser for many of those years. He's a firm believer that no one can quit on their own. His advice is to get into an AA program for support and to take it one day at a time. ...
http://www.aa-uk.org.uk/

Get to a meeting.

Do it today.

The ladies are correct. Even with Meds, you're having trouble, so the support of AA or other 12 step program is necessary. I, personally, didn't need AA, I found the support I needed elsewhere, but they've survived as long as they have by being effective and sponsors, like Scarlett's SO, are a large part of their success.

I've been a Reformed Lush for going on thirty years and although I've slipped and been dragged by the "water wagon" a few times, I've never fallen completely off. Don't let the occasional relapse or setback drag you compltely off the wagon either -- everytime you get close to falling off or even are tempted to "drag your toes" think about why you are staying Sober before you take that first drink.

That first drink is the danger point -- once you take that first drink, the alcohol starts to suppress your judgement so each succeeding drink is harder to refuse. So, plan ahead what you're going to do when you're around alcohol -- it's impossible to live life without being around it -- and reinforce your defenses against that first drink that some drunk is going to try to insist you take.

I'm sure you already knew most of that, but it MUST be repeated -- by you or by your friends -- until refusing that first drink it becomes a part of who you are and is an automatic/reflexive response.

It's been thrity years, but this discussion has started me thinking about that little bottle of nasty tasting cooking Sherry in the cupboard -- the cravings never go away and you can only resist the temptations as each arises if you "Think Before You Drink."

 

[EmeraldKitten]

Some research says that the addicted brain doesn't function the same as a non-addicted brain. That's why you can't say, 'Hey, I'm addicted to this substance, but I'll quit today!' It's not as easy as just wanting to quit. Substances and the ensuing addiction fuck with your mind and that's the part that tells you that you want to be an addict.
If it was easy, there wouldn't be a need for AA or NA. There wouldn't be a million books on the subject of addiction, and there wouldn't be rehab centers all over the place.
My suggestion would be to get into an AA meeting, or if you feel you're totally out of control, to get into rehab.
Falling off the wagon is normal. I don't think anyone gets it right on the first try. You hear about rock bottom. Everyone has their own 'rock bottom', which translates to the moment in time that an addict stops and says, 'this is completely out of hand.' That's the time the pledge to get clean 'sticks.'
Relapse is normal, but I would say that you should probably go ahead and take the meds.

 

[Boxlicker101]

*hugs* You're not useless, no one is.

My SO has been sober for twenty years and was an AA sponser for many of those years. He's a firm believer that no one can quit on their own. His advice is to get into an AA program for support and to take it one day at a time. Slipping up is part of the process, hardly anyone ever makes it without messing up. Don't tell yourself you're a failure, just tell yourself that every day is a new day.

http://www.aa-uk.org.uk/

I agree, with no reservations. I have been sober for many 24 hourses, thanks largely to AA. Whether I could have done that without them is doubtful. Meds can help. I know they helped me, but the support helped a lot more.

 

[glynndah]

I'll keep you in my thoughts and if anyone could tell me how to start a candle page for you, I'd be happy to do so.

A for strength, confidence and hope from the good little witch.

 

[kendo1]

Haldir, Old Mate!

I thought I'd seen the last of you. It's good to see you back again. I'm just up the road if you need someone to talk to.

Hang in there, mate.

 

[Boxlicker101]

How do I stop drinking again?

6 months sober and now I've fucked it up again.

useless arse that I am.

dont want to do this but can't seem to stop.

sorry to put this out there but I'm desperate.

I should have said this earlier, but I will add it now: One way to NOT help yourself is calling yourself a useless arse. Or useless ass.

 

[carsonshepherd]

It's not a failing of your will. It's a sickness, and the fact that you know you need help means you can get better.

Go to a meeting today. Just get through one day at a time

 

[Daniellekitten]

You are in my thoughts and prayers, though that might not seem like a lot at the time, but never underestimate the power of prayer or the thoughts of those that care. Use them as strength. You've done so well, you can do so again, you've just proven to yourself you can. Medication isn't the only way to go but if it helps, take it. Hugs to you!

 

[cloudy]

I'm the child of an alcoholic (my father, though he was high-functioning), and the granddaughter of another (my mother's father). It's an epidemic among Native Americans...believe me, it's something I see day in, day out. As for me, there but for the grace of god, ya know?

If you ever need an ear, a shoulder, or an ass-kicking, I'm here.